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LONELINESS.... A description found in a webforum: "This may sound a bit naive to some people, but I've just come to realize that we are all alone in this world. Sounds so sad, I know. Even when you are coupled up with someone who loves you, ultimately, realistically, we are still alone. I remember being in love with my b/f and thinking to myself how I don't feel lonely anymore. But when we broke up, I was faced with overwhelming loneliness...not just because he left me, but because I was reminded that the comfort feeling I had with my now ex, was just a cover-up, a blanket of my loneliness. Does anyone else feel like this???" My first reaction to this is; "Probably not many." This posting actually proves an unusually good analysis. Just like most things we do for 'fun and excitement', also the excitement of relationships is a very temporary blanket to cover up the painful and frustrating aspects of life. Ultimately, every relationship breaks up, at the latest when one of them dies. Does this mean we should all be celibate and forget about finding a partner? That is not necessary at all, but we should not overrate the value of relationships into 'being happy'. "Happiness is a state of mind, not a state of your relationship."   ELZ  |
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1/11/2008 8:22 am |
WOW this is deep. But its true i agree. I had the same feeling when my GF left me. Its indeed sad to know that happiness is just a state of mind and not of a relationship as you say it. But can choose to keep feeling sad and alone, or move on with our lives. I see you are much better with words then me, but I totally agree with your blogpost. take care with love Jason
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nice blog short term love affair is not love, it's infatuation...
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I think happiness is fleeting but Peace can be forever
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WOW this is deep. But its true i agree. I had the same feeling when my GF left me. Its indeed sad to know that happiness is just a state of mind and not of a relationship as you say it. But can choose to keep feeling sad and alone, or move on with our lives. I see you are much better with words then me, but I totally agree with your blogpost. take care with love Jason You know what? words are just here, but they don't mean anything unless they're being done...They say that no matter how bad the situation is...we can still choose to be happy, but in the beginning, we are just but normal to be sad and lonely... Take care too! ELZ
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nice blog short term love affair is not love, it's infatuation... ELZ
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Hi Gem! and you are truly blessed with those people..You got wonderful kids, ex-hubby, present hubby and their significant others, who also care for you...This is my 2008 goal..To be around people who care for me and interact with them in real life....I'll be relocating soon to a bigger city and I am hoping against hope that life will be a lot happier and more successful this time...I thank you for being my dear friend and one of the other ED's ANGELS... ELZ
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I think happiness is fleeting but Peace can be forever ELZ
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it is so good to see gentlemen post in my blogs too...I thank you! ELZ
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1/11/2008 12:30 pm |
hi DEE....hhhmmm....i think i can sense something from you my friend...like we always say, we are like twins.. my own feelings about the topic? here goes.. reading through you blog, my mind wandered and thought of the story of adam and eve.. God first created Adam and sensing that he will be all alone in this beautiful world he had just made.. he created eve... for anything in this world there is a purpose, even to the tiniest little detail.. more so with regards to a partner in life, a friend, a father or a mother, a son or a daughter.. i think the purpose in life of all these people is to share and give and receive love from one another. our lives intertwine, our feelings blossom and get enriched by the presence of these people in our lives. God, in His infinite wisdom, made each one of us unique as individuals.. but US, being our own person and being on our own may also make us feel alone..and this is where the presence of these people come into place... Ours is borrowed time..but with regards to my borrowed time to be with people that i love and are important to me... i feel blessed for each and every second they are with me and i with them. MARIE
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when someone close to you goes away temporarily or permanently, you imagine absence of affection.. imagining that triggers loneliness.. the only way to counteract loneliness is to remind yourself the reality that everyone goes away at some point in your life so always make the shared times count.. TC
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hi DEE....hhhmmm....i think i can sense something from you my friend...like we always say, we are like twins.. my own feelings about the topic? here goes.. reading through you blog, my mind wandered and thought of the story of adam and eve.. God first created Adam and sensing that he will be all alone in this beautiful world he had just made.. he created eve... for anything in this world there is a purpose, even to the tiniest little detail.. more so with regards to a partner in life, a friend, a father or a mother, a son or a daughter.. i think the purpose in life of all these people is to share and give and receive love from one another. our lives intertwine, our feelings blossom and get enriched by the presence of these people in our lives. God, in His infinite wisdom, made each one of us unique as individuals.. but US, being our own person and being on our own may also make us feel alone..and this is where the presence of these people come into place... Ours is borrowed time..but with regards to my borrowed time to be with people that i love and are important to me... i feel blessed for each and every second they are with me and i with them. HERE IS OUR OPPORTUNITY TO EXCHANGE WONDERFUL THOUGHTS AND IDEAS, AND I AM VERY THANKFUL. ELZ
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WOW!...You wrote things as if they came from my mouth. You are very right. That is what I am experiencing right now. I am literally living with my only child who did not grow up with me (grew up with grandma Philippines) but I don't "feel" him. We could be face to face with one another and I still feel lonely, because "bonding" is absent, no matter how I tried to make up for the lost time that we were not together. Sometimes, I could be literally alone and yet, I am not lonely, because I do not have to worry that I am "rejected"...I find peace in my solitude. ELZ
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Hello there Jelo!..."Happiness is a serious problem", according to writer DENNIS PRAGER Good evening or night there in RP...Thanks for visiting! Send my hugs to Janice. ELZ
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when someone close to you goes away temporarily or permanently, you imagine absence of affection.. imagining that triggers loneliness.. the only way to counteract loneliness is to remind yourself the reality that everyone goes away at some point in your life so always make the shared times count.. TC I sent you YM messages Hon...I hope you are staying warm and comfortable there in the northeast. TC and God bless you. ELZ
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And you are very right there Jesy...Thanks for gracing my blogs...See you at our bakuran... ELZ
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Hi there Jack!..As usual, you make comments and posts that really make sense. I'm sure, deep as they are, people tend to read them more than once to absorb the real messages you are trying to convey. But honest to goodness, all of them are true. Loneliness is part of life, and it is how we live it and embrace it that makes it harder or easier to deal with it. We do have a choice to be happy whether partnered or alone. ELZ
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It is also the fulfillment of our dreams...I agree with you Jesy. ELZ
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Rosalie, sweetie, what a way to grace my blog...I appreciate your contribution here..I know that for as long as we hold on to our dreams, they will be fulfilled, and thus, loneliness will go away. Thank you. ELZ
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I know and I understand how you feel Trish!..It's like you were just dreaming right? That's okay my dear...You'll be together forever sooner or later..Let's pray on that my dear...Take care! ELZ
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1/15/2008 10:38 am |
its nice when you feel that love still survives... beyond time and distance..MARIE
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its nice when you feel that love still survives... beyond time and distance.. ELZ
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AB, you know exactly what is going on with me and my son. I love him to death, but it hurts to feel unreciprocated. He joined me here in the USA when he was in his mid teens,that stage when peers matter the most. It was hard enough that he did not grow up with me, it was doubly hard to rebuild our lives together at the time when he was creating his own identity. Resentment is an understatement, specially during the first 2 years of living together. Now, almost 6 years later, he is past 20, but he is still "distant"...I feel he just needs me. But I did all that I could, slowly, and tenderly..Maybe, someday, I will feel appreciated. Thank you for gracing my blogs. God bless you. You are so kind. ELZ
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