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I said I will be back perhaps wiser and younger. I am back, checked. Wiser? Learning to be. Younger? Damn I forgot to change those numbers around.
I have been reading your blogs many of you have mentioned their reasons for your blogs. Mine is just to share my experience, my thoughts and hopefully get an insight from you, make me wiser and have a good laugh

Simple things ; lesson from burnt eggs.
Posted:Apr 29, 2017 1:37 pm
Last Updated:May 25, 2017 9:47 pm
I was boiling some eggs last night, 6 of them to be exact. I placed them in a pot with enough water and put them on cook top. So simple. What else could be simpler than boiling eggs? Surely everyone with a right mind knows how to. When cooking a complex dish we spend more time in it and stay over watching it, making sure we have all the right ingredients, including spices. There are even steps in cooking certain dishes on when and what ingredient to add next. Unlike boiling eggs , it’s like set and done in few minutes, no need to stay and watch them. So I did boil some eggs last night and went away doing other stuff without even thinking what will happen next. It was so simple, what could go wrong, right?

Wrong , even simple things when ignored can go wrong! This incident made me realize how often we ignore simple things in our lives, in our relationships. Simple things like saying “hello” or “good morning” or asking “are you ok?’. Simple things like remembering their birthdays or sending them a message or an e-mail. We spend so much time preparing for big events like a wedding or a birthday party, then after the big event we forget about the simple things that we should be doing everyday. Over time if these simple things are ignored or forgotten can burn a relationship or burn bridges. Simple things are easy enough to do, like boiling eggs, but even if they are simple we should not take them for granted. We should keep an eye on them and consciously do them. These simple things we say or do, matter a lot. If left ignored for too long they may ruin a relationship. Just like my simple hard boiled eggs, ignored then burnt and exploded.

This is my way of saying hello and making you know I am thinking of all of you. I hope you are all okay.

Posted:Aug 7, 2016 3:44 am
Last Updated:Apr 29, 2017 1:22 pm

Someone asked, "what is respect?" and somebody said "respect is earned." Respect is such a big word, often said but sometimes forgotten. Without looking at a dictionary what is respect to you? Respect can be a noun or a verb. To me respect is knowing that each individual has feelings, beliefs, rights and wishes that are different from mine. Accepting, honoring and understanding these differences is respect to me. Trying to influence other's beliefs in a way that hurts their feelings or intentionally hurt or shame someone is disrespectful. Forcing what you know to make the other feel inferior is disrespectful to me. Respect is not limited to human beings, it is applicable to both living and non-living things or nature. I don't agree that respect needs to be earned. I believe everybody deserves respect unless of course the individual takes it away from themselves. Respect is treating others the way we want to be treated.

Respect is sometimes used as a term for admiration which is not always the case. I may have an admiration for those who have lots of talents but will lose my respect for them if they do evil deeds, though my admiration for the talents stays. Take for example athletes who used drugs to improve their performances, yes we admire them for their talents but we lose our respect because of what they did. I will probably treat that athlete differently by not watching their games or not patronizing their endorsements. Remember Tiger Woods who was admired and adored by many? Respect was lost but still admired for his golf talents.

With regards to nature or environment we should always respect it because nature can never be disrespectful to us and no way it can defend itself.
Let's be kind and respectful to one another and to the environment. Someone who ruins the environment doesn't deserve respect. Someone who disrespect someone doesn't deserve respect. Remember respect commands respect. Respect is precious, hard to earned but easy to give. We must take care of it and give it generously to everyone , specially the deserving ones.

How do you show respect?
I have some questions for you.
Posted:Jul 26, 2016 3:09 pm
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2016 9:38 pm

When I was in high school I wanted to be a journalist, I have an inquisitive mind I guess. I am the girl you don't want to be asking you in that game of truth or dare. I can be too personal but never tactless. My inquisitiveness though doesn't end when I get the answers rather answers generate more questions. So I settled to study sciences that is back up by researches and the answers can be demonstrated or repeated to be proven true.

I have chatted with some people from here and say they would like to know more about me. Fair enough I like to know more about them too. How do you know each other? Of course by conversing, exchanging messages, asking and answering questions. There was one guy I remembered we had this 21 questions game. It is like a conversation where you ask random question that first come to your mind at the moment, without thinking and give a honest answer that first come to your mind. It was really fun but I actually have many questions I wanted to ask but I just couldn't. They are either too early to ask, irrelevant or inappropriate.

