Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
| Blogs > val_entino > My Blog |
|
UNREVEALED SECRETS Ahhh secrets..those juicy secrets people want to know but you want to stay your ground not to reveal it. Depending on the nature of secrets individuals have like secrets about their best friend's love affairs, family matters, their gf/bfs, or spouse /husband's past, or secret about themselves..sometimes it takes a willpower not to talk about it even to someone they thought they can trust. There are reasons to keep a secret if you're protecting someone or yourself from embarrassment, or from annoying ex gf/bf. Certainly, everyone here have their own secret they don't want to reveal no matter how simple the secret is. In the long run secrets will be to be discovered if some people are not careful about it coz they have to tell their friends who are naturally blabbermouths. When the secret involves crime, the person who committed it will try her/his best to keep her/his mouth shut to avoid incarceration but to the investigators, that person doesn't have to reveal it. All they need are evidences and science to prove her/his guilt beyond reasonable doubts if you watch CSI or Law and Order. Here in FFF, you don't have to be a psychic to tell if most members have secrets, it doesn't exclude me. Those who are some keeping some right now, you know who you are. You don't have to admit it but if you have a guilty conscience, the best thing you can do is whoever the person you're trying to fool just leave that person alone and let her/him get on with her/his life. Maybe it's an embarrassing secret that would lead to a break up in the relationship, or a secret that would define the type of person you really are and damaging to your reputation or best friend's reputation, or a secret only a mother would forgive. You don't want to discuss these secrets coz you don't want to bring out the topic that would make her/him suspicious about you, or you don't want a best friend revealing your secret to protect the person she/he knows you will be hurting emotionally coz s/he was treated unfairly. People who are keeping damaging secrets coz of infidelity are evasive when asked certain questions and when their answers are not sufficient feel free to cast a doubt. Sometimes trust your own gut feeling or instinct that you're dealing with a person who's good at manipulation, the smooth talker who thinks he can put anyone to submission whenever he wants but full of secrets that's undetectable because the rules of the game tend to favor those who cheat. You can only defeat this rules if you take drastic actions such as using a surveillance, careful observations, going through details such as checking her/his cell phones when s/he's asleep or in the shower if you're married to that person. Maybe there are ethical issues using this approach but if you can't sleep at night thinking about it, knowing the real truth will give you a peace of mind. Don't ever trust someone 100% on cyberspace right away, as I mentioned on my 'Avoiding Pitfalls' blog..better be safe than sorry. A person is unreliable if she/he can't provide a straight answer or defensive when you ask the right the question. Secrets are part of our life if we want to gain advantage but secrets are also meant to be revealed for the benefits of others. Remember there are some secrets that should never be kept, like secret love if you reveal it at the right moment..just be prepared not to receive a positive response. Good or bad, no regrets later on coz at least you had the courage to tell your innermost feelings. Those who feel they need to reveal a secret to prevent misunderstandings, it's best to reveal the truth ASAP to the person confiding in you to maintain her/his trust in you. 
|
||||||
6/27/2010 10:17 pm |
Secrets causes a lot of heart aches...
| |||||
6/27/2010 11:14 pm |
ahhhh secrets. i was once friendly with 2 girls. and these 2 girls like to 'tell secrets' as in gossip! everytime i hear the question ' can you keep a secret?', i run a mile!! sometimes there are secrets that should remain a secret. as for fff, i did some digging before abt someone i really really like. what i found really disappointed me. no regrets though. glad i found out.
| |||||
6/28/2010 5:23 am |
Everybody has secrets and dealing with it happens in various ways. Secrets are perhaps attached to human nature. The worst thing is, when a secret is a threat, dangerous, heartbreaking, judgmental or just a destructive plot to others where the owner of it lacks self-control. It could lead him/her to many signs like gossiping or smarting out, sometimes crab mentality or jealousy, or other forms of dark thoughts. Good secrets aren’t that too dangerous to be out of control as long as one remains sane. Like in fff for example, I know people here including me have secrets. Some who aren’t good in balancing inner loads, create explosion whether at the ground of their own blogs, or thru obvious comments using mysterious profiles (tabi-tabi po those mysterious profile that are well behaved). Well, in my opinion and a rough revealing of my own secret, mine is more on collected observations of true colors of people at the blogland. I am thankful for such experience but I will make sure these secrets won’t harm or prejudice others. For the rest who are so delighted pulling down targets and other act of demeaning, they are just proving their true colors driven by their pet devil inside, but I hope they could catch-up and breathe some light somewhere. Hayzzz  i don't know if this comment will come out 
| |||||
6/28/2010 7:21 am |
There are bad secrets and good secrets. Sometimes, even good secrets should be kept... For an instance, let's say I have a big crush on this one man... it's a good secret but I don't want to reveal it coz I'm shy  And also, he's my friend... I'm scared that telling him that might lose the friendship that we have right now.
