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Quote, unquote and misquote

I said I will be back perhaps wiser and younger. I am back, checked. Wiser? Learning to be. Younger? Damn I forgot to change those numbers around.
I have been reading your blogs many of you have mentioned their reasons for your blogs. Mine is just to share my experience, my thoughts and hopefully get an insight from you, make me wiser and have a good laugh
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Blog 101
Posted:Jul 24, 2015 6:30 am
Last Updated:Aug 11, 2015 11:45 pm
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This is not a blog about how to blog but this is literally blog number 101. I did not expect that I will last that long in this site, it's been 1 year and 9 months since I joined. I don't know how long I will stay but so far I don't have any intention to delete my profile or account. I have met many people here and made real friends even met them in person. I have encountered some catfish too but that's all part of my learning and I have definitely learned. I look forward to making more real friends and meeting real people.

I like to thank all those who have followed my blogs specially those who took time to give comments or share their thoughts.

I have made mistakes , been taken advantage of and have settled for less than what I deserve but I have learned from the past and is ready for the future. Even though I can't bring back the past I have no regrets, I enjoyed the journey and definitely know better. I raise my glass and cheers to the future! Whatever it may be I will make the best of it. I hope you do the same.
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That Desire.
Posted:Jul 22, 2015 10:05 pm
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2022 6:57 pm
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A friend: " I will still look for love even if I'm in my 80's".
Me: "Will someone still be interested at 80?"

At some point in our lives we all have desired for something. We desire different things at different stages of our lives. That desire may have been fulfilled, just outgrow it , surpass it , bury it or still hope for it. Perhaps keep it a secret the rest of our lives.

Desire is a a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. For a it can be a toy or a playtime. For teenagers it can be an adventure or a gadget like a cellphone. For young adults it can be a degree, a job or a partner. For couples it can be a marriage, own family or home. It's different for each of us.

I believe it is right for me to say that members here have almost the same desire, we desire a relationship. We may have different meanings of the word relationship, but basically to have a romantic connection with someone. I know there are many here who have been members for many many years, they may have found someone but somehow did not work out and so are back again to fulfill that desire. Perhaps others just want a mere online connection that's why they are here. Others may have been here for that long because they are still hoping that their desire will still be fulfilled. That desire is still burning.

I hate to admit that I long to be with someone. I have these desire to love and be truly loved. This is one desire that I honestly want it to go away, I want it to pass, I wan't it to vanish. ASAP. Perhaps I am saying that out of frustrations and my lack of faith from dating sites. I like the hope in finding someone to go away soon and be able to accept it and raise my hand in surrender. I like all the negativity to come out of me and repel this desire. I truly want to get rid of this desire.

Will this desire ever die? How? When? Have you ever had same thoughts or is it just me?


Background music: I want it that Way by Backstreet Boys.
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MULTITASKING
Posted:Jul 19, 2015 6:10 pm
Last Updated:Dec 11, 2015 3:49 am
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Women are said to be good at multitasking and are proud of it. It was said that women's brain were designed to be able to do more than one task at a time. This is much easier now with the new technologies. I for one, is good at multitasking and was proud of if but recently after a dialogue with h my church group and an article I read it made me think. Is it really good to multitask? Is it necessary? Is it worth it? Looking back at lives of human beings way back when there were no technologies and analyzing their lifestyle, do women really multitask? I doubt it.

Let's take a look at doing laundry way before when there were no washing machines, is it possible to multitask then? Can someone do manual laundry and cook at the same time? I don't think so. Now of course it is easy with machines. While we have the laundry going we can cook at same time and be on the phone or the internet too. Isn't that great ? Really? Maybe not. In some of my experience and observations some of the task are not done properly or not fully finished so they have to be done again. For example the laundry may be forgotten in the machine for many days and clothes becomes smelly so they have to be washed again.The food we are cooking may burn and end up with not a very good meal or look o another meal. I believed this has happened at least once to anyone who multitasked.

I have observed a baby sitter before who is suppose to be minding a but also doing something else, making her less focused on the and unfortunately the had an accident. I've also seen a mother who can't give full attention to her because she is doing something else and end up yelling at her when she got distracted from her other task. You get my point? Multitasking is not that good at all. It causes stress, conflicts, waste of time, poor work quality and ruins the enjoyment and satisfaction in doing the task. Many will probably disagree but I encourage you to think about it. Is multitasking really worth it ? Why hurry? Slow down, focus, enjoy what you are doing one task at a time. We can't serve 2 masters at he same time.

