Your zodiac and the way you kiss
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Posted:Jul 20, 2006 2:36 pm
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Aries
Your kisses are quick and passionate fits of lustful pleasure that are there and then gone.
Taurus
Your kisses linger; they are deliberate, heartfelt and they can go on and on and on.
Gemini
Your kisses are interrupted by spasms of giggles, smiles and funny observations.
Cancer
Your kisses are warm and tender, and you never want to let them go.
Leo
Your kisses are wild and uninhibited, biting and clawing; you expect applause for your performance.
Virgo
Your kisses are so subtle and tidy, your lover only notices them once you've finished.
Libra
You're too busy worrying about your breath to really get into your kisses.
Scorpio
You skip the kiss and get straight to whatever comes next for you.
Sagittarius
Your kisses are surprising, spontaneous affairs that leave the kissed wanting more.
Capricorn
Your kisses are intense moments of sublime relief from the stress of your day.
Aquarius
Your kisses are wet and messy, and you tend to keep your eyes open.
Pisces
Your kisses are starry-eyed, amorous and long-lasting.
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DARK SIDE OF YOUR SIGN
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Posted:Jul 20, 2006 2:32 pm
Last Updated:May 29, 2024 11:8 am 1011 Views
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Dark Side Of Your Sign
Capricorn (Dec 22 - Jan 19)
You are rather materialistic and it is fueled by your fears of financial disaster. This makes you complain about monetary woes, irritating many with your obnoxious attitude. You can also be a social climber, manipulating your way up the ladder; name-dropping all the way to the top. Once in a while, you'll have morbid thoughts about Death something that scares you because you have no control over it. You tend to be obsessive about your mortality sometimes.
Advice:
Stop worrying about losing money, and you'd rid yourse lf of unfounded nightmares. Stop manipulating others and you'll be free to concentrate on attaining your goals. Get rid of your phobias and you'll be able to relax more and enjoy yourself.
Aquarius (Jan 20 - Feb 1)
You tend to be too idealistic and naive sometimes. Practicality gets thrown out of the window by you many times. Cool and aloof, you rarely want to deal with deep emotions. You like to give advice but don't like to receive it. And ideas and inspirations that you
sometimes neglect or follow through with them are constantly bombarding you. Or else you are constantly shifting focus, giving people the idea with no staying power.
Advice:
Take time to explore your private feelings. Not all people see things your way. And just because you come up with ideas, don't expect other people to do all the work for you.Learn to trust people and accept advice.
Pisces (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
You are an escapist - you have this knack of avoiding issues if they seem unpleasant. You delve into past memories to escape your present woes.There is also a tendency towards alcoholism and even drug abuse - you are on a search for some kind of 'high'. You also love to flirt and too much of it may send the wrong, dangerous signals out to other people. Once in a while,a dark mood will descend on you and you become rather unsociable and withdrawn.
Advice:
Trust your instincts, but also be in control of your perceptions. Whenever the escapist tendency hits you, join a seminar or get a pep talk from a friend to get your perspective right.
Aries (Mar 21 - Apr 20)
A warrior at heart, you thrive on challenges and any strife and dramas, you are tempted to stir things up, just to keep yourself happy. You are also rather intolerant of mistakes and don't have patience for weakness or failings in others. And sometimes, you can be quite a snob as well you like to be seen at the right places or wear the right clothes. And you're also prone to bossiness. Your restless nature may make you quit a project suddenly if you can't sustain the interest.
Advice:
Get off your high and pay your dues before people will accept you. Learn to be more tolerant of others and try to see the other person's side of the story. If you believe in what you do, you can move mountains.
Taurus (Apr 21 - May 20)
You are stubborn and like to hold onto things, not wanting to let go of anything or anyone. You are slow to anger, but when you do get worked up to a rage - everyone step aside! You also have a selfish streak and can be quite sneaky as well. And although people may see you as helpful and agreeable, you sometimes have an inner struggle wanting the approval of others while sticking to your own opinions. You also tend to be suspicious of others and question their motives.
Advice:
Stop being mean and try to be nice. Learn to forgive and let go of your past disappointments. Learn from your mistakes and have faith in yourself and others as well.
