..IT'S ALL ABOUT..US. but mostly me. it's usually about my own thoughts that i convey, my questions that need answers. who and how i am. my opinions, my thinking on plain everyday living. not that it matters, but i'm sharing it anyway. whether you like it or not.
this have always been something i think of, all the time.....WHEN YOU LOVE, DO YOU TELL THE ONE YOU LOVE ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU?..or..DO YOU KEEP SOME TO YOURSELF..you know, when they say ,some things are better left unsaid....
because, look..i think..if we may have exposed all, about us to him/her, how can we be sure that s/he have done the same, telling us anything and everything about him/her?..there is no guaranty, is there?..
the reason why i brought this up is because i think this has something to do with some relationships going sour after a while..when down the road, somebody cheats, somebody gets deeply engrossed in gambling, etc..reasons that causes rifts in relationships, and then ultimately, divorces in some..
..for either they/us have changed and they/us are not anymore who they/us are when we first met them and the succeeding blissful days, months, years we shared with them, before they shed their skin to show the real person they/us are..
the risk we have to take, i guess..there's really no going around it, is there?, no other paths..we have to meet it head-on..take our chances....anymore phrases i can use?..kidding....
for real, how can we, in fact make ourselves, and our partners, disclose all that is necessary, for the relationship to work and flourish..and if not?..hopefully, LOVE takes care of all of that....
there was a blog written a few days ago by shygirl about the gov't. warnings on cigarettes....
i posted some comment as to why the gov't. only have warnings on these when they know it's addictive and disease-causing commodities when in fact they can stop production and ban selling of the products, deem it illegal, much like marijuana....
i noted that it's gov't's. washing of hands, saying that users have been warned and now it's a personal choice to taking the risk, knowing that it causes death....but will not stop, ban, deem illegal production and sale because of the chunks of money paid in form of taxes by producers and consumers alike..correct?..
and marijuana is illegal because anybody can plant it, and make the illegal stuff, without a penny of tax paid to the gov't..you think?....
what brought about the..APPLE?....
isn't it, in the book of Genesis...
001:027 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.
001:028 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
001:029 And God said, Behold, I HAVE GIVEN YOU EVERY HERB BEARING SEED, WHICH IS UPON THE FACE OF ALL THE EARTH, AND EVERY TREE, IN THE WHICH IS THE FRUIT OF A TREE YIELDING SEED; TO YOU IT SHALL BE FOR MEAT.
002:016 And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, Of every tree of the garden thou mayest freely eat:
002:017 But of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (the APPLE tree, i inserted this, lol), thou shalt not eat of it: for in the day that thou eatest thereof thou shalt surely die.
all the greens made by God were for man's consumption, except for the APPLE, so accordingly, marijuana plants can be consumed by the grace of God, but not of the gov't..what about the APPLE?, GOD FORBADE IT TO BE EATEN, RIGHT?....
i also wonder if it's in the Book that says that it's okay to eat the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil after Jesus gave His life for our salvation....
i welcome all your comments....feel free to post, even the nasty ones..just messing with you guys....
what are we searching for when we join dating sites..the fff..friends, love of our lives, intimate relations, discreet relations?...we all have a purpose in joining..don't we?..
when i first joined, to be truthful, i joined to check out the ladies in the site, solely to see if there are beautiful women here..i was wrong, there weren't just a few, they abound in this site..hehehe..
i thought to myself, i'd give this site a shot for who knows, i'm divorced, i'm kinda lonely, i might meet someone thru this site..and how right i am..i have been meeting a lot of people, friendly people..i'm getting to know them and becoming friends....
it's not just a site to look for someone, for me anymore, it's now a place for me to hang out, even if it's the internet, it's a place where i can relieve myself of everyday stress, either by chatting or by blogging..it really relaxes me..really....
i never thought i'd find comfort and solace in an internet site....it's a place where i can let out, things that are burdensome, when i blog and i get free advices, where else can i get that?..not in the real world, you have to pay a professional, and that's just for them to listen to what you have to say, they never really give you advices to your problems, they just nudge you bit by bit, to think for a solution to your problem on your own..makes you wonder what you really pay them for....
what about advices from friends?, other than the ones i consider my friends in this site..i am just now regaining my "outside world" friends back..haven't i mentioned that i lost contact with all my friends when i was married....
anyway..looking in, you'd think that it's what dating sites are just all about..for intimate relationships..it's so much more, that you find out once you become a member..and i'm glad that i joined....
remember back in the days when we danced to this song..if i remember correctly, there was a dance step for this song too, where your arms are horizontal on your side, and your whole body sways from side to side..am i correct?....
anyway, back then, i never really care much for the songs meanings..but now that i've become older and getting mushy in my old age.... i tend to look at what meaning the songs bring, and i happened to hear this song again last saturday..
to my surprise, IT TELLS ABOUT THE INTERDEPENDENCE OF TWO PEOPLE IN LOVE..how one cries out for their love to stay strong, when one feels a need for re-assurance, that will keep them together, forever..when one has to carry the load, has to be strong, for the other, when one is on the verge of collapse..
which just proves that relationships are meant to be a work in progress, never relent..a team effort, that both individuals should put forth their best, not only for themselves but also for their partners..that both should value what they have....
and until last saturday, i thought it was just another disco song i can dance to....
