When Lost Love Is Likened To Death......
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Posted:Nov 1, 2007 8:01 pm
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2007 2:02 am 78697 Views
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People may or may not agree with me, but each time I lose someone I cared about so much, my feeling is likened to that of having a death in the family...Why? because I go through the same stages...Denial, anger, guilt, mourning, slow acceptance, and finally closure.Depending on the emotional investment involved, as well as the length or quality of time spent together, closure may be a difficult task to achieve. Recovery maybe partial with several relapses due to thinking of "what should/could have been", but in the end, when one of the two persons involved finally ceases to communicate, it will actually help the other recover faster. This works well for couples who broke up, with at least one person still in love with the other. This is very common with people who went through divorce, legal separation, annulment, or just plain break-up by lovers.
Losing someone who is still alive and someone who died, both inflicts too much pain, at times, we wonder if we will ever fully recover..But, yes, it's just a matter of time. Moving and getting on with our lives, is a personal choice. All I can say is that "at times, it is easier to accept the loss of of a loved one by death because we know that the person will never come back again..whereas losing someone to somebody else may give us false hopes that probably s/he will come back to us, it will take much longer to recover"..Thus, the issue of closure is even harder..
If you happened to fall in love and lost a couple of times, consider yourself mourning in the graveyard that often as well. But please remember, if love has died, you don't have to die with it. You need to live in order for you to fall in love again.
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Midlife Crisis: ..A topic to ponder...
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Posted:Oct 31, 2007 6:27 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2007 5:21 pm 137061 Views
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Two quotes perfectly capture this common definition of midlife crisis:
"Life's cycle was seen as a set routine of getting married, having , rising through the ranks at work, and moving to the suburbs. The crisis occurred when a man quit his job, let his hair grow long, bought a sports car, and headed toward California, often with a youthful companion." - HARVARD GAZZETTE
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"Most younger adults anticipate that between their late thirties and their early fifties a day will come when they suddenly realize that they have squandered their lives and betrayed their dreams. They will collapse into a poorly defined state that used to be called a nervous breakdown.
What does a female midlife crisis look like, anyway? A big face-lift, a little red car, an overdose, an affair, an escape to the Galápagos Islands? Or none of the above?
Midlife crisis can be like a roller coaster trip through hell whether it is your crisis or the midlife crisis of someone you love.
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Is it really love or just ego tripping?
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Posted:Oct 29, 2007 8:15 pm
Last Updated:Oct 31, 2007 2:34 pm 79472 Views
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At times, I wonder, why most men (not all) are here, "searching" for the BEST, and when they find one, they'll look for another, then, another, until the collection is finally made and when it is time for them to choose the "right one", they wouldn't let the rest go...Meaning, it's okay for men to play that kind of game, but definitely NOT okay for their "rejected" collections to get on with their lives. It's like saying, the women have no right to find their own happiness..And that they must wait for these men to come back to them once they get tired of the ones they chose...Amazing how double standard works in this crazy world..For sure, I don't believe that a man is capable of loving more than "two" women (not at the same intensity) at the same time. I'd say, it is just one of those ego-tripping...A male friend of mine, told me that he is into this woman right now, because she makes him feel "wanted"...And I just raised my brows, and said: " You mean to say, the rest did not make you feel wanted or important at all? " I am beginning to think that when a man becomes self-centered, he has a selective appreciation, selective emotion, and selective memory...hehehehe...
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The Sweetest Side Of Me...
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Posted:Oct 25, 2007 8:06 am
Last Updated:Oct 26, 2007 7:45 pm 77511 Views
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...Is yet to be known, only because the man of my dreams has yet to come along.
...The warmth of my embrace, the gentlest and light caress, that even touching his hair will put his worries to rest.
...Why hasn't anyone looked beyond the outside of me? When deep inside is an overflowing beauty, one will never miss to see?
...Is it because one rushes to reap the untimely prized possession, that he is blinded by his own vanity, he withdraws from his exploration? He fails to see the treasure that is hidden inside..He is so foolish in relinquishing, what could have been his life's pride.
...Yes, I am so fragile, I need a tender loving care,
...It only takes a real gentleman to remove the gentle mask I wear.
...I am telling you now, I am so sweet, but I am still scared.
...You need to take my hand, and show me that you truly care,
...And the rest of my sweetness will all be yours forever.
SO DARE ME..
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The Broken Arrow
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Posted:Oct 25, 2007 3:57 am
Last Updated:Oct 28, 2007 2:15 am 77223 Views
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It still amazes me how a certain arrow can pierce the hearts of one too many, leaving ugly scars here and there, unmindful of the emotional upheaval the targets of passion have to go through. It takes one mean arrow to do all these...I can just imagine if there are more of this kind of arrow out there...I'm sure, there are a lot of them here...I see it happening, I read it in the blogs/posts. It doesn't really matter what kind of gender is holding the bow. It is the thug of hurt that will cause to its aimed target that matters most...Most of the time, the victims are innocent.
One of these days, this kind of arrow will bend, be broken and will finally melt. Hearts of gold and Knights in shining armour will prevail..Remember, what goes around, comes around.
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The Cliche`: "It's His Loss"...
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Posted:Oct 24, 2007 3:00 am
Last Updated:Oct 27, 2007 6:40 pm 78914 Views
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Why is it that when wonderful women lose the object of their affection, it is some kind of consolation that friends and significant others come to the rescue and utter the words: "It's His Loss, Not Yours", specially if that person chose to leave the relationship in favor of someone "lesser" than the qualities of the former sweetie? I happen to hear those words again from a couple of friends...And what I think about it is if I want to be fair and square, for a moment, "A love lost is a temporal loss for anyone involved, regardless of who is the better of the two (or more)." But, if my intention is just to feel good about knowing indeed, I am the better one, then, by all means...I'LL TAKE THE CLICHE`
Dee
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Living in the shadow of my twin sister...
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Posted:Oct 23, 2007 8:15 pm
Last Updated:Oct 26, 2007 2:37 am 79286 Views
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...She's already Up there, popular and all,
while I am just beginning to feel my way around here
...She's simple but got complicated, I'm still pretty simple-simple...When I look at her right now, I can see the sadness on her face, the pain in her heart, the disappointments in her dreams, and yet, she appears tough
...But not quite...She gave up, and I am taking over.
...It's difficult to pick up where she left off.
...I don't want to go through what she had been through. In her desire to seek happiness, a couple of "beasts" almost devoured her, and tore her into pieces...Her adventures have been unique and she shared her life to the people that she trusts...A few of them I trust and became my friends as well.
...But NO!...I am just here to blog...I may not be able to duplicate her popularity, but I will continue to convey the messages from her heart..
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The healing process....
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Posted:Oct 22, 2007 7:53 pm
Last Updated:Feb 8, 2012 4:01 am 78950 Views
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...can be long and hard,
...it may take sometime.
...but for hearts that are never officially entwined
...it might be a good idea to just drink some
red wine.
...the bittersweet taste may linger a while,
...but hold on dear heart, some memories
may keep you forever an exile.
...is it the heart that really got hurt?
...or is it the ego that was broken apart?
...whatever it takes to heal the aches and mend the wounds,
...just rescue this heart in no time soon.
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