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indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption.
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the diminishing enthusiasm to blog!
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Oct 7, 2009 7:47 pm
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i am blogging less and less. the last time i actually blog was 9/25/09. the two blogs after that was reposting of my blog "missing years" and the blog, "pride than anything else," was a cut and paste from a commentary regarding how life has been hard in the united states since the start of the global recession or economic mess, where there are now 15 millions americans jobless and countless homeless.
i guess there is such a thing as diminishing enthusiasm to blog. just like in most of our interest in life, there will be a time that such interest will wane and then kaput - and blogging is no exception.
what could be the primary reason or many reasons for such diminishing enthusiasm to blog?
on my part, acceptance perhaps that she would never find me here in my blogs. another is even if she finds me, i don't believe in ldr. so if she has to find me, she should be therefore around my vicinity or within flying time of two hours or less.
why love someone so distant? how would you nurture that? it is really worth the effort to fly a lot to the philippines in the process in nurturing that relationship and proving to her that i love her? i did that and i flew in 2002 and yet it did not materialize to a prolong and lasting relationship. so what is the success rate of my next ldr if i do consider that again? probably nil.
and then, its much harder to find a woman now that you can stay with forever. the world is so complex these days unlike the old days that when you marry someone you are married forever. women has now "expressive individualism" these days - they are demanding unrealistic level of fulfillment in marriage. when their sense of fulfillment wanes, many don't feel like being married anymore. their expectations are impossibly high and are all thinking too much. men who can not live up to their ideals, demands and expectations, decides to stay single instead. opps, this is not a good reason for diminishing enthusiasm to blog, i detoured.
or perhaps one reason i blog less and less is i found other things to do than blog or i went back to they way things are in my life before i blog. or have been busy following the teleserye on tfc like dahil sa may isang ikaw or lovers in paris.
however and whatever, i am still hoping that i will still blog regardless how infrequent it would be. its not yet that time to totally fade away. but someday i think it will!
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pride than anything else!
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Oct 6, 2009 4:09 pm
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Here’s something that should be of some consolation to us, particularly to the countless victims of Ondoy. Unemployment in the United States remains high and there are now tent cities outside New York, Chicago and Los Angeles and other urban centers put up by the homeless and the jobless of America.
My son, Vic, who fortunately still has his job in Los Angeles, told me that some jobless Filipinos, whose homes have been foreclosed by banks, also stay in those tent cities.
The American Dream is over and the US is no longer the “land of milk and honey.” I was actually shocked when I saw on tv that even river tunnels in Las Vegas are now occupied by people!
Thus, in a way, we Filipinos, who have been victimized by the Great Flood, are luckier than many Americans and even Filipinos, who are now jobless in the US. The reason these jobless and homeless Filipinos don’t want to come home is that they are ashamed to return. Santa Banana, it’s more out of pride than anything else!
Emil Jurado
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missing years!
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Oct 2, 2009 4:37 pm
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missing years! Aug 8, 2008 11:43 pm
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have you ever wondered about your ability to account for all the years that gone by? how about if you can't and you have missing years?
our lives should have point of references to remember the years gone by. others only point of reference were the relationship they had before. it could be just like the song, "to all the women that i loved before," that every women has to account for all the years gone by - for specific period or even prolong period perhaps.
i have so many point of references to account for the years gone by, but not necessarily about women. i never was the glamor guy or even flamboyant with women. i always have been the quiet type wanting to be found. the type of guy that could not express love in the manner profoundly understandable and in ordinary fashion.
i remember my first love, i was so destructive to myself that in my early teens of having felt that love - i was a drunkard and a heavy smoker and a gambler too. yeah i have those vices blended together that no women of her right mind would give me the benefit of the doubt, that i too have a promise of a future like anyone else.
i cant blame them. but now in any measures, i am successful in many respects and in few endeavors. but still lacking and empty in the endeavors of the heart. hehehehehehe!
i have missing years in terms of relationship. grade school, high school and college years were all missing years. i have no one to remember or to relate to that somehow someone loved me then. perhaps some did at a distance because of the enigma i had then. regardless, its still missing years.
how about you? how was your missing years?
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more than a week!
