Close Please enter your Username and Password

Quote, unquote and misquote

I said I will be back perhaps wiser and younger. I am back, checked. Wiser? Learning to be. Younger? Damn I forgot to change those numbers around.
I have been reading your blogs many of you have mentioned their reasons for your blogs. Mine is just to share my experience, my thoughts and hopefully get an insight from you, make me wiser and have a good laugh

How Lucky we are.
Posted:Oct 13, 2018 4:45 am
Last Updated:Nov 10, 2018 2:45 pm

It feels like it’s the end of the world over trivial things, for some of us. We feel like ending it all because of the hardship we go through. We cry ourselves to sleep because we did not get what we were hoping for. We are saddened just because we have no one to talk to or feel like we are ignored. We pity ourselves because we can’t eat our favorite food. We feel left behind because we can’t to . We feel unloved just because we didn’t get the treatment we expect. We post on facebook because we long for attention and sympathy . We are looking for someone to listen to our complaints and to have validation.
We are so unhappy over many things that we do not have or can not have. Yes, I am guilty of these emotions and guilty of lack of gratitude sometimes. What we often forget is that the lack of gratitude makes us unhappy. We also forget that happiness is a choice or we refuse to acknowledge that it is. We believe that somebody brought this misery into our lives and hope that someone can make us happy again. If you are feeling unhappy or miserable, stop for a moment, look around you and observe these people on the streets, hopefully this will create a sense of gratitude.

I had the opportunity to work for and learn about the lives of some refugees. I also had the opportunity to watch a documentary about them. It broke my heart knowing about their plights but most of all it opened my eyes more, on how lucky we are. Firstly we are lucky to be alive, healthy , with full mental and physical capability. Second we have family and friends, a home and a country. Many of these refugees have lost their loved ones, their home, country, have become physically disabled and eventually suffered mental illness. They have been abused, lost their freedom and lost their voice, no one listens to them. No phone, no internet, no TV and not even food or drink. There is no time for friendship, no reason to smile , they basically have nothing other than hope. I feel ill just imagining myself in their situation.
Next time we feel unhappy or miserable think about the plight of these refugees. Think about the freedom we have and remember that we can choose to be happy. Think about how lucky we are and be grateful for what we have. Afterall gratefulness is the key to happiness.
The noble gases
Posted:Oct 1, 2018 10:32 pm
Last Updated:Oct 13, 2018 3:02 am
The elements helium (He), neon (Ne), argon (Ar), krypton (Kr), xenon (Xe), radon (Rn), and oganesson (Og) are known as noble gases. They are very stable elements, they have complete electrons and it takes tremendous amount of energy to initiate a reaction or form a compound with them. They are called noble because of their reluctance to undergo chemical reaction like the gold and platinum. Held in high regard but hardly interacts.

I know a person who I can consider as such. He has everything in life, he has accomplished many things and has received many awards and recognition. He is held in high regards in the society. He does a lot of charity and volunteer work. Despite all that I find him too pragmatic, unromantic, passive or inert when it comes to romantic relationship. He is a man of words but not of action and of intelligence but not of romance. Who would we rather be with?

Maybe I am as inert as he that's why there's no reaction developing? The chemistry is not as I want it to be. I am stuck on friendzone but that's ok, I am not prepared to spend that amount of energy to get out of friendzone. I would rather that he makes the first move and initiate a reaction. That's what we get when we meet the noble ones, a noble ass, cold and inert. Frustrating. Should I ? Shouldn't he?

Posted:Jun 21, 2018 4:54 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2018 4:00 am
Anybody here? What happened to the blogland? It is vanishing, sinking, going....going....