Gemini (May 21 - Jun 21)
Your devil-may-care attitude sometimes could bring harm to yourself - you tend to live on the edge sometimes. Many of you believe that you don' t deserve success, somehow feeling guilty for it. You may give others too much of yourself sometimes that you lose yourself. You may be prone to suppressing motions as well. And at times that makes it difficult for you to accept affection and love.
Advice:
Work at listening to others and don't be tempted to try daring devil stunts all the time. And try doing something for yourself and once in a while, in between, doing favors for others. You're human, after all.
Cancer (Jun 22 - Jul 22)
You can get carried away with emotions - your anger is overwhelming and your sadness can depress all those around you. You're also ultra-sensitive to other people's emotions and are affected by these as well. You tend to react before you think and then brood about what you may have done or said wrong. You are also prone to periods of morbidity, thinking dark thoughts. Feelings of insecurity creep in now and then, making you snappish or else you try to win the approval of everyone at your expense.
Advice:
Accept that you are hypersensitive to emotions and work with yours. Go with the flow and by doing the right thing, you set an example for others. Work with others and this will help build your confidence and open you up.
Leo (Jul 23 - Aug 22)
On the rare occasion you lose your temper, you can turn into a savage beast. You seem to need an audience as well, to help boost your confidence and ego, sometimes. Other times, you get caught up in the outward dramas of your life that you neglect what you're feeling inside. This results in a delayed reaction when emotions sneak up on you and you get hit with a whammy. You also tend to be proud and aggressive, cloaking these with your charm.When things don't go your way, you get impatient and may even throw a tantrum.
Advice:
Learn to spend some time alone with yourself and get to know yourself better. And learn to experience your emotions at the moment; don't store them up for another time. And know that not all means justify the ends.
Virgo (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
You have a martyr complex, feeling that you were put on this earth to do good work and not receive any credit for it. You tend to be ultra critical of yourself and others and you also worry about things that are beyond your control. A little pessimistic sometimes, you tend to be an intellectual snob. You bottle up all your insecurities and fears, and hesitate to reach out for help. And once in a while, you become a busybody - that's when you also feel responsible for other people's problems.
Advice:
Modesty has its own limits - take credit for your efforts. Give yourself a break and know that you do not have to be successful in everything you do. Keep focused and don't get tangled in other people's affairs too often.
Libra (Sep 23 - Oct 23)
Your inability to reach a decision in matters of personal action is legendary. You like to weigh all the alternatives and hear every side of an argument - but this may take time and opportunities may pass you by because of it. You also like to expand energy on people who may not deserve it You want to help the underdog. You are also sensitive to criticism and may take mild statements of fact very personally.
Advice:
Follow your instincts and act on them - stop sitting on fences. Don't blindly trust people; learn to be a little more discriminating in your offers of help. Learn to think for yourself and don't be swayed by persuasive tongues.
Scorpio (Oct 24 - Nov 21)
You have a revengeful streak and a long memory for past hurts. Sometimes you're downright spiteful. When you suffer, you make sure others suffer along with you. Sometimes, you may even use deception to get what you want and to influence others to stay out of your way. You may even believe these untruths and unrealistic fears will grow on you. Once in a while, you may come across someone that just rubs you on the wrong side for no apparent reason and you make it your mission to bury him or her.
Advice:
Flight the negative emotions that arise in you, and resentment will not sour your life. Don't' give into temptation to tell lies, learn to conquer your strong tendency towards revenge and things will fall into place for you.
Sagittarius (Nov 22 - Dec 21)
You've got a big mouth and unwittingly hurt an insult people with it. You can even go to utter strangers and give unsolicited advice and comments. You also seem to enjoy verbal duels with others whenever you can. And you sure can make sore losers, even suspecting foul play if things don't go your way. You have a knack for confrontation and you can't resist being sarcastic. You also don't think too much of many people, because you have a mild superiority complex. Vanity is also a trait in many of you.
Advice:
Learn with whom you can be frank otherwise keep your comments to yourself. Discretion is the better part of valor. Curb your cockiness, and you can combine it with your concern for serious issues, aiding in your search for truth.
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The MEN commandments
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Posted:Jul 20, 2006 2:15 pm
Last Updated:Jul 20, 2006 2:16 pm 1035 Views
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]Argument with these rules instantly revokes your identity as a man. You’re no longer a man and you’re out of the man club.