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Sep 25, 2009 11:42 pm
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i have not blog for sometime now, more than a week to be exact. i just don't know the reason why that it seems my desire to blog has waned. perhaps i do - to test my ability to detach myself from blogging extensively from time to time, which i guess i have proven to have done and able to. or perhaps in the process, my blogging did not serve me well by the manner by which i presented myself. there is no regret there, it was done on purpose. yes i am aware that there are many of you out there that think that i am all that - in the negative way. that you do not believe in the preamble of my blog, "the fallacy of assumption."
though i have not blog for more than a week, i have interacted and made comments on the few of the bloggers who i find interesting and who are openminded in their thoughts. yes i don't read all the blogs and i must admit i am too discriminating to read blogs. just like others i have the disdain for those who are pretentious and for those who thinks mightily of themselves and yet deceitful. once i sensed you are pretentious and no matter how great a blogger you are or how prolific writer you are or how profound your love of writing, you will never see me visit your blogs again.
yes i must admit that for too long most of my blogs had the arrogance of my conceitedness, but in all sincerity though they are all my thoughts (my blogs), but again the conceitedness and arrogance were done on purpose - to challenge the capacity of most women on how would they react in such a manner by which someone is unorthodoxly wanting to be found or presenting himself through his thoughts and blogs. i thought if someone likes me in spite of my pretentious conceitedness and arrogance, she is indeed a rare find and a treasure to have because she took her chances to unravel and to know the real me. i guess i have failed because until now i am still to be found by such a treasure who is willing to know me on her own terms instead of being dissuade or discourage by the fallacy of my pretension.
yes i do want to be found just like most of us or the others, but not in the manner that has been traditional.
i had made my attempts to find her, but in the process i failed because they have not meet my expectations of simply being willing to know me by being engaging in written thoughts (have not meet yet) or simply agreeing for a date (have met already). i am not the wooing or persistent type of guy. if i like you initially i will engage you in writing (not meet yet) or ask you out for a date (meet you) and see if we could find the chemistry between us or if there is something to look forward for or to discover and then develop.
women of ambivalence or those who would not take a chance on me are forever disregarded and never to be given a second chance again. for one thing, how would i know that i truly like you or vise versa if we don't even get together for a cup of coffee.
loving someone on my part is a process and its not that easy as 1,2,3 or falling in love right away. i am looking for a relationship and it must be a relationship that must work. love alone won't make it work. there are so many dynamics to consider and it will only be known through engaging thoughts or successions of dates of getting to know each other.
yes i am choosy and i know what i want. i guess i can afford to do that because i am happy with my life and even without her finding me, i would still be happy living my life. if she does find me, then i will be more happier.
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wine, daing, oatmeal and avocado!
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Sep 16, 2009 8:02 pm
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yes the last few nights now and to be exact three nights in a row, all i have for dinner is oatmeal, daing, red wine and avocado.
normally daing and oatmeal is serve or taken in the morning, but i rather have it at night. i guess i am trying to lessen my calorie intakes.
the hard part of the daing is cooking it. i have to cook it the same time with a steak so the stinking aroma of the daing will be normalize by the aroma of the steak. the idea was to prevent my neighbor to smell the stinking aroma of the daing and then also to at least make sure the entire house will not be smelly with the daing. yes i ate the steak 4 nights ago and then now still enjoying the daing.
i seldom eat steak or pinoy greasy foods. actually i don't even eat adobo. yeah i have been surviving on other types of food other than pinoy. i even seldom eat rice and i do not miss rice. but i like crispy pata and kare kare and of course sinigang. with the sinigang i like mostly are the vegetables. yes i do love vegetables.
i think i only have crispy pata about twice a year or during the visit of my youngest. she loves crispy pata too.
i love variety of foods but mostly not pinoy foods. of course i don't cook so i wind out most of the time eating out if i am yearning for a certain kind of food.
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i will miss
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Sep 14, 2009 1:48 pm
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no i will not miss a person. instead i will miss the teleserye that i watched at tfc regularly, which is tayong dalawa at dahil sa may isang ikaw.
because of my love of the game, i will be watching the game between the charges and raiders live at the stadium, instead of the teleserye. sometimes because of the love of the game, something has to give up.
its a monday night football and is telecast throughout north america. hmm if you happen to be watching the game, watch out because they may fleetingly focus the camera on the section i will be at. i am behind the goal line on section 130, row 22 and seat 8.
hope everyone has a great day.
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it will never be the same!
