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Blogs > eb1209 > THE MANY FACETS OF ME


eb1209
23211 posts
1/10/2012 6:11 am
Why Is That?


Have you noticed? ...That when couples break up (divorce, separation, annullment), most of the time, if one has moved on and has found his or her new love, more than likely, the other is left alone, unattached, whether by choice or by a series of failed attempts to build a new relationship with others? Could it be that the person left behind hasn't really found the right replacement, or subconsciously, s/he doesn't really want to replace the lost love? Could it be an overwhelming fear of going through another pain and sufferings?...You see, it happens in Hollywood, to ordinary people here, there, and everywhere. It seems though that everyone is trying to move on, but not everyone is fortunate to find the right person...until such time, that one becomes so comfortable just that, being alone, and free.

I know of several people whose ex-hubbies and wives re-married and are happy with their new loves, while they remain getting involved from one relationship to another, not even lasting for months, and some of them, I'm sorry to say, are "wasted". Could it be because they are merely looking to "replace" the former partners that they fail? or they are just too stubborn to change their ways? I mean, it's hard to accept that they probably contributed to the break-up of their families, and they just continue to deny the fact that they could have done much better to keep their marriage and former spouses..What do you think?

Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2012 8:13 am
    Quoting _dimasalang_:
    for better, or for worse; whether you are together or apart - LIFE MOVES ON.

    The question remains to be: " Will you allow to keep living in what was or what might be... OR will you take a more positive stance and look towards the sunny side of life"?

    The answer does not come easy(not even for me)... but we all must do what we have to do.


    *bow
Wow! Dimas! You sound deep and convincing... Thanks, and true, way to go!
Just call me ELZ


oldkanaba 73M
2458 posts
1/10/2012 8:36 am

 Ouch.. I don't know which category I fall but so far I am enjoying life whatever way it is. I am still alone and happy and so are you. It's just that I miss the scent of a woman and the scent of a man doesn't appeal to you.

Any which way, we are both happy. I just have to actively continue my pursuit while you just sit and wait.

Good luck to both of us! he he he
I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything


eb1209

1/10/2012 11:21 am
    Quoting oldkanaba:
    Ouch.. I don't know which category I fall but so far I am enjoying life whatever way it is. I am still alone and happy and so are you. It's just that I miss the scent of a woman and the scent of a man doesn't appeal to you.

    Any which way, we are both happy. I just have to actively continue my pursuit while you just sit and wait.

    Good luck to both of us! he he he
You said it all...Ahhhh! The joys of being single......Scent of a woman? I think most men have the liberty to test the waters, being that you guys are outnumbered by women, anyway.....Yeah?..Me? I probably just sit.... about waiting, I am not even sure, if I am really waiting...
Just call me ELZ


ajaw430 54F

1/10/2012 11:48 am

 Elz, I must admit after 4 years of being alone I become very comfortable of what I have now. I got use to it that I don`t see any need why I should jump into relationship. Maybe I`m not ready enough...I tried but somehow the issue involves the children, either he doesn`t accept them or the responsibility is too big for him. Maybe the right "one" hasn`t come yet and so I decided to remain single and instead just enjoy going out with my friends once in awhile.
Do I have high standards? not that I know of, just caring and tolerant partner if ever, and a good father figure to my kids.

Hmm, maybe let the kids grow first as they`re my priority right now.


eb1209

1/10/2012 1:39 pm
    Quoting ajaw430:
    Elz, I must admit after 4 years of being alone I become very comfortable of what I have now. I got use to it that I don`t see any need why I should jump into relationship. Maybe I`m not ready enough...I tried but somehow the issue involves the children, either he doesn`t accept them or the responsibility is too big for him. Maybe the right "one" hasn`t come yet and so I decided to remain single and instead just enjoy going out with my friends once in awhile.
    Do I have high standards? not that I know of, just caring and tolerant partner if ever, and a good father figure to my kids.

