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Is there a solution for incompatibility? Someone: "our relationship did not last because of incompatibility" Me: "Really? After so many years you only found out now that you are not compatible?" I have heard this so many times that incompatibility is the reason for a relationship break up. To me there will always be some incompatibility in any relationship because we are all different. We may be of different race so different cultural background. Different educational background so different level of knowledge and understanding. Different age,values and beliefs,Different taste, likes and dislikes. I can go on about individual differences but does that mean incompatibility? Will this determine if you are compatible or not? Incompatibility is defined as, contrary or opposed in character or the inability to co exist in harmony. Based on the first definition it is true then that we 'have some form of incompatibility to begin with but yet that doesn't stop us from living in harmony. Right? To me a relationship is a partnership, compromise, give and take. It's not about who's the boss, who is right or who is wrong. Partners support and respect each other. Complimenting each other and sorting differences rather that highlighting them. I don't believe that it can be called incompatibility when you get along well in the beginning and then down the track your differences surfaces and you dislike each other. I think that is more like being intolerant, selfish and inflexible. I think before entering a relationship or partnership you have to consider your differences. Talk about them and figure out how to live together with those differences. Respect those differences and if they are going to hurt the relationship be willing to make adjustments. If they are not harmful to the relationship be accepting, tolerant and supportive. Take cultural differences for example, companies, society, professionals and the government acknowledge and respects individual culture. In a relationship cultural differences should be considered before entering into it. If you can't accept and respect them then I believe.you should not enter into it. Understand it is not easy to change one's culture and I believe it is unnecessary if it is not harmful. To me it's understanding, accepting, respecting and adjusting to those differences is the key to compatibility or as per the definition co existing or living in harmony. Well this is my opinion, I'm sure it's different from yours, so are we incompatible then? I accept that your opinion can be different from mine and I don't mind. So tell me? “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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Great blog, Bizz, I totally agree with you. Incompatibility is usually just a lame excuse to get out of the relationship. It doesn't take two years before we know we're incompatible. Differences can exist and it does'nt mean incompatibility. I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything 
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Ta Jane this is what I like about blogging I get truly sensible useful replies. Thanks again. See you in few months Ta Jane. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Great blog, Bizz, I totally agree with you. Incompatibility is usually just a lame excuse to get out of the relationship. It doesn't take two years before we know we're incompatible. Differences can exist and it does'nt mean incompatibility. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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yes , that's exactly pero bakit? Maybe because one is not very obliging and the other one not submissive. Well only the couple knows. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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DISsolution is the only remedy.  Why force an issue upon one who does not want to "belong" anyway?.. and to hold on and hang on becomes a matter of pride more than logic, reason... or "love", for that matter.  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Incompatibility is only an excuse when relationship breaks down to pieces...many of this relationships started with a big bang but later in time new ideas evolves and partners not open enough to make changes among themselves>>>chaotic relationship is the result...in this era relationship is a troubling scenario...in my search for a partner in crime mutual attraction is what am looking for and i found it...no such thing as right person for each one>>>it's obsolete...time to move on and be openminded what ever comes... “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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It can be an excuse for the other party to exit the relationship  in a cowardly way ... just my 2 cents... Not that it was an excuse for me in the past  )TReAt oTHerS LiKe YoU wAnT tO BE TReAteD !!!
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It can be an excuse for the other party to exit the relationship in a cowardly way ... just my 2 cents... Not that it was an excuse for me in the past ) Oh life is just full of contradictions we have to live with it.“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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there is lways UNITY IN DIVERSITY.. at some point despite incompatibiliies u got something in common. Acceptance of weaknessses and strenths is a good virtue in a relationship. It is choosing to stay together. But is one insists of incompaibilies and does not want to patch it out, then SAn MIg is correct in his solution:: DISsolution! 
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5/12/2014 8:22 am |
At some point, I believed in zodiac signs compatibility charts, but as I grew older, I realized it is NOT about what is written in the stars, but it is all about growing up together in a relationship, rather than falling apart. Just call me ELZ 
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It's not compatibilitlity because one can always work out the solution. The main thing is they found another to love... Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...
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there is lways UNITY IN DIVERSITY.. at some point despite incompatibiliies u got something in common. Acceptance of weaknessses and strenths is a good virtue in a relationship .It is choosing to stay together. But is one insists of incompaibilies and does not want to patch it out, then SAn MIg is correct in his solution:: DISsolution! “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Yes life is great and perhaps better if shared with someone. People do grow apart but others grow old together. Thanks for your comment. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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At some point, I believed in zodiac signs compatibility charts, but as I grew older, I realized it is NOT about what is written in the stars, but it is all about growing up together in a relationship, rather than falling apart. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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It's not compatibilitlity because one can always work out the solution. The main thing is they found another to love... “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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glock is the quick solution for incompatibility.  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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