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Sep 13, 2009 11:45 am
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yes it will never be the same! no its not something about "that the only permanent is change." it not even something about being loved and having found by someone and loved or being disappointed about love.
for most american men who have the passion and love of the sports, it will never be the same until february!
today as i watched the ending of the 2nd quarter between my cowboys and the buccaneers, its the first big sunday of the football season.
so from now on and every sunday and even monday included and then at the middle of the season thursday included and then later at almost at the end of the season saturday included, it means most men will only officially interact with their families, loved ones and important others when their mind is not wired with the love of the game.
this is what differentiate the american men from the filipino men, the love of the game. more than any other sports, football captures the heart of american men more than a woman's heart and attention.
i am for the most part an american by acclimation. heck i migrated to the US through the US navy in jan 1975, so i have since acclimated myself and adapted the american ways including the love of the game.
i could not remember anything that captures a filipino psyche, passion and heart for a season or for a duration. yes they have the love of fight of pacman, but that's far and between and will not last forever. football and nba games are forever!
you see if you have a lot of interest in life or you embrace the seasonal changes in life, having someone is really could not that important. you just love someone when you can. but if she has too has the love of the game and can embrace seasonal changes, it would be an awesome relationship for american men and i included.
hey if you have the love of the game and can embrace seasonal changes, buzz me and let's get together! and then let me adore you and love you while we both enjoy the love of the game.
to the filipinos the way to their heart is food, to the americans is you loving their love of the game!
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great catch!
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Sep 12, 2009 10:43 pm
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great catch by definition could be a woman of many great attributes including outside physical beauty and then of many achievements including success in education, career and pursuit of material wealth or have attained material wealth and upscale social status.
great catch are mostly elusive, but its their own making and not for the lack of men admiring them or wanting them. its because they don't provide themselves the opportunities to get to know anyone specially those who on the surface seems not to meet the high standards and expectations.
men of achievements and wealth has something to offer and so does the men of simple living and lacking in material wealth and achievements. sometimes surprisingly the men who has less to offer in wealth and achievement make up for intangibles of truly loving and being devotedly loyal to you.
i have never pursued someone who is a great catch. i would rather pursue an imperfect woman such as a single mom or have less in life than i am.
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it is wrong not to be wished for!
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Sep 12, 2009 3:13 pm
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i wish! we wish! or someone wish! yes wishes is as normal as breathing the air. its almost part of our daily covenant with those who are our friends, acquaintances and even those who are not even near and dear to us - to wish for.
wishes is a magical word i supposed and it meant to mean well or to put someone in a higher stead.
when we wish something for someone, it could mean we feel her or his pain, or that we just accentuate his or her status being unfortunate of living by herself or himself with no one truly loving her or him.
when we wish someone for something, it could also mean that we validate how lucky we are compared to him or her or unknowingly we flaunt our own blessings, comforts in life or even achievements in life, and that she or he too deserve or should have the things we have or the love we have.
i wish not to be wished for. only my own wishes will matter and could come through. no one has control of our destiny except ourselves.
we wish others to be great in their relationship, it would never happen unless they work for it.
we wish others to find their own true love, but their heart is broken and don't even want to try to entertain or consider anyone. or if not for wanting to try, their standards have been high and mighty and no longer achievable. some say they can never go back to the same experience they have and then lump everyone not worthy to be loved. to shut everyone and to be high and mighty about oneself is a self-inflicted predicament that brings nothing but sorrows and despairs.
and through the passage of time, wishes are just wishful thinking and would never materialize. and then what happened later is that one becomes hopeless of many things.
i suggest that we should just live a life of abundance and contentment of whatever we have and stop wishing and then in lieu of - start living the reality of life and work for those things we like to have in life.
if someone would like to love you, then open you heart or open the opportunities for others to date you and get to know you. discard even the concept of first impression. validating the true character and worth of a person in not based on first impression or on a fleeting glimpse on such a person. its always been a process to get to know someone!
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i wish her well
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Sep 9, 2009 10:30 pm
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i went to the chatroom tonight and there is that one chatter with a handle of chuvanez. she really mesmerized me with her consistencies of calling me many names on the account of my blogs - from pervert to dirty old man.
i have not reacted in anyway but with all respect and admiration of the type of woman she was.
i thought i should check her profile and see who she is and what she wrote about herself. unluckily here profile was turn off.
i should not be blogging tonight, but out of respect for her and for appreciating her engaging thoughts in the chatroom, i dedicate this blog to her.
i wish chuvanez well and many successes in all her endeavors.
i never linger on the chatroom, but out of respect for her and to engage her in her many admirable qualities, i find myself there more than necessary.
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