Hands down, 15, 20, maybe 50 to one, that is how many more so called love songs there are to songs about death, hate, killing, dying or any other subject, well most of the love songs or lust songs, but that is a different blog for a different day But this one is about love. With so many different insites or views on what love is, how do you know when someone says I love you that, they are talking about the same kinda love that you maybe thinking of? How do you know if they are even really talking about love at all? Maybe they are just in lust with you, but to I love you sounds so much better Besides, if you really love one another, do you even have to say it at all, isn't love more something that you feel than something that can be expressed? O.k, your friendly guide on lifes journey to completment and bliss(big Poppi) is here to shed the light on this and so many more subjects again. I have listed my resume before, so no need to do that here again Just know that I am more experienced than you are, and it is experience and God's own devine inspiration, which leads us to true knowledge. If you think that you love some one then you probably don't. Because love is to strong to held in dought. If you say well, I like you alot, but i am not sure if I love you, then you don't. Don't force something to be what you hope it will be if it is not. This is the biggest mistake made in our world today. You date, ok, I like him/her. A few dates later, well how do you feel? OOOOh It must be Love. Love niether comes through time, as in many dates, nor through propaganda, as in we danced and fell in love. The trueth is that love is combination of feelings! Love is caring, concern, understanding, mutality, diclosure, moodiness(meaning, happiness all the way through sadness), and two or three more, but we have to wind this down sometime. Love is every emotion that you feel or have felt wraped up into one. We call it love. If there were no hot, then there could be no cold. This is a universal law of nature. Without Evil, there could be no Good. If there where no Hell, then there could be no Heaven. and thinking in those terms, without any intolerance or indifference there could be no love. You see, if someone makes you truly mad, gets you all fired up, then that is an emotion of concern, anger is a cover up emtion and you are concern with that one you claim to hate. There is a very thin line between love and hate so they can't be opposites. The opposite of love is indifference. If you don't care what they say or do, live or die, are here or are not here, then at that point you feel no emotion for them at all, you have no love for them. I believe the bible is true and God's own words handed down through the generations to us. The Bible says two very clear passages on Love. God is Love. and the Second, Love never fails!! so if you can be mad at me and still love me, I can do something stupid and yet you love me anyway, then You are close to the truest form of love, agape love, which is how God loves us, and wants us to love each other!!! Who do you love? Do you love the terrible things they do to get on your nerves? Do you love their bad habits? Or do you think, HMMMM, I can change that? Do you love to hate somethings about them? Are you for sure? I will give you a short quize on love one day and we shall see what your love score is, but this has grown tooooooo long. But think on this one last thought, If you were thousands of millions of planets apart, and never knew this person existed, would you love them without even knowing them or knowing they exist? If you say, how could I, I have to meet them to know if I love them, then you still need to grow, cause you don't understand love yet. If our creator placed one person on this planet for each of us, and I believe he did, do you not think that he gave us the ability to feel that connection from galaxies away. Of course he did, and the experience is called Love at First sight Grow in love, as you grow in grace, God bless and keep you, always your friend Biggs
Le pettite morte, the little death, is what the french call an orgasm. At the point of orgasm, a man emits both sperm(life essence) and blood(essential to life). Why at one of the greatest feelings of pleasure, and extasy, do we die a little. Is not death the enemy of life? Of course it is, that is a retoracal question. So then if life is to be loved and to love, then to die is to loose your love. This why it is eternal death and damnation to be separted from God, because God is love. You tell someone you love them. If they love you in return then it can be a very strong connection. A very dangerous connection. You are saying in the term love that my life without you is death. and more than that I find it death to be without you So at a point where you have found your meaning for existing, you may have also found the meaning of losing life. I tell you that my commitment to you is not for life, it is a life commitment. I love you so much that it dangerously love, no greater danger to life, than to be without you to die, to loose your love. I am dangerously in love with you Now you know why love is urgent. Created in this world love, to hold to live, to feel you, to be with you! I know that know you will all find a dangerous love also, Take care and God bless your friend(bible verse for the day, A friend loves always ) Big Poppi
