Idealistic Love Is For Dreamers Only.... Nov 2, 2009 5:24 am 459 Views I remember a popular kiddie TV show a million years ago; the show was hosted by Bill Cosby and one episode showed him interviewing first graders "what they would like to be when they grow up?" and these are the common responses-- "When I grow up I wanna be a doctor"... "I want to be a fireman"... "I want world peace"..."I want to be a movie star". These are common ideals. Each and everyone of us have this ring of expressions and dreams called "ideals". The general purpose of an ideal is the motivating influence that reinforces why we do what we do. It is like a North Star that guides us in the dark of night-allowing us to focus upon the direction toward which we wish to be headed. However these ideals change as we grow older. These ideals become "goals" that are more realistic and attainable. It is the same way when it comes to love. Everybody has their own choice of person whom they want to be with for the rest of their lives. Here at FFF the most common responses under "Your Ideal Person" are -- trustworthy, honest, responsible, open-minded, loving, caring, thoughtful, generous... and the list could just go on and on. As if it isn't enough, some even have addendum -- "he/she should love movies, sports, gardening, 50's/60's'70's music... etc.. etc...'. Now I would be lying if I said I don't have an ideal partner in mind but c'mon do we really expect to find all these traits in one person?. It could only be true in the movie "The Stepford Wives". LOL The common error in relationship arises when we create fantasies in our heads and when our partner doesn't quite live up from our romantic expectation, we say "Nope this isn't going to work", and move on. I was guilty of this when I was much much younger. The moment I see a piece of the puzzle that won't fit in my Book of Ideals, I head for the nearest exit. By the way, my Book of Ideals are mainly my mom's ideals which I eventually chuck out the window as soon as I realized there is half the truth about the saying "Moms know best". ha ha.. I don't think it takes an expert in relationship to figure out that in reality there is no "ideal" partner. We are different in all aspects of life. We have different attitudes, opinions and feelings. So what if he doesn't dig my type of music or is a CSI buff like me. The fact that it could be a disappointment that he doesn't share my interests but then it is of very less significance. A hobby is a hobby not a value. We have to focus on bigger issues like a person's set of values, life goals and that kinda stuff. Life is about choices not ideals. We choose who we want to be with. We choose what we need. To sum it up, all we need is one person who is ideal for us and vice versa. There's a big difference between real and ideal love. Real love as opposed to ideal love is loving (and accepting) a person in "as-is-where-is basis"-- warts, wrinkles, cellulite, nose hair, and all with a no-return-no-exchange lifetime warranty. Easier said than done I know but who said life was easy? Let alone love? On the other hand, I understand why some people create "ideals". It could probably that some create these ideals as a result of a bad or past experience. I understand the feeling of not wanting to go through the same ordeal all over again and the need to have someone totally different from our previous partners. But then idealistic love limits our prospect of meeting that "one person". I have seen idealistic people who end up jumping from one relationship to another and another and another and still find no contentment. Really bites -->no one is going to be ideal. Perhaps instead of trying to change your partner into your "ideal partner in mind", couples should focus all that energy on working to have an "ideal relationship". Just an idea. So if you think there is an ideal partner for you out there, I hate to break it to you hun but he/she'd probably be in Saturn! Just my opinion. What`s yours? 9 Comments

HAPPY HALLOWEEN TO ALL!!!! Oct 31, 2009 6:50 pm 497 Views HAVE YOU BEEN TRICKED ON HALLOWEEN NIGHT??? Tell us your story.... ENJOY THE LONG WEEKEND EVERYONE!!! HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!!! 8 Comments

Ikaw, Nakalusong Ka Na Ba Sa Baha???? Take A Look!! Oct 15, 2009 7:21 am 1003 Views This was sent to me by one of our Mission Partners: Baha di ba! While we are all intent in alleviating the suffering of our people, this will give you an idea what the OTHERS are doing! Ikaw, nakalusong ka na ba sa tubig-baha? Kaya mo? Gusto mo karga? A couple of days ago, an embarrassing scene was shown on tv when a "Flip" general was carried on someone's shoulder so he wouldn't get wet when he stepped off a bangka boat. The American officer on the other hand waded on the water and stepped on the bangka without any help. See the symbolism on why the Philippines has problems ? I think the Filipino General should be fired. How could he win the war against the Abu Sayaf? Eh, tubig lang takot na siya. Nakakahiya!! Lalong nakakahiya doon sa Kano na kasunod niya. BAGONG PEDICURE SIGURO ANG LOKO. Send this to all your friends and hopefully this will circulate para mapahiya itong General na ito kung sino man siya. 10 Comments