One of the very obvious task that we should focus on and not to do anything else while doing it is driving. This highlights the danger of multitasking. We should not multitask while driving. I have developed the habit of multitasking and now would like to break that habit because I now doubt it's benefits. I now would like to focus on what is more important, not to get distracted and just enjoy what ever it is I am doing ,one task at a time.

I am guilty of multitasking and I am giving it up. Are you?
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It's how we say it.
Posted:Jul 9, 2015 5:42 am
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2015 11:16 pm
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"You're nothing but a second rate, trying hard copy cat!" Sounds familiar? For those who do not know, this is a famous line of actress Cherie Gil in the movie "Bituing Walang Ningning". Lately she has been claiming that it is her intellectual property. Really? What's with that line anyway? What's intelligent about that, you ask? If you have not seen the movie there's nothing really special about it. What made it famous in Philippines is the way it was said in the movie and the accompanying action to it. It made the actress and the scene memorable because of how the line was delivered. It made an impact to the viewing audience to this date.

This is one proof that what we say doesn't matter as much as how we say it. We can say sorry again and again but if you just say it for the sake of saying it then it doesn't really matter. We can say I love you a million times but if the actions don't come with it then it doesn't really mean anything. We can say I miss you , I want you or say anything we like but if we say it like we really mean it and show it with our actions then that's what matters. If we say something and do the opposite that's obviously bull shit. Like the old adage " action speaks louder than words." So it's not what we say that matters but how we say it. We can say something or express our feelings other than words. Like in Ronan Keating's song "You say it best, when you say nothing at all."

Well sadly it is more difficult in chat because there is no tone to it and can't see body language either. So if we really want to make an impact on what we want to say online we have to exert more efforts. Maybe show it or say it other than chat, find ways to express those words in other ways. I can name a few ways but the point is to show or prove your sincerity. Chat is cheap so they say. Some people have the gift of gab but we should go more for the actions rather than the dictions.

Have you got something to say? Please feel free to share it.
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Puppet play on a string.
Posted:Jul 5, 2015 4:45 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2015 11:18 pm
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I saw a puppet play and inspired me to blog. ( Elvis Presley song: Puppet on a String in the background, photo uplifted from Kisha Kristiane Albanian Mission)

Have you seen one of those puppets on string? Aren’t they cute, mesmerizing sometimes and the puppeteer is just so talented? I have seen some of them on the street, some are not very good but some are really just adorable. No matter how adorable they are though and no matter how talented the puppeteer may be, this puppet play is not something for everyone. Some think it’s creepy; some has tried doing it but did not last. It’s not something most people would like to do on a regular basis unless one profit from it like the puppet master in a puppet play.

Unfortunately for some, online relationship have some similarities to a puppet play. The puppets can be picked-up on demand and hung up when done. The play may continue forever or someone may decide to stop the play. In a relationship the puppets can be played on a computer or a phone and the string is the internet. To some, once they log off then the relationship is off. If the string, called internet, is cut off then there will be no puppet play. The difference here is, the puppets can choose and make decision for themselves.

In this online relationship I compare to a relationship puppet play 3 things may happen:
1.) The puppeteers decide to hang the puppet and stop the play for good.
2.) The puppeteers get sick of playing and decide to do it for real other than the puppet.
3.) The puppets are made to come alive and be together with the puppeteer forever.
As always I love happy ending. What ending do you think might happen to you?

Don’t be the puppet nor the puppeteer but please be real.

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She was played and fooled , we were too.
Posted:May 27, 2015 8:57 pm
Last Updated:Jan 18, 2016 5:06 pm
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Have you ever heard or read many comments about how Manny Pacquiao was robbed and cheated in his last fight? I did not watch the game but I can feel the frustrations of his followers more so of his friends and family. It makes me sad even just hearing stories of someone being cheated. Forget about Manny Pacquiao though, he still got $100 M anyway, it will just add more glory to him and the country if he won.

There are far many more people who have been truly cheated, fooled and bullied. I am not the type of person who swear unless I am really really angry. Nothing infuriates me more than seeing someone being bullied, fooled or cheated. Specially if the person is a really nice, sincere and kind person. A special person. I'm swearing.

When she told us, I told her go wherever she is happy and do whatever will make her happy as long as she is not stepping on anyone's toes. She seemed happy so we were all happy for her. There were a few bumps but I still tried and encouraged her to enjoy the journey and focus on the destination. Told her if there were no bumps or bends on the road it will be a boring long straight road. She managed those few bumps and bends well. So she was happy again and so were we.

