Little things that makes women happy and I don't mean in bed.
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Posted:Sep 27, 2014 10:13 pm
Last Updated:Oct 2, 2014 4:04 am 130513 Views
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Forget the I love you whisper in her ears, specially if you don't mean it. There are many simple things that a man can do to show a woman how much he cares. Some of these little things you don't even know we appreciate just because we don't say so. You don't have to search so hard to find ways to please her most of the things you do are anough if they come from your heart.
Here is my list :
Listen to her, no matter how silly the topic she want to talk about like here dreams last night she will be pleased if you genuinely listen
Make her laugh without making fun of her or better laugh with her. Appreciate her more when she laugh or smile and when you do that it will naturally come out to you that you want to see her laugh or smile a lot.
Hug and kiss as often as possible.
Help with house chores without being asked specially if you both work.
Tell her she is beautiful and tell her how lucky you are to have her, better yet tell her friends.
Call her, text her, email her , chat to her at least once or twice a day. In this age there's no excuse for not being able to get in touch with her even if you are miles apart.
Take her out as often as you can even just to a grocery, to a game, to the park or just driving around. Make her feel that you really want to spend time with her.
Give her little presents, nothing expensive even just simple cards to show that you are always thinking of her.
Dance for her or dance with her, be spontaneous, be silly. She will always remember you for it.
Offer your shoulders to her be sympathetic no matter how simple it is that she was upset about and then make her laugh.
There you go, too easy? What do you do? Whatever it is if it is genuinely done because of love then it will make any woman happy. 
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Detox diet, worked for me.
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Posted:Sep 22, 2014 8:35 pm
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2015 12:16 am 129584 Views
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When I was on holiday in he US I gained about 9 pounds in 3 weeks it was fine with me I did not have a problem with that but I still have 3 more weeks in Philippines and I have some functions to attend to. Oh no , my clothes don't fit what am I gonna do? Lucky I found this 3 days detox diet posted on my sister's fridge. Did it for 5 days and voila I lost the 9 pounds I gained and the clothes fitted again. The good thing about it is I liked the taste, its easy, inexpensive and healthy. So I would like to share it with you. It is a smoothie drank all day for 3 days plus plenty of water of course.
Here it is.
BREAKFAST
Blend all together the following
1 cup water
1 pc banana
1 tbsp flax seed
1 cup raspberry
1/2 cup spinach
1 tbsp almond butter
1 tsp lemon juice
LUNCH
4 celery
1 cucumber
1/2 cup kale
1/2 avocado
1/2 lime juice
1/2 apple
1 tbsp coconut oil
1 cup pineapple
1/2 cup almond milk
DINNER
1/2 cup mango , ripe
1 cup blueberries
1.5 cup coco water
1/2 cup kale
1 tbsp lemon
1/2 avocado
1/4 tsp cayenne powder
1 tbsp flax seed
You can drink this too for your snacks. Exercise of course helps.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.
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Intimate on first date? Uh oh.
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Posted:Sep 22, 2014 3:16 pm
Last Updated:Sep 30, 2014 2:06 pm 130049 Views
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This blog was banned and I have to re-do it about 5 times, apparently for some words that are not allowed. I hope it get approved this time. Read and be the judge. I used the phrase "under the sheets" and it to replace the word that I think banned this blog.
Got your attention didn't I. Well no dirty talk here its just all about good conversation.I came across some articles on line giving pointers on on-line dating. Many of these articles are about what to do and what not to do specially on the first date. First date is mostly about talking face to face for the first time. It doesn't necessarily mean that you are talking for the first time, you might have been talking on the phone or via the net for a while.There are many suggested topics for discussion on first dates and also topics that are forbidden.
Here are some of the commonly suggested topics or questions to ask: The most commonly suggested are questions about hobbies, interests , family, sports , travel and family. One site gave the acronym FORD which stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams as some of the good topics to discuss on first date.
The forbidden topics are faith, pregnancies, politics and economics as well as the ex and sexual topics. The last mentioned topic is apparently a biggest turn off to women if men talk about it on the first meeting. Women are generally put off if men talk about what goes under the sheets on the first meeting because women sees this as an indication that , that's all he's after. If women wants it they will probably talk to you about it online more than they will face to face. Men on the other hand are eager to know anything that is about getting in bed. Even subtle questions like the woman's vital statistics, bra size are construed by women as sexual topics.
