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I said I will be back perhaps wiser and younger. I am back, checked. Wiser? Learning to be. Younger? Damn I forgot to change those numbers around.
I have been reading your blogs many of you have mentioned their reasons for your blogs. Mine is just to share my experience, my thoughts and hopefully get an insight from you, make me wiser and have a good laugh
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The Laws of Attraction
Posted:Mar 9, 2015 10:58 pm
Last Updated:Mar 12, 2015 7:39 am
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Back in NZ I have a very good friend who always think negatively, lets call her Ms Nega. Despite our opposite character we became good friends, she said I was like a big sister to her. I remember when together with Ms Nega 8 of us went to watch a concert, after the concert we lined up outside to have an autograph and a photo with the singer. The singer was very gracious , sweet and all smiles when we had our individual photo taken with her. She was very appreciative of all her fans. When it was Ms Nega's turn something came out and the singer's mood changed. None of us noticed that, but Ms Nega told us that the singer was in a grumpy mood. We all disagreed with her of course. When we have the pictures and compared them the singer was all smiles in the 7 out of the 8 photos. You probably guessed what the other photo was like.

Ms Nega not only think of negative things but also give negative meanings to many things. As a consequences she is avoided by many, she has very few friends, many can't stand her. She thinks negatively of people and she thinks people leave her. Because of her negativity she becomes very argumentative and has conflict with everyone. I was one of the very few who stood by her, yet my circumstances changed that I have to leave as well. I believed I have made an impact on her and somehow neutralized her negativity. She was in tears when I left the country.

Despite her negativism she is still successful. She has a career, she is a professional and she makes good money. She always thinks of money, she always need money, she always wants money and yes she gets good money. Despite the money she have she is not happy.

Ms Nega reminds me of the Universal law of attraction. In accordance with the Law of Attraction, we attract into our life those things, circumstances and conditions that correspond with the nature of our dominant, habitual thoughts and beliefs, both conscious and subconscious. Every area of our life, including our health, our finances and all of our relationships, are influenced by this great Universal Law that "like attracts like".

Everything, including our thoughts and anything else we may or may not want to experience, is pure energy vibrating at different frequencies. The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like energy attracts like energy. We attract to our self that which we are in harmony with, not that which we long for or even deserve. Our dominant energy is determined by our dominant mental attitude, which itself is determined by our habitual thoughts and beliefs. Simply put, a positive mental attitude attracts positive experiences and circumstances while a negative mental attitude attracts those conditions that we deem negative or unwanted.

So let's go ahead think, dream and make a wish, that will give us positive energy, positive attitude. and positive feelings, but don't stop there. Use these positive energy to make a plan and put them into action. Continue to fuel these action with more positive thinking, wishes, dreams and desire ,do not stop until it comes true. Let us be our own genie in a lamp that can grant all our wishes.
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Cheating encouraged openly?
Posted:Mar 3, 2015 8:43 am
Last Updated:Apr 20, 2015 6:49 pm
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I was cooking one day when I heard this commercial on TV. The jingle had a catchy phrase and nice tune it sang "... other than my wife." Intrigued as to what it was, I watched when it was aired again. In the commercial there were these 2 very attractive, good looking men probably in their mid or late 30's. They were just singing something like "my life other than my wife" and then in the end the name of the website. Obviously the advertisement is effective because it made me look at the website. I couldn't believe my eyes when I found it was a website for extra marital affair and apparently it has over half a million registered members.

OMG half a million! I am not here to judge anyone's lifestyle I am only expressing my opinion. Affair now openly advertised and saying there are half a million who think the same is like saying it's ok to have an affair, it's normal to have an affair, join the club of cheaters. I have seen profiles here that are looking for the same. I believe in the sanctity of marriage but I also believe that marriage is not required to be in a relationship. I believe in monogamous relationship married or not. If someone is not happy in the relationship then better to leave and hurt the partner once rather than hurting them behind their back by cheating again and again.

