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indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption.
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find it hard to commit!
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Sep 1, 2009 12:06 pm
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i still have my laptop, so should i blog or i should take a respite instead? definitely a respite is the answer.
yes everytime i visit my kids and my grandkids, i take a respite from almost everything and focus on the things that would make my visit more meaningful and enjoyable.
there will be a lot of movies again, eating out, shopping and visiting places. how lucky i am to be a father and a grandfather. its the best fulfilling part of my living. nothing could beats that because i am forever a father and grandad.
i am sure i am going to take a respite from blogging and make the most of my visit.. yeah i am leaving on a red eye today and would be arriving 6am dallas, texas time wednesday.
see you guys next tuesday. yes i will spend a whole week with my kids and grandkids.
hmm my kids and grandkids! hmm perhaps they are the reason i find it hard to commit or to love anyone? for now!
enjoy blogging everyone!
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every personal decision is a right one!
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Aug 30, 2009 12:36 am
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i never visited his blog, but seen his comments on my blogs and with the others blogs. for those who blogs or read blogs almost daily, he was a constant fixture - easy to notice that he blogs everyday , not only once but sometimes more than thrice.
but for once i thought i should read his farewell blog and find out the reason why he is saying goodbye. and just like many others who left and said goodbye and move on with their lives, his reason was identical with those who have said goodbye before, to focus more and nourish the love that been found.
but some went and then came back. i did! but others were gone for good. or gone for good we thought until someone discovered that he or she has a new handle.
i hope he is really gone for good and to never see his bloggings here again. if he does come back just like the few others who did, we will welcome him back and not a word will be said. but we all know without saying a word, there was a travesty in which that love unraveled - it was never meant to last!
every personal decision is a right one and i too would find myself saying goodbye if she is truly deserving of my love and affection.
good luck to him and wish him success in all his endeavors.
p.s. for others its just a matter of time to say goodbye too. not all of us are here just for t the sake of blogging. most of us are just waiting to be found. i know i am.
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victim of my own negligence!
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Aug 28, 2009 10:06 pm
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i thought i would not find myself blogging today, yet i thought i have to make sense of something - being a victim of my own negligence.
no its not about being negligent in loving someone. besides there is none yet to love and no one yet has truly captured my heart. i flirt here and there, but it doesn't mean that i like her or will love her.
although i profess that i want to be found by someone, i too is trying to find that someone by being subtle and not direct to the point.
when i sort of like someone and specially those who have read my profile or visited my blogs, i sent them an email of thanks for visiting my profile and for reading my blogs. but somehow i hope and wish that in return they answer my email - and then it could be a start of something magical that have eluded me for so long.
yes there were many tries and misses and some answered my emails or i answered the emails of those who initiated the contact.
but mostly those who initiated the contact, i was mostly not interested. but still i answered their email out of respect and consideration. none of these exchanges either initiated by me or by her never get beyond the first phase of getting to know each other. but for those i sent an email it means i was interested to know you and perhaps in the process to love you too.
maybe some would like to continue the emails but they are limited in the number of emails they can sent or they are restricted because they are not a paying member as i am. or its just a wishful thinking on my part and that they could never be interested or love the person i projected in my blogs!
i guess the hardest part of finding that someone is knowing and assuring myself that she indeed deserves my affection. yes i am hard on myself and i could not love just anyone. she has to serve a purpose in my life and compliment me in many ways. serving a purpose could meant many things, but it could be as simple as her capturing me totally in body and soul. or as simply as total acceptance of my idiosyncrasies, together with the bad and the good.
hmm i have quite write something already outside the purpose of sharing my thoughts about being a victim of my own negligence.
i am a victim of my own negligence for not seeing a doctor for the last 4 years. with the concern and prodding of my two daughters, i did finally see a doctor last week and prognosis was given today after the lab work and other test taken. i am in great shape except that now i am prediabetic.
perhaps if only i was not negligent i would have avoided being a prediabetic. now a drastic change in my lifestyle is forthcoming.
i would appreciate it very much if those who are in the same situation as i am now would share me the drastic change that i must do to prevent being fully diabetic. thank you in advance!
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sporadic!
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Aug 27, 2009 6:43 pm
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my blogging has now become sporadic and it no longer has the intensity it used to have. perhaps its just a temporary letdown and then eventually i will blog again as periodic as i could.
but one thing though that i could never be is to blog everyday or much more to blog like those who blogs more than once, twice or thrice in a day. i guess them have a lot to share and to impart in their blogs about many aspects of their lives or the wisdom of their experience or just narrating how truly he or she love someone or have found loving someone.
or perhaps blogging is their sanctuary and their way of life partially detaching themselves from the other dimensions in life like meeting someone for a cup of coffee or bringing oneself to a walk along the park or even watching a movie by himself or herself or calling a friend and hear a live voice on the other side.
