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indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption.
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Jan 24, 2009 9:04 am
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"does a man feel good when he makes a woman cry? if not, then why does he do what he does even if he knows that what he does will result in tears & heartbreak?" pink thighs
yes and no, depending on who he is. but for the most part, men does not intentionally makes a woman cry and we do feel bad when we see a woman crying.
and how do we make you cry? its because we fade away and gradually end the relationship or we tell you upfront that its over. because by nature women are deeply emotional, we are in a loss-loss situation because we are not sure about the reasons and the validity of your crying.
why do you cry? and why do you cry even for the smallest shortcomings or infractions? we are imperfect as everyone else and for the most part we act and think objectively and we can sometimes detached ourselves from the enormity of emotional quandary.
if we always act on the premise that we should not let you cry, then we are hostage to your cryings and emotions and we will never let go of ourselves even when the relationship is already toxic and we have no longer feelings for you. would that be fair? would you rather have us stay in a toxic and cold relationship because we dont want to see you cry? who would want that?
it cut both ways, you leave us too even in our most endearing moments and great expectations. some of us cry, some of us get drunk, some of us blame ourselves and agonize forever for a love that we thought have gotten away for whatever reasons. so why do you get us drunk?
i am in a quandary lately and have fade away and i am sure i have made her cry many times (if her feelings is for real). but i have my reasons to fade away (see my blog putting it on hold)primarily that i am not capable of being in a relationship lovingly and responsibly for now. would you still want me in my period of quandary?
i have too much in my plate lately and by prioritizing the things that matter most to be, i rather detached myself from emotional uncertainty for now.
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not a public menace!
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Jan 23, 2009 2:54 pm
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sharing a letter i wrote for my fraternity for a great cause.
My Dear Brods and Sis, i wonder if you are not going to be touched by the solicitation letter below for assistance of any kind. the manpower are in place, however the other resources are not.
again acna is spearheading the cause together with other alumni groups in conjunction with our bi-annual convention in boracay, but the spirit and the manner it will be done is about us in totality, our fraternity Alpha Phi Omega.
little amount $1, $5, and $10.00 if done collectively and donated by many will amount to a bigger amount that will result to the success of the endeavor unseen before and paticipated by many. but the most endearing success perhaps that we will feel and linger in our hearts forever is that we have been a participant and have willingly help.
this is the worst of times for us being branded as a gang, but we collectively helping the success of the medical and dental mission, there is no greater opportunity than now to show to the public that we in fact are men and women of honor and service.
we must show our force in the manner unseen before to show to the public that we are not a public menace but a noble participant in what is good and sublime. hope to see you all in thousands in the juncture of the medical and dental mission.
so wherever you are brothers and sisters, this is a cause and project to bear and therefore you assistance are needed. but don't stop by just reading this and pledging and donating for the cause, ask every soul you could, dessiminate the cause we are endeavoring to achieve. set up a booth in every corner of the malls in the philippines and ask for donations of a peso or two. eventually no matter how small the collection is, it will help. for those in north america, donation should be sent to:
Please make check donations payable to APO-ACNA and send to;
Brod Gene L. Licauco
APO-ACNA IHMDO Coordinator
3269 Lopes Ct
Hayward CA 94541
and for those who are in the philippines and other parts of the world, information will be forthcoming where to send your donation.
in behalf of acna and president Ben Castro
bro tony
acna secretary
The Alpha Phi Omega (Phils.) Alumni Council of North America is again spearheading a medical, dental, optical and humanitarian service in the Philippines . This will be held on May 24, 2009 in Tondo, Manila in conjunction with Samahang APO Ng Tondo (SAPOT).
Again, as in the past, we are expecting to help thousands of our fellow Filipinos who are in need of the kind of services that Alpha Phi Omega has to offer, in keeping with our time-honored values of Leadership, Friendship and Service.
In this endeavor, we have the commitments of our APO USA Brothers and Sisters in the medical and dental fields who will be going with us to the Philippines . We are also fortunate to have the APO-DAP and APO-MAS who will be fielding medical and dental personnel to assist us in this service project.
