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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
3/12/2013 3:25 pm
War...the GANG- nam Style?


It amazes me that all my life I noticed that when you are amongst many friends and acquaintances, when there is a misunderstanding, there is always a division or taking sides kinda thing. Each group creates more fire to an already fuming situation. They take pride in making the worse scenario on a difficult situation...In short, THEY ARE NOT HELPING, and they GANG UP on you. It happens here, there, and everywhere. Even in families. Whenever a couple separates or divorces, you are mostly guaranteed that you only are not having a WAR against your partner, but his/her whole clan. Why is that? Why can't people fight their "own" war, and win or lose it? Isn't that very immature?...I know of a very good friend here who remains very close to her ex's family and relatives..But that is very rare nowadays. Here, you write something in "general" and here comes the member who comes out of nowhere and act defensively and directly admits whatever is s/he is being discussed about. It's like, "okay, we're trying to make this a general topic, and here you are vindicating yourself in the open, and sometimes, it's NOT even you!"....Unbelievable!
Just call me ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
3/12/2013 8:58 pm

 Elz,

Good evening! It happens per se a divorce. The family seems like they are fighting instead of the couple involved. Seems like someone is taking sides. Just how it is in life. Happy wednesday
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


barbara72

3/12/2013 11:59 pm

 If they are ganging up on you, ala- Gang nam style...just shake it off your system....might as well give them a Harlem shake...hehehe


ajaw430 54F

3/13/2013 5:40 am

 Hmm, in families.. blood is thicker than water? good that I am exemption to the rule, got his mother`s back


theta2011 53F
1917 posts
3/13/2013 7:58 am

 ELZ,

I guess its not about taking sides, or choosing who's right or wrong. Its about loyalty to a friend or a lover or relatives..etc. Like a motherly instinct, ready to fight those that will harm her lair. The underlying basic principle of war : To protect.


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:11 am
    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    Good evening! It happens per se a divorce. The family seems like they are fighting instead of the couple involved. Seems like someone is taking sides. Just how it is in life. Happy wednesday
Hello Tess! yeah, we always see those kind of scenario unfortunately....Gang(nam)-ing at you
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:13 am
    Quoting  :
Jane, we both know it is, what it is...Sometimes, it makes you wonder, just how hard is it to be NEUTRAL? To be protective of someone close to you is one thing, but "owning" a war that isn't even yours is another...We've seen that happening countless times...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:14 am
    Quoting barbara72:
    If they are ganging up on you, ala- Gang nam style...just shake it off your system....might as well give them a Harlem shake...hehehe
Why Not? (coconut) ..Barbz, aren't we good at shaking it all off? ..It's like dusting your feet, err, where is the doormat, anyway?
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:15 am
    Quoting  :
It's ok, Jane
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:16 am
    Quoting ajaw430:
    Hmm, in families.. blood is thicker than water? good that I am exemption to the rule, got his mother`s back
YEah, indeed, blood is thicker than water, until it becomes "bloody hell!"
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:20 am
    Quoting theta2011:
    ELZ,

    I guess its not about taking sides, or choosing who's right or wrong. Its about loyalty to a friend or a lover or relatives..etc. Like a motherly instinct, ready to fight those that will harm her lair. The underlying basic principle of war : To protect.
Thet, I have no doubts about being "loyal", only if I know someone is doing the right thing...But believe me, growing up from a disciplinarian family, we don't tolerate foolishness and deliberately doing the wrong thing to others, although, we do not disown a loved-one, but we strongly show him/her that being related doesn't mean 100% tolerance...Which is why there is this thing called "proper judgement"...It doesn't matter if you're closest kins, RIGHT remains right, and WRONG remains wrong...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

3/14/2013 6:24 am
    Quoting  :
Marivic, my dear friend...So far, at this point, neither my ex's relatives and I are close, but we are civil... We don't have to like each other to be that...Nothing to fight for...They have his back, and I have my backbones......YEAH! VIVA LAS VEGAS!.......41 more days and counting down...Yeeeehhhhaaaaaaaaa!
Just call me ELZ


stickman_711

3/15/2013 4:15 am

 well i dont understand why the EXS always have to make things more difficult. why cant they just move on? well anyway i hope i am invited to the eyeball? if i am just let me know when you all arrive




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