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Does It Matter, Really?   ELZ  |
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Pam,  Thank you so much It's very ideal, and how I wish we all practice this..I must admit that I truly value friendships, specially the ones that I have nurtured over the years, but if it's no longer two-way, then, goodbye is a must...Life goes on, and memories can fade away, little by little, until I get demented.. ELZ
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Bhabes, take care of yourself...We are not getting any younger, and we are mostly alone...Oh, I take it back...you have Maylynn with you...and Angel, the adorable dog...Hayz! Muwahs! ELZ
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Thank you!  ..And I can speak for myself...It really takes something strong to piss me off, and then, I'd be angry and very vocal about it to the point of being called "mataray"...But once I let the steam out of my chest, I easily forgive (and I've done that to one of the notorious guys here in bloglandia). However, it is about the repeat offender, I have a saturation point, and THAT'S IT! ELZ
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Thank you.. It's good to see you back  I won't say anything more than that, but I think I know who you are...Take care, this time ELZ
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Which is why, anger should not progress to hatred. The latter is harder to remove from our hearts..the grudge sometimes linger on much longer.. ELZ
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Uglier and with more wrinkles? Deng! mahal magpa Belo... ELZ
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5/30/2013 4:45 am |
Aba, busy ka sa blogs mo ah , sunod sunod ang labas. As someone would say, prolific and productive ka lately.... On topic....As I have mentioned in previous blogs, anger in of itself is not necessarily bad; only when it turns into something else ( or misdirected) does it present a problem. Of course, the best course of action is to let the person know why you are mad at them so the situation can be dealt with accordingly. In an ideal situation, anyway. Plus, both sides have to be mature enough to discuss it without both flying off the handle. But as you said, pride can get in the way and it ends up with one party waiting for the other to approach with the other filled with resentment. Lose-lose scenario, di ba? I believe normal yung reaction to immediately lash out at the offending person - humans are impulsive and our emotions are powerful. Only with experience and maturity do we learn to exercise restraint, and frankly even then mahirap pa ring gawin. How man times have we so-called wise and learned old fogies said things we regret immediately? Forgiveness is easy - at least to me it is. However, I do not forget and I reckon neither do most. The worse the offense, the worse the memory. Time does not heal wounds; it simply dulls the sharpness. As in all relationships, communication is the key. Don't take it personally when someone is mad at you, but look at the underlying cause instead. Hah, if only it were that easy huh? Life would be much simpler. My will is unbreakable. Simply put, I cannot be broken - Enrique
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Aba, busy ka sa blogs mo ah , sunod sunod ang labas. As someone would say, prolific and productive ka lately.... On topic....As I have mentioned in previous blogs, anger in of itself is not necessarily bad; only when it turns into something else ( or misdirected) does it present a problem. Of course, the best course of action is to let the person know why you are mad at them so the situation can be dealt with accordingly. In an ideal situation, anyway. Plus, both sides have to be mature enough to discuss it without both flying off the handle. But as you said, pride can get in the way and it ends up with one party waiting for the other to approach with the other filled with resentment. Lose-lose scenario, di ba? I believe normal yung reaction to immediately lash out at the offending person - humans are impulsive and our emotions are powerful. Only with experience and maturity do we learn to exercise restraint, and frankly even then mahirap pa ring gawin. How man times have we so-called wise and learned old fogies said things we regret immediately? Forgiveness is easy - at least to me it is. However, I do not forget and I reckon neither do most. The worse the offense, the worse the memory. Time does not heal wounds; it simply dulls the sharpness. As in all relationships, communication is the key. Don't take it personally when someone is mad at you, but look at the underlying cause instead. Hah, if only it were that easy huh? Life would be much simpler.  that bad!...But, thankfully, I removed the game apps from my account and I'm here blabbering again... ELZ
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Aba, busy ka sa blogs mo ah , sunod sunod ang labas. As someone would say, prolific and productive ka lately.... On topic....As I have mentioned in previous blogs, anger in of itself is not necessarily bad; only when it turns into something else ( or misdirected) does it present a problem. Of course, the best course of action is to let the person know why you are mad at them so the situation can be dealt with accordingly. In an ideal situation, anyway. Plus, both sides have to be mature enough to discuss it without both flying off the handle. But as you said, pride can get in the way and it ends up with one party waiting for the other to approach with the other filled with resentment. Lose-lose scenario, di ba? I believe normal yung reaction to immediately lash out at the offending person - humans are impulsive and our emotions are powerful. Only with experience and maturity do we learn to exercise restraint, and frankly even then mahirap pa ring gawin. How man times have we so-called wise and learned old fogies said things we regret immediately? Forgiveness is easy - at least to me it is. However, I do not forget and I reckon neither do most. The worse the offense, the worse the memory. Time does not heal wounds; it simply dulls the sharpness. As in all relationships, communication is the key. Don't take it personally when someone is mad at you, but look at the underlying cause instead. Hah, if only it were that easy huh? Life would be much simpler.  I'm sure, you know what I mean...just PM me if you want further info  ELZ
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Indeed, a lot of us can relate to this, Tess, which is why, when I blog, I find it easy to create one because I always think of what most of us go through life...Have a good weekend, Tess! (almost there) ELZ
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Aha! just because I started one off-beat blog that made into 6 pages, you thought this was the part 2, yeah? heheheheheh! ...Not this time... ELZ
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Okay, okay,Saving/keeping relationships, or relationships per se, does it really matter these days? or is it just one of those which you can have and lose anytime, and develop a new one? ELZ
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Thanks for the visit, and hello Mr. PL ...It is a given and it is the truth, that no matter how we forgive the person, the "memories" of the offense will still be there, unless one gets an amnesia.....But that doesn't mean that when you remember, you have a grudge...that's what it is.. ELZ
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And for that, ANGER should be just a temporary ill feeling, so that the conquest is also transient and you reclaim yourself in peace... Thanks for the quotes..Good reminders. ELZ
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5/31/2013 6:13 am |
Anger in friendship is something that may or may not be irreparable. I am thinking of the degree the hurt was done. If it's about damaging one's pride, forgiveness may not be readily given, as self-esteem is man's greatest pride. With physical or emotional damage, it will take sometime to forgive and forget still, yet it is possible that friendship will be returned, but can and will never go back to the same degree.
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Anger in friendship is something that may or may not be irreparable. I am thinking of the degree the hurt was done. If it's about damaging one's pride, forgiveness may not be readily given, as self-esteem is man's greatest pride. With physical or emotional damage, it will take sometime to forgive and forget still, yet it is possible that friendship will be returned, but can and will never go back to the same degree. ELZ
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Exactly how I feel about it, Shaq..Specially the latter part of your wonderful piece of mind/opinion..If anything, I don't have too many friends, but I value them as if they're my own family. I do give hints, whether I am ready or not. People think I am "mataray" and harsh, but No! those who know me very well know that I am very compassionate and caring... ELZ
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Yeah, I cannot choose my relatives, but I can choose to "stay away" from them...nyahahahahhahaha! ELZ
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