The service project is self-fulfilling. There is a sense of accomplishment in knowing that we are true to our goals and are doing our best to achieve them. There is also a sense of achievement in knowing that we are in this together; overseas alumni, American and Filipino-based Brothers and Sisters, working hand-in-hand to accomplish a goal that is foremost in our values--service to others.
I am deeply honored to be appointed chairman of this project and humbled at the same time by the magnitude of the task that lies ahead. I draw strength, however, from the knowledge that you are with me every step of the way. I know that the APO spirit is alive and well in each of us. I am counting you in. We have the manpower, but we will need medical equipment and supplies. Therefore, I am asking for your assistance, in cash and in kind, for the success of this project.
I am anticipating your response in earnest and would like to thank you in advance for your participation and assistance. Let us remain true to ourselves and to each other. God bless!
At Your Service,
Bro. Eugene Licauco
Chairman
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flirtatious moment!
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Jan 21, 2009 8:54 pm
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sharing my flirtatious moment posted on the yahoogroups.com of my fraternity, Alpha Phi Omega:
My dear Princess,
we need moments like this, a respite from the agony of meeting the difficult challenges of life. this indeed is a flattering moment and one for the memories. i am all smile and laughing with a sense of appreciation that finally i found that precious someone who is so gifted in her thoughts and brilliant in her ideas. no brother should ask for more! hehehehhe!
but the challenge is or perhaps the appropriate words are - how to see this unravel and then what is the ultimate outcome. this is truly a pursuit i have not embarked before - to truly love a sis. hehehehehehe! the keyword is truly. hehehhee!
would there be cameras and paparazzis at the convention? and would she really be there? then if she is, it would be very encouraging to attend. sign me in twice, thrice and/or many times. heheheehe!
but after the convention, what's next? would it just be memories or a love that will sustain and endure the test of time and distance? hehehhehe! tell me! heheheheehe!
gosh, i really have the capacity to be silly and flirtatious? for someone not deserving of your qualities, this is the best i can do - to mask in flirtation and silliness. hehehehee!
good night my dear princess. kumander pidgiong how's the reconnaisance work so far of your ibong adarna. may pag-asa ba?
bro tony
--- On Wed, 1/21/09, Lucille Rey wrote:
Date: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 7:26 PM
BroG+ my dear brother! Kayo ha pa-PEACE PEACE pa kayo diyan... eh iyang mga punctuation marks ninyo nanggagalaiti sa yamot! Mulat na po kaya lang kagigising lang at akala nananaginip pa sa mga nangyayari hahaha! Wow... hmmm, see! Di walang away! Hmmm, brotherTony is just practising his poetic side and prolific writing to me, like Francisco Balagtas Baltazar, at ako ang kanyang leading lady kayo naman! Susmaryang garapon!
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BroTony,Yayama't kayo po aking mahal na kapatidAko'y inyong napapagtuuan ng inyong mata at isipang nagsusuriPatawad po kung kayo'y kanilang pagkaguluhanDahil ang inyong kapatid ay sanay sa balitang showbiz!
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Hay naku, kayong mga brod...One day I will see you all... Ano ba ito... di tuloy ako makasagot ng inyong tanong, sa halip, ako'y natatawa at napapahagikgik sa sulok ng aking opisina!
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BroJoeco, Teka, sasagutin ko lang po ang inyong kasapter na si broGary at mukhang meron ding naka address sa inyong lingkod. Daig ko pa si Julia Roberts today! Feel na feel ko na darating ako sa Convention, lahat ng photographers haharangin kami ni broTony! Magdadala na nga ako ng blonde wig eh!
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Naku, akala ko college days lang ang ganitong style, up to now still the same!
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unknown burden to bear!
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Jan 20, 2009 11:53 pm
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sharing a letter to a sister in my fraternity!