I apologize in advance for this winney addition to my normal fun and other wise thought provoking blog, but this is for my thoughts, and these are my thoughts as of now. At this point in my life, on this day, I think I finally had an epfineny. I know that I have not been very serious in times past, especially, in matters of the heart(corazon), and especilly when dealing with women and the many that I have not wanted a long lifetime relationship with. Don't get me wrong, I have always said one day, and I would not have minded if it were some one out of the number that I have been with previously. I just today realized that I want to marry, I want to be in a serious and long lasting commetment. I rececntly felt crushed and heart broken I thought of giving up on this site, and never coming here again. It is hard to reach out to someone, even harder to do on the internet. But it is possible to build a friendship with someone on this site, and just alone you can get a great sense of the charater of the person/people you meet here with just a conversation. Now the odds, are very much against finding the "soul" mate here, but that happens on web sites all over the net, so why not here too. Any relationship, no matter how you meet or start it is hard to maintain, so this is no different. The Holy Bible which is my most referenced book, says, confession is good for the soul, so I am confessing to all my new and old friends here at fff. It is very difficult to let someone know your feelings, to bare your emotions, to open your heart, and have the feeling thrown aside as a by product of your conversation. yes, I am a man, but men can be hurt also, and for a few days I was not only hurt but confused. I figured it was a long shot to begin with, and being that my object of affection is someone I met here, I knew it would be hard to convey to that special someone. I know why I had to go through this hurt now. I needed to be waken to the idea of love, the notion of love, the concept of true love, and to be born again. Yes birth is very painful, on the infant, as well as the mother, but afterwards lives have been changed for all involved. My younger brother(Noah)and his wife(Toya) just gave birth, so I am a uncle. Seeing new life, puts your life in a new perspective. I thought that one time I was in love(leah, if I ever find you again, I will never let you go, this time) but we lost contact, and I became the hustler, tpye that I was yesterday. Today, I want love, to be loved, to love someone who would love me, and to be apart of the very special feelings of being for one person, and that one person being for me. My old Marine buddies, have fixed me up on a blind date, so we will see how that goes, but aside from that Life is about loving others and being loved yourself. Maybe I had to be thrown down to the depts to finally figure that out. Maybe I just needed to stop, and think. what ever the case, I have it now I am ready for love, I hope love is ready for me. As the fff relationship goes, I think we are still friends. The lady I refered to earlier, is very nice and sweet, and a beautiful person, both inside and out, and you never know what the future may hold for us, so we shall have to wait and see. As for now, I still intend to be the funny silly humorus Poppi, that I have always been, and trying to find my mate is the conclusion, but I want to have all the fun that comes with getting there . To all those who I have hurt in the past, not fulfilled your love or intentions, please charge my head and not my heart, I know your feelings now, and I apologize. To any one who, is too serious about long life time commitments, then, learn to relax and Take it slow. To every lady that is not ready to settle down, but just wants to have fun, I am ya boy, holla back. Lastly, to all, the beautiful people, ladies and men, of fff, my friends and buddies, thanks for all your advice and help, and thanks most of all for you friendships, God bless you all, may He watch over you always, and protect you daily. I care for you all, and pray for you every day. Last vent from Poppi, next time we will have some fun, ok, promise, and maybe even a relationship update? for now, ciao Biggs
I recently read an article in the paper, that said that 60 percent of Americans believe it is ok, to tell a lie, if you are trying to save someones feelings, or not to cause them any pain. If that is so then, I must be in the 40 percent group, because I don't think that it is ever right or ok to lie. I also listened to a radio show where the host gave all kinds of examples about how lying could be good or a needed thing to have in certain situations. I want to talk about the lies that he was talking about and the ones the paper said were ok little "white" lies. The first, one, was when your, wife/girlfriend comes in and ask you if some outfit makes them look Fat? We all know that it is a no win question, but the two previous sources said that you have to lie to save their feelings, and keep yourself out of the dog house. Is that right? No! The biggest problem with lying is that when you do it, you have to continue to do it and it just keeps getting bigger and bigger and harder to live up to. Eventually you will have to tell your significant other the truth about how they feel and the more you lie the more that truth will hurt them when they get it. Two, a guy was on a battlefield and his buddy was all shot up, as he held his buddy, the buddy asked, am I gonna make it, he told him yes your doing just fine. To me this is the worse lie of all in the paper. Sure we want to comfort those in these types of situations, but why not focus more on some other aspect than get them false security. why not say, making it is not important, I think your ok, but we have to get over this hill to the medic, or you really fought gallantly today in the battle, neither of which is a lie, unless he just ran and happen to get in the wrong spot. Truth is always, best. Three, your kid/s ask is there a santa claus. I hate this more than any. If they believe in Santa, because someone else told them to, then it is you as a parent who needs to