I know that we all have different beliefs and we all have different religions. So I am saying that whether you are agnostic, or an atheist, or catholic(like I am), or what ever your belief is, that you can answer these two questions, truthfully, that your life will be a success. No matter how you determine success to be
I refer to the higher being as God. So, what ever you refer to him/her/it as, then just substitute that into the phrase where I will use the term God.
Question 1) Do you believe that your life has a purpose, and that God has that purpose in mind when you are born/created/come into existence? You see one of the great questions of life is why are we here. and if it is a meaningful reason, and there is a higher being, then he has a reason for allowing each and all of us to be here.
Question 2) Can you serve that purpose that God has for you and live your live to the manner that you wish at the same time? You see a lot of people believe that this is not true. This is why priest, even those that have desires to do various things in life, forsake their own ambitions and dreams, to serve the Lord or God. They feel that they must serve his purpose, even ahead of their own goals or wants. I believe that I can serve the mission that God has for me and still live a life where I accomplish my dreams and goals too. Only you, the individual can tell the answer to these questions, but if you are true enough to yourself, and you truly follow these guides, you will succeed Thank you and God bless, your friend Biggs
So, I am finally wrapping my mind around this concept of life I am finally starting to understand how finate it is. I know and I have always known that there are some things that we don't get a chance to do over, or undo, or get a second chance at. This is why I would like to encourage every one to take a different look at how you view, love.
I at one point in my life, was a party machine, I love to dance all night, have a few drinks, and maybe even a few kisses One of my favorite songs is Dancing Queen by Abba. I know they refer to the person in the song as a she, but I was, I guess a dancing king I never looked for so many of the things that guys look for typically, when I was partying with a ladie it was just that, a party. I wasn't trying to score, or take her home, we were just having a good time, "having the time of our lives"
So I began to gain a large group of very attractive ladies that I knew and associated with only with dancing and hanging out. Then there can the day when I got a "girlfriend" So now she was like why do you dance with all these girls, are you my man or theirs, why can't you just stay here and talk to me, do you have to dance every song?
I lost a lot of friends, and I have never seen or communicated with some since those days. I often times think back to maybe, since we had so much in common we may have been compatable, but now that I have since left the girl that forced us apart, I can never go back to those days. All I can do is wonder, what could have been.
You see so often we get caught up in thinking that we have to be so serious when we are in some kind of relationship that we don't have room to see outside of the possiblities that there just may be someone else who I am meant for that I am passing by or letting slip away because I want to focus on this individual.
It is my experiences that give me the ablity to learn and to pass on to all of you. Never allow a lover, gf/bf to come between you and your friends. You only live once, and if someone would do that instead of joining in and becoming a part of your life and become friends with your friends, then that person is doing you more harm than good. Don't get so caught up in looking for a soulmate that you can't allow yourself to live. Everything happens for a reason and there is a purpose to everything and every season under heaven. You get once and that is all, so live life, have fun, explore, be creative and you can do all those things and still have a love of your own it just may not be me Taike care and God bless, your friend Biggs
There was a debate in the chat room I was in about flirting. I mostly visit the english language room, and so if you where there you know the people who where involved. There was a married(man) who some say was flirting with this lady and some even took offense at the fact that he would be flirting with a single lady if he in fact was happily married.
I can't tell you everyone's perspective on that subject but I can offer you mine Flirting is like breathing, or your heart beating. It is impossible to live without. If you say I never flirt, then you must not have a good definition on the word. Especially Married couples. I have friends that are married and they flirt with each other constantly. This is why the guys don't want to sit around the house with you and your wife. We say, awww, man, you guys need to be alone I see, we'll catch you later. There are good flirts and bad flirts but all flirts are innocent until the intention changes from flirting to directing and I will give you an example. I tell girls(ladies, women) all the time that I think they are sexy or hot, or attractive. No harm No foul, its just meant to be a compliment, and also to let them know that I may be interested in getting to know more about them. Now, If I tell someone, oh, I wish I could hold you, and carress and etc. . . it is still harmless unless, I am either with the person(cause no matter what, we can't make out over the internet) or planning to be with them soon.
This is still harmless, unless I have a spouse, or a girlfriend, or some significant other and they are unaware of what I am intending to do. Then it is harmful if we don't have a relationship that allows for that. There are some people(I am one), who are fine with there partner going out and being with some one else if that is what they choose to do. I simply tell my partners that if you want to be with someone else, then you obviously don't want to be with me, so when you do feel that way, or do act out on those impulses, then we should move on because obviously we are not right for each other and maybe you could be happier with the other person.
