Dealing With The Burdens Of Life....
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Posted:Nov 23, 2007 2:32 pm
Last Updated:Nov 27, 2007 7:57 pm 76605 Views
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* Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others.
* Never buy a car you can't push.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
* We could learn a lot from crayons. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
* A truly happy
person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
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Walking the aisle.....
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Posted:Nov 23, 2007 7:00 am
Last Updated:Dec 4, 2007 5:38 pm 78988 Views
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...Someday, I'll walk the isle with you, hand in hand, yours clasped in mine, never letting go.
...Someday, I will build my dreams with you, and together we'll make them come true.
...Someday, I'll wake up in the morning finding you side by side with me, and we'll make the most of each day.
...Someday, you'll see only smiles on my face as you'll take away all my fears of being alone.
...Someday, we'll watch the sunrise till the sunset, reminiscing all the years that we've loved each other unconditionally.
...Someday, all the things that I wrote here will be part of my memories, because I know, it will start from the day I walk the aisle with you...
...WHO AND WHERE ARE YOU?
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Emotional Investment: Win or Lose
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Posted:Nov 20, 2007 3:33 am
Last Updated:Nov 25, 2007 6:55 pm 100175 Views
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Emotional intimacy is the foundation of an enduring, loving relationship and it is essential for keeping a romantic relationship strong. When a couple is dating, they build emotional intimacy by revealing personal info, sharing ideas and thoughts, and confiding in each other. Over time, they build a level of mutual trust and emotional support, and their affection for each other grows as well. Most daters nurture their budding intimacy by phoning each other often to talk about how their days have gone, and they make an effort to show how they appreciate and care for each other. Over time, they see each other as close, trusted, friends and look forward to being together.
Once the relationship is past its most important "honeymoon phase" usually after a year or so, loving couples may put their emotional intimacy "on hold" for a period of time. That's not necessarily destructive. If they have been dating long enough to have developed a strong emotional connection, then for a period of time they can live on the "interest" their relationship has accrued. They may make periodic "deposits" in their emotional intimacy or investment account . But whether or not they do so, after a while, it is crucial to resume "investing" in their emotional intimacy.
Unfortunately,once already married, many couples don't understand this simple rule of marital economics. They gradually get caught up in the "business" of living as a married couple (jobs, bills, community work, house maintenance, ) and forget to make "deposits" into their emotional intimacy account. After living on interest for a while, they start to dip into the principal. And if they dip too far, they can go bankrupt.
The same is true here at FFF. Most men and women go through EMOTIONAL INVESTMENT, and more than likely, each one of us have gone through ups and downs...We either WIN or LOSE...Just like any other investment, we always take the risk...I know, I did...And it cost me a lot, a whole lot.
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I Feel Loved....
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Posted:Nov 15, 2007 7:40 pm
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2007 7:47 pm 75975 Views
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I've been in this world long enough to experience LOVE and REJECTION, and these are two contrasting feelings which are both overwhelming, at times, too much to handle. I've had my share of ups and downs, the bittersweets, the roller-coaster rides, the journeys to the roads less travelled, and yet, here, I stand firm. I have accepted the truth that I am still capable of loving and giving so much of myself to others without expecting anything in return, because the moment I do, that's when my life becomes miserable.
I do not regret any moment that I loved anyone at any given level and intensity. Friends and lovers come and go, and each one of them leave different marks in my heart and made a difference in my life. I choose to remember the sweet memories and bury the ones that may destroy my wholebeing.
I have no bitterness in my heart, even though a couple of times, my heart has been wounded. I STILL FEEL LOVED...
Allow me to mention a couple of people who are still here in FFF who mean so much to me, and they are always here for me and with me no matter what the situation is....They make me feel loved.
My appreciation to GEMMA Malambing2, MARIE ImAllHeartNSoul, COY Babesy
.......and the ENTIRE FAMILY MEMBERS OF HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE who relently express their kindness and appreciation...
....THANK YOU ALL FOR MAKING ME FEEL LOVED...
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The "C " - Factor...Unspoken,... Hardly Written.....
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Posted:Nov 13, 2007 4:34 am
Last Updated:Dec 24, 2007 6:26 am 149345 Views
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It seems like:
...Everyone is into LOVE,FRIENDSHIP,and SEARCH for all the answers relating to any kind of relationships on this website, where a good percentage of the members, regardless of their civil status, have that C-Factor...the ....
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...they are the products of our lost loves
...the very important reminder that whatever we do and plan at this point in our lives..they are our number one PRIORITY.
...they are NOT luggages/baggages, but sure enough, they will be part of the PACKAGE DEAL when we make that VERY IMPORTANT DECISION to be with that next significant person in our lives.
...they shouldn't hold us from moving on and making the most of what life has to offer.
...the more "doting parents" they have, the better. For this reason, our choices are not only based on our selfish wants/desires.
...The FALLACY that one should sacrifice his/her own happiness for the sake of the is absolutely a good point for a discussion. While it is true that the 's welfare is our topmost priority, our own happiness doesn't have to take a backseat. I am speaking from my own personal experience. My only , now a professional, had always dreamt of a family, a brother, a sister, and a "father figure". For a very long time, I lived in fears of what and what not. During my 's tender years, he asked for a family even if his "Dad" had to be different than his own. I was obsessed with the idea of preparing for his bright future that I totally ignored and deprived both our needs.
Just a couple of days ago, when I had a serious talk with my , he said: "Mom, I know that our relationship was never perfect. You have been a great mother, and now, more than ever, I appreciate all that you've done for me. But the fact still remains that all those years that I was growing and you were still young, having a family would have made a difference in our lives, and not made you less of a person you feared you would. Pretty soon, I'll have a family of my own. It's really about time that you take care of your own needs."