    Hmm, maybe let the kids grow first as they`re my priority right now.
Grace, sweetie...Been on that situation a couple of times before...and just like you, my son was my first priority....Hence, I've become so accustomed to being single, and free as a bird..Sometimes, I could not even imagine myself being with someone who would control my life instead of my better half or real lifetime partner... Am I picky? Honestly, I am "reasonably picky"...specially now, that I only have ME, I, and MYSELF to be worried about...
Just call me ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
1/10/2012 5:13 pm

 Elz,

Who knows what tomorrow brings. All i want is a man i can love and he loves me faithfully...
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


eb1209

1/10/2012 5:32 pm
    Quoting  :
We understand, Jane...(most of us, who know your life story)...5 long years is a lot, if just gone wasted. You did what you thought was the right response to your emotional threat...At least, if there is a next time (God forbid) you know just what to do...All relationships need some space...I am for that...I'm sure you too...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2012 5:33 pm
    Quoting  :
MIGZ, who knows? It could be Mr. Rubberband...lolz..
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2012 5:35 pm
    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    Who knows what tomorrow brings. All i want is a man i can love and he loves me faithfully...
Aren't (weren't) we, at some point been hopeful, Tess? It's like you wrote several times in your posts here and there that you've given up on love, but actually, you haven't...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2012 5:38 pm
    Quoting  :
I feel for you Racquel...Most women will sacrifice a lot for the sake of saving marriage and family...But, like you said, sometimes, it's best to let him go...That's selflessness..When everything but yourself matters the most...
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2012 5:43 pm

 And I've seen ex-wives/hubbies of close friends who are truly happy with their newfound loves..It amazes me to find out how and why their marriage failed...THEY MARRIED FOR THE WRONG REASONS...And sometimes, even if I close my eyes, the truth reveals itself to me, that sometimes, the people that I call friends are at fault.....And it saddens me to witness how the same friends move from one relationship to another, not really knowing what they want, or missing...Tsk!tsk!tsk!...Hayz!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/10/2012 6:27 pm
    Quoting  :
Kim, you're still very young and you have a lot of things to learn from life's experiences...Take your time, and continue to pursue your dreams...
Just call me ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
1/10/2012 9:49 pm
    Quoting eb1209:
    Aren't (weren't) we, at some point been hopeful, Tess? It's like you wrote several times in your posts here and there that you've given up on love, but actually, you haven't...
Elz,

In my right frame of mind i will always love to be in love. But, when it became to painful. One sided love. Then, of course concentrate that love to moi na lang. No, need for men...
Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


theta2011 53F
1917 posts
1/11/2012 5:59 am

 ELZ,

I'm comfortable being single and free, but I never keep my heart and mind close to the idea of having someone around (again), romantically speaking. Pains, sufferings, sacrifices - all a part of it, but also joy, happiness, friendship, sharing etc. I wouldn't mind waiting for I know it will come eventually. I'll always be ready.

Changing myself or something of me? Oh no, love me or leave me


eb1209

1/11/2012 1:11 pm
    Quoting  :
Migz, aren't you supposed to meet this summer? uyyyy!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/11/2012 1:14 pm
    Quoting  :
Migz, panay nga thank you ko sa mga palpak na nauna baka sakaling "on the way" na si Right one sobrang natraffic talaga!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/11/2012 1:16 pm
    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    In my right frame of mind i will always love to be in love. But, when it became to painful. One sided love. Then, of course concentrate that love to moi na lang. No, need for men...
Hayz, Tess, most women are such that when they are hungry, they "eat their words"
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/11/2012 1:17 pm
    Quoting theta2011:
    ELZ,

    I'm comfortable being single and free, but I never keep my heart and mind close to the idea of having someone around (again), romantically speaking. Pains, sufferings, sacrifices - all a part of it, but also joy, happiness, friendship, sharing etc. I wouldn't mind waiting for I know it will come eventually. I'll always be ready.

    Changing myself or something of me? Oh no, love me or leave me
TAke it or leave it!
Just call me ELZ


eb1209

1/15/2012 3:21 am
    Quoting  :
Ahahahahaha! Smiley, Dahlen...Bob and I are not compatible...
Just call me ELZ




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