..So I'd like to know where, you got the notion Said I'd like to know where, you got the notion To rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby Rock the boat, don't tip the boat over Rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby Rock the boat
Ever since our voyage of love began Your touch has thrilled me like the rush of the wind And your arms have held me safe from a rolling sea There's always been a quiet place to harbor you and me Our love is like a ship on the ocean We've been sailing with a cargo full of, love and devotion
So I'd like to know where, you got the notion Said I'd like to know where, you got the notion To rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby Rock the boat, don't tip the boat over Rock the boat, don't rock the boat baby Rock the boat
Up to now we sailed through every storm And I've always had your tender lips to keep me warm Oh I need to have the strength that flows from you don't let me drift away my dear, when love can see me through Our love is like a ship....
i thought i ask you ladies and gents this question....
from an observant's point of view, i noticed that, here in fff, especially, and other dating sites, we tend to do just the thing....
i want to back-off just a little, take my time, be patient..i, even some, may think that i might miss the boat..you know what i mean....
don't get me wrong, i still want to meet that special someone to spend the rest of my life with..just want to be sure, really sure, that i make the right decision this time..i have been burned, my failed marriage, don't want to burn again..
plus, it's not just about me, it's about that special person too..i would not want to put her in an awkward position where she'd be pressured, by me, by circumstances, to make a decision hastily..you know what they say, haste makes waste..hehehe..i just hope that when i find her, she'll have the same patience as i have..for us to know us better....
but one thing is for sure, i'm in this site looking for love....just want to be careful not to make the same mistake of diving into the unknown and trying to make it work....i deserve better and she really has to know me well to accept me, as i am..without pressure, from whatever, to love me, really love me....
..AMERICA's.."LONELY PEOPLE" ....This is for all the lonely people ....Thinking that life has passed them by ....Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup ....And ride that highway in the sky
....This is for all the single people ....Thinking that love has left them dry ....Don't give up until you drink from the silver cup ....You never know until you try..
i should not add anything more to these words, plain and simple, never give up and always give something beautiful, a try..for you'll never really know what's over yonder, unless you take steps to get there....
first of all, for those who are interested to know what bok means, it means best bud, that's what me and my boks think it anyway....it's why my handle is bokboyong..being my nickname in pinas is boy, but when the movie "Boyong Manalac" came out, they started calling me boyong....
growing up, there were 6 of us in my original circle of boks..as i got into various stages in my growing years, i ventured out, with 1 of my original boks and acquired 3 more boks..so in all, i have 8 boks that are dear to me....
my original circle of boks are aptly named, ato, tuyo, poopoo, pogi, and lapad..and i'm bisoy....as most boys would do, we played a lot of basketball together..me and ato were the stockton-malone of the group, i'm malone, being the tallest of the group....we were also into track and field, in our school..you wonder why?..bobby, lapad, and i were in the same grade while poopoo, ato, and pogi were 2 yrs behind, we all got into what one of us got into..this group did some crazy stuff too, back then, but it was just the mellow stuff, you know, the pa-cute kind in high school....afternoon discos and of course the evening ones as well, going to dances, school's and fiesta's, scoping and checking out the girls..ato and tuyo were the pablings of the group..hehehe..you name it, whatever was the in thing at the time, we were into it....until tuyo and i veered away from this goup's goings-on..
it was actually pogi, who introduced me to chongki..so if i started doing it in my 2nd yr of high school, he was just in 6th grade....it all started one day when we were sitting on a fence, under a tree while we were waiting for the rest of the gang to show up when he pulled out the stuff..a friend of his took it from his brother in law, who was selling the stuff....anyway, out of curiosity, we gave it a try..that was the very first time....
it was me and tuyo who really got hooked on this kind of shit, and this is when i met the other 3 boks.. mon tangkad, louie, and nomer..hehehe..this is when i, we, got into pretty much the heavy stuff..there were days when we were high for days, you know what i mean?..you just keep taking stuff, if you got to high, you take a downer, if it got you too low, you take an upper, that kind..