Dear Sis Lucille,
i like the way you write or express yourself. you have a folksy style parang alter ego ko. hehehehe! not only you are logical in your expression but you have an endearing style, passive-aggressive - whatever that means. hehehehehe again!
but i am sure you are amassing taga hanga rito, and if you are available - most of them would willingly genuflect to get your attention. but i am sure you are hard to please and then perhaps more harder to be convinced of one's noble intention, unless otherwise he is a man of character, intellect and then of wisdom. i know quite a guy like that, perhaps more than one guys but they are taken. dr dude is one of those i think and so is kumander pidgiong. we could perhaps add also ka edong.
i dont have all of those; character, intellect and wisdom. but i can proudly claim that i have the wisdom of experience having live a life of many complexities, some were colorful, few were borderline boring and yet in summation - its been a great life so far even in the worst of times. its the attitude that matters i supposed and i have the great capacity to see every glass half-full.
as for me having a young wife is just a wishful thinking. it would never perhaps happen in my liftetime. besides there are so much complexities in such a relationship and there are so much unknown burden to bear . but one thing is certain, i am of those guys that perhaps will forever be restless unless the right woman comes along and tame me forever. heheheehe! i have been sort of a run away groom for so long now. hehehehehe!
with the recent death of my father, it dawn on me that it should be a life changing event that somehow i have to embrace more the things that are important - of course in the abstract of life such and family, responsibility and then legacy for my posterity. having a young wife of course will increase my chance of leaving a legacy to so many. but at what price? perhaps my sanity. then its not worthed. hehehehhe!
hmm this is too much. i am revealing the poetic side of me. yeah i am not all batikos and that! i have some endearing sensibilities in me too.
bro tony
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memory lane!
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Jan 18, 2009 11:52 am
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just sharing the thoughst i wrote to my classmates about our forthcoming 40th class reunion to be held on the first week of april this year.
i thought the attendees should be given a chance to say few words, not about himself or herself but about others based on the youthful memories one have, specially about the endearing quality they remember most about a classmate.
if i have to be there, i would perhaps be able to say few words to most of those who are truly endearing to me and specially those who were part of my "missing years."
definitely among the guys, boy bueno will be on the top of my list followed by danny ferrer and loy coreses in that order. and on the part of the gals, tisha, tessie and teresa would be in that order. but it would be time consuming for most to say something about what they remember most about a certain classmate, and therefore it must be limited in scope.
i suppose we can put all attendee's names on a hat and have a sort of a raffle. the one we pick we are responsible to remember something about that person and also to find out certain pecularities about how he or she unraveled the journey of his or her life since we graduated from high school. if we could not remember something about a classmate, we could perhaps ask someone who could and then willingly acquiesce to have him or her say something about that classmate.
if i have to say something about boy bueno's endearing quality is his kindness and down to earth demeanor. i could not pinpoint the exact trajectory how our lives met, but we were classmates first at daet elementary school, siguro 4th grade ata. he was always there for me even financially. there were countless times that i have dined with his family. i thought because of his kindness he won the election as our 4th year congressman or representative on my ticket without him campaigning for the position. he was indeed well known as amiable, well-liked and kind person. boy bueno's house was the sanctuary for most barkadas.
but the sad part is i know nothing about boy bueno journey of life after i joined the us navy in january 1975. perhaps if i have to be there, i would be delighted to ask him how things have been and willingly share it with others as a testimonial to a person he become. i am sure nothing has change about his character because during our formative years, he was a class act.
i know who i was then. for the most part i was an enigma - brilliant in politics and yet bulabog at most having been your junior class governor and president of the student government organization.
how about it classmates? let's travel to memory lane. tisha of course is the love of my life then. she had that mystifying effects on me that was too destructive on my bearing. i can only talk to her when i was drunk. but no regrets on my part. i would not change a thing of who i was then. it was then the fascinating moments of my life and in retrospect truly gratifying even in my worst of times.
best wishes to all!
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the longing!
