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indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption.
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Sep 2, 2008 12:35 am
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about being single? its actually very comforting being single and there are many derivatives benefits as such as answering to no one, not being confronted by daily issues of relationship. simplicity such as what to eat is so easily achievable and enjoyable. i am sorrounded by friends and young women the most. i engage and interact and be silly with young women everyday. so i have dose of everyday companionship here and there - but i dont bring them home and sometimes be miserable instead.
i guess its also the secret of my staying young because of the freedom i have and the lack of stress of being in a relationship. the other stuff, in my age i get by regularlty here and there. hehhhhehe! and then i thought about my capacity to totally surrender myself - and imagine if i could, it could be a life of bondage and misery - who knows?. but deep inside i do yearn for the right woman to come along and love me so devotedly.
then i prefer young women, hehehhee! but if you paste my pic and her pic on a canvass, it doesnt look right. so its juz a preference. hehhehee. i guess i want her but i want freedom too. but no woman in her right mind would like that, unless its an arranged relationship - vis a vis i guess or quid pro quo. hehehehe! and there are some specially whenever i visit the philippines. hehehehee!
its different for men than women to be single, its still very explorative even in very old age. hehehehe. women for the most part wants stability. but some men as well, but like the edwards and the kennedys - they astray as well. just like the governor of new york, i have been a client number 9 here and there. but the difference is they were in a relationship and i was not. but i am hoping i would soon and truly experience the beauty of being in a loving relationship. and the sex too is not meaningfully enjoyable, but its something i must have in the absence of meaningful sexual relationship. hehehehehee!
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devoid of complications of life!
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Sep 2, 2008 12:11 am
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from antonio
Carmina, my problem is how do we sustain it? is it a one time endeavor and that we would have one scholar only? who said i want my name emblazoned? its not my name or anyone's name if we prefer to have something tangible or concrete. i prefer it to be juz CNHS batch '69 only. i am already far cry from immortalizing my name. in retrospect it was already written in the annals of our history whether remembered or not during my days of youthful activism.
the only thing that matters to me now is living a life of simplicity devoid of many complications of life. hehehheehe!
i agree in investing in the mind and i am sure it would have multiplier effect, if not residual for that matter to the beneficiary of the scholarship. but i would like to see a clarity of purpose and sustainability of our endeavor.
how do we fund the scholarship?
antonio
> Date: Mon, 1 Sep 2008 18:12:16 -0400
> From: carmina
> The reason for the scholarship is to invest on a great mind that would otherwise go to waste because of the lack of money. The return? Knowledge that we have taken out one person that would otherwise become part of a statistic of people with a dim future. The criteria can be established by us in collaboration with CNHS faculty who can better define the community need. This would include expectation after graduation ie as in how to give back to the community as part of the scholarship expectation. The beneficiary should be anybody who meets the scholarship criteria. I do not believe that a relationship or connection with a 1969 graduate should be part of that criteria.
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> I have really not much interest in having my name emblazoned on a stone. I much rather invest on a person who can then give back to a country/community that needs a lot of help. I think it should be enough that we know that we helped. As we cannot help everyone, we can at least help one or two depending on what we can afford. As they say pass it forward. Collectively we have so much to be thankful for that we could share unselfishly with others.
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> If you all decide to pursue this as a class project, I can volunteer in collaboration w/ a partner locally in PI in establishing the criteria and in exploring the logistics on how this can be administered.
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> Carmina
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i agree with carmina about visiting folks in office, what for? i rather spend those moments, you know - to my journey of rediscovering my friends. heheheheehehe! and filling the gap of my missing years too!
hmmm scholarship? how sustainable would it be for 4 years? what are the mechanics and the selection process? would it be somone related to class 69? i am willing to pledge 10,000.00 pesos a year for the scholarship. but would that be something that will remember as forever?
i know that the initial section of the flood control project along the banks of cnhs is still there. but my name seemed eroded already ( i visited it the last time i was there to see if my name was still there) heheheheeh. perhaps a rededicaton of that project with class 69 embedded again will do the trick or a waitingshed perhaps.
how about instead of a 10,000.00 pesos for 4 years for scholarship, i donate 20,000.00 pesos for a construction of something that will last a life time with our class 69 ingrained? then others can contribute as much as they can afford, then perhaps a cutting ceremony will do the trick as the start of our reunion. we can invite during the cutting ceremony whoever the power that be in daet for news publicity if we want to. but it would not be necessary.
its suffice that we have done something for the community. that what matters and not the splendor of being glorified.
just a thought!
