| while on the subjects of cheating, lying, denying...what else?...lol.. |
Jul 23, 2008 9:35 pm
60 Views | i guess we will never really know why things happen..we can only be sure of just ourselves when in a relationship..
let our trust, faith, hope, nurturing, work its wonders..that it bonds both to hold each other sooo dear that just the mere thought of doing the unthinkable brings disgusts to one's being.. ..does being disgusted with oneself stop the act?....
all we can do is to have faith..that our partner will forever be faithful, for we can only be sure of our own faith..
and in trusting..hope that we have placed our trust on the right person, for it is only our trust that we are sure about..
and in hoping..that all we pour into the relationship, is enough to sustain it, for it is only our support that we are sure of..
for we can do all it takes to nourish a relationship, and still wonder what the other person is concocting in his/her mind..for it is just ourselves that we are really sure about..
scary, isn't it?...heck, life is a gamble, and so is love.. .. | |
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| who is to blame?........blame it on the rain..:) |
Jul 22, 2008 1:34 pm
Mood: amused, 102 Views | YOUR FAULT; NO, YOURS.......haaaay life..is it really that hard to admit to your fault?..
little white lies, big lies, foolish lies, felonious lies...ang daming lies....
why not fess up?, you already got caught with your lie/act..it's always the other person's fault..most of the time.. ..we do fess up..but sometimes, we only do when we see that there really is no way out....but if we see light, even just a tiny bit of it, we'd still really try to wriggle our way out of it....
whose fault is it really?..is it the cheater's fault?, or is it the cheated partner's fault?..excuses, excuses..we are so good at making them..
do you know what i really think?..both are at fault..i am not going to delve into the reasons/excuses as to why it happens, there are just too many of them to mention..i am just going to look into the reactions/actions of differing people when problems do arise..
some people can handle problems real well, SOME PEOPLE CAN'T..and these people that can't, when a problem arises, is where a reaction to a problem can go to the extremes; a retaliation, a "i'll show you"(really bad way of dealing with the problem.. ..) attitude..these are the people who can't handle tough situations..these are the people that don't have a care in the world..these are the people who only care about themselves..
these people always have an easy way out..think of it, much easier, di ba?, instead of dealing with the situation at hand..they don't think ahead, never..they never think that an (bad)action will produce a succession of corresponding bad actions/problems..to them, there is always the easy solution, the easy way out..
when you fall in love with a person such as this, what do you do?..do you concede, all the time?..are you prepared to face the consequences, if you do not concede?..they say, binabaril ang mga martyrs sa luneta....so, who can you blame?..
these are facts of life..as for me, what do i do when faced with a problem?..I BLAME IT ON THE RAIN....
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You said you didn't need her,
you told her goodbye.
You sacrificed a good love
to satisfy your pride.
Now you wish that you still had her,
and you feel like such a fool.
You let her walk away,
now it just don't feel the same.
Gotta blame it on something,
gotta blame it on something.
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'.
Blame it on the stars that shine at night.
Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you;
blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
You can blame it on the rain.
Should have told her you were sorry,
could have said you were wrong.
But no, you couldn't do that,
you had to prove you were strong.
If you hadn't been so blind then,
she might still be there with you.
You want her back again,
but you just don't feel the same.
Gotta blame it on something,
gotta blame it on something.
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'.
Blame it on the stars that shine at night.
Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you;
blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
You can blame it on the rain.
But the rain don't mind and the rain don't care.
You've gotta blame it on somethin'.
Blame it on the rain that was fallin', fallin'.
Blame it on the stars that shine at night.
Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you;
blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
You can blame it on the rain,
blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
Blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
Whatever you do, don't put the blame on you;
blame it on the rain, yeah, yeah.
Gotta blame it on something,
gotta blame it on something.
