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Dobbing a Cheater I can't remember dobbing anyone except maybe when I was a I dobbed my sisters to get favor from my mother but even that I can't remember. Sometimes I wondered. I am specifically talking about cheating men that I knew. Yes men,that is because all the cheaters I know and met are men. i'm sure there are women who cheat but I have not met one. I have friends who I have proven were cheating on their wife or girlfriend. Two friends of my husband brought along their girlfriends to our place several times and introduced us. I just kept quiet but that doesn't mean I approve it. I did not tell their wives because I did not have the opportunity and it was none of my business.   One of the wives eventually found about her husbands affair and she got really angry at us specially my husband for not telling her. Although that did not really stopped her husband from having other affairs. I can understand her, being a woman myself I would also like my friend to tell me if my husband of boyfriend is cheating on me. My reason for not telling her is I hardly see her so I did not have the chance to tell her. It is a sensitive issue you can't just tell it in casual conversation you may even be sued and branded as rumor monger. So how do you tell the woman? Another kumpare of my husband was hitting on my friend, he was a married man and his are friends om my . That I reacted I told my girlfriend and told my husband to tell his kumpare off but I never told the wife firstly because there was no relationship but I am glad I took steps to prevent it. There were circumstances that I felt I should tell the woman. I am in a dilemma because of many coincidences that I have witnessed. I know very well that no affair is my business other than mine. I do not like to meddle and besides what benefit will I get? But what I have witnessed is compelling me to dob. I am a witness and I have evidence. The guy is cheating and lying. The girl has become a friend. Will I tell the girl what I know? If you were in my shoe and you know what I knew, what will you do?  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.” |
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I admit I have to check the internet to learn what dobbing means. It took a while too but I finally learned that dobbing in NZ and Australia mean to report or tell on. Now my opinion on the matter. It depends on each situation. If one feels it is a big deal because the aggrieved person is a close friend, she should talk to the person in confidence and tell her about it. Otherwise, just keep quiet and let her find out about it. Sometimes silence is golden. Be sure that if you don't tell the aggrieved one, you don't tell anybody else. I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything 
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I admit I have to check the internet to learn what dobbing means. It took a while too but I finally learned that dobbing in NZ and Australia mean to report or tell on. Now my opinion on the matter. It depends on each situation. If one feels it is a big deal because the aggrieved person is a close friend, she should talk to the person in confidence and tell her about it. Otherwise, just keep quiet and let her find out about it. Sometimes silence is golden. Be sure that if you don't tell the aggrieved one, you don't tell anybody else. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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thanks Kaye, yes it's a very difficult situation and even if I try to put myself in the other person's shoe I can't tell it. If the person involved is my child it is a lot easier I will tell off the cheater. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Oh Ta Jane I can feel what you are saying and thanks a lot for being open and sharing your experience. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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You can't correct a mistake by making another mistake my dear.  “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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[/SIZE in a case where the erring party and the aggrieved one are both your friends, you can‘t help feeling like your choices are ‘to tell or not to tell‘...and both choices could put you in an unpleasant situation like ‘ damn if you do, and damn if you don‘t ‘....
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Depende sa nagawang kasalanan at kung tungkol sa cheater depende rin kung kanino. I am not sure of the relevance of your question to my blog though but thanks for visiting anyway. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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Oh you misinterpreted me, they did not sleep in our house, I or my husband will never allow that. They came for a visit to say hi or maybe to drop or pick up something or maybe to talk to my husband about something. Please read again I never said anything about them sleeping at our house. Maybe they came to show off their conquers. Thanks for visiting my blog. “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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It's hard to decide once you are in that situation. Either you tell them or not. The outcome is will they get mad or accept the fact. So, thread carefully... Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...
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It's hard to decide once you are in that situation. Either you tell them or not. The outcome is will they get mad or accept the fact. So, thread carefully... “Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”
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