give your child/ren wisdom, tell them that all good and perfect gifts come from God, not Saint Nick, or not even really you the parent. The bible is harsher in its criticism of liars than any other sin, except blasphemy. Why? Because lies destroy the very moral fabric that runs our souls. Lies hurt to the core. I have told lies in the past, too. That is why every day I do my best to tell the Truth. Even if that means upsetting someone, or maybe hurting a friendship. If they want to be your friend so bad, they want or deserve the truth, and to tell you the truth. and truth equals freedom, Jesus says, You shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. not lies, but truth, there is a great liberation in Knowing that when you ask someone something, they will tell you the truth. It is just as hard and a complete opposite, when you ask someone something and you don't know if they will tell you the truth or they are just trying to save your feelings or telling a innocent harmless "white" lie. Tell the truth, so help you God, and God will bless you for it. Try it, I have. The truth is always the best you can do. Thanks for your time and take care of yourselves, and each other. God bless you all and keep you ciao Biggs
I recently got a chance to enter into a conversation between several people, but mostly concerning two that are in a relationship, based on the one they share on the fff(internet). To make this even simpler for those of you who were not in the room at the time, They are boyfriend and girlfriend and they live thousands of miles apart. O.K. Every one got it? To my Literal shock and amazement, it seemed that everyone that commented in the room, was against such a couple existing. I was just totally disturbed because most of rationalizing that was done was based on very sketchy points at best. So as I always do here, I am here to break it down for you so that it will forever be broke . The situation that I will apply holds true for not just relationships, but for every facet of life itself. Before I get into all of that though, let me explain the argument against the couple being together. There was the "lie" proposal. This is because so many lie on the internet, you don't know them, and you only know what they want you to know, which is more than likely a lie. There was the "predator" angle. This is because of all the weirdos out there, you may be trying to date a serial killer, or something as bad as that. Then there was the "trust" shot. Which was applied to the internet and to real life, and it says, because you are so far away they can do and say anything, and you will never catch them and you can't trust that? myth 1.LIE, Lying on the internet is no different than lying in a bar, or rest. or any other place that people congregate. Some people, myself included, would not lie about a relationship no matter how bad they would love to sex the brains out of some super sexy hot diva they just met. On the other hand, to quote the great one, Lauren Hill, "Everyday people they lie to God too, so what makes you think that they wouldn't lie to you?" Maybe if you are some sort of integrating specialist, you can catch the lie easier in person, but most of us can't so therefore there is no difference in being in front of your lap top or in front of the big screens at your favorite pub. This will all lead to my final point, which will tie them all in. Myth 2. Predators More people are abducted, 5 to 1, everyday by people they knew, grew up with, related to, and have a close relationship with, than complete strangers that they just happen to meet. Most abductions by a complete stranger, happen in real life and not on the internet. So you are actually WAY safer communicating with someone on line then you are taking the cute guy/girl home that you met at the friday night social. Every statistic proves it. Yes they(on line predators) do exist but they most hunt kids, and most of us are grown, if not old and grown and grumpy too . Myth 3.Trust We are not born trusting, we learn to trust. We learn not to talk to strangers and then we learn who to talk to if something bad happens. You can trust someone a million miles away, just as much as you can trust the man/woman, that comes and gets in your bed every night. We have all either seen it, know some one who has gone through it, or have talk to someone that has gone through a mess of a cheating, lover, spouse, or friend. So you can trust anyone on here just as much as you can trust them in real life. You can trust someone that is a thousand miles away, just as much as you can trust the man holding your hand or woman holding your arm. Now, to conclude I do not personally know this guy from the previously mentioned couple, never met him. I do not personally know this lady, ditto. But you can have a great relationship built on the internet, just as much as you can have one built from growing up as best friends and living near each other all of you lives. It all comes down to weather or not you are ready, willing and able to take that chance. I know the greatest thing in life, it is love. Love is more powerful than any other emotion, feeling, or even any bomb or exchange of un pleasantry. Love, according to the bible, Never Fails!!!! So if you ever make a mistake, guess what love may be a mistake but it is one that is worth making.I wish all of you the love of your dreams, the passion of your heart, and most of all the peace of Our God. the great author of love, because God is love. Thanks for your time and God Bless and Keep U all, until then holla Big_Poppi2
Now I am a simple man, most men I believe are a lot like I am in several ways. My mind is usually geared toward very specific things when I am engadging in a act such as sex or foreplay.
