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Pre-requisite to love. We have heard or read many different quotes about love, from subtle to the extremes. Such as I will love you forever or even after life. I will love you above all things. I will die for you. We hear a lot of these in wedding when couples make their marriage vows, such as in sickness and in health. I don't believe everyone is capable of loving and there are circumstances that love will have to come later and that includes making love. Do you believe that love should come first? If you do think again. I would like to apply Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory in relation to a man and woman's needs in a relationship. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory in psychology, love and belonging comes only third among all human needs. In his theory there are 5 needs that comes in order, namely: 1, physiological needs 2.safety needs 3. love and belonging 4.esteem 5. Self actualization. Maslow's theory suggests that the most basic level of needs must be met before the individual will strongly desire the secondary or higher level needs. Physiological needs are the physical needs of the body to function normally, they are the most important needs and should be met first. The second level needs is that of safety. Safety and security needs includes personal security, financial security, health and wellbeing. If we are safe then we are capable of meeting our love and belonging needs.The third need is the need for love and belonging, it is a very broad context but for this blog I am referring to love and intimacy between couples in a relationship. It is a human need to love and be loved and these needs need to be met. Not very simplistic? Well let's make it simple. To love is to live, to live is to have air, water, food and health. To love, we have to feel safe. It is not possible to express love if one always feels threatened, such as being violated. It is hard to meet our love needs if we don't have security, if we constantly worry about the future. These constant threat can lead to stress that stops us from expressing love. In short in order to meet our love needs in a relationship we need to meet or provide the physical and safety needs first. Love alone is not enough, that simple. There are pre-requisites. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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maslow's theories on developmental psychology enumerates some behavioral stages of humans.and in this case physiological needs tops them all but we have to consider that there are one theory that defeats them all and this is masloko (mas nakakaloko) theory  while some people are successful in attaining such maslow theory those people under masloko really need attention because of their crippled psychological stages which are crippled due to non actualization of their emotional aspirations which is important in obtaining self esteem.some people here are so contented chronicling love affairs which are deemed to be non existing and the level of their dreams are too high to re negotiate to a certain level.of consummation (masloko nga e)and the stage of belongingness is nowhere to be found,maybe the love affairs they proclaim just start when they start typing their love objects and ends right after they cease typing the blog..even psychoanalysts like sigmund freud would agree that those types of people are really existing..dame dito sa blog land nyan“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Can be true Tinks. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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11/25/2014 4:12 pm |
maslow's theories on developmental psychology enumerates some behavioral stages of humans.and in this case physiological needs tops them all but we have to consider that there are one theory that defeats them all and this is masloko (mas nakakaloko) theory while some people are successful in attaining such maslow theory those people under masloko really need attention because of their crippled psychological stages which are crippled due to non actualization of their emotional aspirations which is important in obtaining self esteem.some people here are so contented chronicling love affairs which are deemed to be non existing and the level of their dreams are too high to re negotiate to a certain level.of consummation (masloko nga e)and the stage of belongingness is nowhere to be found,maybe the love affairs they proclaim just start when they start typing their love objects and ends right after they cease typing the blog..even psychoanalysts like sigmund freud would agree that those types of people are really existing..dame dito sa blog land nyan
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11/25/2014 4:22 pm |
Bizzy, the Church might actually agree with Maslow. From all those years in Catholic schools and drowning ourselves in the encyclicals on social justice, we've learned that in the hierarchy of needs, the need for economic justice (temporal human needs) precedes all that can be done before we can peruse any form of redemption for the soul.
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Waaaaaaaa, lalim naman mga sagot nila. Kahiya tuloy magcomment  I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything
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I think the only one that can love us unconditionally from the start will be our mothers or parents, the partners MAYBE that unconditional love will be learned as we see in couples who stays in love despite the illness, shortcomings or mistakes of the other. Some may call it unconditional love others may call it by other names such as stupidity. I don't believe in perfect relationship but staying in love with all the imperfections is just perfect to me. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Bizzy, the Church might actually agree with Maslow. From all those years in Catholic schools and drowning ourselves in the encyclicals on social justice, we've learned that in the hierarchy of needs, the need for economic justice (temporal human needs) precedes all that can be done before we can peruse any form of redemption for the soul.  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Waaaaaaaa, lalim naman mga sagot nila. Kahiya tuloy magcomment “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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dai, "maslow" theory is "mashigh" ang relevance sa reality.. magpakatotoo para di laging "maslow-haan"..  Happy holidays my friend!  luv ya... 
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Dai you always crack me up , so witty . Merry Christmas Dai first christmas sa OZ and as married couple must be exciting. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Thank you for visiting and posting well said thoughts. Maslow is an authority in psychology his theories have been tested and proven by many other psychologist. His theory is actually simple, which is, before man is capable of meeting their higher needs they have to meet their basic needs first. A very extreme example is if there's famine or war, men can't be thinking of love which is a higher level need they have to think about safety and nourishment first. Same in a violent relationship a partner will not be able to express true love unless they feel safe first. There are of course rare exemptions but most likely dysfunctional. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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