i am happy for her the way she is!  

younglooking55 10/29/2009 11:59 am	yes indeed i am happy for her the way she is. yes we should all be happy for anyone however they are acting so irrational and beyond grace and decency. she has every right to act that way. sometimes the beauty of truly living one life is to live it not in conformity with the expectation of others, and just live it the way one likes to live it. to hell with what others say, its our lives anyway! but then would it be sensible to live such sort of a non-conformist life, sometimes even at the expense of demeaning oneself? how one would realize that at some point in time, that sensibility and maintaining one dignity matters a lot than more than anything - even at settling a score or proving that you are a better person than others? if we are offended by someone directly or indirectly, do we continue to add insult in the manner by which we deal with such offense? or we are better off by going to the other extreme of being understanding and with tolerance of individual differences? and then at some point being forgiving. they said that to forgive is divine. what if someone who you thought has wronged you try to right the wrong even if the only wronged he or she did is to be different from you and from most everyone, or by being different by being brutally blunt and honest? or specifically in my case or of my blogs that seemed so indifferent because it has an overzealous sense of arrogance, conceitedness and not self deprecating. would i be truly all that and in all respects i have no good things to offer and that i am totally devoid of great human qualities such as kindness, humility, sensible, forgiving and being down to earth? so how would we like someone anyway? do we measure one's likability by his or her writings, by the way he or she talks or projects herself or himself? do we dislike someone at an instant and close the door for objectivity that somehow and soon he or she too could be likable? if we dislike a person, should it be forever that we won't even make an attempt to find a common ground or attempt to be polite in our manners and temperaments toward such person? how do we bring over a person we dislike or how could we transform ourselves in liking a person we dislike? would if be possible to like a person we dislike? i think we can like a person we disliked by being open minded and by being readily objective when such a person displays such many audacious qualities to be liked. at some point if we continue to dislike someone, it would somehow diminish too the quality of life we live - that we are forever resentful of that person.
pamela1962 327 posts  10/30/2009 12:40 am	ANTONIO, perhaps that's the LEAST u can do.. to be hapi for her the way she is.. maybe people would start thinking that underneath that cold, calculating exterior lies a man with a HEART.. we're all HUMAN BEINGS, after all.. take care..
icu4u2 662 posts 10/30/2009 11:45 pm	Take the high road...remain considerate of others feelings...whether they appreciate it or not....everyday is a new day