I have been told on a couple of occasions by women, "talk dirty to me". talk dirty? what is that? I mean what I consider dirty, some might consider conservative. Then others may consider me to be way out of line and out of control. Still others will just not get it at all
So, why the fascination with dirty talk. I only need two things to have a intimate relationship. 1, a really hot and sexy lady . 2, A really hot and sexy lady I have so many things going on in my mind, when I start my little foreplay sessions, that I can't spare the room for talking, or moaning, or whispering, even though I still do work in all of the above. I just think if the foreplay doesn't get you going, and then the actuall event leaves you wandering, and not fulfilled, dirty talk won't get you there either. Dirty talk is for those 900 numbers and for the phone conversations, you have after you have done the dew, and look forward to the next time to do it again. Not the bed, foreplay or sex. that is my story and I am sticking to it. So take care of each other and God bless, and God Bless America, until the next time ciao Big Poppi
before I get that topic out of the way, let me apologize for the last one. I hope to share laughs and make you all a little better for reading this column and yesterday we were very far from that. So I apologize. Now, when I got to a chat room, and I don't recognize the handles, I check out their profiles. I even check out some of the profiles of some of the guys but only when someone refers to them as being hot, or something like that, but not because I am interested in the guys. I would bet, that at least 80 percent of the titles on these profiles are about marriage and finding a soul mate or a life time partner. Why? Is the real name of this site, Future Desperate Wives? Or maybe it should be Desperate Singles? If you have lived any life at all, you know that the harder you try to make something happen, usually the less likely it is to happen at all. but that is too serious, lets poke some fun
Sex is nice, sex is good, and actually, sex is wonderful! But, when you are with someone for the first time it usually can be pretty awkward. Not everyone is that way, but most first intimate situations are. So, you have to experiment to gain your own style, confidence, and sexual identity. I am not saying the more the merrier, which may be ok for some, but no Let marriage follow its own course and just have sex! Sleep around, but be safe. Have fun, but do it irresponsibly. If all else fails, hell, please yourself, and again, be smart and safe. The single biggest difference between men and women, is our sex. So lets enjoy getting to know each other, before we walk down the aisle. Who knows, men are stupid anyway, and we go to great lengths for sex, why not marriage . If you don't find your "soul mate", well at least you will have a good time out there trying. Besides, don't married couples fight about getting some anyways? Why fight before the marriage starts. To all of you that say, I am religious, I can't do that. I say, show me your bible, and I will help guide you along ok? Finally, just think like the popular shoes, a.d.i.d.a.s., All Day I Dream about Sex, or nike, just do it, or even the water boy(movie) You can Do it, You can do it all night long, well maybe not all night but at least a good portion of it, take care of each other, and see you on the flip side, God Bless ciao
before I get that topic out of the way, let me apologize for the last one. I hope to share laughs and make you all a little better for reading this column and yesterday we were very far from that. So I apologize. Now, when I got to a chat room, and I don't recognize the handles, I check out their profiles. I even check out some of the profiles of some of the guys but only when someone refers to them as being hot, or something like that, but not because I am interested in the guys. I would bet, that at least 80 percent of the titles on these profiles are about marriage and finding a soul mate or a life time partner. Why? Is the real name of this site, Future Desperate Wives? Or maybe it should be Desperate Singles? If you have lived any life at all, you know that the harder you try to make something happen, usually the less likely it is to happen at all. but that is too serious, lets poke some fun
Sex is nice, sex is good, and actually, sex is wonderful! But, when you are with someone for the first time it usually can be pretty awkward. Not everyone is that way, but most first intimate situations are. So, you have to experiment to gain your own style, confidence, and sexual identity. I am not saying the more the merrier, which may be ok for some, but no Let marriage follow its own course and just have sex! Sleep around, but be safe. Have fun, but do it irresponsibly. If all else fails, hell, please yourself, and again, be smart and safe. The single biggest difference between men and women, is our sex. So lets enjoy getting to know each other, before we walk down the aisle. Who knows, men are stupid anyway, and we go to great lengths for sex, why not marriage . If you don't find your "soul mate", well at least you will have a good time out there trying. Besides, don't married couples fight about getting some anyways? Why fight before the marriage starts. To all of you that say, I am religious, I can't do that. I say, show me your bible, and I will help guide you along ok? Finally, just think like the popular shoes, a.d.i.d.a.s., All Day I Dream about Sex, or nike, just do it, or even the water boy(movie) You can Do it, You can do it all night long, well maybe not all night but at least a good portion of it, take care of each other, and see you on the flip side, God Bless ciao