1.) It is ok for a Man to cry under the following circumstances:
- When a heroic dies to save its master.
- The moment Angelina Jolie starts unbuttoning her blouse.
- After wrecking your boss' car.
- One hour, 12 minutes, 37 seconds into "The Crying Game".
- When she is using her teeth.
2.) Any Man who brings a camera to a bachelor party may be legally killed and eaten by his friends.
3.) Unless he murdered someone in your family, you must bail a friend out of jail within 12 hours.
4.) If you've known a Man for more than 24 hours, his sister is off limits forever, unless you actually marry her.
5.) Moaning about the brand of free beer in a friend's fridge is forbidden. Complain at will if the temperature is unsuitable.
6.) No Man shall ever be required to buy a birthday present for another Man. In fact, even remembering your friend's birthday is strictly optional.
7.) On a road trip, the strongest bladder determines pit stops, not the weakest.
8.) When stumbling upon other men watching a sporting event, you may ask the score of the game in progress, but you may never ask who's playing.
9.) It is permissible to drink a fruity alcopop drink only when you're sunning on a tropical beach... and it's delivered by a topless supermodel...and it's free.
10.) Only in situations of moral and/or physical peril are you allowed to kick another Man in the nuts.
11.) Unless you're in prison, never fight naked.
12.) Friends don't let friends wear Speedos. Ever. Issue closed.
13.) If a Man's fly is down, that's his problem, you didn't see anything.
14.) Women who claim they "love to watch sports" must be treated as spies until they demonstrate knowledge of the game and the ability to drink as much as the other sports watchers.
15.) A Man in the company of a hot, suggestively dressed woman must remain sober enough to fight.
16.) Never hesitate to reach for the last beer or the last slice of pizza, but not both - that's just mean.
17.) If you compliment a Man on his six-pack, you'd better be talking about his choice of beer.
18.) Never join your girlfriend or wife in discussing a friend of yours, except if she's withholding sex pending your response.
19.) Phrases that may NOT be uttered to another Man while lifting weights:
- Yeah, Baby, Push it!
- C'mon, give me one more! Harder!
- Another set and we can hit the showers!
20.) Never talk to a Man in a bathroom unless you are on equal footing: i.e. Both urinating, both waiting in line, etc. For all other situations, an almost imperceptible nod is all the conversation you need.
21.) Never allow a telephone conversation with a woman to go on longer than you are able to have sex with her. Keep a stopwatch by the phone. Hang up if necessary.
22.) The morning after you and a girl who was formerly "just a friend" have carnal drunken monkey sex, the fact that you're feeling weird and guilty is no reason not to nail her again before the discussion about what a big mistake it was.
23.) There is no reason for guys to watch Ice Skating or Mens Gymnastics. Ever.
24.) When you are queried by a buddy's wife, girlfriend, mother, father, priest, shrink, dentist, accountant, or walker, you need not and should not provide any useful information whatsoever as to his whereabouts. You are permitted to deny his very existence.
25.) You may exaggerate any anecdote told in a bar by 50 percent without recrimination; beyond that, anyone within earshot is allowed to call 'BULLSHIT'.
(Exception: When trying to pick up a girl, the allowable exaggeration rate rises to 400 percent)
26.) The minimum amount of time you have to wait for another guy who's running late is 5 minutes. For a girl, you are required to wait 10 minutes for every point of hotness she scores on the classic 1-10 babe scale.
27.) Agreeing to distract the ugly friend of a hot babe that your buddy is trying to hook up with is your legal duty. Should you get carried away with your good deed and end up having sex with the beast, your pal is forbidden to speak of it, even at your bachelor party.
28.) Before dating a buddy's "ex", you are required to ask his permission and he in return is required to grant it.
29.) The universal compensation for buddies who help you move is beer.
30.) A Man must never own a cat or like his girlfriend's cat.
31.) When your girlfriend/wife expresses a desire to fix her whiney friend up with your pal, you may give her the go-ahead only if you'll be able to warn your buddy and give him time to prepare excuses about joining the priesthood.
32.) If a buddy is out-numbered, out-Manned, or too drunk to fight, you must jump into the fight.
