| Somebody Prayed For You... |
Aug 5, 2008 6:38 pm
205 Views | Somebody prayed for you today,
When your feet ached, and your back grew sore
And your heavy burden weighed you down,
And you cried aloud, "please, God, no more!"
Somebody prayed for you today,
When you were sad and you felt alone
And you vainly reached for the yesterdays
And the simple joys that you had known.
Somebody prayed for you today,
When nothing seemed to turn out right
And you longed for a friendly voice and smile,
With never a living soul in sight.
But somebody prayed for you today,
Within whose heart you'll always be
And the dear Lord listened, and blessed us both,
...For the one who prayed, was me.
- Grace E. Easley | |
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| Promises |
Jul 31, 2008 5:04 pm
304 Views | Promises made
But never kept -
Hearts that are broken
Tears that are wept.
Emotions that soar
Like eagles in flight,
Phones that won't ring -
Darkness of night.
Friends who let down,
Lies that are told -
Battered and weathered
Like tarnished gold.
Learn to forgive
Like God above,
Unconditionally -
This is love!
by: Annie Beckerle | |
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| Quote of the Day.... |
Jul 30, 2008 2:02 pm
196 Views | | "Whenever God closes one door He always opens another, even though sometimes it's hell in the hallway" "Worry looks around, Sorry looks back, Faith looks up" "Do everthing to the best of your ability!" | |
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| Quote of the Day.... |
Jul 30, 2008 2:02 pm
198 Views | | "Whenever God closes one door He always opens another, even though sometimes it's hell in the hallway" "Worry looks around, Sorry looks back, Faith looks up" "Do everthing to the best of your ability!" | |
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| Stages |
Jul 30, 2008 1:53 pm
185 Views | Wanted to share with you this article that I was reading, written by Judy Bear. Hope you find it useful. God Bless!
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We've all experienced grief. We've all felt those intense rolling waves of emotion. But, do we all experience the same feelings each time we lose a loved one?
What Are The Stages of Grief?
Many people have tried to explain what grief is; some have even identified certain stages of grief.
Probably the most well-known of these might be from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross' book, "On Death and Dying." In it, she identified five stages that a dying patient experiences when informed of their terminal prognosis.
The stages Kubler-Ross identified are:
- Denial (this isn't happening to me!)
- Anger (why is this happening to me?)
- Bargaining (I promise I'll be a better person if...)
- Depression (I don't care anymore)
- Acceptance (I'm ready for whatever comes)
Many people believe that these stages of grief are also experienced by others when they have lost a loved one.
Personally, I think of these definitions as emotional behaviors rather than stages, per se. I believe we may certainly experience some of these behaviors. But, I believe just as strongly, that there is no script for grief; that we cannot expect to feel any of our emotions in a particular set pattern. I do agree that acceptance is probably the last emotion felt, and in some instances it may be the only one.
A lesser known definition of the stages of grief is described by Dr. Roberta Temes in the book, "Living With An Empty Chair - a guide through grief." Temes describes three particular types of behavior exhibited by those suffering from grief and loss. They are:
- Numbness (mechanical functioning and social insulation)
- Disorganization (intensely painful feelings of loss)
- Reorganization (re-entry into a more 'normal' social life.)
I am better able to relate to this definition as it seems to more accurately reflect the types of behavior I have experienced and observed. Within these types of behavior might well be most of the feelings described in Kubler-Ross' writings as well.
Which List Is Right?
In my opinion, both of these lists, and many others that we've all seen, are all descriptive of some of the emotions and functions we go through when we lose a loved one.
I believe that grief, like so many other things in our complex lives, can't be reduced to a neat list with absolute definitions, timelines, strategies, goals, and completion dates. Would that it were so easy
Grief is as individual as those of us who feel it, and as varied as the circumstances of death which occur.
Will I Go Through Every Stage?
If a 98-year old grandfather died in his sleep I think there would be different stages of grief and loss experienced than if a two-year old child were run over by a car and killed.
If a person has had a long life, death is somewhat expected as the natural scheme of things. There will be emotions of grief and loss but they might be more for what we will miss.
If a young life is cut short unexpectedly, there may well be feelings of denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and in some cases acceptance.
Just as we have different emotional reactions to anything that happens in our lives, so too, will we experience grief and loss in different ways. I think the important thing to remember is that there is a wide range of emotions that may be experienced; to expect to feel some of them and to know that we cannot completely control the process.
When Will I Be Through Grieving?
Grieving used to be much more ritualistic than it is today. In generations past there were set periods of time when certain customs must be observed:
Widows wore all black clothing for one year and drab colors forever after.
Mourners could not attend social gatherings for months.
Laughter and gaiety were discouraged for weeks or months.
Today we are unfettered by these restrictions and might even be confused about when we should be done grieving.
Actually, we'll probably never be done.
We'll never forget the person we grieve for. Our feelings may be tempered more with good memories than sadness as time passes, but that isn't to say that waves of raw emotion won't overcome us way after we thing we should be done.
I think the trick here is to understand that the feelings will occur, try to keep them in perspective, try to understand why you feel a certain way, and if there are any unresolved issues that cause particular emotional pain, forgive yourself and others and if necessary talk with someone about it.
There is no completion date to grieving...let your emotions flow through the stages of grief. | |
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| How did the Mai Tai get its name? |
Jul 29, 2008 10:37 am
150 Views | | The Mai Tai cocktail was created in 1945 by Victor Bergeron, the genius of rum, also known as Trader Vic. The drink got its name when he served it to two friends from Tahiti, who exclaimed "Maitai roa ae!" In Tahitian, the phrase means out of this world — the best! | |
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| Good To Be Back! |
Jul 21, 2008 11:09 pm
271 Views | | Hello everyone! Just wanted to let you know that I'm back from vacation. Hope everyone is doing well. God Bless! | |
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| Take Care Everyone!!! |
Jul 8, 2008 9:24 am
404 Views | Going on vacation! Feeling a little burned out lately. Not sure if it's the stress at work, the hot summer temperature, or a combination of both. I'll see you all in a couple of weeks when I get back. Until then, be good to yourselves, and to one another. God Bless!  | |
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| Happy 4th Of July!!! |
Jul 4, 2008 8:34 am
290 Views | | For all those living in the United States of America. Happy Independence Day! Please have a safe and sane 4th of July! God Bless! | |
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