Jul 28, 2008 11:27 am Mood: contemplative, 204 Views
Psychology is the study of human mind and behavior.
What is the psychology of love? It must be the study of how humans get attracted to and attach to one another.
There is a school of thought that says that you will be attracted to one who is most like your opposite-gender parent, especially those with the same flaws. A daughter of a degenerate gambler will fall in love with a boy who also likes to gamble. The theory is that as a child she could never “fix” her father, but as an adult, she feels she can “control” her partner.
You can check out this theory. If you are female, what was the biggest flaw of your dad? The theory says you will tend to fall in love with a boy who has that same flaw.
The theory explains why the bad boys (read: “playboys”) get the girls, if there are enough playboy dads around. When a girl says she wants honesty, but her dad has several mistresses, watch out. She likely says one thing but will do something else.
It’s a tough conclusion: a straight honest guy stands only a little chance of getting loved.
In a double-standard society, most mothers are “straight” but too protective. That means few sons will fall for girls with loose morals. They will seek out protective mother hens, and try to make them less “motherly.” For a girl, being protective is a great attractor of boys.
But the resulting relationships are at least laden with challenges. Most involve a playboy and a protective mother hen. The boy will tend to work hard to cut the proverbial apron strings, until the protective girl sees the light. The girl tends to work hard to keep the playboy from “straying,” until he gives up! If they don’t succeed, the game goes on with the next generation. And so on..