It is not totally forbidden specially if asked in good taste. and good timing, but just never on the first date. When is the best time to talk about it then , you ask? Well I say after you have known the woman really well, what her likes and dislikes, her values, One article said the best time to talk about it is after you have done it. I agree to this article, maybe it is best to discuss after your test drive. (wink) So there you go , don;t talk about it if you are hoping to have it with the woman, well maybe mainly Filipina women. I am guessing if Filipina woman talks about it to you very early in your meeting, beware!. Of course I ca be wrong.
What about if you are dating online or have talked online for a while. Does that count?
Men what are your views on this? Is it a turn on or turn off if a woman talk about sex early in your dates? Will you take that woman further for a date or is that cheap? I don't mean dirty talk or explicit or suggestive, they are downright cheap, I am referring to just the basic talk about intimacy discussed in a confident manner. Is that a no good to you?
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Alone and lonely? You are not alone then.
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Posted:Sep 21, 2014 6:54 pm
Last Updated:Oct 14, 2014 12:53 am 131285 Views
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I got home from work today , the house is clean and tidy and eerily quiet. Bliss? Could be every mother's dream but things have changed. I now long for those days where it is so noisy and messy. The house never seemed to get tidy enough from toys and then from 's mess and hubby's mates. Ah if I can have that back, I will, no doubt.
Being alone at home gives me a lot of time to reminisce. Going back about 20 years ago we had a widow neighbor who often asks us to find her a boyfriend or a partner. She was probably in her 50's then. Unable to relate to her, I just dismiss her plea as a joke. Also I remember a single cousin, who is still single now., she told me to find her a bf when we moved to NZ way back. Having no clue I told her I will. I thought it will be easy. There was also our then secretary, asked me to find her a bf and I promised her I will but guess what? None found and I did not even know how.
I've seen movies where there are scene of loneliness and longings. Scenes such as shivering, quivering, crying and downright crazy from losing their love ones, being lonely and living alone. To me then. they are just one of those movie scenes that are exaggerated. Scenes that I could hardly relate to. I also met a former classmate of mine few years back, she was a widow for a while and she make it a point that everyone knows that she is looking for a partner. I thought then that, that was desperate of her.
Fast forward to present time, I am now that widow neighbor of ours, the former classmate and the scene in that movie. Now I understand how lonely it is to be living alone. I wonder if people who can't relate understands that's why I hide my feelings, my desire , my loneliness in front of these people. I also wonder if my cousin is now in a better state because she does not miss anyone but as they say it is better to have love and lost than never to have love at all, right?
The difference now are these online dating sites that give us hope to find a match. They can also offer temporary relief form our loneliness and give us company online so we don't feel alone. We are in company of those in similar situation, those who can relate to us and not judge us.
I wonder too about the difference in the experience of a man and a woman. Those who live in the west and those from the east? Those who are much younger and those with or without . There is obviously a lot of factors that affect our experience but I believe there is one thing that most of us will agree: it is not a nice feeling. I don't think the feeling will go away if we stay alone but we may learn to live with it.
We may have different reasons why we are on this site but I believe majority of us are longing for company. This is like the lonely hearts club. A few I believe are here for other reasons maybe to scam, prey, spy, kill time, to satisfy curiosity or maybe to live a fantasy.
I wonder a lot. Don't you?
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I was late for a date.
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Posted:Sep 18, 2014 6:51 am
Last Updated:Feb 26, 2018 4:18 pm 130008 Views
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If you are meeting someone for a date how many minutes to be considered too late? How long are you willing to wait? Should one be in a hurry because time is precious or should one slow down and enjoy the time? Truly time flies, it can be so late so soon and we can never bring back time so we should not be wasting time.
Time holds the key to many and time tells of our destiny. True, time can never be brought back yet many more time is wasted thinking back. Wondering of many other possibilities or just reminiscing memories. To me its fine to dwell on memories because memories too will be gone but make sure we only look back on what makes us happy because time enjoyed is not wasted time.
Is time relevant to a relationship? Is there an ideal time when to move on or move in? How long should one wait? Is it okay to sleep with one on your first date? If not how many? How long should one wait before he jump into another relationship and how long should one wait before one leaves? I think we will all agree that time is important in a relationship but for a better and loving relationship it should be time spent lovingly together.