Milli Vanilli's, too bad they were caught lying themselves.... | |
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| all this talk about cheating men... |
Jul 18, 2008 7:48 pm
332 Views | first of all, i want to say sorry for all the ladies that have broken hearts, i sympathize with you, i know how it feels for my heart was broken too..
now back to why women say men are natural cheats and say men are always the cause of their heartaches..i read a lot of times, how men are depicted..repeatedly, almost every female here says that it's man's nature to cheat..hey, it's not and say if it is, not all men do!!!
for the sake of argument, say i agree with this notion, that men are natural cheaters..my question is..how can a man cheat if the woman he is trying to cheat with says NO!?..a lot of you would probably say that the woman didn't know, that she was sweet talked to and she believed in all the man's lies.. ..
for women in this site searching for their soulmates, let me ask you, when a man shows interests in you, do you say yes to him right away?..of course not!!!..you want to find out about this man..if this man is sincere, truthful and whatever it is you want to know about him before jumping into a relationship with him, right?..especially, if the man is really available and not in a relationship of any kind..
then how can women say that they were lied to?..i think women, some at least, already know what's going on, but they also have hidden agendas of their own.. ..they may be physically attracted to the man and like his character, of how the man is..and she's feeling that why can't she have him, so they either turn a blind eye or look the other way ..or for some, they would try to get the man for themselves, to get the man to leave whoever he is in a relationship with, be it a wife or a gf, and hope that the man would take her in..see how a woman can think of stealing a man from another woman?....and when nothing happens, the woman cries foul...in the ex-wife/gf's case, they blame the man for breaking their heart for cheating..can't you see that another woman caused it to happen, not just the man?....
here's an interesting example....say that a man is a dog, his instincts tells him to sniff out other women..have you seen a male dog sniffing out a female one?..the male dog smells the behind, right?....anyway, when the female dog is not in heat, what does it do?..it snarls at the dog sniffing her from behind, like saying, get away from me or i'll bite, and walks away, right?...THAT IS SAYING NO..
do you see how it's all up to the women for cheating and/or something, to happen?..if the woman keeps her legs crossed, do you think the man can continue on with what he seeks? think about it..that women actually have the power over men when it comes to sex..
one word, 2 letters.."NO"..this goes both ways..both man and woman cheat..if you don't want it happening, all that need be said is "NO"..so please, stop saying, stop generalizing, stop classifying all men, just men, as cheaters..IF YOU WANT TO SAY WHO CHEATS, SAY THE HUMAN RACE CHEATS.... | |
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| is it the looks?.. |
Jul 14, 2008 3:40 pm
484 Views | everybody asks..quite frankly, i say it's the looks, primarily..but it does not necessarily mean that i settle for the looks alone..the looks is what attracts me to someone, to get to know that someone, to see if there is substance, for a relationship to bloom, prosper..towards the end, when i can say that i have found that someone i'm looking for, she may not have the looks after all, anyway....and she may not want me..not her kind of guy..
we can't help it, it's our nature to go first by what we see before we go any deeper..we are not animals, were no dogs or whatever kind there is where they just go at it....
our senses attracts us to one another, the more they are alike, the better we understand..as to me, i'm flexible enough to have some qualities i look for missing, with other qualities i deemed essential for a healthy relationship, compensating for the missing ones....
as for the physical attributes, i'm an ass/behind kind of a guy, not the boobie type....i can't help it, i love a well-rounded behind, the curves from the waistline down to the thighs and knees, my oh my....that's my weakness....curvy to me is sexy, not skin and bones like how models look....am i drooling yet?....sorry..
there you go..looks is there to attract people to you, but it's really what's inside that makes people wanna stick by you..that's why it's so hard....i'll find her.... | |
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| are you old fashioned or the now fashioned? |
Jul 14, 2008 10:29 am
291 Views | of course i'll be biased....it's the values i was taught and brought up in..you are probably thinking old fashioned, right?..
i was born in the now fashioned values, even though i'm this old....huh!....yes, we were all brought up in the now fashioned values..how could it be?, you ask, simple..growing up, we grow up by the signs of the times were in at that time..confusing?, kinda, but not really..
times recycle, do you agree?..look at the fashions, they come back around after so many years, about every 20 to 30 years..
when we were in our adventurous years as we were growing up, we were all venturing into the wild side..some would say, no, not I..i beg to disagree..each one of us had broken house rules, right?, just so to find out for ourselves why it is forbidden to do this or that..most may not have been as riskier as some, but everybody did venture out of their comfort zones, one way or the other..what brought this up?..these were the years that shaped our thinking, our values..
