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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
1/9/2009 4:44 am
Indifference: Is it an emotional disease?
..Please pardon me for writing this one, but lately, I am challenged to "analyze" people (specially MEN) who became "INDIFFERENT" after a major break-up or who've gone through a painful separation or divorce, regardless (or irregardless) of the reasons behind the split). They usually go through LOVE-HATE, STOP-GO cycles and may sometimes undergo seclusion and withdrawal from the rest of the world. Below are some of the definitions of INDIFFERENCE:

1 : marked by impartiality : UNBIASED

2 a : that does not matter one way or the other b : of no importance or value one way or the other

3 a : marked by no special liking for or dislike of something b : marked by a lack of interest, enthusiasm, or concern for something : APATHETIC

4 : being neither excessive nor inadequate : MODERATE

5 a : being neither good nor bad : MEDIOCRE b : being neither right nor wrong

6 : characterized by lack of active quality : NEUTRAL

To me, number 3 is what is more disturbing. I personally came across 2 FFF members, and one in the real world who seem to suffer from this emotional illness...I can just hope and pray that one day, they'll find their NORMAL SELVES AGAIN...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/9/2009 4:50 am

 Please allow me to post some of the famous INDIFFERENCE quotes:

When one becomes indifferent to women, to children, and young people., he may know that he is superannuated, and has withdrawn from whatsoever is sweetest and purest in human existence.
- Amos Bronson Alcott
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:51 am

 How chronic is the unconcern of men and women of the world!
- Mary Elizabeth Braddon

Indifference may not wreck a man's life at any one turn, but it will destroy him with a kind of dry-rot in the long run.
- William Bliss Carman
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:52 am

 She commands who is blest with indifference.
- Sebastien-Roch-Nicolas de Chamfort

A lady of fashion will sooner excuse a freedom flowing from admiration than a slight resulting from indifference.
- Charles Caleb Colton
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:53 am

 What is a woman's surest guardian angel? Indifference.
- Dorothee DeLuzy

I don't know, I don't care, and it doesn't make any difference!
- Albert Einstein
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:54 am

 The world is a dangerous place to live, not because of the people who are evil, but because of the people who don't do anything about it.
- Albert Einstein

The most distressing aspect of the world into which you are going is its indifference to the basic issues, which now, as always, are moral issues.
- Robert Maynard Hutchins
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:55 am

 Trust him little who praise all, him less who censures all and him least who is indifferent about all.
- Johann Kaspar Lavater (John Caspar Lavater)

Of all heavy bodies, the heaviest is the woman we have ceased to love.
- Pierre Edouard Lemontey
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:57 am

 If moderation is a fault then indifference is a crime.
- Georg Christoph Lichtenberg

The indifference of men, far more than their tyranny, is the torment of women.
- Jules Michelet
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:58 am

 Mme. Deluzy has said that indifference is a woman's guardian angel,--a remark not only applicable in France, but all over the world.
- Anna C. Mowatt

Indifference is the invincible grant of the world.
- Ouida (pseudonym of Marie Louise de la Ramee)
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eb1209

1/9/2009 4:59 am

 Perfect behaviour is born of complete indifference.
- Cesare Pavese,
This Business of Living: Diaries 1935-50

Affection can withstand very severe storms of vigor, but not a long polar frost of indifference.
- Sir Walter Scott
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eb1209

1/9/2009 5:00 am

 The worst sin towards our fellow creatures is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them; that's the essence of inhumanity.
- George Bernard Shaw, The Devil's Disciple

Selfish people, with no heart to speak of, have the best time of it.
- Henry Wheeler Shaw (used pseudonyms Josh Billings and Uncle Esek)
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eb1209

1/9/2009 5:01 am

 Indifferent souls never part. Impassioned souls part, and return to one another, because they can do no better.
- Madame Anne Sophie Swetchine (Soimonoff)

The depreciation of Christianity by indifference is a more insidious and less curable evil than infidelity itself.
- Archbishop Richard Whately
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eb1209

1/9/2009 5:03 am

 Because of indifference, one dies before one actually dies.
- Elie Wiesel
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pink_thighs 44F

1/9/2009 9:22 am

 I believe so... SCHIZOID PERSONALITY DISORDER, one of the primary behavior of it is Indifference. They say that hatred is not an opposite of love but indifference.
~~pinkThoughts~~


bebong2005 56F
9764 posts
1/9/2009 10:28 am

 since in my honest opinion nobody is really normal "normal"
i will not call it a disease but rather an emotional smoke screen or walls to protect themselves from being hurt again or falling into the same painful situation they rather forget. like the phrase ignorance is bliss, if you don't care, you have nothing to lose
~ Jolielaide


jane82 110F

1/9/2009 12:40 pm

 Fear of taking the next step and hurting again unless they like the chase, have no fear of rejection or could deal with pain and loneliness.
Defensive wall.


within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.


jane82 110F

1/9/2009 12:57 pm

 Any more advise on men Elz? I'd be happy to listen.


within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.


