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Friendship with a married man Hey don't jump into conclusion, hear me first. This was a topic of discussion in the chat room: if it is okay to become friend with a married man here in fff? Whoa what a response we got from some men. Some defensive, some favourable, others judgmental and one outright disgust and as usual others have no comment. It was a hypothetical question and many good points where brought up. That's one thing good with chat you get answers straight away but usually mixed with odd posts. My question was; if it is ok to be friend with a married man? By friend I meant platonic and the true meaning of it. No intimacy not like friends with benefits, just plain simple friendship. To be more specific this is a new friendship not a friendship before he was married and both are fff members. Many were against it and these were points raised by men. One said that the temptation is there and friendship is where it starts. Another said many men who are married here are here to play. Someone said why a married man why not a single guy? If a married man is just looking for a friend he will not be looking from a dating website. Those in favour argue that there are men who just want to chat. It became a little heated discussion bringing suspicion that some of them in the room were actually married pretending to be single. Some walked out for some reason. The conclusion in the end, BASED ON THEIR ANSWERS, was that it is not recommended it is almost taboo. This is SOME men's point of view. So heed the warning ladies. So can there be a new platonic friendship with a married man from a dating site? My take is, it is really up the people specially the woman if she can handle it. I also believe that the men will have some intention other than friendship. There are boundaries and we should be able to stay within those boundaries. I have seen it in real life that an innocent platonic friendship turned into a malicious intent. What is your comment? What do you think? Could there be a new platonic friendship with a married man from a dating site? “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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I have met many lady friends here, dated some and had a couple of exes. I got hitched recently and I don't intend to unfriend those ladies and she understands this situation. I don't believe relationship is about temptation, it is about the two persons in it. A third person is not the reason for a break up, it only seems so. There is a deeper reason for separation. The 3rd person is the sacrificial lamb. Look into yourself and examine what broke your relationship. You'll find it's not the fault of one but both of you. I look at my relationship one day at a time hoping to do better the next day. I hope she does too. Good luck to those who are thinking to go into one. It is harder than you think. No expectations is a good rule of thumb. To my lady friends, it's ok if you avoid me if my status makes you uncomfortable, but I'll always be as friendly as before. New friends?It's up to them, I'm always open for friendship. I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything 
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Guy sounds insecure but i agree with what u did , sometimes we have to give up something for the good of others. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Ta Jane that was the outcome of the discussion and the men confirmed that during our chat. The other issue, men denying they are married. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Good point pero yung iba tinatago ang status nila, another topic. Pero to me anyone who lies about it para lang makasilo is worth nothing. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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I have met many lady friends here, dated some and had a couple of exes. I got hitched recently and I don't intend to unfriend those ladies and she understands this situation. I don't believe relationship is about temptation, it is about the two persons in it. A third person is not the reason for a break up, it only seems so. There is a deeper reason for separation. The 3rd person is the sacrificial lamb. Look into yourself and examine what broke your relationship. You'll find it's not the fault of one but both of you. I look at my relationship one day at a time hoping to do better the next day. I hope she does too. Good luck to those who are thinking to go into one. It is harder than you think. No expectations is a good rule of thumb. To my lady friends, it's ok if you avoid me if my status makes you uncomfortable, but I'll always be as friendly as before. New friends?It's up to them, I'm always open for friendship. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Hi Bizzy! nice topic u opened up here! What could be pure intention of a married man here? Well to find women friends who will give in to their caprice..Hanap sila ng mabobola at magpapabola.. for me it is ok to be friend with married man,.. before marriage.. but married men friend after marriage,, there is no point to get closer. baka maharass nyo pa ang isat isa.  Be safe na lang!happy hugs! susan
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Yeah and Yey  I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything
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Hi Bizzy! nice topic u opened up here! What could be pure intention of a married man here? Well to find women friends who will give in to their caprice..Hanap sila ng mabobola at magpapabola.. for me it is ok to be friend with married man,.. before marriage.. but married men friend after marriage,, there is no point to get closer. baka maharass nyo pa ang isat isa. Be safe na lang!happy hugs! susan Yes we have same point of view with being friends before they got married. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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I consider the idea of being friends with a married guy if he has been a friend since he was still single because the friendship is already there and you only acquire another friend which is his wife but I don't think I would do the same if I just meet him. Maybe friends as in casual chit chat but not to a point where you want to be really close friend to him, I mean know his phone number and talk over phone etc. I would always put a limitation and barrier just to stay in a safe side and in respect to his wife also. Although in my own opinion, if I am married I wouldn't be hanging around dating sites, it's true temptations are inevitable specially in online world where one can have affairs with other discreetly. As the word suggest "Dating Sites" I don't think being married and all I would still fit in. But anyway this is just my opinion, I have nothing against those who are here but married. I respect whatever reason they have for being part of any dating sites.  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Thanks aphro I agree temptations are everywhere so we have to be on guard and if one is married then best to stay away from the temptation island of fff LOL. There are always exemption but like I said the basis of my conclusion are comments from men themselves. Thanks for visiting. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Hi Ladytop, Thanks for visiting my blog. I agree with you I can be friend with anyone and I know my boundaries. Like I said the basis here is the men's point of view about married fff members. I have married male friends , younger than me who are like my younger brithers. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Friendship is Non Exclusive!! It applies to all whether; married ones,singles,separated ones,divorcees,etc. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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I couldn't agree more like what most of these men said here so we must be aware. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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