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barbara72
206 posts
10/20/2012 11:06 pm
is it out of love or out of fear
its all too easy to get caught up in thinking that being on a spiritual journey is all about light, angels, fairies and fluffiness. its not. being true to ourselves can also mean making some really hard decisions. decisions to protect ourselves from other people and the hurt they bring us.

when we are hurt we can curl up in a ball, scratch with our claws or put up a fight.

when we are hurt we can carry our grievances around with us, like a sack of stones. each stone becomes a past hurt or burden. now our sack weighs heavily on our shoulders.

when we are hurt we can choose to respond either with love or fear.

fear is when we battle back. an ego fear based projection is when we believe we caused other people to act in a certain way. We feel we're not worthy of their love. we dismiss their actions and tell ourselves "it doesn't matter because I'm a better person than they'll ever be".

love is when we see other people's behaviour as a projection of their fear. we let go of their actions. we forgive. we move on.

but acting with love can also mean making those tough decisions - i've recently decided not to spend any more time with some people in my life whose actions and behaviour harms me.

even though this decision seems to be a tough one, i am still acting out of love - i am acting out of love for myself.

what is your response-ability? love or fear?
ajaw430 54F

10/21/2012 1:09 pm

 "but acting with love can also mean making those tough decisions - i've recently decided not to spend any more time with some people in my life whose actions and behaviour harms me"

When I care for the person I give chance, I give the benefit of doubt but after they do it to me the third time, I forgive still but then I stay away and do the above


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
10/21/2012 5:35 pm

 Yup, totally agree. If someone brings you down than up. Leave the person, it's your health that counts...
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


barbara72

10/24/2012 7:01 am
    Quoting  :
moving on is often a must and not always easy but when we love ourselves enough to do so, then our hearts capacity to love expands even more.


barbara72

10/24/2012 7:04 am
    Quoting TessRb:
    Yup, totally agree. If someone brings you down than up. Leave the person, it's your health that counts...
the best option


barbara72

10/24/2012 7:19 am
    Quoting ajaw430:
    "but acting with love can also mean making those tough decisions - i've recently decided not to spend any more time with some people in my life whose actions and behaviour harms me"

    When I care for the person I give chance, I give the benefit of doubt but after they do it to me the third time, I forgive still but then I stay away and do the above
more often than not those we give chances are those we cared a lot.its not all about how many times they have betrayed me or have deviated from the moral of friendship, its all about the pain it cause.




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