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Making Long Distance Relationship Work. I have been curious and contemplating about long distance relationship. Does it work? How can it last? Well, out of curiosity I searched online and voila heaps of information and suggestions out there. I do not know what really works but in my experience in the past it had worked but I believe time is an important element. I mean it depends how long you intend to be in LDR, I believe it is likely to fail if you keep it for too long or don’t do anything about it to keep it alive. I found these very useful information from the net on how to make long distance relationship work. It is divided into 5 parts. 1: Preserving normalcy: Communicate in some way every day,( repeat and emphasize EVERYDAY), more than once if possible. Work around your schedule. To most women this is a must. Get to know each other. Just like any proximal relationship, you'll have to spend some time really getting to know and understand your partner. Visit whenever you can. Support each other even when you are in a distance. Create trust. Just as with traditional relationships, trust is incredibly important. Avoid temptations. Try your best to be faithful, lest you destroy the trust on which your relationship relies. Avoid putting yourself in situations where you would be tempted, and let your partner know that there's nothing to worry about. *Don't be too anxious or jealous if you don't always know what they are doing. A little space is harmless and will definitely keep things calm. 2: Doing things together: I hear you say what?! How? Well this is what I discovered. Share something on the net, read same books, watch same movie, do same things at the same time. Take advantage of the internet and social media by being part of same group. Learn together like learning a language together or taking an online class together. Maybe cook together or share recipe. 3: Bonding:Is that at all possible? From these suggestions I think it is. Send snail mails or cards. Pursue interest together such as movie, books or sports or a more romantic stargazing while you are on the phone if you are on the same time zone. Create connections. Meet one another's friends, online or off. If one of you must someday move so that you can be together, that person will be leaving friends behind. This is interesting but not as we know it, sleep together. On a phone call before bed, let each other know which side of the bed you are lying on. Then you two can lie on the opposite, and pretend you are with them while you sleep. Fall asleep together on Skype now and then to help maintain love in the relationship. When you wake up in the morning the first thing you will see is your partner 4: Set Expectations and Boundaries: This entails understanding and clearly defining what you are or where you are in your relationship. Create trust. Talk about your goals and support and encourage each other. Talk about your future together including your doubts, uncertainty and fears. Prioritize the time you do share. 5: Staying Happy: These are some recommendations to stay happy. Keep a piece of them with you. No not a body piece. Keep something of theirs and leave something of yours. Leave your scent behind. Keep your angst in check, Have reasonable expectations. See the similarities with proximal relationship and last but not least stop listening to haters. WOW sounds like it is not too hard and it is doable, but the question is how long? Have you done it? How did you go about it? Do absence makes the heart grow fonder or does it make it tired and forget? No, I am not in LDR. I absolutely admire all those who were able to withstand long distance relationship with no major problems and to those who are contemplating all the best to you .  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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Thanks Abc for the comments and the added humor therefore making a boring topic more fun.  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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I have not engaged myself into one LDR, i had a gf once from QC a few kilometers only away from my house but i failed to maintain daily contacts,how much more having an LDR?It wont work to me i guess. But im taking down notes Bizzy and maybe we can experiment on that.    I thought we were in LDR ? “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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i posted a comment here its gone. guess fff doesnt approve all commnets  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Wow Ta Jane what an interesting and amazing experience thanks for sharing. See you soon. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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let kc read it sis amor . “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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I agree its not for everyone but sometimes it can't be avoided. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Thank you sis Guessy , I know you can speak from your own experience. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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