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antonio
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life of simplicity!
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Aug 31, 2008 9:46 pm
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classmates,
i am very impress by the thoughts and efforts being put forth in our forthhcoming reunion. i wish i still have the skillful stamina of a
coordinating mind pregnant with many ideas.
i have changed. i am no longer the leader i was once and i have been apolitical in many respects for many years now.
as i aged, i embrace the life of simplicity and less stress. i am sure i could not be counted on all the endeavors (sp?) of our reunion. the
limited time i have, i would like to be more focus on the journey of rediscovery and filling the blanks of my missing years.
priceless i thought if i just spend my entire time during the reunion into something more profoundly endearing - and that is to share you how my life has been and then also listen to everyone personal stories of triumps (sp?), disappointments and the remaining unfulfilled expectations in our years ahead.
but we can never go wrong with being civic minded and make a contribution to the community where we mostly spent our youthful rites of passage. count me in but only on a limited basis.
antonio
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a good prelude to love!
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Aug 30, 2008 11:56 pm
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is getting to know someone a good prelude to love? and how long would that getting to know stage should be? in the process of getting to know someone, would you feel for him in days, in weeks and how about in 3 months?
i thought love is about feelings and that what you felt initially is good enough to feel that you love her or will love her? i guess i am wrong because there are things that absolutely i could not love in a woman regardless of how i felt initially about her - smoking, gambling, not down to earth, keeping up with the joneses and etc. so therefore as i admit that i am wrong in my premise, i am now subscribing to the idea of getting to know someone and vice versa.
i believe now that the kilig factor is just a part of loving someone. the kilig is the basis of initial attraction towards a greater propensity of loving someone. now i know that i cant love her unless i know her and accept everything about her.
i am now in the process of knowing someone; and we agree on the timeline of 3 months, and by then she promised that she will tell me in that span of 3 months if the kilig factor and the acceptability factor is there for her. and the process just barely begun and therefore the ending is still too distant. but they say time is fleeting and therefore the verdict is just around the corner. hope so.
and then after 3 months she dont feel anything for me, then i have the option to fade away and never to bother her again. and then perhaps reinvent myself and embark on a different journey such as doing the last hurrah (see my blog on last hurrah) and forever be in the company of women only good for the goodtimes and not for relationships.
i believe i am capable of such journey and money is no object, but i rather be in a loving relationship.
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the fallacy of catching a good man!
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Aug 30, 2008 10:02 pm
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"For me, a GOOD and a RESPECTABLE man can be seen in his CHARACTER and PERSONALITY. If he was a very LOVING, POLITE, and RESPECTFUL son to his parents and to his siblings, and for all the women that he was interacting with everyday of his life.. HE IS THE MAN MY DEAR. For me, it is not the man's career or good looks that makes him attractive. But it's his "PERSONALITY and CHARACTER", and of course the CHEMISTRY that you share with each other. And if you happens to meet this kind of a guy, GRAB him my dear women friends..HE IS JUST ONE OF A KIND NOWADAYS!!!He will LOVE YOU FOREVER.. And he was a GOOD CATCH to be brought home for your parents or the whole family and relatives to see and meet.GOOD LUCK TO ALL.. AND HAPPY CATCHING!!!" cluelessSunshine
how would you truly know that he is loving, polite and respectful? what if he is good in putting a facade? what if he is a con artist who is very skillful in showing to you that he is loving and polite to his parents, siblings and in interacting with women of everyday of his life, yet deep inside he has an almost a hidden ostracized personality? what then? would he still be a good catch?
good catch it seems is the key word by which women define the quality of a man that they wanted to have a relationship with. what if the good catch is just a temporary qualities of a man and then suddenly he turned out to be different? what then?
and how many men by definition are a good catch? what if there are only few of them, what then are the options of the rest of the women in finding a relationship? would settling for less than a good catch is good enough?
the world is replete of examples of the fallacy of catching a good man based on personality and character. kennedy, edwards, clinton and many known men thought to be of good character and personality were proven to be unfaithful and philanderer.
i believe that all men are capable of being decent, loving, caring, loyal and devoted to the right woman - regardless by definition of being a good catch. i believe that there are men who have proven themselves to be a good catch inspite of initially being doubted to be such.
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you are getting me confused!