(Exception: If within the last 24 hours his actions have caused you to think, "What this guy needs is a good ass-whoopin", then you may sit back and enjoy.)
33.) If a buddy is already singing along to a song in the car, you may not join him...too gay.
34.) Under no circumstances may two men share an umbrella.
35.) When a buddy is trying to hook up, you may sabotage him only in a manner that gives you no chance of hooking up either.
36.) Before allowing a drunken friend to cheat on his girl, you must attempt one intervention. If he is able to get on his feet, look you in the eye, and deliver a "@#%$ OFF!" You are absolved of your of responsibility.
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Crazy for You ... Madonna
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Posted:Jul 20, 2006 6:39 am
Last Updated:May 29, 2024 11:8 am 1012 Views
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Swaying room as the music starts
Strangers making the most of the dark
Two by two their bodies become one
I see you through the smokey air
Can't you feel the weight of my stare
You're so close but still a world away
What I'm dying to say, is that
Chorus:
I'm crazy for you
Touch me once and you'll know it's true
I never wanted anyone like this
It's all brand new, you'll feel it in my kiss
I'm crazy for you, crazy for you
Trying hard to control my heart
I walk over to where you are
Eye to eye we need no words at all
Slowly now we begin to move
Every breath I'm deeper into you
Soon we to are standing still in time
If you read my mind, you'll see
Chorus:
I'm crazy for you
Touch me once and you'll know it's true
I never wanted anyone like this
I'ts all brand new, you'll feel it in my kiss
You'll feel it in my kiss because
I'm crazy for you
Touch me once and you'll know it's true
I never wanted anyone like this
Its all brand new, you'll feel it in my kiss
im crazy for you,
crazy for you
crazy for you
crazy for you
its all brand new, im crazy for you
and you know its true, im crazy, crazy for you
its all brand new, im crazy for you
and you know its true, yeah, Im crazy for you
Crazy for you baby
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Stay by cueshe
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Posted:Jul 19, 2006 6:56 am
Last Updated:Jul 25, 2006 5:39 am 991 Views
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I believe
we shouldnt let the moment pass us by
life’s too short
we shouldnt wait for the water to run dry
think about it
cause we only have one shot at destiny
all im asking
could it possibly be you and me?
So if you’d still go, i’ll understand
would you give me something just to hold on to?
and if you’ll stay, ill hold your hand
cause im truly, madly, crazily in love with you
Time has come
for us to go our separate ways
God forbid
But my mind is going crazy today
i feel so cold
feel so numb
im having nightmares but im awake
Help me lord
Fight this loneliness
Take this pain away
So if you’d still go, i’ll understand
would you give me something just to hold on to?
and if you’ll stay, ill hold your hand
cause im truly, madly, crazily in love with you
Now that you’re gone, im all alone
im still hoping that you would come back home
dont care how long, but im willing to wait
Cause im truly, madly, crazily in love with you
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If He's Distant, Does He Really Love You?
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Posted:Jul 19, 2006 5:48 am
Last Updated:Jul 19, 2006 6:34 am 1061 Views
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Ever feel like you'd have less real
"connection" or intimacy with a man if you didn't
try so hard to keep your relationship "alive"?
And, that the man you're with might not even
notice, let alone know how to help you both grow
and change together when something is "off" in
your relationship?
Are men really so different that they don't
think about or notice problems in your
relationship?
Or is something worse going on here where a man
doesn't want the relationship to go anywhere and
has given up on it and you?
And...
Have you ever had the sudden realization that
if it wasn't for YOUR patience, caring and the
attention you pay to him and your relationship,
that you'd just be drifting apart from each other?
That you'd never grow closer... never get to
know each other on a deeper level... and never
become MORE COMMITTED if it wasn't for what YOU
insist on and struggle to create?
Do you ever wonder why it can seem like a man
just doesn't care about your relationship and
where it's headed... even though you know that
somewhere deep down he does love and care about
you?
Well, there's a reason why these things are so
common with men in relationships... and why they
can be so frustrating to deal with and get past as
a woman.
The truth is, if you're like most women who are
UNSUCCESSFUL in their long term relationships,
then your "approach" to your relationship often
depends on a man figuring out how to have a great
relationship FOR YOU.
