What Part Of Hello Don't They Understand?  

MOONSONG 11/6/2009 11:38 pm	Why is it you say Hello when you find someone interesting, good looking, with much the same feelings and outlook as you, but you are ignored? You send them a nice introduction letter telling them you found them attractive and interesting and would they like to be your friend, but you are ignored. You include photos and background information, all true explaining who you are, why you are there and what you hope happens when they meet you, but you are ignored. What do you label people who act this way, like they are too busy, too uppity, too pretty, too young or too good for you and instead of just saying thanks but no thanks, they ignore your attempts at making friendly contact. Were they lied to so many times and hurt so deeply that they became as empty and cold as the losers they were played by or are they the players? I have been hurt and unlucky in Love too, just as you perhaps but I am still a decent gentleman with a kind and friendly spirit who has enough good sense, manners and proper upbringing to reply when someone says hello. We should all try to remember, it may only be a friend saying Hello, not the enemy trying to break your heart. So, what part of Hello do you or don't you understand? All The Best CHARLES
tinidor 1589 posts  11/7/2009 1:40 am	i always say thank u to winks and being put in someone's hotlist maybe its the norm in fff? i dunno if theyre being rude but maybe its just a norm here at fff? maybe u shud do a poll? it would be interesting to find out.
tinidor 1589 posts  11/7/2009 1:41 am	oooopps repeated sentence there
MOONSONG 8 posts  11/7/2009 7:06 am	Thank you Ms.T for your comment, it isn't just in FFF, it seems to happen at most sites. It is across the board in all Countries. I can't speak for other men but I too have not always replied when someone has shown me interest so I accept some fault, I am not always right either. It may not always be about being rude or busy, maybe just lazy or not interested. It's been my wakeup call to change. Thanks again for your input. CHARLES
mutatis_mutandis Ask me for a photo 204 posts  11/7/2009 8:36 am	Change positions, and see/feel,view how it might be if you were the lady being sent a Hello; and it might open many avenues for thought. i.e: 1)he's not my type 2)i don't understand english 3)(excuse me for saying this) i don't like the mutton chops look... and a whole trove of reasons and excuses. Well friend, that is just the way the world is. Consider also the motives of a lady in acknowledging your Hello. 1)is it for friendship 2)is it for a relationship; or, 3)the prevalent reason that abounds.... "leverage" In Contrast, from your own standpoint; you should look at meeting ladies as just a numbers game at the start. In much the same way as you meet women in parties, the more Hello's you field, the more people you will meet It is the same here and everywhere else, be it online or in real. Then from all the responses you get, that is when u start to filter the potentials, the so-so's, and the trash. The road can be rough and there adays when u get frustrated as you are tonight, but it can be a most interesting adventure. Best of luck to you.
MOONSONG 8 posts  11/7/2009 3:05 pm	Thanks MM for your input, it does make sense if I were new but I am a veteran. Before having met my last mate online and moving to China I did go through about 10 encounters. I am not one for saying hello to 20 women and hoping 5 answer me, I am a doer not a dreamer. Any women that read this post from FFF that I contacted can reply and confirm. Should be very few, they know who they are. I admit I was a little frustrated when I posted this but it's not the first time. I also posted my photos with full beard, clean shaven with and without hats and with the muttons as you call them Nevertheless I can understand my not appealing to someone and also folks being once bit, twice shy but I think it really boils down to common sense, maturity and manners. Maybe it IS my old ugly face but a friendly hello should be welcomed from anyone. Unless someone is deluged with admirers and could care less, no simple answer for all. Let's hope this opens a few eyes on both gender sides. I see the attitude of men that are only on the hunt and have no intention of finding a mate, just a plaything. They give us all a bad name. No harm in being cautious but no harm in being friendly either. Thanks again Guy, I appreciate your opinion. CHARLES