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Jan 17, 2009 12:37 pm
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the longing and the practicality i thought are the issues involved when we think about the asnwers of our preference where to live, in the philippines or abroad.
i thought there is no wrong or right answer if we choose to live in the philippines or abroad. for me who has been acclamated living in the united states since 1975 and have adapted to the cultures and ways of america, its a slum dunk that my preference is here.
there are many reasons why and some are not primarily based on practicality and the familiarity how things are done in america. but for the soul and for the longing and the yearning, the adage that says that there is no place like home, definitely the philippines is the only choice.
but if we also think deeper about what awaits us in the philippines, its not always splendor and grandeur. of course it would be for the heart and the soul. but how long that feeling would last? would that be permanent? just in love and in relationship, its never certain to be enduring and met the test of time.
there will be things that will annoy us from the mundane to the complexity of how things are done or live in the philippines. it will definitely annoy me that others are talking and texting inside the theaters. it will definitely annoy me the layers of corruption before a transaction is done. the city pollution will definitely annoy me. the unending extravagance of pinoys to spend their hard earned money on inuman and pulutan and the smokes everywhere will definitely not only annoy me but will make me puke.
but beyond the annoyance, the culture is rich and in abundance in caring, sharing, family values and the laughters even in the worst of times. we who have the money definitely will live like a king and gone are those days we cook our own food, do our own laundry, wash the dishes and the many things we toil everyday.
one pitfall of living in the philippine is to how maneuver daily of refraining from being an ATM. i know that this area is a great challenge for me knowing that i am gullible and a sucker for those who had sad stories to say and would ask for my kindness. i have a lot of friends in the philippines and therefore in this area, it would be deteriorating contributor on the quality of life i envisioned to enjoy living in the philippines. perhaps what is needed is my own personal transformation to be self centered and would not care about the needs of my friends, relatives and acquaintances.
would it be fair to apply my own transformation to the family and the relatives of a pinay girl that someday will truly capture my heart? that perhaps would be the greatest challenge of my life to be there for her and her family and not fade away. i hope i will be up to the challenge.
the good part is i still have 3 more years to really decide where to spend my retirement years. for now the plan is 7 months here and 5 months there.
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a heavy burdent to bear!
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Jan 17, 2009 2:02 am
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as i revisit my blog, i found the following excerpts from noli_72 on my blog entitled my final blog:
"i hate myself for finding you just now. At the start, I've been searching for someone of my kind with your wisdom and have the talent to put it into writing for the world to share.
I'm keeping my hopes that you'll change your mind and come back to us. If I were her, I would encourage you to come back because it's a rear privilege for me to have someone that shares his gift with others.
To her, I wish she will always be happy to find you. I'm not going to wish you luck for you don't need it; instead share with you my parting words: "be good, if you can not be good, at least be careful."
somehow i thought i touched others here with my blog. with that i am flattered and forever be grateful.
why am i blogging again? it is because i have a recently experience a life changing event with the death of my father.
perhaps? but i dont know exactly the reason why? is it because i found myself unattached again since i started to fade away from my long distance relationship that lasted only 3 months and that blogging is a sort of panacea or a way to find my true self again? or i am too gifted to blog that to make sense of my life i just have to put my thoughts in writing and share it with many others just like noli_72. i wish i am. but to be cocky to say so is perhaps the greatest presumption of my life and that i rather not.
is it really over - my relationship? i dont know? but what i know is when the ambivalence starting to consume me, its time to fade away and cut my losses. or maybe just like many others, i am too complex and can't understand the strong yearning to be loved and then love someone so dearly. or i just approach love and relationship in a very simplistic way, that somehow its a heavy burden to bear and then too frequently suffocating?
a heavy burden to bear and frequently suffocating perhaps, only when we analytically try to figure out what is next with our lives. i think i am at that juncture with the life changing event of the death of my father. am i or i am just using it to destroy the foundation of a great love in the making? only time will prove me wrong.
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putting it on hold!