You know, all that knight in shining armor
stuff where a man's love and unrelenting
commitment to you will make it all work out.
Good luck with that.
There's a better way...
If you've had a few relationships in the past,
then you've already learned that putting the fate
of your love life and relationship in the hands of
a man to save is NOT the perfect or ideal
situation.
You've figured out that if you're going to have
a REAL relationship, that a man isn't going to
have all the answers when things get difficult or
uncertain.
Don't wait for a man to figure out how love and
a relationship works.
And sure... a man has to do HIS part and learn
and grow too.
A man needs to know how to love and be loved
too.
But wouldn't it be great if you had the
CONFIDENCE that comes from KNOWING that you could
create what YOU WANT in your relationship?
Keep reading and you'll be on your way to
finding the confidence and understanding in your
relationship that only a deep, close, emotional
connection with a man can bring.
"GETTING CLEAR" ON WHAT'S GOING ON WITH MEN WHEN
THEY'RE DISTANT OR UNINVOLVED IN RELATIONSHIPS
Let me tell you a quick story...
A man and a woman meet and they have an AMAZING
connection from the start.
She quickly falls for him, as he does for her,
and they instantly grow close and start spending
almost all of their time together.
When they're apart, most of the time they're
thinking about one another.
A few weeks or months pass and things are going
great... but as it happens in life, a few
difficult situations come up in each others lives.
Stress and tension starts to build, and as more
issues and situations come up, the closeness,
affection anbd communication starts to change.
The woman begins to notice how the man has
changed and tries to talk to him to bridge the gap
and stay close.
But what used to work to bring them together
now only seems to make things worse as he pulls
away when she wants to talk.
And now she's getting worried.
She asks herself...
"Why is he acting this way?"
"What happened to what we had?"
"Did his feelings for me change?"
"Did I do something that pushed him away?"
And... "Why doesn't he seem to notice or care
and do anything about it!?"
The man just seems to want to pretend that
everything is fine and ignore what's happening.
When he does talk, he's short with his words
and unexpressive... not sharing his thoughts or
feelings about much at all.
He seems "detached" somehow.
And now she feels like if she didn't do
anything to keep the relationship going, that
they'd simply drift apart and he wouldn't do
anything about it or even really care.
Ok, end of story.
This story is basically a collection of common
situations and feelings that lots of women
experience.
Let's talk about it.
The things going on in the story bring up an
important idea - the ways in which men are
"naturally" different from women when it comes to
communicating and interacting in relationships.
And sure, men are the same in lots of ways.
They want love.
They want respect.
And they want to be heard.
But, men are also very different...
They're different in how they think.
They're different in how they feel.
They're different in their beliefs about what
makes for a "good relationship".
And, they're different in how they approach and
try to "resolve" relationship issues. (Sometimes
by not trying at all!)
If you want to learn about what's going on in
the UNCERTAIN situations with men... and how to
think and respond in POSITIVE, HEALTHY,
CONSTRUCTIVE ways for the sake of growing and
improving your long term relationship...
Then you need to take a deeper look at what men
are REALLY thinking and feeling.
You probably already know from experience that
men will often tell you one thing about how
they're thinking or feeling... but actually think
and feel another way.
Frustrating, right!?
And, you probably already know from experience
that becoming frustrated or overly "emotional"
with a man doesn't often get you very far in
becoming closer and growing together in your
relationship.
But, isn't it important to share and express
your true feelings in any "real" relationship?
Absolutely.
Which leads us to a frustrating PARADOX.
How do you stay "true" to your own feelings and
emotions... while ALSO communicating in a way that
keeps you close and avoids the common male
withdrawal response?
Part of the secret here is to communicate with
a man in a way that speaks HIS language and helps
him have a better understanding of YOU.
Some women end up analyzing themselves to death
over every little thing that happens... what it
means, what they should say, and how the guy is
going to respond.
The strange truth is that part of the problem
here IS analyzing things too much... so, when they
show up to talk to the man in their life, she
overwhelms him.
Give me a little nod if you've watched your
friends do this... or you can relate in your own
life.
It's time to stop worrying so much and start
doing things that WORK to create the love life you
know you can have.
It's time for it to finally be easy to
communicate and share love with the man in your
life in the long run.
It's time for CLARITY.