with all this being said and done, i came out of it alive....we all did..just part of our growing years, i guess....anyway, to make a long story short, i'll update you on all of my boks, on their whereabouts....lapad, is in San Diego, CA., ato, pogi, poopoo, mon tangkad, and louie are all in pampanga, tuyo, went to Australia, but died of a heart attack(bangungot).... after just a few years there, and nomer went to Saudi for work, but came back sick and died....
so there, these great people are my boks, and they will forever be....
this is in defense of "us", aged member of fff..just thought that we need to help(educate) the young members of fff to understand us better....
it's funny when young chatters would visit the English Language chatroom and they exclaim.."puro matatanda".. ..whether they are truly surprised to see who the chatters are in that room or just making pun of the situation, i just want to point out that someday, the young members will get old too....
(i will refer to the young members as "YOU" and to the aged members as "WE")
in light of this post, i would just like to say that, with age, comes wisdom...YOU may be younger, but WE are more knowledgeable(experienced)...YOU may be fast and agile, but WE know how to do it better and fast doesn't necessarily means better.......YOU may be pleasing to the eye, but WE know how to please.....YOU may have the energy, but WE know how to use that energy.......YOU may be bolder and more daring, but WE are suave and sophisticated.......i think WE have far better character than YOU....WE are just like fine wine, WE tastes better with age.....need i say more?.....of course, there would always be exceptions to these, like there are exceptions to everything..
our journey through life..i'll equate to driving, i hope i make sense....
when you DRIVE SLOW, you see what's around you, nice and bad things, both, but so much so that you tend to nitpick, nitpicking causes you to critize, you then start to focus mainly on the bad things..you tend to lose sight of its beauty....
on the the other hand, when you DRIVE FAST, you tend to miss to notice the scenery, you miss out on the beauty of the journey..you just accept what you go through as they are, without thinking what each brings..you can easily be fooled by the beauty of what you see upfront when there's actually garbage hidden right behind it....
when you DRIVE NORMAL, you accept what you see, both good and bad, good as you see the beauty and you basked in this beauty..with the bad, you realize how it can be overcome, how it can be improved or just accept it the way it is, when it is acceptable for you..am i making sense?....
now choose how you want to drive....one thing is for certain, you will reach your destination no matter how you drive..try not to get a speeding ticket....drive normal, take your time and enjoy the scenery..enjoy..LIFE....
i have had, i would say, 4 life humbling experiences that shaped me as how i am today....
would you like to know what these are?....ah-ah, just teasing....i'll give you tid-bits....now that's a compromise..don't you think?..hehe..i'll be the talk of gossipmongers if i reveal to you in detail....not that i care..what would it do to me?..nothing, it's not going to diminish who i am..i even welcome the idea of being talked about, i'll be famous/infamous, depending on how you look at it..that's just my take on gossipping, i don't care....
anyway, the first, would be the time that i ventured off of reality..i became a bit rebellious, part of my teen years..didn't we all?..it's this time that my folks had to take drastic steps to straightened me out..i was sent packing by myself to this place....
the second, was when i had the first taste of what life is about, on my own, but little did i know that my rebellious past would catch up with me..you can say, i was really-really stupid then, i had the chance to make something of my life and i blew it....this episode really awakened me..then..
thirdly, is when i got married, really is the eye-opener..nobody prepares us for this, all we can do is to face each challenges head-on, willed by prayer that we make the right choice each time something arises....i thought i was doing pretty darn good..until..
the fourth happened....the separation..i'm proud to say that i've grown a lot more as an individual since then....i'm still at this stage, so i'll just see what happens next....
anyway, life can be such.., it all depends on how we tackle life's challenges..there'd always be bumps on the road we travel on in our life's journey, we also create some of these bumps....it's what make's the journey enjoyable?..interesting for sure....HAVE A SAFE AND ENJOYABLE JOURNEY, EVERYONE..
oh, by the way, these humbling experiences are the major factors that shaped my being, of how i am today..there's plenty more, less felt ones..like sticking up for a friend, even if it means sharing the same jail cell....
. it's usually about my own thoughts that i convey, my questions that need answers. who and how i am. my opinions, my thinking on plain everyday living
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So I'd like to know where, you got the notion
.. after just a few years there, and nomer went to Saudi for work, but came back sick and died..
..whether they are truly surprised to see who the chatters are in that room or just making pun of the situation, i just want to point out that someday, the young members will get old too..
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...YOU may have the energy, but WE know how to use that energy..
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..ah-ah, just teasing..
..this episode really awakened me..then..
..i thought i was doing pretty darn good..until..
