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Walk the walk, nobody is going to do it for you     The one thing that happy, successful people don't do a lot of is complaining. The chronic complainer tends to always have something wrong in their life, their issues are more important than everybody else, and when you have something to vent about yourself, they aren't very interested in listening. Constant complaining does nothing but push your friends away and keep you in that dark unhappy place. While alcohol can help loosen you up in these social situations, drinking excessively on a regular basis can cause all sorts of havoc in your life. Since alcohol is a depressant, the following day after drinking yourself silly usually results in a pretty unproductive day. No matter what you do, you only have so much impact on what the future has in store for you. Stop worrying about tomorrow and focus right at this moment. Making bad food choices or eating too much is not only bad for your health, it can make you feel lethargic, guilty, depressed and when done for extended periods of time typically results in gained weight. Unfortunately eating poorly is a vicious cycle. Often times people eat to self medicate when they are feeling down. Unhappy people get caught up talking about other people instead of talking about things such as ideas or current events. Lonesome fellas also have a tendency to judge others. "Look what that knuckle head is doing!" "Can you believe what she is wearing!" If you catch yourself judging somebody you don't know, bite your tongue. Trashing somebody else might make you feel better for a moment, but all you are doing is masking your insecurities by trying to put them beneath you. Harbouring animosity towards somebody is like carrying around a backpack full of rocks. You don't have a problem carrying it, but it is a load on your back, and life sure would be easier if you could just take it off. Forgiving will help free you of anxiety, stress and depression and allow you to have happier relationships. Free yourself of the hate, and move on. One of the biggest causes of unhappiness is loneliness. Being sad generally stems from lack of social stimulation.Reducing face to face interactions tends to reduce social anxiety for less extroverted individuals. Unfortunately staying within your comfort zone, limits personal growth, and prevents the development of valuable face to face relationships. When negative thoughts enter your head, immediately think of something else. Never entertain them. Jumping to conclusions usually comes in one of two forms; Fortune telling and mind reading.Fortune Telling is when a situation arises and you automatically predict that things are going to turn out poorly. Because of this fortune telling, you often take yourself out of these situations, which for the most part would end in a great experience. You lose out by having jumped to conclusions and predicting an unsatisfactory outcome. Mind reading is when you automatically assume that others are negatively reacting to you or something you've done when there is no definite evidence. This can and will make you feel like a victim and can result in unfounded resentment towards these imaginary reactions. Often times unhappy people have a tendency to blow small things out of proportion. Take a step back before you deal with an issue and try to look at it objectively. Often times if you try to take yourself and your emotions out of the equation and think it through you will realize that you are making a big deal out of nothing. How you talk to yourself can seriously affect your self image. When you make a mistake, tell yourself "You made a mistake, next time you will do better." Saying things like "You are are stupid" or "You are a piece of crap" does nothing but lower your self worth. Start small, and build up steam, you are the only thing that stands in the way. So many people spend a ridiculous amount of time trying to please others. Stop doing things for other people and do things that delight you. There are lots of pissed off people and they want to drag you down to their level. If somebody gives you the middle finger while driving, smile back at them and let them spend their energy being cranky. Don't let somebody else's bad day control the outcome of yours. Most people think that if they had more money, their happiness would increase accordingly. Unfortunately, much like "Waiting for the future," the illusion that more money will solve all your problems and make you happy is nothing more than just that, an illusion. --- IBOriginals on InfoBarrel Ryan McKenzie (owner) April 15, 2013 Once in a while, someone comes along to put you on top of the world.   |
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