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indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption.
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maiba naman!
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Aug 16, 2008 8:26 pm
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sharing an email i sent to my boss today at work!
Mary,
I started this morning with 447 total pending cases and is now down to 379. I did my 50 cases, and others did some numbers to reduce my total pending. I can still do some more and reduce it further. The key for that production is I am happy and I did my unusual behavior of frequently being away from my desk without you asking where I have been and what I have done so far?
There are many who are too unhappy here for sometime now because there were too many words and actions that I thought should not been spoken or have been done, which was mostly focusing on the behavior. Sometimes we need to find the anomaly such as why is it that production is down or why is it that one has stopped doing overtime and why someone is sick and constantly being sick or why others are dreading to come to work now.
None of us has the purity of values, everyone including the President of the United States and the high and the mighty in the government have infractions greater than we do. So we should not focus about "my time or my money'" because its never been our money or our time. Its the taxpayers time and money.
Take the case of Sally who was late for 3 minutes and yet was asked to submit a leave slip.
I am sure that it dampened her spirit. But if it was taken care of the other way and said never mind and its okay, it would probably do wonders to her spirit. Things like that that dampened the spirit gets around. Jim doesn’t do OT anymore because of a dampened spirit. And others production are down as well.
You see management is not always about focusing on results or statics. If you left out the people and don’t take care of them making feeling good about themselves even in the best of time, they tend to do the other way - unproductive. Being people oriented is a plus in management. Believe me I was there for 20 years. Its just that I love being just a technician now devoid of handling personalities. I dont envy your job. Hehehehe! Its easy money being a technician being paid $$$$$$ a year. There is not enough money to pay me to be in management inspite of your nagging that I should accept the promotion of being in management.
The key to achieving success in management is to be a student of human behavior and accepting that everyone is different. That carrots and sticks approach does not apply to everyone nor the intimidation approach is the best approach to get results.
I hope you don’t mind me sharing my thoughts. It’s a constructive criticism. But I am just sharing it to you so you perhaps you may find it useful to correct yourself if you wish.
I hoping that my remaining time here, we are all will be as happy as I am today. It will definitely do wonders to my health and to my contributions to the agency. And will keep me surprising younglooking in the years ahead. You asked me what's my secret of looking young? Its in the attitude May among other things. Happy attitude.
Today inspite of my production, its still easy money.
Thanks for reading this.
Antonio
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dont have limitless ability
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Aug 16, 2008 2:29 am
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someone has caught my fancy and i am deviated from my desire to be found, and i made an attempt as suggested by others that i should make the move and then don't wait for the "new her" to make the move and said i found you - all i got is a thank you and inclusionary reason why we are all at fff which is shown below in quotation.
"Don't mention it, Mr. Younglooking. Thank you for the kind words. I welcome friendship here. I am sure this is one reason why most of us joined a site such as fff, right?  " someone
friends? i have a lot of those already and i dont have the limitless ability to nurture them. even at my work i am divided over loyalty whom to have lunches with everyday or coffee in the morning or who i would walk with during the breaks or who i would sent emails to and say hello and how are you, or who would i chat in person and be silly for the day.
its probably also the reason that i dont linger that much on the chatroom. i come and go without giving anyone to truly be familiar with me and me to be familiar with them - because i can not offer a lasting and nurturing friendship. its not just right to the friends i have now.
thanks for the offer of friendship, but its not the reason why i am here at fff for. but you caught my eye and i thought i let you know that i want us to find each other; and then together will attempt to deeply know each other with anticipation that someday we will be one.
i read your short note and in between the lines, i accepted the reality that you are not the one. but thanks anyway, you are honest and magnanimous.
sorry i am not here for the friendship. good luck to your accumulation of friends. again i have already a lots of friends and i have dont have the limitless capacity to nurture them all!
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my last hurrah!
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Aug 15, 2008 8:07 pm
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i am not a regretting person, but certainly i am a retrospecting person. i would like to revisit the past even though there's nothing i can do about it - to change it or even to manipulate it. some things are forever can not be undone, just like tearing apart a loving heart or giving up on a dream when and where the timeline to achieve it is so constrained.
but sometimes the yearning is too strong that i try to find out and aksed myself, did i do the right thing? yeah its just sort of reassuring oneself.
there is one thing that is sticking out like a sore thumb - my plan to quit my job this year, May 9 to be exact. it did not materialize.
i planned to quit my job because i wanted to do my last hurrah and i have savings that last me years enjoying a life of last hurrah. its sort of a vagabond life almost living a life like a bum, but a bum nevertheless that can afford certain amenities of life - women, wine and travels.
i thought turning 56, the opportunities to do a last hurrah is fading; and soon will be just a distant dream or something that can only be seen on a prism, or through looking at the horizon that will never give a definitive answer whatever is behind it. the horizon is never ending -its just a sight to see. nothing more!