| |||||
6/28/2010 7:40 am |
Well there are only two secret approach to become famous in any game of life whether in cyberspace or real world e.i. the most common politics and in entertainment industry for celerities. One is, you do good. The other is you do the opposite especially when one is frustrated or wanting to go up. Over politics is too dangerous, coz he/she can kill even his/her friends and relatives.
| |||||
6/28/2010 11:23 am |
Secrets?  I have that too  
| |||||
6/28/2010 1:02 pm |
I know quite a heap of secrets, and I know a blogger who is a BIG TIME SCAMMER..But I just keep it hush!hush! ...The blogger knows that I already know...and the rest is obvious...that blogger is soooooo paranoid!  Just call me ELZ 
| |||||
6/28/2010 1:04 pm |
Don't forget, most of the time, the fish is caught by its mouth...so, let's wait and see  Just call me ELZ
| |||||
6/28/2010 3:08 pm |
FBI time eh
| |||||
|
Secrets causes a lot of heart aches...  but if he didn't then that would be a problem.
| |||||
|
ahhhh secrets. i was once friendly with 2 girls. and these 2 girls like to 'tell secrets' as in gossip! everytime i hear the question ' can you keep a secret?', i run a mile!! sometimes there are secrets that should remain a secret. as for fff, i did some digging before abt someone i really really like. what i found really disappointed me. no regrets though. glad i found out. 
| |||||
|
Everybody has secrets and dealing with it happens in various ways. Secrets are perhaps attached to human nature. The worst thing is, when a secret is a threat, dangerous, heartbreaking, judgmental or just a destructive plot to others where the owner of it lacks self-control. It could lead him/her to many signs like gossiping or smarting out, sometimes crab mentality or jealousy, or other forms of dark thoughts. Good secrets aren’t that too dangerous to be out of control as long as one remains sane. Like in fff for example, I know people here including me have secrets. Some who aren’t good in balancing inner loads, create explosion whether at the ground of their own blogs, or thru obvious comments using mysterious profiles (tabi-tabi po those mysterious profile that are well behaved). Well, in my opinion and a rough revealing of my own secret, mine is more on collected observations of true colors of people at the blogland. I am thankful for such experience but I will make sure these secrets won’t harm or prejudice others. For the rest who are so delighted pulling down targets and other act of demeaning, they are just proving their true colors driven by their pet devil inside, but I hope they could catch-up and breathe some light somewhere. Hayzzz i don't know if this comment will come out
| |||||
|
You're right ROX, only true friends will keep a secret but if a friend who knows a secret that she/he knows it's wrong and against her/his moral principles or virtues..revealing it, even it would damage the friendship could be the right move.
| |||||
|
I know quite a heap of secrets, and I know a blogger who is a BIG TIME SCAMMER..But I just keep it hush!hush! ...The blogger knows that I already know...and the rest is obvious...that blogger is soooooo paranoid!
| |||||
|
There are bad secrets and good secrets. Sometimes, even good secrets should be kept... For an instance, let's say I have a big crush on this one man... it's a good secret but I don't want to reveal it coz I'm shy And also, he's my friend... I'm scared that telling him that might lose the friendship that we have right now.  ..anyway..it's just a crush..members here have so many crushes but when they get to know their so called 'crushes' well and they can easily interpret a seduction or flirt showing interest too, then they should follow their heart but if they can read a friendly nature of conversation every time they're with that person, they should try options.
| |||||
|
Gossips happen coz either someone is fabricating lies or the person involve can't keep her/his mouth shut, or someone has done her/his own investigation and learned the truth. However the info was acquired, there could be other facts and so many times gossips are wrong unless the subject of the gossips fully admits it.
| |||||
6/30/2010 8:42 am |
FBI time eh  Just call me ELZ
| |||||
6/30/2010 8:47 am |
VAL, I saw your response to my comment on the "where I'm quoted" portion of my blog, but it doesn't show here on your blog...Anyway, I cannot tell you a secret that you probably already know......And I still don't understand why some people cannot be straightforward and confront those they suspect to be their enemies and get straight answers from them for once and for all.. I DARE EXCHANGE REAL PHONE NUMBERS, and PHYSICAL ADDRESSES WITH THEM!...And I mean, "exchange", not one sided... Just call me ELZ
| |||||
6/30/2010 9:56 am |
Secrets causes a lot of heart aches... hugs 
| |||||
7/3/2010 4:22 pm |
love is the greatest gift of all 
|
×
×