I would hope that every single member on this site would have a response of some sort to what I am about to write. I think that this one issue affects or effects each and everyone of us. There are two things that I want to make clear before the real column starts. I am not black! When you see my skin you may think that. But, My skin does not define me. The life that I live, and the type of person I am toward others define who and what I am. Plus My father, is Dominicano, and my mother black so at best I am half and half. Two, I am not, nor have I ever been a racist. I love all people regardless of there, race, sex, religion, or orientation. If you think differently, then just talk to me and you can find out for yourself. Now, I have been just about around the world. With the exception of a few countries, I have been to every continent. The shade or pigment of the skin is the single biggest issue in them all. Since this site is filipino friend finder, I will focus this chat on Filipino/a's. Before I ever visited the philippines, there were people who told me that, "Oh, you will love it there, they love BLACK MEN" What ever that is suppose to mean. Not true! Every friend in my unit, every friend as a civilian, and everyone that I have talked to, admitted to feeling a cold shoulder and the White guys getting all the really good looking girls, Especially in the Asian region. I don't blame them, there are some really great looking white people, and other nationalities too. Now, as far as the Hispanics, go. If I looked like Ricky Martin, I would be over run with propsals of every sort. I am refering to his skin pigment too by the way, because this is what the typical person thinks of when they think, Latino. No they don't think of Sammy Sosa, or Miguel tiejada, or David Ortiz, or me. that is because we are so dark pigmented that they think we are black, at first glance. Because I appear to be black, and I am tall 6'4" I am always asked do I play basketball? What the hell is that, do all black people play Basketball? No! In the Dominican Republic, we play baseball, and we do it very well. I know for a fact, that this is the single greatest barrier from my profile, and Most of the people that are on this site. Lets be honest. If you have never spoke to me, don't know me, and I write you a message to chat, then you look at the awful pic that I have on my site right now, you think, hmmm black guy, next! That too is a topic for another day. So why do these barriers exist? Why are the white guys, light skin latinos, and lighter blacks more popular? Perception. If I don't play basketball for a living then I am not successful. This is as they say the white man's world, so then when the white guy wants to chat with you, oh he must be rich. I am just the poor Dominican with a computer. I know all the we love you know what your race is comments that you all will add to so just save those, please. I am so extremly likeable, and in some circles loved, because I came to grips with who and what I am. That gives me the confidence to say it like it is. I wish this site would block the ablity to see a profile unless the person gives you permission, because then you would have to take the crazy chance of getting to know some one you can't see. Then if you have decided ahead of time, "I don't like those people, or those people, you will see how dumb that is when you make friends with the very group you want to avoid. Let me be very clear on this one. I love every nationality under the sun, well maybe with the exception of blacks(another topic for another day again) I don't choose my friends because outwardly they are beautiful, or what I want in a mate, frankly some of the biggest jerks in here are the so called beautiful ones. My religion guides my life. The bible says, to make friends, one must present himself friendly, and there is no one here more friendly than I. So why so many rejections. Easy, I have dark skin. it is that simple. You can't tell my personality from my pic. You can't tell my mentality from my pic. My profile answers nothing about my economic situation. So you don't find my appearance attractive, well its not an invitation to marriage to ask to chat. Look into your own life and clear out the idocracies, and learn to judge people only after you know them, not their profiles. Sorry so rantty this post, we will get back to the fun stuff next time. And yes!!! I need a hug or something. But I digress, until the next post, love, peace, and soul!!! ciao
