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Blogs > Bizzysback > Quote, unquote and misquote


Bizzysback 63F
1032 posts
6/13/2014 5:51 pm
Will you take a cheater back?

No , this isn't about me. It's about a friend , he was divorced for less than a year. Apparently the wife cheated on him. She had a four weeks relationship with her own boss. My friend found about the infidelity through another friend. They have been together for 30 yrs and now divorced. The wife broke up with the other man when she found out that he also has other woman. and now she wanted the ex back.

Just few days ago the ex wife called and ask to meet him for lunch. They talked, she asked for forgiveness and she wanted to get back together with him. The man, naturally has a lot of mixed emotions. Lots of unanswered questions. What should he do? What is best? Can he trust her again? Can he move past something like this? If he doesn't give in what will his think of him?

I had one question. Do you still love her? To me, the main reason if not the only reason for two people to be together is love. No straight answer from him, he said it doesn't go away straight away but neither do the pain and the anger. There is an added pressure from 2 grown up , they obviously wanted them back together so that's 3 against him.

The biggest dilemma my friend is facing is trust. Trust comes with love. Trust is like a glass when broken, even if its just a crack or even if glued together it will never be the same. Trust is very hard to earn yet can easily be broken.

My opinion? Why not give it another try? What has he got to lose? If he tried and it doesn't work then he can get out of it at least he tried so there will be no "ifs" later. They say love is lovelier the second time around.

What is your opinion on this? If it was you will you take her back?
“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
zb1020 66F
102 posts
6/13/2014 6:13 pm

 perhaps it's better na wala na yong sakit at galit bago magbalikan coz if it's still there no use trying to live together again kc mas maraming heartaches and bitterness ang maiipon...it would have been better for the woman to ask for forgiveness and nothing else at the moment..


sunshiny_f 70F
1221 posts
6/14/2014 5:55 am

 she just got insecured and wanted to keepthe cake and eat it too..she will cheat again..drop her


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
6/14/2014 12:29 pm

 I believe too that if both still love each other then forgive and forget. But, if one can't don't take them back.
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


elizabethvivian2 49F

6/14/2014 6:17 pm

 One incident in 30 years.. sounds like a glitch. The divorce though, that is sad.


sunshiny_f 70F
1221 posts
6/14/2014 6:22 pm
    Quoting  :
hi sher..nice thoughts/! the best thing really is get off the fire before it really burns you! and one should have big courage and determination to do it!


elizabethvivian2 49F

6/16/2014 6:49 pm
    Quoting san_miguel911:
    "CHEATING" - that is a word that I do not know.

    It brings to mind the school-of-thought deeply ingrained in my senses, from the early days of my youth: "if there is such a word; Don't cheat... BE RESOURCEFUL ! "

    A cloud of doubt now arises. Perhaps the fellow had some shortcoming that forced the wife to become " resourceful" (i.e. the fellow did not take his blue pill when the occasion required it... *lalala. Or, the fellow in the many years of togetherness has grown complacent to attending to the wife's other needs....)

    The subject of trust also looms as a hindrance (or excuse) for the resultant of hidden agenda and/or proper resolution. To that may I say that my years of cutting and trying relationships have taught me that trust accorded to 1 is NEVER forever - it is always relative even between a husband and a wife depending on the circumstances of cause and effect.

    So, the Q - Will you take the cheater back? The answer lies only between the 2 people involved, and best resolved "behind closed doors".

    P.S. in my relations past and present, I do not "cheat". I ask permission
lol. I loved the last bit... that made my day. Thanks!


ass_ungot 58M
53 posts
6/18/2014 12:03 pm

 I WILL TAKE HER BACK. We always find fault in others. But the reality is...one never looks in the mirror and points to the real culprit. A relationship is like a garden of tomato. Tend to it and it will sprout good juicy plump fruits. Ignore it and it will wither and die. Now its time to make salsa...and get this 1-man party going. Chip chip chip. Cheeya.
It is never my intent to discontent the imminent...


Bizzysback 63F
990 posts
6/26/2014 12:19 am
    Quoting louie2020:
    Trust is like a glass when broken, even if its just a crack or even if glued together it will never be the same... you just answer your own question. If it is compared to a broken glass or a glued one, don't use it, replaced it with a new glass without crack of course.
Louie , sometimes to some people they still will keep that glass if it is really that treasured even if broken or with a crack. There are some things that are just irreplaceable to them. I can't speak for myself I have not had such experience but I can't say I don't forget easily either but I easily forgive.
“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”


racerx428 109M
1000 posts
7/8/2014 8:11 pm

 You know the saying what goes around comes around. As for me, once the trust is broken, there's no going back. I would move on and not look back. But then every relationship is different and break up for different reasons.

TReAt oTHerS LiKe YoU wAnT tO BE TReAteD !!!




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