Ahhhh! that reduced me into tears when I entered my room. I cannot take back the hands of time. I sure deprived him and myself that important part of our lives which should take place only on that particular stage. I'm not saying that I am running out of time, but indeed, I allowed myself to be consumed with my fears.
Why am I writing this? BECAUSE:
...there are still good stepmoms and step-dads out there (whether they are single, divorced, widowed,etc.
...while we cannot correct the mistakes we made in the past, we can make a difference in our present and our future.
...Bottomline, the C-FACTOR is never a hindrance to our happiness. Our happiness is a reflection of how we are going to treat them. DON'T FEEL DEPRIVED.
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Someone Who Cares, >>> Someone Who Dares?
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Posted:Nov 11, 2007 8:17 pm
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2007 6:06 pm 75679 Views
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...Isn't it that when a man likes a woman that much, he will do all that he could to be closer to her?
...Even if he is busy, he will make time to call her regularly, or write her emails and leave her YM or text messages?
...If he has the means, he will go and visit her to see her personally?
...And if things get even better, he will make an attempt to win her heart?
...So that in the end, his search is over and he will make that extra step to keep her in his life forever?
So, why is it then, that out of a huge number of cyber lovers who actually have the opportunities to do those mentioned above, only several DARED?...Does it mean that they care less?..IF not, then, WHY?
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When Should Like Turn Into Love?
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Posted:Nov 7, 2007 8:52 pm
Last Updated:Dec 7, 2007 3:10 pm 145063 Views
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...It's a crazy world! People are looking for something they really do not need...Love somebody they couldn't live with, and Like someone they couldn't love. 
...Both Man and Woman wrote their profile, stating what and what not.
...They became buddies, and continued to communicate.
...He found someone really nice, but life with her was against all odds.
...She found someone really sweet, but life with him was against all odds.
...He broke up with her, She broke up with him.
...Till one day, these two buddies met, with casual hi's and hello's, shared a bit of what each had gone through, gave each other an advice or two.
...He went back and checked her profile, and so did she.
...To their amazement, they couldn't believe that their profile were a perfect match.
...When they met again, each tried to feel if spark is about to happen...It didn't, because shame and embarrassament has already taken its place.
...Now, they both realized just how foolish they both have been.
...Looking way beyond the boundaries, when so near, things were just looking in.
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~Oftentimes, we ignore the beauty of the flowers in our frontyards, because we often tend to think that there are better produce` on the other side of the fence.~
Yes, life is a choice. Most of the time we choose to LOVE despite knowing that someday it's gonna fade and fail, rather than to LIKE, hoping that someday, we're gonna fall in LOVE and be successful.
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Depression: No one is spared from it..
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Posted:Nov 6, 2007 1:11 pm
Last Updated:Nov 12, 2007 2:44 am 74930 Views
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Wheeeww!..I've seen a lot of blogs expressing sentiments about loss, betrayals and rejections, as well as misunderstandings which are the facts of life..Blogging is a good method of expressing such pent up feelings and it does help the author to release the building of such painful emotion deep inside her/him. It doesn't really matter what gender is most affected. To me, no one is spared from it..including myself.
Now, moving on is easier said than done, but we can make mini steps to alleviate the aweful feeling. Here are some tips:
1. Go out, drive around town, if not, go out of town.
2. Talk to friends, cry if you must, drink a couple of your favorite cocktails. Dance the night away or sing your heart out.
3. Make sure, you see a lot of sunshine..Avoid dark places...there is a co-relation between darkness and feeling depressed.
4. Enroll in a nearby gym and work out.
5. Turn off your cell phone at night, so that you won't expect any call (from someone who might not call anyway).
6. Put away photographs and avoid listening to the songs which will remind you of him/her.
7. If for some reasons, memories of him/her keeps on haunting you, please do not curse the person, no matter how bad s/he treated you. Every relationship has its good memories. Try to sincerely wish him/her well. Ill feelings will keep you down even more.
8. If s/he keeps on calling you, change your number...If you have the tendency to call him/her, delete her/his number from the directory.
9. If you have the urge to call that person, always remember to have self-respect and keep in mind: S/HE DOESN'T NEED/LOVE YOU ANYMORE. Do not rationalize.
10. Most importantly, PRAY..Pray that you'll have the determination to do all these and pray for strength that you'll be able to carry on.
Now, SMILE... ...Gradually, things will be okay...These things will come to pass. For every rain, there is a rainbow, and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel...Cheer up!
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The Four Agreements
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Posted:Nov 4, 2007 8:38 am
Last Updated:Nov 14, 2007 7:35 pm 74475 Views
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THE FOUR AGREEMENTS
1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. DONT MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
Your best is going to change from moment to moment, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
"Your past does not determine your future unless you allow it. What counts is committing to a course of action that will carry you into a new tomorrow." Is your life defined by REASONS or RESULTS?
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What A Wo/Man Wants In A Wo/Man?...
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Posted:Nov 4, 2007 3:32 am
Last Updated:Nov 5, 2007 2:19 am 73946 Views
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...What a catching title of this blog, uhh?
...I guess, this is the best way I can put it where all MEN and WOMEN are invited to post exactly what they are looking for in a man or a woman.
...I noticed that sometimes, men and women write what they are looking for in a relationship, and when they do find at least more than 50% of such, they still aren't sure, if that's what they really need.
...I'm sure, there's a big number of members here who already personally MET several wo/men after chatting or talking to them for quite a while...Would you mind sharing your experiences here?
...To those who are successful in finding that special someone in their lives, please give us all the advices, so that we can learn from them 
...Or do you think that even if we find that someone who fits the criteria we've made, the unreadiness and fear of the outcome still haunts us?
...Please share your honest opinion about why relationships fail despite meeting most of the requirements one has made known..What is wrong somehow?
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