(photo from google)
Say it before it's too late.
Posted:May 19, 2018 2:49 am
Last Updated:May 30, 2018 5:45 pm

She's leaving but you wished she'd stay
You love her but you'll never say
You needed her but you won't admit
She made you smile lifted your spirit
You never knew what's in her mind
You never asked you think that's fine

Kept that feeling didn't let her know
Cut it off didn't let it grow
Her mistake that she assumed
She waited in vain ended in gloom
All she wanted is to hear you say
You needed her, want her to stay

Don't hide the feelings but let it show
If there is none then let her go.
In her mind is the old saying
squeeze a lemon , get the same thing
She pressed you to see what's in your heart
She wasn't there , not from the start

You said do what she must do
So she did and she left you
No hard feelings, she bid adieu
She wished you luck and to her too.

Road Signs
Posted:Apr 17, 2018 10:05 am
Last Updated:May 27, 2018 6:32 am

I like long drives and sightseeing but it is a bit daunting for a woman to drive all alone. Even with roadside assistance and insurance it is still scary to take a roadtrip just on my own. A journey is definitely more enjoyable and not scary with company and so is life. There may be some unavoidable circumstances or maybe even a disaster along the way. but as long as we support each other in reaching same destination with a goal to arrive safely, hassle free, on time and together then the journey will be enjoyable. Life will be a breeze despite calamities if we stick to same goals and support each other.

When driving, we read and heed the road signs. They are our guide, they will lead us to our destinations , they give us an indication when to slow down, when to stop, when to go or when to take a U -turn. There are also signs in our relationship that we need to heed and will guide us what our next action should be. The difference between road signs and relationship signs is that , the road signs we have to follow strictly and we have to follow the road. With relationship signs we can choose what the next course of action to take.

If we suspect a partner to be unfaithful, it can be a slow down sign. Slow down to evaluate our relationship, slow down from work and spend time together. If the relationship is going lukewarm then it can be a slippery sign, we should be cautious in our actions or it can lead to a disaster if we are reckless. Be cautious with our words. If trust is broken then to me that is a stop sign or a U-turn sign. If only relationship signs are as simple as road signs that we just have to follow.

Relationship signs are vague and need to be interpreted by ourselves . Our interpretations o course can be wrong and therefore may lead us the wrong way. The best way to clarify the relationship signs is to talk to our partner about what signs we are getting, that way we can make a better decision on what road to take.

What sign can you see in your relationship now?
Missed calls.
Posted:Feb 14, 2018 10:42 pm
Last Updated:Apr 1, 2018 2:09 am

I met this guy online that I liked. We got along well and chatted for few months then he suddenly disappeared. I did not have the chance to meet him in person. He is smart, handsome and seem to be nice down to earth guy. I really liked him but I did not think he liked me more than a friend. We lost contact for almost 6 months then when I added some credit to my ph apps the apps sent messages to my contacts that I am now using their apps. Then suddenly I got missed calls from him, several of them, but I did not return the call and never got to talk to him until recently, 5 months after his first attempt to contact me again. His reason is, he lost his phone and lost all contacts. He was able to reconnect only after the message sent by the app. Oh boy and he is now telling me he liked me from the beginning and wanted to have a relationship with me. I liked him too but ...

I still like him but only as a friend. Had he told me before our story would have been different. If I knew he liked me and I liked him then I would have tried to reconnect with him. In my mind is that perhaps he met someone and I was just some sort of a back up plan. Too late , I don't like him more than a friend now. Feelings change but there is always the what if. Moral of the story, if you like someone tell them from the start .
Empty nest.
Posted:Feb 3, 2018 2:34 pm
Last Updated:May 23, 2018 2:39 am

Time for the last to leave the coup
To spread his wings, venture to new.
The time is gone can't bring it back
We bid farewell, whispered good luck

So toughen up and call the shots.
To say you're fine though really not.
Hold back the tears and let a smile
You'll be like this for little while.

Time to let go and just look back
at happy times, not of the lack
at the good times and not the bad
but all the things that made us glad.

The time has come oh! empty nest
For them to search for what is best.
It is another empty room
that gives me aches and give me gloom

May they succeed in all they do
and happiness be in them too.
Have enough wealth and keep their health.
To be of help not to be helped.