Just my opinion, triggered by the open advertising of a website for cheaters. I am against infidelity no matter what the reason may be. I'm sure you have an opinion too so you are welcome to share it.
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Myths about Love.
Posted:Mar 1, 2015 12:44 am
Last Updated:Mar 5, 2015 9:59 pm
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There are so many definitions, stories, arguments and mysteries around love. When it comes to love probably everyone has something to say, has their own beliefs and principles. There are some things that others believe in about love that relationship expert dismiss as false beliefs or myths.

I came across a research that says we need love physically and emotionally in order to stay healthy, just like the body need nutrition. The research dismiss the following beliefs are myth , many of us may disagree. Here are some of what the experts call myths of love

1) If love is meant to happen it will happen. Apparently according to experts this is false because love can be learned, like learning a language. Sure there is chemistry initially but lasting love need to be worked on it requires attention and intention. So love doesn't just happen.

2) We fall out of love, no we don't,we fail to get involved , we choose to be passive that's what happened.

3) Men and women love differently. Well the need to love is universally shared. I am thinking of blogging about this too.

4) If the sex fades so does the love. Maybe it's the other way around?

5) Real love isn't about dependency.

Many will probably argue about these but hey, this is not from me these are from so called experts but then who are more expert of our own feelings and ourselves than ourselves too, right? We can choose what to believe and what to disagree. We have our own opinions.

Oh well I think I will just read on mythical love stories rather than researches the former are far more entertaining and inspiring that psychology researches.

Do you have any favorite mythical love story? Do you know of any other myth about love? Wan't to share it here?

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Goodbye?
Posted:Feb 21, 2015 8:08 pm
Last Updated:Oct 20, 2016 4:02 pm
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I hate goodbyes, I think most people do but what I hate even more is someone disappearing with no good bye. Leaving you with so many unanswered questions. Where are they? What happened? Are they coming back? Shall I close the door? Should I wait or move on? If ever they come back what will I say? Shall I take him back? So frustrating.

If there is a proper goodbye then we know where we stand and we can make some plans. Leaving or stop communicating without goodbye is cowardice and a betrayal. Correct me if I'm wrong but as far as I know there is a law in the Philippines that after 7 years of non communication between spouses makes the marriage void or the other partner can be considered dead therefore freeing the other. . Seven years is such a long time but law is law. What about people who are in relationship specifically virtual relationship when communication cease how long before you can say it's all over? In this age there is no excuse for not being able to communicate, we have all the means to say anything even goodbyes. Maybe the others party's reason is that they don't want to hurt the others feeling. But come to think of it goodbye can be painful but hanging on to false hope is cruel. It leaves a very painful wound that will surely get rubbed with salt often That wound may never heal.

So tell me, what can be done if there was no goodbye, no closure in a relationship? How long will one wait before closing the chapter of your relationship and say goodbye forever and for good?
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Can there be relationship without commitment?
Posted:Feb 19, 2015 12:29 am
Last Updated:Jul 6, 2015 2:49 am
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When we enter a relationship we are making a commitment. To me relationship is akin to commitment and commitment means obligation or involvement, it comes with responsibilities. Just like for example a working relationship. When you enter a working relationship as an employee you are obliged to come to work, follow the company's rule and be involved among all other things. That is commitment. The boss or the business owner has the obligation to pay your wages, look after the company's production and viability among other things.

If you are in a relationship and you live together you are obliged to come home to your partner, it is your obligation to share time together and be involved among other things. It is your obligation to make your partner feel the love, make them feel special. If you are in a LDR and you want it to work then you show your commitment by communicating. You show your involvement by giving time to listen, spend time, make plans together. It is a 2 way street. It's giving and receiving. If there is no commitment or involvement then that is not a relationship. .

Commitment is dealing with the challenges that arises in a relationship, non commitment is running away or denying these challenges. Commitment doesn't mean marriage, doesn't mean living together it is simply working together towards a specific cause or goal and that is to keep the relationship alive. Non committal is when you come and see the other only as you please or in your spare time and not caring about your partner's feelings.

