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Blogs > hotbabe_is_lost > my lips are not sealed


hotbabe_is_lost 48F
520 posts
10/31/2006 1:55 pm

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1/20/2007 7:17 pm
Five Steps to Disciplining Your
Do you need alternatives on how to get through to your ? Are you at the end of your rope? Here are Five Steps on How to Discipline Your –without spanking.

1. Commit Yourself.
It's crucial that your knows that you're going to do what you say you will. If you explain what a punishment will be, and then don't act on it, you will have less credibility the next time. Make a commitment to your 's discipline, and be consistent in your behavior toward them.

2. Be Realistic in Your Expectations of Your .
Don't ask your to do anything he/she cannot do. Make sure that what you are asking of your is a behavior within his or her reach – if it's not, your will get frustrated and be less likely to listen to you in the future.

3. Define Your 's Currency.
Find out what your values – it could be a toy, a particular activity, or even a privilege like getting to stay awake to a particular hour. Dr Phil explains: "If you control the currency, you control the behavior that currency depends on." Once you understand what your values, you can withdraw positive things (taking away the toy) or introduce negative things (making them take a time-out) as a form of discipline.

4. Give Your Predictable Consequences.
It's important for your to understand that the same result will come from the same behavior. Make your feel like he/she has control over their life: If your behaves in "Way A," they need to be sure that they will always get "Consequence B." If he/she can count on the rules staying the same, they're more likely to abide by them.

5. Use -Level Logic.
Explain your values in terms your can understand. Take the time to explain the reasons behind why you are asking he/she to behave in certain ways – if your understands the kinds of behavior you'd like them to avoid, they're more likely to apply that reasoning to different situations, instead of learning to stop one behavior at a time.[/sie]
_Romeo 58M
475 posts
10/31/2006 6:20 pm

 You sure know how to grab my heart!!




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