Let's talk about what's going on here and turn
what can seem impossible and complex into
something SIMPLE and CLEAR.
THE TRUTHS ABOUT HOW MEN ARE DIFFERENT - THAT ANY
WOMAN WHO WANTS A LASTING, COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP
WITH A MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT...
Before we get to some real in-depth specifics
about men and relationships here, there's
something important I want to share...
I have a good friend who has taught me more in
a few years than I would have learned living 20
years not knowing her.
She's one of the smartest and insightful people
I've ever met when it comes to her unique
understanding of HUMAN BEHAVIOR and PSYCHOLOGY...
and how it relates to building long term
relationships in all areas of life.
Including romantic relationships.
I've learned a lot of what I know, or been led
to, in one way or another, by her.
Anyway... many years back she shared something
with me. Something that has taken me years to
come to know and understand for myself.
(As you know, someone can tell you something
again and again ... but it can take you days,
months or even years to come to understand and
know what THEY mean by it. Or in other words, it
often takes more time that we expect or would like
it to, to raise our own level of CONSCIOUSNESS.)
Let me share what she said with you...
She said that when it comes to people and
relationships, there's a big secret EVERYONE uses
who are able to build and keep close, fulfilling,
trusting relationships in their lives through
thick and thin.
That secret is -
"First, seek to understand."
"Then, seek to be understood."
When I first heard this, it sounded like a
"new-agey" kind of thing.
I thought I "got" what this meant and what it
was all about.
My mind quickly went to thinking about how much
I already tried to understand others... and how
what came from this wasn't all it was cracked up
to be.
In my experience I had been a "giver", and I
often felt at the mercy of others because of it.
ESPECIALLY in relationships.
I bet you can relate.
So, the idea of becoming MORE UNDERSTANDING and
listening to others more, made me feel like things
would just be less satisfying and more difficult
in my relationships.
As much as I could see the benefit of listening
and understanding first, it just didn't seem to
work out so well in real life for me.
Actually... the people who were a bit more
"selfish" seemed to be the ones who more often got
what they wanted and had it easy in life.
The reality was that I wasn't able to see that
the world could work any differently from my
perspective at the time.
It was only after years or living, studying,
observing, learning from others and thinking
about my life and the relationships in it that I
started to see things differently.
And one day something "snapped" into place.
I had an AMAZING EXPERIENCE as I was going back
through an old journal of mine and came across
what my friend had said about seeking to
understand first.
I hadn't thought about this idea in a long
time... and it hit me in different way now that I
was in a different place in my life.
To make a long story short, once you start down
your own path of growth in your life and
relationships... you're going to find new meaning
and depth in things that didn't used to be so
significant.
And this means you're becoming more AWARE and
CONSCIOUS of the world around you - which is one
of the first steps to creating amazing and lasting
change.
Of course, I'm talking about life more in
general here... but the exact same principles
apply to men, dating and relationships.
And, by the way, if you're getting that anxious
or frustrated feeling right now where giving a man
more of your understanding is the last thing you
want to do... then I've got some unfortunate news
for you...
YOU are creating your very own RESISTANCE.
That's right.
YOU are adding to the distance and lack of
understanding that's taking place.
As much as a man might be wrong, acting distant
or unfair, or hurting your feelings... if YOU are
putting your energy into the negative patterns of
fear, or doing the all too common "demand and
withdraw" behaviors tons of women slip into in
these situations...
Then you're only adding to the problems and
creating more of the "disconnect" between you two.
Ok, so what can you do instead!?
Good question.
First, seek to understand.
So, let's get right to how this works.
Let's look at the ways men are different when
it comes to relationships, and learn to understand
more and put it to work for you...
I promise everything with a man will instantly
start to become clearer and easier once you do.
Difference #1: With A Man, Improving Your
Relationship Is Often As Easy As Improving "The
Now".
There's a kind of relationship "shortcut" some
women know about and others don't.
And women who know what it is and how it works
often have the men they're with feeling deeply
connected... and ASKING THEM to become more
committed... and share more love.
But there's a catch to this "trick".
YOU, as a woman, have to be in the right mental
and emotional state to make these kinds of
"breakthroughs" in your relationship and the way
that you interact with a man.
Why?
