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Intimate on first date? Uh oh. This blog was banned and I have to re-do it about 5 times, apparently for some words that are not allowed. I hope it get approved this time. Read and be the judge. I used the phrase "under the sheets" and it to replace the word that I think banned this blog. Got your attention didn't I. Well no dirty talk here its just all about good conversation.I came across some articles on line giving pointers on on-line dating. Many of these articles are about what to do and what not to do specially on the first date. First date is mostly about talking face to face for the first time. It doesn't necessarily mean that you are talking for the first time, you might have been talking on the phone or via the net for a while.There are many suggested topics for discussion on first dates and also topics that are forbidden. Here are some of the commonly suggested topics or questions to ask: The most commonly suggested are questions about hobbies, interests , family, sports , travel and family. One site gave the acronym FORD which stands for Family, Occupation, Recreation and Dreams as some of the good topics to discuss on first date. The forbidden topics are faith, pregnancies, politics and economics as well as the ex and sexual topics. The last mentioned topic is apparently a biggest turn off to women if men talk about it on the first meeting. Women are generally put off if men talk about what goes under the sheets on the first meeting because women sees this as an indication that , that's all he's after. If women wants it they will probably talk to you about it online more than they will face to face. Men on the other hand are eager to know anything that is about getting in bed. Even subtle questions like the woman's vital statistics, bra size are construed by women as sexual topics. It is not totally forbidden specially if asked in good taste. and good timing, but just never on the first date. When is the best time to talk about it then , you ask? Well I say after you have known the woman really well, what her likes and dislikes, her values, One article said the best time to talk about it is after you have done it. I agree to this article, maybe it is best to discuss after your test drive. (wink) So there you go , don;t talk about it if you are hoping to have it with the woman, well maybe mainly Filipina women. I am guessing if Filipina woman talks about it to you very early in your meeting, beware!. Of course I ca be wrong. What about if you are dating online or have talked online for a while. Does that count? Men what are your views on this? Is it a turn on or turn off if a woman talk about sex early in your dates? Will you take that woman further for a date or is that cheap? I don't mean dirty talk or explicit or suggestive, they are downright cheap, I am referring to just the basic talk about intimacy discussed in a confident manner. Is that a no good to you? “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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Bizz, first thanks for the font size. Second thanks for this hot topic. Let me add my input to this. I've dated many and often women that I met online. And each one was different. I can tell you that on the first date I can determine if I'd like to meet her again for one reason or another. The way I treated them was the way they presented themselves to me. If one is serious in relationship, let her portray herself as such, if all she wants is to have fun, let her act in that manner. I have met a lot of ladies from this site for coffee, nobody ended up in my bedroom after coffee, but some did after dinner and revelry. I say women should examine their values and show them because they will be treated the way they express them and determine the next moves of their date. I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything 
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Bizz, first thanks for the font size. Second thanks for this hot topic. Let me add my input to this. I've dated many and often women that I met online. And each one was different. I can tell you that on the first date I can determine if I'd like to meet her again for one reason or another. The way I treated them was the way they presented themselves to me. If one is serious in relationship, let her portray herself as such, if all she wants is to have fun, let her act in that manner. I have met a lot of ladies from this site for coffee, nobody ended up in my bedroom after coffee, but some did after dinner and revelry. I say women should examine their values and show them because they will be treated the way they express them and determine the next moves of their date. Women I believe have a different impression of the man if they talk about it on the first date or maybe it's just me. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Bizzy, I never talk about it on the first date at least not directly. Sometimes the conversation veers into it, in which occasion I discuss it in a casual way. I don't judge her differently if she starts it. What matters to me is if I am impressed enough by her knowledge of the topic in an intellectual way. Ending up in bed the same day is just the culmination of us having a good time all day. So ladies, don't be shy to discuss it with me the first date )).)). You won't get any pressure from me. If something happens, we are just both consenting adults.. I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything
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I for one, am very open minded, i will let her open herself up and let her cut loose, because some women are too shy to open the subject, specially when it comes to sex. and some will initiate, and most wont. i just let them relax first and i will just sit back and listen, but sometimes i do add fuel to the subject and see where it goes. i dont expect anything at all, kahit nag dinner na and kahit ilan beses na kaming nagdate, pero dahil andito sa ibang bansa and ibe ang takbo ng utak nga mga tao dito, i just go with the flow nalang. pero it doesn't mean di ako interasado, and if there is chemistry, madalas first date pa lang, meron na nangyayari, and madalas nagiging FWB's nalang kami, no commitment. and me chances na magkikita kami ulit, meron din naging one night stands lang kahit nag enjoy kami nung nagkasama kami for the night. i guess ganun nalang ngayon moslty. ayaw patali sa isa lang and i learned how to detach myself also from expecting to be involved and attached, lalo na sa mga babae dito sa US. maybe meron akong makilala mabuti, lalo na sa pinas, para pag uwi ko me nagaantay na sa akin doon   “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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