Do you agree? Tell me, what is your definition of commitment in a relationship?
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Shall we chat?
Posted:Feb 17, 2015 6:12 pm
Last Updated:Feb 27, 2015 12:24 am
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Someguy: "Hi let's chat, what size are your breasts?";

Me : "wtf! my breasts don't chat!"

Some people like me, after a long day work we go home and there's no one to talk to. We watch TV , listen to radio but they do all the talking. We wan't to say something too sometimes, even though it is just a silly nonsense. Options? Well we can talk to friends or family on the phone or the net but sometimes they are not available. Talk to strangers on the road but that's not possible if we are at home or if it's very late at night and it is not very safe. So my other option is to chat online to anyone who is available. We have different reasons or motivations for going online but I believe to most women is not about sex. Women has this inherent need to talk, sometimes to vent, release stress or be happy. That's why some of us go online to chat.

But if I am going to chat to someone like the guy above maybe I'd rather talk to the idiot box, read or talk to myself and of course blog.

Now can you tell me what you do if you want to talk and there's no one available? What will be some of the reasons you wan't to have someone to talk to?
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High Tech astrology.
Posted:Feb 11, 2015 4:24 am
Last Updated:Feb 13, 2015 4:46 am
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I was watching a talk show earlier today and they talked about the latest gadget , website and phone applications used to meet people and have a virtual relationship. There was also a movie about a guy who fell in love with Siri (now there's another competition) It made the talks show laugh and I was laughing about it too. I said to myself, oh what has the world gone to. There are applications that can tell if you are compatible.

One of the gadget is a bracelet that one can wear and will tell you if there is someone nearby wearing the same bracelet that you can meet, example in a bar. Kinda like the cabbage walkers, they walk cabbages to meet same people, usually these are teens who has some depression. There is a phone application that can tell one's mood and if it's the right time or the right person to speak to or the right time to make a move. Wait there's more, there is also a website that can detect yours and your partner's DNA for future diseases. You sign in, they will send you and your partner a test tube, you spit out in the tube, send it back and your spit will be tested for DNA for diseases. There are also sites where you can have a virtual girlfriend/boyfriend tailored to your needs. I don't mean scammers.

My reaction? Pardon me but I think it's ridiculous. These companies are using lonely people to make big profits. Love or relationship is becoming more like a commodity. We all wanted guarantee and assurance. What happened to getting to know each other and loving them for what they are? Will you rely on an application to tell you who to speak to or who to love? I wonder what the next generation will be? I hate to think. Yes computer technology has given us so much but do we have to rely on them too for our relationship? Maybe. Like for people who has some psychosocial problems such as those with phobias such as phobias from intimacy, phobias from rejection, Maybe good for those who have violent tendencies so they will just lash out at their gadgets or computers.

Robots are made by people but seems like people will soon turn into robots following computers. These technologies are like astrology gone high tech. some people actually believe and use them. Come to think of it.
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Detoxify and be happy.
Posted:Feb 1, 2015 12:23 am
Last Updated:Dec 29, 2015 12:13 am
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Toxins or poisons are known to be harmful but there are some toxins that has been known to be useful in small doses, ie botulinum toxin which is the toxin used in botox injections that paralyzes the muscle and makes one wrinkle free and look younger. The key is small doses. On the other hand too much of what we think is good could be toxic or harmful to our bodies or our lives. A recent example is my 's skin condition. He has been suffering from severe eczema and lately acne. I have taken him to many doctors and have used many creams and medicines for years to no avail. Finally I decided to make a drastic move, I had enough of it. I have to detoxify him. So at the start of the year there was no milk, meat, seafoods, eggs and processed food for him. All the good food he likes. All he ate for a month now are fruits and vegetables with some bread and rice. The result? Not a surprise I was right, all his eczema and acne improved, about 80% gone with no medications. He just need to control or get rid of what was toxic to his skin and voila! I know he can't be without those food forever so eventually we will let him have his fave food but in moderation.