the values are our MORALS..by what morals do you believe/live in?..if you live by the morals of your church or by the standard of conduct of the times you live in now, is when values differ..the church have set centuries old moral standards and are very strict at that, compared to the now that adapts to the ever changing way of life..these are the old fashioned(the churches), and the now fashioned(present) values..per my evaluation....you can disagree as much as you want..
i may live in the now fashioned values/morality of society but i pattern my way of living mostly by what the church has taught me throughout the years..i may not go to church every sunday, but my heart is part of the church..i'm starting to sound very religious....i'm not, i'm a sinner just like everybody else....just that it's how i think, my conscience dictates how i think, how i behave..
so, there's my answer..i was brought up in the now fashioned values and live in it, but i live my life comfortably, following the old fashioned values..it's what my heart/conscience tells me to.... | |
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| the courage of the child.. |
Jul 13, 2008 1:57 pm
294 Views | THE COURAGE OF THE CHILD..THAT WE LOST!!!
 a child learning to walk does not care how many times s/he falls, s/he will get up over and over again to accomplish what s/he intends on learning......and us adults whine so much when we stumble and fall and sometimes takes most of us longer to get back up on our feet..
a child is curious to learn what it is, most of the time will stick his/her little hands/fingers and gets hurt, and when this happens, s/he knows not to do it again coz the child learns quickly what the consequences are.....and us adults keeps repeating the mistakes over and over again, never learning from the hurt to us and/or to others..
a child will think of ways to get what it wants, even if the cookies are placed on the top shelf, s/he will find a way to get a cookie.....and most of us adults give up to life's challenges way too easily..
a child learns/adapts to what s/he is taught quickly.....and most of us adults are too stubborn to learn from our mistakes or accept advices from others..
a child has pure love and intentions in its heart.....and most of us adults have hidden agendas..
a child knows not of sins.....and us adults bathe in sins..
a child is full of candor.....and us adults wear the mask of purity..
a child is full of innocence.....and most of us adults immerse ourselves in earthly pleasures, both wrong and right..
a child is happy of what life has to offer, like when a child smiles when s/he sees a bird and other things.....and us adults are never satisfied of what we have..
a child doesn't hate.....and us adults are full of it..
and so much more.........
no wonder we go back to being a child again, when we get old, it's the only form of purity God wants us in when we go to heaven.. | |
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| blah, blah, blah,...hahaha...just letting off steam |
Jul 6, 2008 1:02 pm
483 Views | HEY THERE.. ..
sorry for not attending to my blog posts lately, like i said, i was pre-occupied..wasn't about me..it was about a family member..I'M NOT IN-LOVE YET NOR HAVE MY HEART BROKEN AGAIN....i needed to spend some time for the family member..
LIFE..sure comes at you whether you're ready or not..i've never given THAT, much thought before..i always thought that anything that happens is according to how one lives the life..
maybe because i'm an idealist....that everything should be according to plan, when one tries to adhere to living by the rules..looks like i'm a fool for believing such....and too stubborn to adapt, hayyyzz..
no wonder that when we get old, we lose our senses....i mean, old folks start relying on their kids more, for.., you know what i mean..until they are totally dependent on them..because life is really exhausting..it takes a toll on you physically..then mentally towards the end..or is that the other way around....
problems come and go, but they seem to come more often now, than go....i may be really getting old faster than i think i am..don't get me wrong, i can still face up to the challenges in life..not yet feeling senile....that's a long ways down the road..it's just that i was more up to looking down on my challenges when i was younger than now..
i just need to pick up a hobby, i guess..i've always wanted to learn how to play the guitar..i tried a few times before, but always losing interest..maybe now that i'm older, i'll have more patience..but that would cut into my FFF time....
maybe i need to go out to the clubs again....nah, to get caught driving under the influence costs a lot of money now..and the consequences..problems would really pile up then....
you know what?, since life is sooo unpredictable, i'll just stop trying to figure it out..i'll just do what pleases me..it's going to be hard to do that though coz i always think ahead, not about me but about others..i always think of the implications it does to others whenever i do something..should i just think for myself, about myself only, now?..now that time is really whizzing by..
i don't think so, it's not my nature..
whew..glad to get all this off my chest..feeling better already..hehehe..sometimes, you just have to let off some steam.... | |
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| to find love "again"...you have to be true to yourself... |
Jul 5, 2008 3:33 pm
467 Views | "How Much I Feel"
by: Ambrosia........