Because if you're not, you're going to do all
kinds of things to sabotage yourself and get in
the way of your own success here.
You'll start feeling needy or unappreciated and
want the man to take over and make things happen
for you.
Don't make this mistake and miss out on the
love and connection that's possible for you in
your relationship.
So, here's the shortcut you can use with any
man at almost anytime. (I've seen this work with
men who were so distant that I would have never
believed it if I hadn't seen it happen myself.)
When a man is acting distant with a woman in a
relationship, it's often because he's "off in his
head" thinking about something else he needs to do
or has to take care of.
And, in case you didn't know... for most men
it's so extremely important to be a strong
successful "provider" with a woman, that the
closer he is with a woman... the more his mind
will try and turn to the outside world, work, etc.
in order to make sure he can protect and provide
for a woman.
For most men, whether or not they are an
"attractive" person relies heavily on if he's
financially successful and has a high level of
"social status".
Of course, a man isn't often CONSCIOUS that
he's thinking or behaving this way.
These things are part of our "inner biology".
They are "wired" deep in our brains and affect
us on deep SUBCONSCIOUS levels.
So, why am I telling you all of this?
Because you can use it to your advantage and
move straight past the detached, withdrawn, work-
focused man.
You can learn how to "invite" a man into love
and affection with you.
And here is where the shortcut comes in.
See, as much as I hate to admit it, and you
might already know this about men... well, we can
be simple-minded.
If we have a woman that we are close with, like
a girlfriend, the reality is that she has the
power change our mood INSTANTLY.
Especially if she triggers the feeling of
ATTRACTION.
Let me explain how this works...
When a man is detached, unemotional, etc.,
often it's because his mind is focused on "things"
and not on people or relationships.
Things like sports, work, cars, or whatever
hobby a man happens to be into.
And, it's this "Focus" that often makes a man
seem withdrawn, disinterested or unattentive.
But, there IS something a woman can do to
easily get him out of this "Focus" mode to where a
man will be more present, "connected" and
emotionally responsive.
A woman can help a man move his thinking and
attention out of his "mind" and into his body.
(Don't worry, feelings and emotions will naturally
follow... and if this isn't making much sense
right now, it will in a second.)
It can start with a soft touch, a playful tap,
or even just a smile.
It doesn't take much, other than attention and
a little patience.
What's probably the easiest way to do this is
to do what men naturally do to get out of their
heads and into the present moment.
They become more physical.
Have you ever watched couples play-fight or
wrestle?
For lots of men this is the easiest way they
know to become close and connected with a woman...
as they aren't even conscious what they're doing.
They just naturally become more affectionate
and in-tune with a woman than they could have ever
figured out how to be trying to talk to a woman
about how this all works.
Of course, if you watch a woman do this with a
man and you don't know what she's up to... it can
look like she's just trying to get his attention
in a physical and sexual way.
And some women do this too.
But, if you've been reading my newsletters,
picked up my eBook, or seen a few of my CD or DVD
programs, then you've come to recognize that there
is more than one type of ATTRACTION a man can feel
and experience with a woman.
There's a type of attraction that goes BEYOND
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and gets a man's attention on
an emotional and intellectual level.
This is the kind of attraction I'm talking
about creating with a man... where he will move
"out of his head" and become open and attentive in
the present moment with you.
Lots of women try to TALK with a man in order
to get him to be present, loving, affection, etc.
with them.
But often times, this completely BACKFIRES.
The reason why is because these women don't
know this "other" kind of attraction works for a
man.
Don't make the mistake of thinking that
attraction works the same way for you as it does
for a man...
Or that you can try and use Physical Attraction
with a man to get an EMOTIONAL response.
You need to learn how to get the EMOTIONAL
response from a man that you're looking for...
without demanding it of him in a way that will
only encourage him to WITHDRAW.
Inviting a man out of his Focus, or out of his
"head", is a simple first step.
Difference #2: Instead Of Discussing, Exploring
And FEELING The Problems In Your Relationship, A
Man Will Often Want To "Starve" Them... Or Try To
Give You The "Logical Solution" As His Way Of
Making Things Better
I've got to ask you something. Be honest when
you answer -
Do you think men, or more to the point, the men
you've dated in your life, enjoy talking about
their feelings and your relationship as much as
you do?