yes blogging has some comforting moments specially for those who seek refuge of comforts, of kindness, of understanding and affinity with those who been with the same situation of despair and agony - and then to share the same disappointments, setbacks, quarrels and in letting someone go or for a more disturbing word - being dumped by someone.
i guess there is some kind of affirmation of one's life whether it be in despair and in glory if shared among others - specially shared with someone of the same values, outlooks in life, preferences and even in prejudice of intolerance.
but then somehow what purpose does it serve if you just blog for the heck of it and write something that somehow does not even trigger a minuscule emotional reaction from someone, or does not contribute in making sense of others lives or perspective of others.
a good blog is somehow must be in between being able to arouse agitation from others either in conformity or disagreements! it must have the audacity of being able to arouse others to share their thoughts in a manner provocative and yet impersonal without intentions of demeaning others or oneself.
i have to go! the other dimensions of my life is waiting. as much as i want to nurture my desire for blogging - other things in my life can't wait. enjoy blogging everyone and hope you all had a great day!
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spur of patronizing attitude!
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Aug 23, 2009 10:27 am
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we can not live this life with permanence of comforts - that we only deal with or allow ourselves to experience only what is familiar and comfortable - and those who made us annoyed or uncomfortable, we consider them sick.
such is my experience in blogging, that there are those in the spur of their patronizing attitude will go at great lengths to be bothered or annoyed with certain things beyond their comforts of normalcy.
if sickness is to offer a different point of view and perspective, or to affirm the frailties of the human spirit, or to embrace the absurdities of all of us, or to test the endurance of our capacity to be tolerant, or to blog by one delights, or to be true to the righteousness of exercising one's freedom of expression,or to remind us that we are imperfect and that we are enriched by our individual differences, then WE are sick. YES YOU TOO INCLUDED!
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i apologized, now its thanks!
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Aug 20, 2009 8:45 pm
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i had apologized, now i am saying thanks. thanks to those who read my blogs and left comments on my blogs negatively and otherwise.
some of the things you wrote on my blogs were eye openers, but mostly entertaining. entertaining in the sense that its affirms the frailties, inconsistencies, fallibility and the lack of grasp of the most obvious reason for blogging - to write one thoughts regardless how others see it or read it. instead some of you tried to bully your way or your thoughts into the deception of believing that you are above the prey - that in one embarrassing moment one must slap me silly so i could find myself on the ground. that by painting me sort of out of whack or psycho to say the least, you have endeared yourself to most and you have displayed the utmost civility - and perhaps reverend too!
the readers will be the judged and not i. i am just sharing you my thoughts, nothing but thoughts. no there is no defamation words or sentences in this blog. just my personal thoughts!
when i started blogging, it never occurred to me that i would have an effect on others - that they will find themselves too annoyed about the things i wrote and shared. i thought blogging is but a simple act of writing one thoughts - even if its provocative or out of the mainstream, it would not merit such characterization of one must see a shrink or have his or her values check and many other degrading characterization.
but who actually do you degrade? i have ignored such characterization, instead i thank you for the time spent in forming that characterization and the courage to share it with everyone.
were they annoyed by the things i wrote and shared, or they were never annoyed by my writings but in the manner by which i wrote and shared my thoughts? but what the difference? we can not separate one writings from oneself.
up to now it still boggles my mind. i still don't get it why others are annoyed or have that animosity towards me. i never for once characterized anyone by the way i have been characterized. but one thing though, i have personally characterized myself as conceited, arrogant and obnoxious. that should not come as a surprise to others. i was never deceptive and i was totally honest. at least i should be giving credits for that, right?
to those who read my blogs and reacted in whatever manner - bad or good or positive and otherwise. i thank you all!
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we equates ego with!
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Aug 18, 2009 9:28 pm
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"we all have it in varying degrees..some just have it in OBNOXIOUS proportions..that you would really hope that someone come forward to slap him silly so he can come to his senses..so as to PUT HIS FEET BACK ON THE GROUND.. people like that are really ANNOYING.."--- jeremslove
gee... that one sounds so FAMILIAR ...
...HOPE HE READS THIS TOO...
nice one sis! Pamela
here's my take:
i do! i do! and its very flattering. its very flattering that i am the substance of the blog. i read it so many times. i mean the thread or the blog. my sincerest thanks to the blogger! 
we equates egos with a lot of things. but mostly we refer to ego when we talked about others.
everyone of us has egos and its tied in with our own identity, and we can not live without such. others are magnified by the insecurities of others. i wonder what kind of ego one has when he is bothered or annoyed by the ego of others. 
why one would care? heck everyone has ego. others are minuscule and humbly accepting the peculiarities of others - and appreciative that everyone is different and that our differences enriches our diversities and ourselves.
i have a big ego and i must admit that willingly. but also i have big and unending capacity of being tolerant of others - accepting who they are and what they are and regardless how they are.
like others i have other qualities too that are only available to be shared and be felt by those deserving of those qualities, specially to those that are not bothered by my conceitedness, arrogance and by being obnoxious. they will see, felt and experience the humbling side of me and the qualities to be treasured. everyone of us has, but whatever treasure we have is not for everyone to see, felt and experience. we are all imperfect and discriminating in our tastes and in our options.