I don't know how this whole business started
Of you thinkin' that I have been untrue
But if you think that we'd be better parted
It's gonna hurt me but I'd break away from you
Well, just give me the sign and I will be gone
(That's how much I feel) feel for you, baby
(How much I need) well, I need your touch
(How much I live) I live for your lovin'
That's how much
That's how much
That's how much
That's how much, ooooh
Sleep alone and late at night I'm dreaming
Of the togetherness that seems to be leavin' me
I give it all and then I give some more
If you'll only love me like you have before
Girl, take hold of my hand and all will be forgiven
(That's how much I feel) feel for you, baby
(How much I need) well, I need your touch
(How much I live) I live for your lovin'
Well, that's how much
That's how much
That's how much
That's how much
So you try, try to stay in the middle
And then you cry, you cry just a little
Then you both realize just how foolish you've been
And you try to make amends
But you're better off as friends
'Cause that's how much
(That's how much)
That's how much
That's how much, ooooh
How's your life been going on
I got a wife now years we been going strong
Oh no, there's just something that I got to say
Sometimes when we make love
I still see your face
Just try to recall when we were as one, yeah
(That's how much I feel) feel for you, baby
(How much I need) well, I need your touch
(How much I live) I live for your lovin'
Well, that's how much
That's how much
That's how much........
so you say you can move on after a break-up, after a bitter ending to what once what seemed like a match made in heaven..
i highlighted stanzas of this song to emphasize a point....
there's really no breaking away from past relationships, just casting aside that feeling for a new beginning, hopefully, one that lasts a lifetime this time, to spring..
for how can you learn from your mistakes if you don't look back into your past..it's like the history of everything on this planet..you compare from your past your future and learn from your mistakes; to walk anew on a better path, not the right for there's going to be mistakes along the way still; the 2nd, 3rd, or however many there need be, time around....
don't be a hypocrite, when you say otherwise..this is the time to be true to oneself, to find that real happiness "again"..hehehe..the one we think seems to be so elusive..it's out there.. | |
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| it's not the heart, but the........ |
Jul 2, 2008 12:36 am
573 Views | follow your heart, they say, when you fall in love..listen to what your heart tells you..your heart beats faster, whenever who you long for is at hand..
but they also say, that the eyes are the mirror to the soul..when one falls in love, you can tell by the eyes, there's that sparkle, the eyes glisten..
the heart is merely the way for love to be felt..it's the tangent to our souls..our souls are our being..our hearts, brains, arms, legs, anything physical about us are but the extensions of our souls, for our souls to be felt and to feel..
and so when i fall in love, it's my soul, not my heart, that falls in love.. | |
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| hey..but it's how me is!.. |
Jul 1, 2008 12:33 am
616 Views | i've been tagged a loner, growing up..must be because of my shyness..and i believe this is what got/gets me misunderstood most of the time..
maybe i can validate why i prefer to be alone, when needed..i need my space..it's when i can think things over, running everything every which way, in my mind, analyzing everything..i turn every stone that needs upturning, never leaving any stone unturn..taking things apart, then reassembling in every possible way..
i think a lot..i have to think twice, maybe more, to decide on things..for an example, for a guy, i window-shop/browse for a few times before i decide on whether i need to buy and if it's really necessary for me to acquire what it is i'm trying to get..patience?..or..apprehensive!..
it must be because of how i went through my teen years..to rid of the shyness, i went way too bold and daring back then, and stumbled a few times..it's probably what refrains me from rushing to things now..i'm more at ease when i do it this way now though, don't want that sorry/guilt feeling afterwards, if i make a mistake..when i take my time, even if i blunder, i don't feel much self-censure for my actions for i know i've looked at all the possibilities there are..
it may take awhile but hey, when it's over, it's really a big sigh of relief and like i said, less blaming when things fall apart but that doesn't happen all the time, just once in a while..hehehe..it's how i make peace with myself.. | |
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