eb1209

1/10/2009 3:35 am
    Quoting pink_thighs:
    I believe so... SCHIZOID PERSONALITY DISORDER, one of the primary behavior of it is Indifference. They say that hatred is not an opposite of love but indifference.
Well, if it is the outcome of a very traumatic experience, and the person allowed himself to be wallowed by causative event, then I would say, one may even end up seeing a "shrink" in order for him to move on and go back to the realities in life. I know it is harsh, but indifference can really ruin one's chances to find another meaningful relationship. After all, just because the previous one was traumatic, doesn't mean the next one will be just as bad. That is a very unfair judgement. Unless, of course, if the judgement also has been derailed.
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2009 3:42 am
    Quoting bebong2005:
    since in my honest opinion nobody is really normal "normal"
    i will not call it a disease but rather an emotional smoke screen or walls to protect themselves from being hurt again or falling into the same painful situation they rather forget. like the phrase ignorance is bliss, if you don't care, you have nothing to lose
But of course, you are very correct in saying that most people build a wall to protect themselves, but being indifferent is an emotional and social issue that needs to be dealt with. To me, I should not blame others for the misfortune that I experienced, and I should not pick on others for the insecurities that I am dealing with. Like I said, there are other ways to resolve some issues, and for as long as I believe that NO MAN IS AN ISLAND, I will continue to treat others and give them opportunities to prove themselves, rather than believing that THEY ARE JUST AS NO GOOD as the one who caused my despair....but, that is just me.
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2009 3:45 am
    Quoting jane82:
    Fear of taking the next step and hurting again unless they like the chase, have no fear of rejection or could deal with pain and loneliness.
    Defensive wall.
that is TRUE, Janey..Defensive wall it is, but it is also an offensive wall, since the persons affected by the act of indifference will feel bad, knowing that they have nothing to do with our past misfortunes. Why blame Anna for what Juana did?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2009 3:53 am
    Quoting jane82:
    Any more advise on men Elz? I'd be happy to listen.
My guess is that, most men may already know that they are indifferent, but are NOT doing anything to correct it...you know what I'm saying?..They probably think that they'll get even with their past "offenders" if they treat the next candidates for romance indifferently.. And maybe, this behavior can also be subconcious and unless it is brought to the attention of the person, then, he may not be fully aware that he is being indifferent...(dohhh!)
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2009 3:55 am
    Quoting  :
Trish, I think, as pretty and attractive as you are, you didn't need to experience indifference from MEN... That explains why SAM is soooooooo in love with you I miss you too!
Just call me ELZ


pink_thighs 44F

1/12/2009 7:56 am
    Quoting eb1209:
    Well, if it is the outcome of a very traumatic experience, and the person allowed himself to be wallowed by causative event, then I would say, one may even end up seeing a "shrink" in order for him to move on and go back to the realities in life. I know it is harsh, but indifference can really ruin one's chances to find another meaningful relationship. After all, just because the previous one was traumatic, doesn't mean the next one will be just as bad. That is a very unfair judgement. Unless, of course, if the judgement also has been derailed.
If the question is, Is it an emotional "disease" then it can be- clinically i would say it is by a sort of serious disorder. If the question is, Is it an emotional disturbance then i would say it can be- maybe she was just confused or something but that doesnt mean she/he is indifferent as a person. As yours was shared from the writer's mind, so was mine quoted from a psychiatrist's page based on the question itself, a disease which may mean clinical.
~~pinkThoughts~~


pink_thighs 44F

1/12/2009 8:04 am

 Thats why i mentioned the Schizoid personality disorder coz you used the word, Disease.

Disease- medical condition: a condition in humans, plants, or animals that results in pathological symptoms and is not the direct result of physical injury;

2. specific disorder: a disorder in humans, animals, or plants with recognizable signs and often having a known cause

Microsoft® Encarta® 2009. © 1993-2008 Microsoft Corporation.
~~pinkThoughts~~


eb1209

1/12/2009 7:10 pm
    Quoting pink_thighs:
    If the question is, Is it an emotional "disease" then it can be- clinically i would say it is by a sort of serious disorder. If the question is, Is it an emotional disturbance then i would say it can be- maybe she was just confused or something but that doesnt mean she/he is indifferent as a person. As yours was shared from the writer's mind, so was mine quoted from a psychiatrist's page based on the question itself, a disease which may mean clinical.
Thanks for making a research on this, my fellow FEELer ...So, from a "shrink's bible", it can be an emotional disease...as the outcome of it may manifest physically sometimes, and then, it becomes clinical..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/12/2009 7:12 pm
    Quoting pink_thighs:
    Thats why i mentioned the Schizoid personality disorder coz you used the word, Disease.

    Disease- medical condition: a condition in humans, plants, or animals that results in pathological symptoms and is not the direct result of physical injury;

    2. specific disorder: a disorder in humans, animals, or plants with recognizable signs and often having a known cause

    Microsoft® Encarta® 2009. © 1993-2008 Microsoft Corporation.
same as above...Thanks for sharing your thoughts...
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