Ondoy, A Nightmare!!! Sep 28, 2009 3:55 am 1450 Views How pitiful those people who have been victims of the fury of Ondoy, the latest storm that visited our country. Watching the horrors of the floods in Marikina and most of the parts of Rizal, gave me goosebumps. Imagine if that happened to me and my family. My youngest son underwent such a nightmarish experience even if we are too far away from the most flooded places. Her girlfriend texted him that she was stranded in Zapote so he went there to fetch her. He never expected such a horrible scene. When he got to the place from a long distance walk, coz the place was already not passable to any vehicle, the water was up to his shoulders and mind you, at his age of 17, he is 5`10`` so imagine the people shorter than him wading through the deep water. One good thing is that people tied a rope from across the street to the other side for them to hold on. My son, holding his cp and umbrella on both hands saw a young girl before him. The girl was nearly drowning when my son saw her, so he threw away his umbrella and caught the girl, who wasn`t holding on to the rope anymore. Then he pulled her to the other side where she was safer. When my son got home with his girlfriend, I learned that he just did one heroic job.If he weren`t there at that moment, perhaps the girl would have been drowned as everyone was busy saving themselves. I am very happy for what my son did. This is just one of the not so horrible experiences I have heard but others have the worst nightmare in their lives this weekend. I have texted friends here in FFF like smiley, who lives in Antipolo and very near Marikina, the most hardly hit, but she`s ok , thank God. I have texted Tyler who lives in Quezon city but has no reply. I hope and pray that he`s safe and the worst news I`ve received is that of Jane (fantasiamore) who really lost everything but her cp and herself. Still thanking God that she is safe now. I hope that our friends here who are living in the flooded places are all safe now. Thank God, the nightmare is over but I am sure, it will leave very bad and sad memories to the victims. My prayers go to the victims and those who lost their lives in this nightmare. By the way, I am with my group in church asking for donations, repacking food stuff and clothing to be distributed to the flood victims..this is all i can do to share. God Bless everyone!! 27 Comments

do you want to have a MEMORY LIKE AN ELEPHANT??? Sep 16, 2009 10:33 am 1828 Views Venusangel, at 55 is very proud of her extraordinary sharp memory. She could remember things and events as far back as when she was 5 years old..... She definitely has a memory like an elephant, except for the fact that most of the time, she forgets where she has placed her eyeglasses... Well after all, ELEPHANTS DON'T WEAR EYEGLASSES, do they? I could be corny at times, but just remember: 6 Comments

To Those Who Walk In Darkness.... Sep 16, 2009 10:24 am 1789 Views ONLY THOSE WHO WALK IN DARKNESS, CAN SEE THE BRILLIANCE OF THE STARS. 7 Comments

What`s Your Favorite Movie Quote? Sep 12, 2009 8:22 am 2000 Views Watching movies is one of my favorite pastimes. I have a lot of favorite movies among them "Brave Heart", "Saving Private Ryan", The Patriot", "You Got Mail", "While You Were Sleeping", "Mrs. Winterbourne"...and the list goes on. The thing about movies is that they somehow reflect our lives (present or past) and leave messages that make lasting impressions in our lives. One of my all time favorite is "Patch Adams" which starred Robin Williams. I'm sure most of you remember that movie. It delivers a powerful message of how to just be silly and break the rules when it's in the best interest of everyone. it also says that laughter is the best medicine anyone could ask for. Here is one of the memorable quotes from the movie Patch Adams: " What are we so mortally afraid of? Why can't we treat death with a certain amount of humanity and dignity, and decency, and God forbid, maybe even humor. Death is not the enemy gentlemen. If we're going to fight a disease, let's fight one of the most terrible diseases of all, indifference." Do you have a favorite movie? What movie quote do you consider memorable or significant to you? 20 Comments

Nothing In This World Is Constant... Sep 10, 2009 11:04 am 1926 Views If nothing in this world is constant let me love you while we have the time. Let me show you how much I care I will keep you warm, my heat we shall share. Let me ease your burden you need not ask me to i offer my shoulders you can cry if you want to. I'll lend you my ears for your plans and dreams you can tell me anything no matter how hard it seems. Let me share your pains, your eyes i will keep them dry just let me into your life I love you just don`t ask me why.. 4 Comments

The Beauty Of A Woman.... Sep 9, 2009 7:49 am 1962 Views The beauty of a woman Is not in the clothes she wears, The figure that she carries, Or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen in her eyes, Because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, But true beauty in a woman Is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, The passion that she shows, And the beauty of a woman.. With passing years only grows. "Unknown" Just sharing! 6 Comments

Love..A Drop Of Tear In The Face Of Time... Sep 9, 2009 4:44 am 1765 Views A drop of tear in the face of time When the sun sprinkles the light And the mist dissolves in the air An eternal beauty appears... Shining bright as a diamond And rolling down from your eye Carrying the pain and sorrow And reminding the struggle of yesterday.. Walking in the woods alone Lost in thoughts and tangled in thorn As the sun goes down Night weaves the silence around... Then I close my eyes and remain still And try to feel the breeze chill The dews rests on my memories And fills my heart with endless worries... Love... A drop of tear on the face of time by Karan 0 Comments

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