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Jan 16, 2009 1:23 pm
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i am in a quandary. i am not so sure of myself at this moment on how to proceed with my relationship. i am sort of fading away now, not calling her, not texting her and not reading her emails.
since the death of my father on jan 5 this year at age 80, i am sort of re-prioritizing my life. should loving her consume so much of my life this year or should i try to visit more often my mother who lives in florida and attend to her needs? or perhaps our age difference is too much and eventually it will not work? i dont know. all i know is i am in a quandary.
maybe i just need few more days, or weeks or months to sort my predicament. what if i stay this way and forever be in a quandary?
if i put my feelings aside this year, would she be there for me next year? would she be able to forgive me for my silence and state of quandary? you see loving someone is complicated and it demands a sense of responsibility. i thought i am in no position to be responsible, caring and loving now. perhaps next year when the official bereavement is over i would start loving again. i think i should be able to do that, right?
if you are in my shoes, what would you do? but one thing i am certain, this year is definitely is not a year for me for relationship and romance. i am putting it on hold for a year!
sorry. i thought i really have done my final blog. but the death of my father is a life changing event. perhaps i could be forgiven for the being not true to my word and for fading away!
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my final blog!
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Oct 8, 2008 8:23 pm
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she found me and i took her as a gift from heaven. so i have to go - its part of the process of showing to her that i love her and that i am serious and that we truly deserves each other.
there are no reasons now to blog and to interact with anyone. i am taken. no she did not ask me to stop blogging or stop visiting the chatroom for few minutes here and there. i am doing this on my own because i thought its the right thing to do - to be exclusively hers and to be totally loyal and loving to her.
i appreciate and truly thankful to everyone who followed and read my blogs and also to those who let me made comments in their blogs. i was attracted to those few whose blog i made comments on, but none was receptive and could not read me between the lines that i like her. but then out of the blue, she found me and told me that she was the gift from heaven i was yearning for in my blog entitled, "gift from heaven." she is young and an intellectual. yeah i have a weakness for intellectuals. but most of all, she is very reassuring and have a mature perspective about life.
good luck to all and hopefully just like me you will be found or you will find someone deserving of your love, caring, and loyalty.
for the ladies, please do take your chances or take the risk of doing the first move. there are still men of my kind that are just wanting and waiting to be found and who will love you more back in return. just be a gift from heaven for him and he will treasure you for the rest of his life.
well in the chatroom, i have never been familiar to most anyway because i never lingered. it mostly to say hi and stay for 5 to 10 minutes. it should have been in my blogs that they could have known me and the kind of guy i am. i believe in myself that i am a rare find, and that i have a lot to offer in a loving relationship.
take care and good luck everyone. thanks to fff. it would not have been possible for her to find me if not for fff.
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not the 1st time she ask me out!
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Oct 3, 2008 8:48 pm
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its going to be hectic day tomorrow, travelling by distance of almost 450 kilometers or 300 miles. first a breakfast with a classmate that will force me to wake up early and be on the road at 4:30am. breakfast is at 6am. then at 10am i have to pick up my chinese friend to go shopping at the military base whose distance from my friend i am having breakfast with is about 120 miles. then at 6pm i have to meet up with my dentist to attend a dinner/dance night with a distance from the military base to the dinner/dance site of another 120 miles - and then on the way back home perhaps at midnight, that's another 70 miles. its certain that i will be drinking a lot of coffee to stay awake and be vibrant tomorrow. i cant wait for sunday to oversleep and relax. but then i have errands to do like laundry, ironing my clothes and washing my car and then watching football on sunday.
hmmm. its really going to be a hectic saturday.and its my fault because i accepted all three invitations. i could have told my chinese friend that i am not available for going shopping at the military base or i could have told my dentist that i am too tired already to attend a dinner/dance. i guess i have been too nice.
by the way my dentist is a single mom who is only 37 years old. she is goodlooking for her age. but i can't seem to be attracted to her because i know she would have no time for me or for us to nurture the relationship. she has a big family and big circle of friends in the area and therefore her weekends are almost taken by and for the family and friends activities.
there is so much intrusions that i could not let myself live with a woman like that. she is not going to compliment my life and such with her, i would prefer to be single instead. this is not the first time she ask me out.
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