May they be safe all night and day
May the Lord God light up their way
Hold on to their faith, come what may.
Almighty God that's all I pray.
Posted:Jan 25, 2018 7:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 23, 2018 10:01 pm

I bought some oranges few weeks ago, I have not finished them all so I decided to try one again after few weeks. I expected them to be a bit off by now because the skin is looking dry and shriveled. To my surprise it is still nice. I wonder why oranges lasts longer than other fruits, like maybe mangoes or avocados? Then I start analyzing and concluded that it is because of their thick skin. The skin protects the fruit from spoilage. They may not look nice on the outside but are actually good inside.

There are some people that are like old oranges, they may look like they have thick skin but that may actually a defense to protect their feelings. They have to be peeled off to see that precious personality hidden inside. We get the best of oranges by squeezing them but squeezing too hard may bring out some bitterness. Some people are like that too the best of them is seen when pressured but bitterness or resentment may come out when pressed too hard.

So what is my point? Don't judge an orange by it's skin , the best of them comes out when squeezed but squeezing too hard may bring some bitterness. Don't judge people by their looks or superficial character but a little squeezing is probably what they need to bring out and see the best in them.
I am in trouble
Posted:Jan 14, 2018 10:20 pm
Last Updated:Jun 21, 2018 9:06 pm

Murphy's law caught up with me. Not a good start for 2018. Have you ever experienced having been in trouble then you get sick and then had an accident? That's me for Jan 2018. I feel cursed. I keep thinking what did I do to get all these and what can I do to get out of these? Some say bad luck comes in set of 3. I am hoping that's it for me. I can't help but think if there's someone with me to give support then I will definitely feel much better. A burden is much lesser when shared with someone. I know it was all my fault because of the wrong decisions I made and my carelessness.

The problem is when you are struck with bad luck like these and there's no one to help you, you feel weak. You feel down and when you are down things get worse. Work is affected, finances are affected then more troubles come. When you feel like giving up that's the time you need to be stronger and fight. When you feel like you are down that's the time you need to stand up the most.

I feel like a boxer right now who is beaten black and blue. Waiting for that bell and hoping to stay till the judges call a halt . Hoping to gain back my strenght to be able to fight back with a glimpse of hope to win. What matters now is to stay standing and not to get knocked out. Hopefully at the end of this fight, all the pain and sufferings I will be paid back.
Defying Murphy's Law - My Vietnam Experience part 2
Posted:Dec 27, 2017 1:44 am
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2018 2:33 am
"OMG!" I thought, after all those preparation, planning, all the excitement and expenses I will be sent back to Manila airport. Not fair , not to me but to my traveling companions. They will be affected because of my lack of diligence. How irresponsible of me. It was an honest mistake, I did not have a doubt that I did not need a visa. Like we say in tagalog, "walang tamang akala." Never assume. Murphy's Law states "If Anything that can go wrong, it will -- at the worst possible moment." Could this be it?

The Vietnamese were not very accommodating, not very helpful. This guy who took my passport just kept passing by without saying a word or giving me instructions. My friends finally went through the immigration and have been waiting for me. I told them just to go ahead without me and not to worry about me. I will be sent back to Manila on the next plane. I was prepared to accept what they will tell me.

A female staff finally came to me and said I should have applied for a visa at least 3 days prior, I can't apply on the spot. She however said she will contact the airline staff and see if they can help me. A Cebu Pacific staff came to me and told me I should have not been allowed to check-in and board the plane without a visa . So it is partly their fault. Because of that he is going to help me get a visa.

I was really meant to be in Vietnam with my friends after all. Why did I say that? First, if my request for leave was not declined I would have flown from Aussie to Vietnam but I would have been stopped at the Aus airport. Second , if my friends did not find out I was already in Manila I would have checked -in on my own and I would have been stopped at Manila airport. Third, if my friends did not ask to check me in and if the staff did not allow it then I would have been asked for my visa at Manila airport. In the end with the endorsement of the airline staff and a travel agent, I was given a visa on the spot and allowed in. How lucky was that? Murphy's law did not apply, it was defied.

The end!


To link to this blog (Bizzysback) use [blog Bizzysback] in your messages.