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The 90/ 10 Principle. Have you heard of the 90/10 principle by Stephen Covey? I was talking about it with a friend so I decided to share it here too. It is a principle that I try to live or at least serve as a reminder if I am about to react to something. Like many things in our lives it is easier said than done. You can find details about it online. Basically the 90/10 principle is about controlling our emotions, having higher emotional quotient (EQ). The principle says 10% of life is made of what happen to you, 90% is decided by how you react. It means we have no control of the 10% of what happen to us but the remainder 90% is determined by our reactions. There is nothing we can do with the 10% that happened to us so why worry about it. The 90% though which is in our total control will determine what follows of that 10%. Allow me to share my own experience. Sometime ago we throw a surprised birthday party for my late husband and some friends helped me. After the party, to show our gratitude we decided to go some place and have a drink. The waitress was not very nice, she literally threw the menu on the table in front of me. I gave her a stern look, then she look down and walked away. That was it for me and I am ready to enjoy the rest of the night. My friend had a different reaction. She was annoyed, irritated, upset and frustrated. She will not let that action pass her. She wanted to confront the waitress but we stop her and the waitress went to another table. My friend kept going on about it and she told the manager. That should have stopped her but that didn't, She was even more frustrated because I did not react same way when it was me who was more involved. Imagine all those emotions she have inside her and she won't let go. She was angry. What happened next? The night has to be cut short because she is so upset , she can't enjoy and she rubbed it on to others. Well not everyone was unhappy. Someone was happy to go home early and spend the rest of the night alone with his loving wife, which was me. Get it? Now if you can only apply it or at least read it or try it. It helped me it might help you too. t “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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bizz. i owe you a heartfelt apology. i have thought a lot after we talked an i read this. wow. so many times i can recall i ruined things cuz of my reactions. i too have reacted like ur friend. not letting it go. thank you so much. this opened my eyes wide an made me see what u mean. even at 69 we can learn to change our ways of thinking, an way we react. promise u will will work hard to live this 90/ 10 . if i was near u now id hug a kiss u. besides being so pretty an smart ur awise lady. GOD BLESS YOU MY DEAR FRIEND FOR THE PATIENCE U HAVE SHOWN ME WITH ME HAHAHA “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Yes it is . “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Agree Tajane. How are things your way? “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Good ,you obviously have your temper under control, “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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We sure are all waiting for happy ending and our invitation for a big event, “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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