i wanted to be a bum enjoying a last hurrah. last hurrah means that i will avail myself of the insanity of men for the last time - it could be jumping from one woman to the next, just for fun and not to seek refuge in love or in a relationship. its sort like a run away groom looking for the next bride - but forever may not acquisce (sp?) to such words as "let no man put asunder."
last hurrah meant a life of wanton abandon, carefree, rudderless and without direction. it could mean visiting the himalayas and experiencing the placidity of the place. i always wonder why folks in the himalayas are too serene and simple in living their lives. and why can't i? and why can't i be simple and settled instead of wanting or longing for a last hurray.
what have i done? was it the right thing to do giving up of my desire for last hurrah and then settle for just wanting to be found?
i hope you are my answer to forever not to retrospect on my unfulfilled last hurrah. find me!
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she does not like me!
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Aug 15, 2008 3:29 am
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"wrong approach to women i don't like you" sexymermaid.
is there any generally right and wrong approach to women? or to his each own. that we are all have the right approach to and with women in the manner that we want. or generally would it be that we apply our own concepts and comforts on how to approach or deal with all the endeavors in our lives - be it women, men or anything. that the only correct approach is the approach we personally take and are comfortable with. i am very comfortable in my approach of wanting to be found. what's wrong with that? unless of course ?????????
regardless that the approach is towards men or women, i thought really, there is no right or wrong approach. what matter is how comfortable we are with our own approach - that it what makes us who we are, perhaps different but not extra-ordinary. nevertheless its us and only us that can make and execute our own approach.
what if they deslike us? would it change anything? would it dampen our spirit? would it make us a lesser person? what kind of a person are we if we live our lives just wanting to be like? personlly i think we would be nuts and perhpas freaks if we predicated living our lives being like or likeable. life for the most is just living our lives not predicated on others thinking, but only of our own.
there are many things in our lives that we dont have control of, one of those is the likeability (sp?) factor. i you dont like me, then good for you and i hope you can live with that.
i dont believe i can deslike someone. perhpaps i could subtlely distance myself from someone or not be fond of her or him. but to dislike is bringing animosity to that person and to oneself too. i dont have time for animosity which will accelarate my aging process. i am younglooking because i dont dwell on stuff that on the scheme of things does not matter. i like to keep it that way.
the kindness of our heart is truly express in the way that we live our lives, and one of those is not minding if we are going to be dislike. being like of course is a remarkable welcome attention given by someone that will make us feel much better about ourselves and reinforce our feelings that we ar doing well or have done well. but if we are too sure about our own happiness and even our own sanity, being like or deslike would not matter that much.
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queen of my soul!
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Aug 14, 2008 6:22 pm
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"di ka naman conceited nyan??? lolz
that's why i dont wanna follow ur blogs
u might say...i like u lolz
right???marie???" smiley57
conceited? far from it. its just a new approach. its part of the process of wanting to be found. if you are interested, therefore we can clear that right of the bat if i am or not interested too. but i will not keep you from reading my blogs. you are definitely always welcome to read it and leave comments here and there. your comments maybe short, intermittent and perhaps sarcastic; nevertheless its truly welcome.
at least i am honest and you have to give me credit for that.
women has come a long way in wanting equality, and yet some still want to remain the way there were in the process of being loved or loving someone. you can not have your cake and eat it too. you either accept the "new you" or go back to the way its been. you can not be in between and you have to be proud of the "new you" willing to take that risk of making the first move - unafraid and yet forceful of getting what she wants and deserves.
but most have accepted the "new them" and have become likewise blatant in their approach. if they want something or want to be notice by a guy and win his love, they go for it regardless how they will be perceived and then without no second thoughts - and they win. those i thought are the women of these days, others are pretentiously living a double standard. which one are you? i rather have the "new you" unpretensious, and yet sensual, loving, affectionate and loyal.
i have a reason to be this way, i am 56 and therefore sort of wanting to be devoid of the process of prolong wooing of someone. i thought that there is nothing wrong for the "new you" to approach me initially and convince me that we are meant to be together. if my approach is not acceptable to the "new you," it wont make a dent in the way i am. i believe i can still live a happy life minus the relationship i truly deserve. conceited if may seems, nevertheless its my approach and therefore as in Invectus said, i am the master of my soul. but you can be the queen of my soul and you may by being a "new you."
but i know someone "new you" out there is willing to embrace my approach and its just a matter of time that we hook up with each other. and bingo it would be our enduring journey together to love each other with passion, committement, loyalty and all those things that are good for the heart!
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tell me if you like me!