No harm No foul, relationships dissolve sometimes and then we move on Take care and God bless Biggs
Nov 6, 2006 3:43 am Mood: contemplative, 397 Views
I wish I never met you never grew to know you never became your friend never became your lover
I wish I never met you never knew you cared never looked into your eyes never felt your touch
I wish I never met you never learned to love you never wanted to be everything for you never began a life fulling journey with you
I wish I never met you cause one day I will die and to be apart from you is more than I dare to bare
I wish I never met you life is so hard without you life is destined to end and how can I live in heaven or after life without you you are my very soul
If I never met you then I would never have learned to love to live, to dance, to fullfill all of my dreams I would not be so afraid to loose you
I wish I never met you but I am so grateful that I did and I give a thousand life times for a second to love you again
I wish I never met you but I thank God for you every night for loving and for teaching me how to live, and love and so many things you have given me
I wish I never met you but I met you before we either one were born for I live just to hold you I live and have life to love you all with all my heart
I am so blessed to have met you I am so sad that to know that I didn't always love you correctly I hope to prove I love you, from now to the end of eternity thanks God bless Biggs
Hello, there fellow bloggers of the internet universe Friends, Dominicanos, countrymen, lend me your eyes, cause I dought that you would be able to hear me as I am saying this in my mind I come to build friendships, not to burry them! Ok, I really do value all of you that are my friends, both male and females, however, a blog should at some point in time make you think, and evey now and then I attempt to do just that
Now, I watch a lot of movies, and science has tested just about every theory dealing with our fascination with the theator and this is the results of one scientific view. 75 % of what is done in and on the movie screen is ficition. It is meant to entertain, to amuse and to delight. 10% is facts or history as it really happened, even if it is still entertaining. 5 % is filler, they need to add to the movie, or add to a historical scene to fill out the move. That leaves us with 10. 10 % is the things that are either learned or have some sort of enrichment value, where when you leave a theator you say, wow, I would have never thought to do that.
Now I love a great little movie called "When harry Met Sallie". It has meg ryan and billy crystal and there are all sorts of great lines that I often have used in my life from that movie. One of which is, "The second you realize that there is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to begin as soon as possible" Great line but the thing that I take from that movie to talk to you about more so than that is that Billy crystal, says that men and women can never be friends, because the \bsexo?\b always gets in the way? I agree with that. Sure I have friends on this site that I really believe are truest of true friends. At the same time if we were in the same area, I would be sexually interested in them, and I would hope maybe some of them would be interested in me too therefore, if we would put our friendship ahead of our impules, then there would always be this feeling of, wow, how can this friendship be, when we are so meant for each other? Ok, I will finish this in another blog cause, wow, its too long already but I know that men, especially men(cause, ladies we are all dogs ) can never be friends with a really hot, sexy and attractive lady more next time, gatos and perros, take care and God bless you all, as always, your friend Biggs
This site says I have to upgrade to add new pics, ha, I just want to show I can do that some other day, these guys and I will called ourselves the committee, these are all my closest friends but we had more that came and left the circle too, but these are the guys. Fellas if you see this, holla at cha boy, and if you ladies want to know one of them, let me know we will try to introduce you to them if possible, take care and God bless and oh yeah, those are corona's with grenadine and lemons your friend Biggs
I Often times get offended by people who, on their profiles say things like, I want a caucasian, or anything just not what I am. I often times think, why is that? How can you say you don't want to know me, or wouldn't want to be involed with me, and we have never met, and you don't know what type of person I am? Is not this the act of juding before knowing? or Pre-judging?
Some would call that prejudiced? Is that not so, because you have clearly thought to judge me before you ever knew anything about me. You just decided that because I don't meet this line of points that you have set up, that you couldn't be happy or involed with someone like me? Hmmm I understand, having a particular taste, and having things that you desire about your mate. Its cool we all do, but when your desire turns into a compulsive action, and rules out considering any other actions, then it is neither good nor is it desireable. It is a sickness.