Wouldn't it be better if relationship are like cars or machines, if something is wrong you can get it fixed? When you are sick of it you can upgrade or downgrade. You don't need time to wait when you are going to get it. But they are not cars or machines, we can't buy them. We have to spend time with them. Overtime, they become better or bitter but we can choose to stay or leave. On the other hand will one be happy making love with a machine?
Thank you for your time reading my blog, now if you can spare a moment to leave a comment.
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Life lesson 2 , let go and live.
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Posted:Sep 12, 2014 5:38 pm
Last Updated:Sep 18, 2014 4:33 am 130290 Views
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I read a story about a man who died, in the story God came to pick him up to take his soul. God was carrying a suitcase and the man was wondering what was in it. He asked God what is in the suitcase and God replied: "your belongings".
The man found out from God that:
Memories belonged to time.’
Talents belonged to the circumstances.’
Friends and family they were never yours, they belonged to the path.’
The they were never ours, they belonged to our heart.’
The body, it belonged to the dust.’
The soul, belong to God.
Finally the man open the suitcase but found out it was empty. He wondered why he did not have anything and God said "only every moment you lived was yours, nothing else"
Whether we are believer or not what the story meant is so true. Life is just a moment, a moment that belongs to you. For this reason enjoy this time while you have it.
Don't let anything that you think you own stop you from doing so. Live your life now and be happy. Everything we owned or fought for stay here, we can't take anything. So enjoy every moment while we are still alive .
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Life lessons, cheer up!
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Posted:Sep 11, 2014 8:03 am
Last Updated:Sep 24, 2014 8:59 pm 130360 Views
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I am feeling a bit down today and this made me laugh. It was forwarded to me by one of my friends and I like to share it with you hoping it will put a smile on your face as it did to me. Author unknown.
On the first day, God created the and said, "Sit all day by the door
of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. For this,
I will give you a life span of twenty years."
The said, "That's a long time to be barking. How about only ten
years and I'll give you back the other ten?"
So God agreed......
On the second day, God created the monkey and said, "Entertain
people, do tricks, and make them laugh. For this, I'll give you a
twenty-year life span."
The monkey said, "Monkey tricks for twenty years? That's a pretty
long time to perform. How about I give you back ten like the did?"
And God agreed......
On the third day, God created the cow and said, "You must go into the field with the farmer all day long and suffer under the sun, have calves
and give milk to support the farmer's family. For this, I will give you a life span of sixty years."
The cow said, "That's kind of a tough life you want me to live for sixty years.
How about twenty and I'll give back the other forty?"
And God agreed again......
On the fourth day, God created humans and said, "Eat, sleep, play, marry
and enjoy your life. For this, I'll give you twenty years."
But the human said, "Only twenty years? Could you possibly give me
my twenty, the forty the cow gave back, the ten the monkey gave back,
and the ten the gave back; that makes eighty, okay?"
"Okay," said God. "You asked for it."
So that is why for our first twenty years, we eat, sleep, play and enjoy ourselves.
For the next forty years, we slave in the sun to support our family.. For the
next ten years, we do monkey tricks to entertain the grandchildren. And for
the last ten years, we sit on the front porch and bark at everyone.
Life has now been explained to you.
There is no need to thank me for this valuable information. I'm doing it as
a public service. If you are looking for me I will be on the front porch.
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I am old fashioned?
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Posted:Sep 9, 2014 9:57 am
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2014 7:27 am 130858 Views
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I met this guy last week and we agreed to get to know each other. He has expressed his romantic interest in me. I have some hesitation about his personality because of what he told me. He is 50 , retired or in other word jobless, living with his mum, divorced for 2 years. He doesn't have the manner that I am looking for in a man if I may say. The second day we were chatting he started calling me princess he said because he wanted to treat me like one. Then he started calling me me babes. Initially I thought okay I will try and see what happens next then he started saying mwahh and xx which means kisses the following days.
I was not impressed, I felt it was distasteful or disrespectful. I felt he is being fresh with me. Well if he really wanted to know me then he should know how I feel so I told him. He was upset and he told me I made him sad because I call him fresh and he was just being nice to me. He said I was the first woman who ever said that to him and he was just friendly. He said I have a shifty mind then he said goodbye. Thank you Lord!
He is childish, he is a boy not a man. Right? Is that appropriate to say mwahh and call someone babes or princess when you are not in a relationship or am I really old fashioned like he say? If I allow him to continue saying that doesn't that mean that I am allowing him to be intimate with me even though we are not in a relationship? Did I over react?
