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Blogs > Bizzysback > Quote, unquote and misquote


Bizzysback 63F
1032 posts
10/1/2014 8:00 am
Relationship status: Complicated

Complicated relationship that wasn't mine, it was a man that I met. I thought he may be the one but then I found something was not right. At the beginning he said this, I quote: " My wife had a cerebral aneurysm and haemorrhage, she was in a coma for two weeks, and in hospital and rehabilitation for 14 months. Because I had to look after my young daughters and was worried about my wife, I did not take the time to grieve the loss of the woman I knew until 10 years later when it hit me hard"

He was the kind of man I was looking for except there is a catch. From the words I copied and pasted above I have concluded that he was a widower. Can you see the same thing as I see? But he is not. His wife is disabled because of the illness but is still alive. He looks after her although they obviously do not live now as normal couple. He doesn't want to divorce her nor will I suggest that. He wants a relationship but he is not free. He has 2 adult daughters who are very dedicated to his wife and he loves them very much. He's been devoted but has been missing a female companionship for the past 10 years. I admire him for his dedication and I understand his longing. He wanted to have a relationship with me.

If this happen to you, will you go for it?

I don't want complications, I don't want to be the villain in his 's eyes and I don't want to lose my 's respect of me either. So even if I like him, sorry sir not my dream.
“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
Bizzysback 63F
990 posts
10/1/2014 9:32 am
    Quoting freddiepearl:
    my answer to this. no. as long as she/ he is alive. respect is due to him/her. i know some with say the mate is not able to satisfy his needs, not only sexual but emotionally, etc. to me this would be same as dating a married man/ lady.
Exactly my thoughts , so I said no.
“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”




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