I have learned that asking questions need to be relevant , purposeful, asked at the right time, at the right tone, maybe the right place and of course the right person. Be prepared for the answer, be prepared for the questions too and don't expect everything said to be true. I am not being negative, I actually believe many things said to me, I trust easily but at the same time I don't expect anything. In doing so I avoid disappointment.

Now let me ask you few questions;

What question you should never ask a potential partner?

What is the most important thing you should ask if you want to know more about potential partner?

What was the most awkward or embarrassing question you've been asked or you ever asked?

What question do you think everybody wants to know but nobody wants to ask?

Game? Post them below.
Posted:Jul 5, 2016 5:11 am
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2016 9:40 pm

I have much time in my hand
It seems nothing was ever done.
At times I just stay still,
have totally lost my will
To go about things to be done.
just sit instead til sun go down

Mind is very active thinking about the past
and how much time I have to last.
I have so much time I'm in no rush
Don't want my life go in a flash

I think about things I can do
and time I can spend with who?
I have no clue, I'm stuck in like a glue
Wasted time just makes me blue

Perhaps I should just sit and rest my mind
watch the clock hand go round and round.
I guess doing nothing is the best
and let time take care of the rest.

I'm at my best doing nothing
Lift up to Him my everything
I'm praying , not complaining.
I have time, time for waiting.
Complaint vs Gratitude.
Posted:Jun 28, 2016 11:39 pm
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2016 9:40 pm
I was driving one night on the way to work, on a cold winter night , it was about 5 degrees celsius. Brrr I complained, I hate cold. I also noticed I was wearing an old jacket that I have been using for almost 10 years. I said to myself time for a new one. I can complain for many more things like I should be sleeping in a warm cozy bed instead of going to work.

I turned the radio on and the host was talking about a research on the good effects of gratitude on health and general well being. There were many studies mentioned, to cut it short most of them showed good outcome for people who practiced gratitude. One research showed that those who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to physicians than those who focused on or complained about aggravation. .

Other studies have looked at how gratitude can improve relationships. For example, a study of couples found that individuals who took time to express gratitude for their partner not only felt more positive toward the other person but also felt more comfortable expressing concerns about their relationship.

This reminded me of a person I know who always complain about anything. I am normally a grateful person but after hearing the radio host I realize I have more to be thankful for. I can cultivate attitude of gratitude more. Gratitude is a way for people to appreciate what they have instead of always reaching for something new in the hopes it will make them happier, or thinking they can't feel satisfied until every physical and material need is met. Gratitude helps people refocus on what they have instead of what they lack.

It was a slapped on my face when while driving I saw a homeless person , wrapped in blanket pushing a trolley. I was touched and challenged by the host to change my attitude from a complaint to gratitude. One example he said, "thank you for the person singing off key behind me in the church because that means I can hear."

I have challenged myself to convert complaints to gratitude. Like thank you for this cold weather because it means I have sensation on my skin. Thank you for this old jacket because it means it was made from a very durable material to last this long.

Now I pass the challenge to you. Can you turn a complaint into a gratitude? Come on give it a go, write one down below.

Note: photos and quote copied from google

My Favorite things.
Posted:Jun 15, 2016 12:02 am
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2016 9:41 pm

Have you heard Julie Andrews' song in the movie The Sound of Music titled My Favorite things? Well none of those she mentioned in the song where my favorite but some lyrics of the song stuck in me since I heard it

"When the dog bites, when the bee stings, when I'm feeling sad.
I simply remember my favorite things and then I don't feel so bad."

Well when I was young it does work , I just remember and sing along to my favorite songs then I don't feel so bad. Now that I'm older when I think of my favorite things it makes me feel bad.

I think that's the outcome of being mature, we lose the imagination, we always want everything in black and white, the here and now. That is the result of our experience, learning, disappointments and pain.

So now that we no longer believe in fairytales and fantasies what could we possibly think of that will help us when feeling bad? To me definitely my funny experiences, some funny people I met , some embarrassing moments in the past. Sometimes I get a bit naughty and I think of what if's. But most of all thinking of how lucky I am in many ways, counting my blessings makes me feel better.

Songs of course still make me feel better even if I can't sing but some songs can make me feel worse.

My all time favorite songs:
Bob Marley's " Don't worry be happy."
Bruno Mars' "You can count on me"
Ben King's " Stand by me."