This is the funny part and proved to me that he is a boy, a mama's boy in fact. Remember he is 50, he told his 70 year old mother about what I said and his mother said I have loose screws. made me laugh.
Here I quote:
"you should stay home and hold your fathers hand its 2014 not 1940 l showed this to mum and she said that you have a loose screw in your head your should learn to respect people like l have respected you or maybe your x husband used you as a door mat and you dont know what love is. ..."
I tell you I am not old fashioned, I am proper with a naughty streak sometimes.
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How do you take no for an answer?
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Posted:Sep 4, 2014 2:38 am
Last Updated:Mar 4, 2015 3:40 pm 130741 Views
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Someone: "Can I have your ym? I just want to see your beauty briefly on cam. Is that wrong to ask?"
Me: " No, sorry I do not have one it was hacked and attacked by virus."
There is this younger guy probably in his late 30's or early 40's who was persistent in asking for my messenger ID. I was able to give it to him in the past, he was persistent in seeing me on cam but I always decline. He asks like in middle of the night for which I am not comfortable. First because he has a gf, he is young and I don't really know him. It is my intuition that he is up to no good. At first we were friendly, he asks for advise about his relationship. I lost him from my messenger when my laptop was attacked by virus and my messenger was gone too.
He resurfaced in the chat room one day, we chatted a bit and then later he asked for my private messenger ID, again for same reason. This time he was more persistent, a little aggressive and a bit obsessed. I said " I don't have one' again and again but he will not take no for an answer. I am getting frustrated and he is getting angry until he left.
Today out of the blue a new handle turned up in the chat room and posted obscene fantasies about me. I was shocked! I don't know anyone who will do such a thing. Thankfully,there was this ignore button so I added him to my ignore list but that did not stopped him from posting obscenities. I kept guessing who will do something like that to me? Then it clicked it was him who was asking for my private messenger the other day.
Well if someone can posts obscenities like that in an open chat what more in a private chat? Thank goodness I did not get sucked into his request. Thankfully the people in the chat room where nice people and friends who came to my defense and made me feel better. What a creep!. There are some people who doesn't know how to take "no" for an answer. What he did was abusive maybe can be called "verbal -abused" if I was able to read them. Luckily I did not have to because his post were hidden from me because of the ignore function of the chat room. He deserve to be punished so his actions were reported.
Wiser me: Choose wisely who to chat to and who to give my private messenger ID to. No private message in the chat room from someone that I don't really know. Hmm. maybe I will stay away from the chat room a bit?
Thanks to all who were with me in the chat room and gave me comforting words. He managed to ruin my time a bit but many manage to make it better. Thanks guys. To you please learn how to accept no for an answer. I'm glad it's only about chat. Gosh, I can't imagine what he will do if it is more than that and in person.
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Would you rather be motivated or inspired?
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Posted:Sep 3, 2014 12:49 am
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2014 1:56 am 130274 Views
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Are you motivated or are you inspired? What inspires you and what motivates you? Motivated and inspired are often used interchangeably but I have found out they are totally different. One keeps you going but the other keeps you fulfilled and happy. Which one can you do without?
There are days that I can't wait to get up in the morning or I can't sleep at night because I am so inspired to do something. There are days too that I don't feel like doing anything at all but I am able to force myself to do things. I can't say it's mood swing, that is totally different. Like blogging for example, sometimes I have lots of thoughts going on in my mind and I can't wait to write. I haven't had this urge lately that's why I haven't posted anything in the past few weeks. Looking back I do have plenty to write about but I just can't be bothered.I analyze how I feel then I realize I lack inspiration.
Inspiration is something or someone that forces or influence someone to do something. It's a driving force that makes someone create something or act on something, When you are inspired that means you are in spirit. When one is tuned into spirit she is naturally drawn to do what is best. Inspiration is about being called to act because it gives you fulfillment or happiness.
Many times I have to force myself to do something, I have to motivate myself. That's the difference inspiration forces someone to do something while with motivation, one forces themselves to do something. Motivation, usually has a lot to do with fake growth. It is something we think we should be doing and it often leads in the direction of something that doesn’t really matter. It’s what you’re “supposed” to be doing. It’s just a good idea, not a passionate, burning desire that emanates from the core of your being.
Motivation is the push while inspiration is the pull.
I have enough motivation, now I think I need inspiration. What have you got?
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