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Blogs > elleyn > Creations of my mind


elleyn 41F
142 posts
4/16/2012 7:56 pm
Singleness is a Bliss

When I was 15 my father told me you can't have a boyfriend yet...you're way too young. And I was rebelious, because then I was dating one of the popular guy in the campus. And I was just told I can't. It's so unfair!!!

When I was 18 I was told...don't rush into any serious relationship you still have lots of wonderful years ahead of you. I'm frustrated, now that I am of legal age I was cautioned to take slow steps. That's just plain absurd.

When I turned 26 and my career is skyrocketing I was told, you are way too workaholic you should start thinking about settling down. What settling down, I am just starting to explore the world and I was told to rein myself. No freaking way.

30s came and I still feel proud of my success, I was told you are doing it all wrong. You should be having family and by now. You are not getting any younger. Then for once I realized I agree, but still I am taking my own sweet time.

And after one date after the other and so on...I said no, I won't be pressured by what other people are sayiing. I have lived my life according to norms and I wont let the norms interpere with what I really want. Love, getting married and building a family is not some project or work that has to have a deadline.

So yes I am in my 30s single and fabulous.

I am alone but definitely lonely is not in my vocabulary.

I always go to a restaurant and ask for a table for one, but I order the best steak without worrying my lipstick will smudge in front of my date.

I put on my prettiest dress and hit the bars without worrying that a guy will get pissed off that my skirt is way too short or my dress too fit.

I can be lounging in bed one moment and grab a backpack, hop onto a plane the next moment and see the world.

I am having a blissful singlehood, and by the time came that the right guy sweep me off my feet, I could tell him I am complete and ready to share my life with him.
Elleyn
luv_a_fair 54F
4621 posts
4/17/2012 12:38 am

 you're right...if one is not ready to give up her blissful singlehood, and happy seeing the world on her own, love/relationship can wait...

take your own sweet time...i hope tho' that when the "right" guy sweeps you off your feet, it's not to help you to your wheelchair...sayang naman...

This is ME...I don't need your approval...


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 1:05 am
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Thanks for the well wishing
Elleyn


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 1:06 am
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Amen to that Thinks. Thanks for dropping by
Elleyn


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 1:07 am
    Quoting luv_a_fair:
    you're right...if one is not ready to give up her blissful singlehood, and happy seeing the world on her own, love/relationship can wait...

    take your own sweet time...i hope tho' that when the "right" guy sweeps you off your feet, it's not to help you to your wheelchair...sayang naman...
Thanks Luv.

I am hoping that won't be the case too.
Elleyn


ajaw430 54F

4/17/2012 9:55 am

 You remind me of one interview I watched from love advise columnists
"Being single you`re constantly convincing yourself that you`re okey and everything seems fine" maybe true indeed but the feeling of emptiness when you`re alone can slowly grip, as we`re design to share life with someone. I am also alone but not lonely and got my wonderful kids with me. I wish to share life also with someone who can sweep me off my feet, I still think I have so much to give and willing to try again, but this time, with the right person though that I can compliment with

Single blessedness in my opinion is a gift and not everyone can accept it I am sure you`ll meet the right one for you, just pray for God`s guidance, that he leads you to the right one


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 6:46 pm
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Lonely is subjective you can be with someone but still be lonely.

Thanks for dropping by my blog
Elleyn


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 6:50 pm
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Nice insight.

Though I believe you can only share when you got something to share. You can only love when you love yourself enough. I will not be in any relationship if I think that a partner is what lacks in me. I will be in a relationship if I feel that being in one is what will complement me.
Elleyn


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 6:53 pm
    Quoting ajaw430:
    You remind me of one interview I watched from love advise columnists
    "Being single you`re constantly convincing yourself that you`re okey and everything seems fine" maybe true indeed but the feeling of emptiness when you`re alone can slowly grip, as we`re design to share life with someone. I am also alone but not lonely and got my wonderful kids with me. I wish to share life also with someone who can sweep me off my feet, I still think I have so much to give and willing to try again, but this time, with the right person though that I can compliment with

    Single blessedness in my opinion is a gift and not everyone can accept it I am sure you`ll meet the right one for you, just pray for God`s guidance, that he leads you to the right one
I agree we are design to share life someone, but given that, I wouldn't want to share my life with someone who sees me as someone to fill what is lacking in him. Because in the long run I might not have nothing to give anymore. He and I must be a complete person who decided to fall in love and share life together.

Thanks for reading
Elleyn


elleyn 41F

4/17/2012 10:06 pm
    Quoting jas8464:
    thanks for sharing Elleyn
You're welcome.

And thanks for reading
Elleyn




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