So tell me, what do you do when you're feeling sad?
What songs make you feel better or bad?
People and places
Posted:Jun 10, 2016 11:27 am
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2016 9:41 pm
One reason I emigrated from Philippines is my passion for travel. Philippines passport holders are required to get a visa in order to enter most countries, there are only few countries that allows Filipino in without a visa. With the passport I have now I can visit many country without visa required but the irony of it now, is that all I want to travel to is the Philippines. Truly we can't see the chair we are seated until we leave the seat.

Philippines is such a beautiful country made up of several islands. There are so many things to do and places to go and of course Filipinos are happy, fun, easy to get along with, hospitable and friendly. I will not argue that there are many other countries that may be better in some ways but the beauty of the Philippines is not far behind.

Despite my passion for travelling it has become my priority to see people first after losing a loved one. See people first before places because places are likely to be there longer if not forever but a person maybe gone before you get to see them.

Posted:Apr 16, 2016 10:20 pm
Last Updated:Sep 7, 2016 10:12 am

I read something today that inspired me to write this blog so I can share it with you. It is an article by Alex Green titled "Three words that will change your life".It is very inspiring. The author talked about the wisdom o a certain Fleet Mogull a prisoner for drug trafficking later became PhD in Psychology, priest, motivational speaker and more. It's a bit long to write all about it here so I will make it short before I bore you to bits. You can find out more details via google.

Mogull believes we create everything what’s happening in our lives, good and bad. Many of us blame others or rambles about the past for our failures, I think it is easier that way , to play victim rather than saying it's my fault. Blaming ourselves is of course a negative attitude that will fail us more and the great enemy of success and happiness are negative emotions. Fear, self-pity, envy, jealousy and anger hold us back. The four root causes of these negative emotions are justification, rationalization, blaming and poor self esteem. To be happy therefore is to attack the cause from the roots and according to the article the antidote to these negative emotions are the 3 simple words: I AM RESPONSIBLE.

It means you are responsible to your own thoughts, impulses, feelings and actions. You are accountable for the consequences they bring and the impact they have on others. You should take pride and honor in ownership of your actions. It creates freedom and control. It gives meaning to life.
Self-reliance is the great source of personal power. We create ourselves, shape our identity and determine the course of our lives by what we are willing to take responsibility for.

I think many will argue but this is only in relation to happiness and success of an individual. There are I guess exception to the rules but using that exception is also a way of rationalization, right? So we can definitely make changes in our lives and solve our problems starting with these 3 little words: I AM RESPONSIBLE , to ourselves of course.


What is fff site to you?
Posted:Apr 7, 2016 12:26 am
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2016 10:16 am

I was a bit bored today so I went on IM just to have someone to chat to. I have chatted with a guy I have chatted before who was looking for an on-line lover. We chatted for maybe 30 minutes. During our convo he said that FFF is an adult site. So I queried further what he meant by adult site, if he meant adult s__ site. He said yes. You can probably guess what he meant by that. I was disappointed because to me FFF is not what he said it is. To me it's a true friend finder with it's literal meaning. I have made real friends here and met real people. I totally disagree with what he believed this site is. He has been a long time member. He was from the US.

What made me dismiss his opinion is his contradictory statements. He said mostly are there for naughty chats but when I asked him if he has had any lover he said he had one long time ago but she stopped. If this is that site that he believed it is, then he should have had more than one lover. Then I told him that he must have had an adult encounter each time he log in. He said he don't log in that often so meaning he doesn't have adult encounter each time. So I told him that if he doesn't log in that often then there should be higher percentage of adult site encounter. He said sometimes then said mostly. Sometimes can't be most times.

Oh well that's his opinion. Now it is clearer to me why some men behave like that on chat because they expect an adult adventure. You know what I mean right? Sorry I have a different view of FFF so if you are looking for adult adventure with me bugger off. Men beware; from what I have seen not all women handle you chat with on line are real women. Few are men pretending to be women and give you the chat you want specially if they chat super x rated.

So to all reading this post, let me ask you, what is FFF to you?
The Best we can choose
Posted:Feb 21, 2016 6:21 pm
Last Updated:Jul 20, 2016 1:03 am

We all want the best in life.
Maybe the best husband or wife.
The best car that travels far.
Live a life like shining star.

The best we want is not what we always get
Truly even no matter how hard we bet
There's one best waiting for us to choose.
Not to fill in someone else's shoes.

Only you can decide for yourself.
It can not be pick from any shelf
Once chosen it's hard to part
Will be with you no matter what

I hope we choose what is this best
Try to guess and be my guest
What's best for you may not for me
Can you tell me what could it be?

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