it takes ego to achieve a lot of things in life. you can never pass beyond the initial interview when applying for a job if we set aside our ego and said dyan ka muna! living life is a sequence of daily struggle of using and nurturing our ego.
even the simply wooing of someone we have feelings for and affection to - we need ego or we must muster our ego to show how much we like her. to say that we love her is a manifestation of one's ego.
i have never impose my egoistic demeanor to others. its just there to be noted or to be ignored. if you find others big ego distasteful and abhorrently annoying, what does it says about us - that we can not live among and even tolerant of those who are not in the comforts of our zone or totally different from us.
now what else are others going to say?. it doesn't bother me a bit! in the scheme of things i am perfectly happy with my big ego. how about you or the others?
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i apologize
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Aug 18, 2009 10:02 am
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things got heated on my blogs. comments that should not have been made was made. those who should not have gotten involved got involved.
its all my fault. i thought i was just provocative, that most everyone would just go about their lives and not be pissed off with my being conceited, arrogant and by being obnoxious.
but Carmi0403 and DonatoNY's nerves got busted and they have to say something not expected from someone who are rational in their thoughts and actions.
i apologize to Carmin0403 and DonatoNY because if not have been for my blog, they would not have uttered the heated words in my blog nor Jester PJ02 and Wayward-wind would made a comment on my defense.
i don't know if there are lessons learned. perhaps there is, that we must treat a blog as a blog and not personally offending anyone. i thought when i write of something i generalize except my own portrayal of being conceited, arrogant and obnoxious. and add show off there too.
my own personal solution is to be tempered in my blogs. but that's not my style. all i know is i am provocative but never directly attacking anyone or characterizing anyone. but if i do seem doing that, i apologize.
again i apologize. its all have been me. its my fault.
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i fervently hope they are!
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Aug 15, 2009 7:26 pm
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sharing with you the preamble of my blog written on the day i started blogging. i think its very relevant now and essential to be read considering their are barrages of condescending characterization of yours truly - short of, if they have their way, committing me to the abyss of mental destitute.
the sad part is, inspite of what they wrote and said, i have given them a measured and respectable response with admiration of the kind of person they are. but so with my own fallacy of assumption, would they be really respectable, dignified and humble in their day to day demeanor as i characterized them to be? who knows? but i fervently hope they are.
not in one word i portrayed them less of a person in my measured responses to them. on the contrary, i have put them on the pedestal as those type of person we long for and will treasure. again i fervently hope they are!
here its goes, my preamble: the fallacy of assumption.
"indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption."
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why are you overreacting?
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Aug 14, 2009 9:05 pm
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why are you overreacting? its just a blog and then since the beginning i have been so conceited, arrogant and obnoxious anyway in this forum or fff. what 's the difference now that you seemed so patronizing how i live my life. hmm maybe you just find me so deplorable and wacky that i merit your chasm. 
or perhaps you don't have the capacity to be tolerant of the idiosyncrasies of others, and the things that does not conform to your personal standards or values are therefore anathema to you. and its imperative that you must say something to have him or her or me toe the line of your thinking and absurdities. 
what does it says about us if every time we read a blog that sort of more than annoying, we try to depict and dissect his or her unusual abnormalities and paint him or her as grotesquely undeserving of our attention.
hmm its just a blog and should not merit more than a normal reaction. if a blog does bother us, then be engaging - but please let spare the personal characterization if we could. i said if we could, if not then be so it. let's fire our salvo at all cost! 
but after the salvo, what have you got in return? my personal humiliation at your hands i supposed ha? so be it that way, congratulations and i bow to you and perhaps to others too! 
but why visit my blogs, read it and then post your comments with the thinking and anticipation that it would force me to be reactive in a manner intolerant to you. heck i could ban you reading my blog if i want to, but no thanks. your thoughts like the others are most welcome and truly deserving of being read. it contributes to an engaging discussions if there are. otherwise, you thoughts deserve to be respected by all means.   
what if i brag a lot? does it diminish you as a person? does it take away from you something that's too valuable? does it make me a better person than you are? none of those! i repeat none of those because no one can take anything away from us and no one could be a lesser person than us. yes inspite of my braggadocio, i am not a better person than anyone. but i am still a person just like anyone else who could find comforts in being conceited, arrogant and obnoxious. 
no. the measure of a man is not how he brags about himself. not even in the manner he shares or blogs the way he lives his life and not even in the manner by which he is thankful of all the blessings he has in life.
to each his own and everyone is measured differently. there is no constant in all of us. each is uniquely different and have every right to present himself the way he likes or to live the life the way he does.
but anyway you had me blogging out of respect to your comments to one of my blogs. you truly deserve my tolerance. again i bow to you! if you wish too, i would genuflect to make you feel much better and then triumphant.  
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