Or that they enjoy it much at all really?
I'm guessing the answer is, "No".
If so, then this is a vital piece of
information for you in your relationship.
But, what have you done with this knowledge?
Have you tried to MAKE A MAN better at talking
about his feelings in your relationship, and then
become frustrated and upset when it hasn't gone
the way you had hoped?
And, have you ever wanted to talk about
something important in your relationship with a
man, and brought it up... and then he gave you a
short "detached" answer... or he became angry with
you and started telling you what to do?
Is this really the best approach?
Think about this for a second...
What if, without knowing it, you've been asking
a man for the exact thing you DON'T want?
What if, accidentally, the way you were
communicating with him was telling him, in his own
"language", to STOP SHARING, to CLOSE OFF, and to
be LESS EXPRESSIVE?
Is this possible?
What if there was another way to be with a man
that would get you the result you wanted (him
opening up to you more) AND... it made everything
a whole lot easier for YOU?
Think about it for a minute.
How do men "typically" react when a woman comes
to them with intense emotions and feelings and
wants to talk about them?
One of two things usually happens.
1. He gives you a short answer that often seems
cold and uninterested. Kind of like he isn't
paying attention to you and your FEELINGS.
2. He gets anxious or irritated and instead of
responding with caring and understanding, he seems
angry. In effect, he starts telling you what to do
and to stop bothering him.
Both of these responses have something in
common.
Can you guess what it is?
They both show how men tend to want to remove
themselves from any situations they see or
experience as unnecessarily intense or
"emotional".
I'm not saying that this is a good thing or a
bad thing about men, by the way.
But, it is THE REALITY of how most men think
and behave.
Which leaves YOU with a choice.
You can either learn to work WITH the way
things are...
Or you can keep fighting AGAINST the way things
are and continue the negative, self-defeating
patterns in your love life.
And here's something else to think about -
Given the two different ways that men often
respond that I mentioned above...
Does a man reacting in one of these ways have
to mean that he doesn't care for a woman or her
feelings?
And, does a man reacting this way mean he
doesn't care about his relationship?
In a man's mind, the answer is NO.
But, what do lots of women do when they are
confronted with a man's anxious or irritated
response that comes from not knowing what to do
with a woman's feelings?
Instead of trying a different approach, they
simply take what is NOT working and dial up the
intensity about 20 notches...
Hello!
Duh! (A scientific term that means you're
acting like a jack-ass)
Stop making your life so difficult for
yourself.
Becoming more intense and "emotionally
demanding" with others rarely builds strong
relationships or gets you what you want.
There is a way to communicate and move to a
more committed and "connected" place with a man
that does NOT involve asking him to do so, trying
to convince him to listen, or demanding that your
relationship grow.
If you've tried any of these things with a man,
then you know that they can just turn into an
uphill battle... and trigger the DISTANCE and
RESISTANCE you're trying to avoid.
These two differences I've shared with you here
are just the beginning.
If you want to learn what's at the foundation
of the differences, where they come from, and the
most important and CRITICAL difference you need to
know to move to a deeper level of connection and
COMMITMENT with a man, then it's time you checked
out my new CD/DVD series "From Casual To
Committed."
If you've ever wondered why a man says he wants
his "Freedom"...
And you know that he wants to love you and be
loved...
But he also wants to do things "on his own"
first, before he settles down...
Then this program is for you.
I go into depth about how these contradictions
are all part of a man's growth process, what they
mean, and exactly what to do as each one of these
comes up in your relationship.
Oh... and what if you had a "map" of how the
COMMITMENT PROCESS works for a man?
What if you knew what it was that would help a
man see and KNOW that your connection and what you
share is special enough to go deeper into and to
commit himself to on an emotional level.
It's not that most men aren't capable of a
deep, lasting, emotional commitment with a woman.
It's that they don't know how to get there on
their own... and most women don't know how to help
them in their relationship.
In fact, most women accidentally push a man
away from the things that will make him want to
discover his emotions, his feelings and the love
he can share with a woman all on his own - because
they try and take over and tell him how to do it
when things aren't working just right.
Now you can avoid all those mistakes and let a
man find his own way to where he'll be leading YOU
into a more deeply connected and fulfilling
relationship.
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