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Aug 29, 2008 10:43 am
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Quoting younglooking55:
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ladies, you dont need to fall in love. needing is a word that you must not used about love. love is something your feel and you feel it for the right person and in the right moment.
maybe its a woman thing to have the need to fall in love. probably because love for you is a sorting out process - to feel and find out kung sino sa mga suitors ninyo ang deserving. i dont have the need to fall in love, i just fall in love in the most unexpected ways. and when i do fall in love, i am exclusively loving her.
i am in the point now of loving her. she is pretty, intelligent and she doesnt have all those things that i abhor in a woman - smoking, gambling, not down to earth or pretension. i thought she is the real her. one thing i like about her too is that she really does not want to relocate dito sa america. that would be a nice thing kasi i have this yearning to live naman sa pinas kahit man lang a year or two. some women will demand right off the bat na dito na kaagad kami.
one thing good about her too is she is openminded, meaning she is willing to listen and then compromise. but i wish she could love me too and hopefully soon. hehheehehehheehe!
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Being in love is a wonderful gift and people should fall in love coz it is truly the best thing that can happen to anyone. However, falling in love is not to be rushed otherwise it crushes you. We have to really know a person before we commit and totally get involved...this one I learned the hard way. And most importantly, both of you should be in love with each other, di ba?
Thank you, Antonio.
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i really dont believe in knowing a person, i guess that's a woman thing again. or perhaps its a men too. but i am not such.
if i love her, it doesnt matter who she is or what her past was. i believe i am capable of loving her kahit na GRO siya or have many failed relationships o maraming anak. if i love her through knowing her, then it will just add value to the trust i rely on my heart that it will do the right thing for me.
i guess there is nothing wrong in knowing a person before loving her. but in my case, i would love to love her first and then just knowing her second. but i guess i could be wrong because i dont want her to be smoking, gambling, not down to earth, not forgiving, and etc. what if she is? would i still love her? but its not healthy to be in love with someone who smokes and gambles. heheheheheehe!
hmm its the fallacy of my heart or the paradox of loving someone? now you are getting me confused. it cud be because of love or that i love her na? hehehehe
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age difference!
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Aug 26, 2008 9:43 pm
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Age difference is an adolescent worry: When you're a teenager, an age difference of even two or three years makes a vast difference in your experience and your outlook on life. Such a difference can interfere with communication, life goals, outlook, and relationship experience. In addition, for the young, the social reaction to such a relationship is often negative. If one partner is underage, a sexual relationship is even against the law.
But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A 10-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship.
Don't focus on an arbitrary numbers difference in your ages. If you are getting along, you have good communication and problem solving, and you love each other, that's a precious thing, and far more important than any age difference could be. If other people have a problem with it, let it be their problem.
Whether or not a relationship is healthy is not determined by age differences, but by the interaction between the partners. A 10-year difference is not too difficult to bridge, but a 20-year differences or more in age can lead to some difficulties as the partners get older. For example, the younger partner may mature and reconsider his or her choices, or an older partner may confront aging problems much sooner. But, as long as both parties are adult, and the couple has talked about their age difference and the future possibilities, I don't make judgments about their respective ages
DISCLAIMER! ABOVE WERE NOT CONCIEVED BY MY OWN THOUGHTS. SOMEONE WROTE IT, I JUST DONT REMEMBER WHO. SORRY!
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4 times the other Man!
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Aug 24, 2008 6:48 pm
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"The point I'm making here is I've seen it happen so often where ppl are breaking up because they've found someone on the net and it seems to happen very pretty quickly too!! And I've watched a neighbour go through the same she was in a long term marriage and he met someone on the net and took off! I was also thinking about relationships and net usage just for chats ect but fact is does it stay at just chats or form a new love.. for your computer!" cluelessSunshine
dont blame it on the internet. if you make a survey or do a cohesive study, you will find that the internet is a miniscule reason for breaking up or having an affair. with million of pinoy/pinays, you can count only into hundreds who are member of this site. it wont even be a thousand. just in ELR, how many in a given time you think are chatting? how many are new and how many are there forever still yearning for their first affair?
i have been 3 times the other man, 4 times if you count the rendezvous (sp?) i have with a married woman on an accidental date. and those 3 times were before the advent of the internet. only the last time 7 years ago now that the internet was a part of the process, but only to profess my love. on my part, i was not having an affair. i was single and i love her inspite of being married and having two kids.
the other 3 i did not initiate the affairs. they did and i was just a willing participant because i have no else that i love at that time anyway.
no! i am not going there again and its just now a part of my experience. and then perhaps its the reason i am no longer too trusting about love - that any hint or suspicion that she is playing the field, i will dump her in a heartbeat and not to be heard or seen again by her.
if i have her or into a relationship with her and I LOVE HER and then she started giving me alibis that do not make sense or spending considerable time on the internet - I AM GONE WITH NO IFS AND BUTS. i wont buy the reason its a friendly chat. that's how guarded i am now. and you cant blame me because i have the experience under my belt being the other man.
to the woman that i will love, chatting and the internet will be a thing of the past - if we both nurture together the love we have for each other.
