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eeb1209 64F
54 posts
11/13/2020 5:09 am
It's Okay Not to be Okay
Single for more than 25 years now, and no "relationship" for more than 20 years, a lot of people might think, I am NOT okay. But here is the truth: I started longing belong someone "forever" in my 40's-50's. A series of wanna be's and prospective partners/lovers came and pffft .A heart badly broken was very careful not making any majo. r mistakes, and yes, you can say it over and over again...PICKY! Now, a senior citizen, I ran out of motivation, not wanting any of it anymore, and am just happily and contented single. I so learned love my space, my freedom, and my life, in general. I cannot complain. Now, the times that I wasn't okay, is now A-Okay. I am blessed.
eeb1209 64F
56 posts
11/13/2020 5:13 am

 Thank you Lord for this wonderful life.


fantasiamore2 72F
876 posts
11/13/2020 7:01 am

 when you have been single for a decade or more, tendency is to love being what you are and have been. Having someone is this feeling of intrusion, adjustment and a lot of trying times, to cope with the partner. Now, that makes one what you can say uneasy and uncomfortable. It would just be enough or good to say, you are dating regularly someone, be that one or more, that's sating company alright. With seniority, the process could be different, you may need this someone to talk or listen to, someone to share your joys, sadness even your frustration, you don't fall to depression feeling alone and lonely...but you need not co-habitate, it's a choice you make..just my two cents or a dollar, maybe...lol


eeb1209 64F
56 posts
11/13/2020 7:30 am
    Quoting fantasiamore2:
    when you have been single for a decade or more, tendency is to love being what you are and have been. Having someone is this feeling of intrusion, adjustment and a lot of trying times, to cope with the partner. Now, that makes one what you can say uneasy and uncomfortable. It would just be enough or good to say, you are dating regularly someone, be that one or more, that's sating company alright. With seniority, the process could be different, you may need this someone to talk or listen to, someone to share your joys, sadness even your frustration, you don't fall to depression feeling alone and lonely...but you need not co-habitate, it's a choice you make..just my two cents or a dollar, maybe...lol
Jane, I believe " singlehood" had made me so territorial and very independent, loving the quietness and peace all to myself, that I do not even desire to talk with any men...lolz.. It does make me look "abnormal" to some...


fantasiamore2 72F
876 posts
11/13/2020 1:39 pm
    Quoting eeb1209:
    Jane, I believe " singlehood" had made me so territorial and very independent, loving the quietness and peace all to myself, that I do not even desire to talk with any men...lolz.. It does make me look "abnormal" to some...
having been like that for you is no problem..but when someone comes along, you can never tell. you may reconsider..look at our mutual friend, taBabz, she is enjoying much..she found the right man...i believe for every woman, there is a man..


laogui32 78M
67 posts
11/14/2020 1:06 am

 Actually it is indeed alright to be single - 20 years or more ago I could cry myself, broken heated, to sleep. Nowadays I am quite content just to close my eyes and sleep listening to the cicadas


eeb1209 64F
56 posts
12/2/2020 11:34 am
    Quoting laogui32:
    Actually it is indeed alright to be single - 20 years or more ago I could cry myself, broken heated, to sleep. Nowadays I am quite content just to close my eyes and sleep listening to the cicadas
Good thing, that you can relate. Thanks for the visit


eeb1209 64F
56 posts
12/2/2020 11:36 am
    Quoting fantasiamore2:
    having been like that for you is no problem..but when someone comes along, you can never tell. you may reconsider..look at our mutual friend, taBabz, she is enjoying much..she found the right man...i believe for every woman, there is a man..
Oh, we are BFF, but she has a totally different personality and different needs. She searched for him, that is why she found him, and yes, she is a risk taker, and I admire her guts..No guts, no glory.




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