There are physical signs and symptoms of chemical or biological poisoning. Some are outright obvious like vomiting, loss of consciousness but some are subtle like feeling tired, confused or lethargy. There are toxins in our lives too. The signs may not be obvious but often the causes are usually known to us but we often deny or ignore these causes. One of the outcome of poisoning in our lives is unhappiness. All the good things we have or do may be unknowingly toxic to our lives. Even some people can be toxic to us. Our habits and our behaviors may be poisoning others or our relationships. Even being too nice can be toxic. Have you heard of toxic niceness? Are you too nice to the point that you are taken for granted and treated like a doormat? Then your niceness is a poison to you. Do you have a bad habit that you know is harming you or the people around you? Are you unhappy and seek happiness from someone else or do you think that someone is making you unhappy? Do you lack energy or motivation?

If you think you have toxins in your life and it's making you unhappy then do something. You may need to take drastic move to get rid of that poison to detoxify your life. Start with your body, get moving, get fit , get healthy. Second perhaps your home. Clean up, get rid of clutter or maybe even move out. Next your mind, do not let worry, be it a person or problem occupy your mind. Think beautiful, be creative, get a hobby, keep your mind busy with something worthwhile. Detox your social life too, get out and socialize with people that treats you well. Good people. Last but not the least detox your finances either get a job, save up or spend those money. If you have been too frugal all your life you need to treat yourself and spend the money on you. Any other suggestions on how to detoxify life?

Oh, if you need suggestions on how to spend those money or want someone to spend them with, count me in.

It is known that too much of anything is a poison. Live life to the fullest but do it moderately.


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Matryoshka Doll
Posted:Jan 26, 2015 4:23 am
Last Updated:Jan 27, 2015 2:57 am
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Have you ever seen a matryoshka doll or Russian nesting doll? I happened to receive one from a friend and as I looked at them it reminded me of our own personalities, we are like these dolls. For those who do not know , a set of matryoshkas consist of a wooden figure which separates, top from bottom, to reveal a smaller figure of the same sort inside, which has, in turn, another figure inside of it, and so on. If you do not explore them you will not see what's inside, we can only assume based on what we read or heard that what's inside is same as what we see outside. Each layer of doll represents different level of our self that others know of us.

Same thing with people, if we do not interact, communicate, listen or understand them then we will not know them. their personalities, values, beliefs, culture and everything. We have an outer self that people can see, we also have an inner self that we share with acquaintances, a much inner self that our close friends or family know about. Another much inner or deeper layer that we only share with our partner, spouse or lover. Then we have the core self that maybe only ourself knows of and that we rather we keep to ourselves.

Sometimes as we get to know the person and reveal more of themselves to us we get an inclination as to what they really are inside. We can see personality after few interactions based on the way we talk, the way we treat others. Sometimes we don't have to open the inner layers of a person if what we see on the second layer is something we don't like. Much like Matryoshka dolls, after opening the first layer we know more or less what's inside. There maybe few exemptions, rather rare but can also be the other way around one may look good on the outside but rotten inside. That again we will learn of as we interact with them.

Oh well that's how we are made of, different from one another, we are all unique. There's a saying don't judge a book by it's cover, true, with people we can't judge people by their looks but we can by interacting with them. The way we interact, the way we treat others is the way we show our inner self. Hence the saying action speaks louder.

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A riddle for everyone
Posted:Jan 11, 2015 9:45 pm
Last Updated:Mar 11, 2015 2:10 pm
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It is probably one thing hardest to live without
Yet it's something we don't even want to talk about.

We never take them anywhere
yet always demand them everywhere.

We don't see them for no reason
But need them in all 4 season.

We avoid passing by them
but at times we rush to them.

Some are pleasure to be
but others we have to bear.

It is important to you and me
one of those we don't like to see

Never given special treatment
We look for them when we need them

I hate to think being treated as one
or that one had done such to anyone.

Give your best be my guest.
Tell me what is your guess.
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