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thoughts i shared with her!
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Aug 24, 2008 9:44 am
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maybe the arrogance on my posting is a sorting out process that only SHE that will take the chance to know me who really i am will win my heart or the one i will pursue. but i like arrogance in a woman in the manner she projects herself.
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> the best thing to see how i look is through the webcam. i dont think that they are wrong, those folks who have seen me in person and on the webcam - that i am younglooking than my age. but its for you to see and judge.
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> maybe you are not reading my blogs between the lines or maybe you have made the fallacy of assumption already that you are blinded to read the other stuff in my blog including my humility and my kindness.
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> major incompatibilities for me are you smoke, you gamble, you keep up with the joneses and spending beyond the means, you are not flexible and not compromising that you cant even ride the jeepneys and trycicle and you stay away from the less fortunate - and of course among all, you will take me for granted when you are with your friends or they have a higher priority than i am. another is i am very indulgent on dinner and movies on the weekend and travels. and i believe in dying broke which means that i have enjoyed life and been generous to others and specially to the one i love.
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> i would like to see you in the webcam at this early stage before we totally consumate our friedship and then nurture it to something more beautiful and profound. and then for you also to find if by looks i am acceptable to you.
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physical and verbal abuse? i had never hit my kids, but i did raise my voice on occasion and said something nasty, but who has not? but i am not an abusive person physically and verbally. i have a long tolerance for things that bothers me, specially now at my age that i like to live a healthy life and then a longer life sana like into my 90s. things that i can not solve or find the answers, i just let it go. i guess its also part of the reason why i am younglooking is because i am not an abusive person including the way i live my life. for most things in life, i have a moderate and reasonable approach.
i am really thankful for being blessed in many ways, but like everyone else, we cant have everything. if i found a woman that i like and will love me devotedly and accept me for who i am, that's an icing on the cake and i cud not wish for more.
roving eyes, i maybe guilty of that sometimes just to appreciate beauty that passes through, but i can keep myself in check. that thing i thought is natural for men and even women i think, but its not wrong unless one is pre-occupied by it. my heart will be exclusively yours, but not my eyes. it has to appreciate other physical beauties sometimes. hehehehehehe!
i really would like to see you soon in the webcam so i could confirm to myself if i should pursue you the pinoy way if you want, then i could be exclusively yours - even just a friend for the meantime. and when that happens, there is no need for me to visit the fff or being in the chatroom. i never linger there anyway.
with you and other stuff in my life, my plate will be full and would be a waste of my time to blog and to chat. i rather spend it with you and other stuffs that really matters a lot and more endearing to the heart and to the way i live my life. i still would like to read, to stroll, to walk, to watch tv and movies, to cook, and to do household works - with all those other stuffs, do i really have time to yearn to be at fff? maybe infrequently to say hi to those i have befriended in the chatroom.
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its not all about love!
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Aug 20, 2008 9:22 pm
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i find it hard to appreciate most of the blogs. there are no personal stories to share or unraveling of themselves, and even events in their lives for that matter are not even shared.
mostly are, mostly are poetrys, saying or statements and quotations from others. i wish somehow they elaborate in their own thougths on whatever poetry or quotations do they share - and provide meanings in their own words - and its significance in their own lives or why they are sharing it with us. or why such poetry is so beautiful?
but there are some that do, but very infrequent. i was hoping that those do shares something about themselves or who narrates their experiences about their lives must frequently do so. i would endearingly love that.
i must admit that i wish MsAirhead continues to share her thoughts. i was flabbegasted about how she shared her thoughts about the unconditional love of her newphews. it was pictureques (sp?) at best in my thoughts and even in my heart. i guess i am a sucker for touching stories such hers.
maybe blogging is not only about providing testomonial about our lives or sharing our experiences in life. its different for everyone i guess, and that i must willingly admit. to each his or her own then!
but i guess blogging is useful if we want to find what others thought about something, just like the question raised by SenseOfHoney regarding prenups. answer to such questions i guess will provide sort of pulse or idea about how pinays have came of age and realized that in relationship - its not all about love.
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