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The fallacy of assumption
 
indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.

do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.

its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.

be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.

they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.

none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.

i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption.
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how long the feeling would last! Nov 4, 2009 6:19 pm
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recent calamitous events in the philippines had me thinking about my preference to live there in few years from now.

i thought there is no wrong or right answer if we choose to live in the philippines or abroad. but for me who has been acclimated living in the united states since 1975 and have adapted to the cultures and ways of america, its a slum dunk that my preference is here.

i thought about what awaits me in the philippines. i am sure its not always splendor and grandeur. of course living in the philippines will be good for the heart and the soul. but how long that feeling would last? would that be permanent?

there will be things that will annoy me from the mundane to the complexity of how things are done or live in the philippines. it will definitely annoy me that others are talking and texting inside the theaters. it will definitely annoy me the layers of corruption whenever a transaction is done. the city's pollution will definitely annoy me. the lack of discipline of disposing one's garbage will definitely annoy me. the unending extravagance of pinoys to spend their hard earned money on inuman and pulutan and the smokes everywhere will definitely not only annoy me but affects my health too.

the apparent differences in the manner the haves and the haves-not lives and interacts in the philippines will definitely annoy me. most of those who have or can afford to have finer things in life in the philippines have that sense of entitlement that those who have less are expected to give way to their capricious and demanding ways of living - that will definitely annoy me considering that i have live in a society that there is less or very minor disparity on how one is treated or served without having to base it on how much one have or earned or what type of car one is driving, or what achievements or a college degree one have. there is no illusionary perception here that because you are well dressed and well spoken, you are therefore have more money than those who are not well dressed and well spoken. the dignity of labor here is truly practice and appreciated and sometimes those who smells stinky and dirty earn more than those who are not.

but beyond the annoyance, the culture is rich and in abundance in caring, sharing, family values and the laughters even in the worst of times. i who have the money like others will definitely live like a king - gone are those days when i have to cook my own food, do my laundry and iron my clothes, wash the dishes and the many things that i toil with everyday.

one pitfall of living in the philippine is how to maneuver daily of refraining from being an ATM. i know that this area is a great challenge for me knowing that i am gullible and a sucker for those who had sad stories to share. even if they don't or won't ask or beg me for my kindness, its not that easy to walk away and ignore the predicaments of the many friends and relatives i have there. i have to help them and its the right thing to do because i have the means to help. but then the true purpose of living there in simplicity and abundance will be defeated by the constant needs of my friends and relatives.

but i know that the surest way for me not to yearn of living in the philippines is to share my heart and my means to live a good life in america with someone deserving of my love and affection. i will definitely pursue her after the holiday. its only when our heart are restless that we thought of living somewhere else and that living in the philippines is so inviting. america is my place because there is where my kids and grandkids are. AND ITS ALSO GOING TO BE THE PLACE OF THAT SOMEONE I WILL LOVE.
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