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Aug 14, 2008 1:28 am
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how many times you need to visit and read my profile and thought i am more than interesting? how many times you need to read my blogs and thought i am intelligent, kind, sincere, stable, matured and wonderful?
the answer is when? now! the answer is where? is in your heart! if you believe that my blogs are real, sincere and from the heart, then you must at least considered me even in just a fleeting moment, not only as friend but a potential treasure that will fulfilled your heart and your longing - that i more than others is a perfect match that will give you an enduring love.
if i am captivating your heart, would it be a folly to say, hmmmm i am interested? would it be folly and even unladylike to make the first move? i am here to the be found and then taken, but if you dont take the initiative, then forever somehow you may be troubled by your lost in translation, by your lost in connectivity and most of all by your inability to pursue and seek that important thing that matters to your heart. to love me and us and the rest of our time together.
if you have followed my blogging, by now you have more than enough of glimpsing into my soul. what you read were real, they were thoughts from the heart. and its time to decide and makes the move! please before its too late for you!
i will be patiently waiting, tell me if you like me!
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they come as bastos!
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Aug 13, 2008 5:25 pm
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"anyways, to find a good friend he or she must be like me has the same passion same agenda in life and goals that everyone of is wants to accomplish and to those of you who has no respect with others I can only wish for your own success in life and you know who you are so do yourself a favor ! please do what makes you happy and leave people who has good intentions .take care all! sexyE" sensual
a good friend? what do you mean? good intentions in what ways? good friends and good intentions are hard to define. you have a least do the premise to yourself and find out what are you looking in a friend or what makes then good friends and with good intentions.
i dont have a faintest conception of who good friends are. they come in many forms, sometimes they come as bastos or have this unendearing qualities about themselves, but somehow along the way when given the chance to have themselves unravel - that they have as others do, a remarkable characteristic or admirable character of what a true friend is. you will miss out on knowing and enjoying good friends if you are closeted initially in your approach and only want those that mirror yourself or someone that could bend over backwards for you. or you are pissed off right off the bat!
i would not by any intentions wish my friends to be a mirror or a reflection of who i am. i want them to be in many colors with the capacity to compliments me and provides me even the most annoying criticism of my life. most of my good friends are women. they do bring me a different perspective of life. they too loves me as a friend because i could provide them a men's perspective on their nagging question of the day.
i have been a confidant of few of my women's friends whose secrets i will bring to the grave.
we can not judge a person at the outset that they are not capable of being good friends or having good intentions. it takes time to know someone and to find out their true intentions. but if you put a barrier right away and feel that animosity towards a person without giving her or him the benefit of the doubt, then you will be hard pressed to find a good friend.
i guess i could not be your friend because you may find me too abrasive and too outspoken for a guy. but others will, i will welcome their friendship regardless who they are.
good luck in your search of a true friend.
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prolific lover!
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Aug 13, 2008 2:32 am
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"I am most of the time frustrated about myself. If there is something that I wish to write about, it is usually when I am out and not infront of my computer but when i am ready to spill my heart out, sleep deprivation and my poor eyesight has already taken the best of what I have to share. I am envious of people who are very good in writing despite of some powerful elements that might surround them." ms anonymous
you are trying way too hard to write. the technique of writing is never to think about what to write. you have to be just consumed by the moment and then let the thougths begins. or read other blogs and see if you can muster reaction from within yourself and then before you know it you are writing something that makes sense, and even if its not - you are writing nevertheless.
writing is not about the destination, its mostly the journey that is important. try to enjoy the ride no matter how painstaken it would be. dont even pay attention to correctnessof grammar or the correctness of the spelling. focus on conveying of the thoughts - its all that matters regardless how insensible you are.
you are either a writer or you are not. but you can be and anyone can. i myself is perplex how others can be good as they are in the manner they write and convey their thoughts. its seems they have that magical touch that whenever their fingers touch the keyboard, everthing seems so easy that they can compose the most sensible thoughts they can share. prolific they say when one has the ability to quickly share their thoughts in writing. but we need not too. just the simplicity of our thinking maybe do the wonders for us in our ability to convey our thoughts. yeah writing is conveying thoughts, no more no less.
i dont know where my ability to write came from? it could have be a gift from HIM because sometimes there are moments that i can write, which the results seems unbelievable that's its hard to believe that it was me who wrote such almost a masterpiece - in my thoughts i supposed.
yeah i write without thinking way too much. but i wish i can apply the same approach in the matters of my heart. i could be the prolific lover in the world. i hope so. its not too late.
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sharing an excerpts
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Aug 12, 2008 7:58 pm
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sharing an excerpt email with friends.