When I was growing up, I said my whole life I want my wife to be Dominicano, and I would never consider another race, cause I want my kids to be fully dominicano, and not partially any other race. As I started to live more and then the Marines sent me to different parts of the world that view changed. I met beautiful, whites, and asians, and all races, and that is what led me to this question. Why does it matter what race my love of my life is? I found my answer in, I didn't truly love myself. I hated the fact that I didn't look like all the other latinos, on tv or in the movies, I hated the fact that I look like a black guy, and I am more dominicano than alex rodrieguez cause he wasn't born in Santo Dominigo and I was. I hated myself really and wanted to change who I was so that others would accept me more. You have to love yourself, before you can start to love anyone else, no matter what race, nationality or creed they are. When I begin to fall in love with myself, suddenly, It was like a hugh boulder being lifted off my back, i was free, and open to be happy, for the first time!!! We can't tell fate, destiny, or God who to send us as a mate, but when you learn to love yourself, you will learn to love whoever they are, and no matter what race they are. Take care, sorry so long, God bless, your friend Biggs
I have to borrow a line from the elements and say it here, "You need a song, to make, your day brighter, one that will last, you all, through trouble days." I think that there are so many ways in which we can be inspired. Some gentle, or kind words, can do the job. Or maybe, a good song can turn a gloomy day, into a little bit of inspiration. Then there is always the comfort and support of family and friends. Which is one of the great reasons that we look for those same attributes in a lover or spouse, some one that can make us feel comforted even when it seems the world is falling down around us! Unfortunately there is the other side too, those who only add to our troubles and make our lives harder than they should be, because they only know how to hurt and bring sadness to everything. In any case the true answer lies in devotion. When you are devoted to a cause soul, mind and body, you dedicate to that cause so greatly that it will lead to great results. I think the first steps in life as an infant, are the witness to this. You have to work very hard to learn to walk and dedicate all your energy toward that. Now, when we walk it requires no energy at all. But as an infant it took great concentration, great commitment(to fall and get up and try it again). It took a network of family and friends urging you on. Lastly, it took dedication and Devotion. If you apply that approach to every task in life, not only will you accomplish your goals, you will blow them away. Take care all and God bless, your friend Biggs
I have posted some good articles on here and some maybe not so good, well at least I think so, so from now on I have to remember these three things and never do them 1)Never post or blog when either high emotions are in place; very very angry or frustrated cause i don't ever get angry really just frustrated and/or sadden by someone whom I thought was a friend
2)Never discuss my crushes/hopefulls. It has become clear to me that this only leads to more frustration since no one can really help, but just offer words of consideration or empathy.
3) Never post anything, on a subject that someone on this site or any site for that matter can do nothing to help, or solve. For example, I posted to the hurt of alot of my true friends here a post about being let down by what I thought were friends. It only cause so many to question, or state I hope you know I am a true friend and for that I apologize to all the great friends I have.
So if I get upset at someone, I will try not to rant on this site just take a little time away and then gather myself and post later. Hope you all will understand and support me as I try to grow into the company of the elite bloggers on here and expand on my ideas and abilities to express them too you all. hmmm maybe I should start a new blog title too, or get back to talking about \bsexo?\b, lies, and. . . . , yeah, I think its back to \bsexo?\b Take care and God bless you all and thanks for stoping by, Your friend, Biggs
I am finally starting to understand how finate it is. I know and I have always known that there are some things that we don't get a chance to do over, or undo, or get a second chance at. This is why I would like to encourage every one to take a different look at how you view, love. 
One of my favorite songs is Dancing Queen by Abba. I know they refer to the person in the song as a she, but I was, I guess a dancing king 
I never looked for so many of the things that guys look for typically, when I was partying with a ladie it was just that, a party. I wasn't trying to score, or take her home, we were just having a good time, "having the time of our lives" 
but the thing that I take from that movie to talk to you about more so than that is that Billy crystal, says that men and women can never be friends, because the \bsexo?\b always gets in the way? I agree with that. Sure I have friends on this site that I really believe are truest of true friends.
therefore, if we would put our friendship ahead of our impules, then there would always be this feeling of, wow, how can this friendship be, when we are so meant for each other? Ok, I will finish this in another blog cause, wow, its too long already 
) can never be friends with a really hot, sexy and attractive lady 
In any case the true answer lies in devotion. When you are devoted to a cause soul, mind and body, you dedicate to that cause so greatly that it will lead to great results. I think the first steps in life as an infant, are the witness to this. You have to work very hard to learn to walk and dedicate all your energy toward that. Now, when we walk it requires no energy at all. But as an infant it took great concentration, great commitment(to fall and get up and try it again). It took a network of family and friends urging you on. Lastly, it took dedication and Devotion. If you apply that approach to every task in life, not only will you accomplish your goals, you will blow them away. 
Take care all and God bless, your friend 
