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Advice please for men
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Nov 5, 2009 3:14 pm
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It might help to have a specific list of the woman you're looking for. If you don't sit down and give it a deep thought, how else are you going to know what you're ready to put up with or what you won't tolerate in a relationship until you do this??
If you want, use your blog and invite women to meet you in person.
To begin with, single guys need to go on a date, several dates in fact before you can develop any relationship with a woman. Date one woman at a time if you can help it.
Unless you can go on a speed date where you get to meet different women and you pick a selected few out of the bunch and go on a date at different times with each woman. After each woman decides whether they want more future dates, choose who you'd like to be with more after at least a few dates. Don't mess around with anyone's heart. You'll only cause trouble for yourself and it isn't right to do it especially if you're wishing a mate for life. You aren't going to have one nor keep a woman until you get your act together and treat a woman right.
During dates, don't be easily fooled by how she physically looks whether she's sexy or pretty. You know how shallow this is. Eye candy sure, but think about how much easier it might be for her to sweet talk you and fool you to part with your money or anything else for this matter. But of course if she happens to be good looking and other things too that you like then it's a huge bonus.
Be sure she's single first and she's searching for the same type of relationship as what you're looking for eg. serious relationship that you hope will last long enough to consider her as a potential wife.
If you date a woman who isn't single, you'll only find yourself in a heap of trouble. She could only want you for your money, she'll empty your pockets as a way out of her personal or her family problems or both, if you allow this to happen and tolerate it; her problems will eventually follow her and cause havoc in your life.
Thus, use common sense and be street smart about anyone you meet.
Once you know she's single, be yourself by not trying too hard to impress her, don't make anything up that you are not and don't come on too strong too soon like be vulgar.
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Don't give any money away more than necessary. I mean don't be giving any money if she asks you upfront about it for eg. she wants money to buy something for herself and her family. That's crazy, you should be the one offering her gifts that you're fully and ready pay for and she shouldn't be asking and using your money to buy things for herself. Only offer to pay your dates together. You aren't obliged to pay for much more.
Be a genuine and sincere gentleman. Being a gentleman involves not bossing her around and controlling her like a puppet and don't be inappropriately physically aggressive. Besides if you are like this, you're better staying away from being in a relationship until you've learned to control your problem. Please treat her as a lady.
When you've established good communication, try to earn her trust by not lying to her about your feelings or anything else. If you don't feel the same way about her, don't pretend to like her any more than a friend.
When and if you've decided to be with one particular woman, set your eyes only on her and treat her special like she's the only woman for you in this world. It is off putting when a woman knows that a man's eyes keeps lingering somewhere else to other women around the room. Try to control your manly instinct or urges to do so. Don't only do this, while you're with her, try to do it more often that it becomes a natural thing for you to everyday. Besides once and if you do fall in love, you shouldn't have to keep looking and lusting after other women when she's the special woman for you.
You don't even have to fall in love, if you really care for her, you’ll avoid hurting her feelings.
You're welcome to add, scrutinize or offer another opinion on this.
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