Padi Raffy, there is only one obusan in our class and she was the love of my life then. hehehehehehe! but she was not our valedictorian. perhaps you thought about the obusan in vinzons one year our junior. she was the one i was referring too in my missing years - our obusan and not the one in vinzons. heheheheehe!
our valedictorian is myrna castro, salutatorian is carmina villaluz and ist honorable mention is dan orendain.
even now that i have proven myself of my scholarly demeanor, i would never then aspire to be our valedictorian. but it makes me wonder sometimes that i could have been the validectorian had only i applied the same discipline in my studies during my tenure in the navy. yeah the navy funded my education for my two years of college sending me as a full time student provided my grades were As and Bs and with a gpa of no less than 3.50 ( i guess 1.25 sa pinas ata). and the rest i took in upon myself whenever time is available to pursue the american college degree - mostly at night and when i was in shore duty. the navy also sent me to the naval war college senior enlisted leadership academy and was also a distinguished graduate there.
i had a great life then just an ordinary student as far as grades are concern because i had availed myself of other activities and was passionate about student politics. its must have been i have more passion than you are and our other two antogonist for the presidency that's why i won.
those nights i spent with my barkadas whiling and squandering our time were priceless and could never be measured by mere achievement of a great scholastic standing. i was also then engaged devotedly to playing basketball that at one time because of my radical retorts to miss peneyra i was given a grade of 65 in good manners and right conduct. would you believe that my final grades in english is 75 in our 4th year? but that's another story why? i didnt deserve that i know. i am sure that i am the only sgo president graduated with a grade of 75 in english. hehehehe. what a shame ha?
i have two personalities then, i am not too shabby about getting decent grades but i was great and connected so well with so many outside the academic realm. its probably one of the reason too why i won the presidency. i have the charisma and also the intillegence. hehehe. but so are you, but of lesser charisma i guess padi.
ms peneyra is my first class right after the noon break. however i always showed up on that class sweaty and smelly after playing basketball at high noon. she always pinched me everywhere she can managed and at that one fleeting day that i had enough of that suffering and embarassment, i retorted and said which is better madam, playing basketball or gambling.
so when are you going to share us your missing years padi? by the way our 40th reunion is on the planning stage already. it will be good to see you there after 40 years. padi antonio
--- On Mon, 8/11/08, raffy manuguid <
From: raffy manuguid
Padi antonio,If I remember it right,our valedictorian before was Obusan..(a lady)..Mga tugang...specially sa new members na dai pa nakakaaram.. Padi Antonio was my arch nemises (?) in CNHS student politics..he he he..and I can proudly proclaim that the only loss he gave me was the presidency of the SGO..ha ha ha....(he was not reelected though..ha ha ha) ..Keep on unraveling yourself Padi..specially the mysterious parts and discreet love affairs..I'll follow ..he e he...Padi Raffy
--- On Mon, 8/11/08, Antonio Mago
From: Antonio Mago
Padi Tj,
padi correction, i was never a valedictorian. i was the student government organization president. and i was never imprisoned because i was ever to elode the authorities through the help of my father who rushly smuggled me out of the province. but many of those who were with me fighting for the cause where imprisoned in a camp somewhere in between daet and san vicente.
but along with Guinto (he lives by the daet riverbank with a printing press then) i was a big cacth because i was solely responsible for the first rally and demonstration that happened in daet in which i burned the effigy of marcos and then the pc provincial commander. just for historical footnote padi and not for bragging purposes.
in the process i had a walked in the woods with my father that begged me to pursue an immediate and drastic transformation from being idealistic student leader to being a pragmatist aware of the pitfalls of a continues folly embarking in a journey that will end my young life. the paradox of which is, i listened to my father and i embraced america and served in the united navy for 26 years. and by embracing that unwilling journey, i became perhaps the oldest camarinestorian attaining an american college degree at a age 48, graduated cum laude from park university.
here you go Padi, antoher unraveling of me. hehehehe!
padi antonio
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its never wrong to lust!
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Aug 11, 2008 4:22 pm
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the leverage of who we are! yeah that is the one that we must bring into the table, to be taken and then sold - and never to be browsed, sorted, pinched, gawked again as sort of a merchandise to be bought.
yeah taken forever because of who we are!
we should never sell ourselves short. we must by virtue of our leverage through knowing who truly we are and what we wanted from someone, we make ourselves only available to the truly deserving and then love her in the fashion truly passionate and romantic.
each of us has something to bring into the table. but for the most part we tend to ignore those things and blindly surrender ourselves to the calling of the heart and perhaps lust.
lust and heart are two different things. lust is a measure of conquest. of exciting proportions mired in eroticism and multiple orgasm. its never wrong to lust. men are supposed to lust, its part of men's mystique and is embedded intentionally so he would be able to experience excitement to himself and then share it with his partner.
even at my age, i am still in the pursuit of excitement. but only excitement within the purview of love and exclusivity.
i have a great leverage,but its for you to find out.
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