It seems all smooth sailing but then she suddenly found a bomb, a stinking bomb that revealed something ugly. She did not deserve that but we all agreed it was not her lost. It was good that she found out sooner than later. She was hurt and angry , we are too, but only her can do something about it. We can only sympathize with her. Laugh with her, love with her, cry with her and can't help it, be angry with her.

Lesson learned that is a bit off putting. If you can't trust someone proximal it will be harder to trust someone who is distal, right?

To me, fool you once shame on them , fool you twice shame on you, fool you thrice, something's really wrong with you.

I am not telling a story I am just venting,
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Giving and Loving?
Posted:May 17, 2015 3:47 am
Last Updated:Jun 7, 2015 5:28 pm
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I received a mother's day gift from my 1 week after the date, that is because she wanted to give me something she knew I will really like but she did not have enough money on mother's day. Then there was a post mother's day sale and the item she gave me was on sale so she bought it because she knew I like it , albeit one week late. To me that was a very special, not because of the price , it was pretty cheap, but because of the effort she put into it, Because she remembered that I like it , so she made conscious effort to please me, to make me happy, to give e what I want the best way she can. She could have given me a card and I will be happy just the same and mother's day will be done and over with but no she made it even more special. That's what made the gift very special.

There are different ways and reasons for giving. Sometimes we give away something because we don't like it or we have an excess of what we need. To me that is not really giving it's just decluttering. Other's give because they want something in return, that is not giving but can be swapping , luring or even bribing. Some give to the needy and in doing so makes you feel good and look good, that is charity.

Lovers give to their love ones when there is an occasion, that is thoughtfulness. When you see something as you pass by that suddenly reminded you of your love one and wanted to get that something for them because you believe they like it or will make them happy that is giving because of love. There's no need for a reason or occasion to give something. It doesn't have to be an expensive thing what matters is the thought of giving. If you can't afford a dozen roses one rose will have the same effect. We don't need an occasion to send a card if you can't afford one or none available just give a note or a text message. That is giving too, giving importance and giving time.

People do not really remember what you gave or did but remember how you made them feel.

What kind of giver are you? Do you you give only on occasion? Do you give what you like? Do you give out of love?

Do you give to charity generously? By the way name is charity. ]
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Love Myth Number 1 "if it is meant to be, it will happen"
Posted:Mar 31, 2015 6:48 am
Last Updated:Apr 16, 2015 6:56 am
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Someone : "If love is meant for me it will happen."

Me:

Love don't just happen, just like fishes don't go jumping to your frying pan. You have to at least go to market to get the fish if you don't want to go fishing. ,

But if you want to choose the best and enjoy the catch better to fish for yourself. To go fishing you have to go where the fishes are, you have to get a boat or a fishing rod. Even that is not enough, you have to have a bait or a net.Almost nothing good in life happens by chance,so why leave “finding” a life partner up to fate.

The truth, according to experts Love is learned. Chemistry between two people ‘happens.’ but lasting love has to be worked on, nurtured and allowed to grow. We learn by making mistakes, learning from them and applying what we learned. We don't learn by making same mistakes and expecting different outcome. Love will not come to us we have to develop it but first we have to find someone to love. Initially there maybe some attraction, then acquaintance, then friendship and finally love. If you are attracted to someone and you don't make a move then there's no chance for love to grow. Just like dreaming of winning the lotto but not buying a ticket. That simple. You'll never know until you try. So give love a chance, go fishing!


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Superman
Posted:Mar 24, 2015 6:39 am
Last Updated:Mar 27, 2015 6:39 pm
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He's no Christopher Reeves
Just a plain Adam to Eve
Genuinely super caring
Super kind and Super loving.
Super funny sometimes silly
Super happy to be with thee

Super sincere and devoted
Not the kind who lies and cheated.
Super romantic and super sweet
Has lots of humor lots of wit
Respects and treat a woman right
Be it day or be it night

The real superman?
A true gentleman.


What's your superman like?
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wonder woman
Posted:Mar 17, 2015 3:53 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2015 11:22 pm
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I wonder what's in store for me?
I wonder if, ti's gonna be?
I wonder if the stars at night,
there for me to shine very bright?
I wonder if the man is here?
I wonder if he's far or near?
I wonder what tomorrow will bring?
I wonder if he'll call or ring?

Is there really someone to wonder?
perhaps to write about, moan or ponder.
When destiny come my way,
will it be a wonderful day?
You can say I'm being silly
but I'm just trying to be funny.
Turned into I wonder woman.
wondering about that superman.

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