As to the Lies, what are lies? why do we use them. What makes them so bad. And why do we feel so hurt for hearing them. I submit to you that there are only three 3 reasons for tell ing a lie. all to come in due order. A lie is a fragment of the true, told without the remainer of trueth, or with other distortions of the the remaining trutheth. In Other words, a cover up, and/or an exclusion. This means that in some fashion a lie can actually be accounted for trueth. Take this for example, I am Dominicano! that is true. But to ommit or not include the rest of the heritage that I have makes it a lie. I am also Half Black, So I am a Dominicano black man(also an American) We use lies to do things we feel we can't do with the trueth. I don't want to hurt your feelings, lie. I want to get out of talking about my feelings, Lie . what makes them so bad? If we all agree that a lie to save someone's emotions is good, then why jump on the don't lie to me band wagon. There would be no lies if everyone where stronger mentally and emotionally, and able to withstand being hurt. 3 reasons we lie. 1 to get away with something we would do anyway, wheather we were caught or not, but to try to get away with it. 2 To avoid a painfull confrontation about a relationship, a job, etc. . . 3 To save someone's feeling, and emtions. there they are. Now I submit to you that there is no good lie. they escalate until the trueth eventually comes out, so if you have to cheat on your girlfriend, and you need to steal that 40 dollars out that purse. be a Man, be a Woman, and accept the Consiquences, that you will have to deal with for doing so. Never Lie!!!! more to come . . . . . . . .
But this one is about love. With so many different insites or views on what love is, how do you know when someone says I love you that, they are talking about the same kinda love that you maybe thinking of? How do you know if they are even really talking about love at all? Maybe they are just in lust with you, but to I love you sounds so much better 
Besides, if you really love one another, do you even have to say it at all, isn't love more something that you feel than something that can be expressed?
Just know that I am more experienced than you are, and it is experience and God's own devine inspiration, which leads us to true knowledge. If you think that you love some one then you probably don't. Because love is to strong to held in dought. If you say well, I like you alot, but i am not sure if I love you, then you don't. Don't force something to be what you hope it will be if it is not. This is the biggest mistake made in our world today. You date, ok, I like him/her. A few dates later, well how do you feel? OOOOh It must be Love. 
So at a point where you have found your meaning for existing, you may have also found the meaning of losing life. I tell you that my commitment to you is not for life, it is a life commitment. I love you so much that it dangerously love, no greater danger to life, than to be without you to die, to loose your love. I am dangerously in love with you 
Now you know why love is urgent. Created in this world love, to hold to live, to feel you, to be with you! I know that know you will all find a dangerous love also, 
your friend(bible verse for the day, A friend loves always 
I thought of giving up on this site, and never coming here again. It is hard to reach out to someone, even harder to do on the internet. But it is possible to build a friendship with someone on this site, and just alone you can get a great sense of the charater of the person/people you meet here with just a conversation. Now the odds, are very much against finding the "soul" mate here, but that happens on web sites all over the net, so why not here too. Any relationship, no matter how you meet or start it is hard to maintain, so this is no different. The Holy Bible which is my most referenced book, says, confession is good for the soul, so I am confessing to all my new and old friends here at fff. 
It is very difficult to let someone know your feelings, to bare your emotions, to open your heart, and have the feeling thrown aside as a by product of your conversation. yes, I am a man, but men can be hurt also, and for a few days I was not only hurt but confused. I figured it was a long shot to begin with, and being that my object of affection is someone I met here, I knew it would be hard to convey to that special someone. I know why I had to go through this hurt now. I needed to be waken to the idea of love, the notion of love, the concept of true love, and to be born again.
I just think if the foreplay doesn't get you going, and then the actuall event leaves you wandering, and not fulfilled, dirty talk won't get you there either. Dirty talk is for those 900 numbers and for the phone conversations, you have after you have done the dew, and look forward to the next time to do it again. Not the bed, foreplay or sex. that is my story and I am sticking to it. 
