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Chemistry Vs. Common Sense Say you saw a guy at a bar and your eyes meet, you knew instantly that there's a connection. So, you cross your legs, flip your hair, smile coyly and give him the come-hither look. Now, if he also felt the connection then how can he resist an invitation like that right?  He comes over to you, introduces himself, buys you a drink and while you both laugh at a corny joke he said, he lightly touches your back and then ZING!...you feel this electricity go down your spine. Now, if you're two consenting adults then you might just end up doing the horizontal tango. As you lay in his arms, sated, you make a quick rerun of what just happened. And with your chemistry infused mind you say to yourself "he's the one"  .Now during the course of this chemistry infused relationship, you learn things about him. You learn that he doesn't have a good relationship with his mother, that he's cruel to animals, he has spent half his life unemployed more than he's been employed. You also learn that he much prefers to spend a night with the guys than spend a romantic evening with you. But none of these registers in your mind. Why you ask? Because of that goddamn CHEMISTRY! Now let's go to a different view... Say you meet a guy at work or through a mutual friend. He's not bad looking but not really your type. You go out for coffee and you find out you two have a lot in common. He courts you and though you're not in love with him, you do feel comfortable around him. So, you give it a go and tell yourself "love will follow". He gives you compliments, he treats you like a princess, he listens to you, most of all, he's employed. The kind of guy you can bring home to meet your folks. Now, again, as two consenting adults, you do the horizontal tango. You lay in his arms, not quite sated and do a quick rerun of what just happened...you realize some thing's missing. "But what?" you ask yourself. For some unexplainable reason you feel...a void. Now, for those reading this, I ask you this: Which would you prefer? chemistry or common sense? What if these were your only choices? What if your not one of the incredibly few people who are lucky enough to have the good attributes of these two choices, which scenario would you rather be in? This goes vice versa, by the way. 
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6/16/2012 7:34 pm |
casper...thank you for your very insightful comment and thanks for dropping by. hope to see you next time. 
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6/16/2012 7:32 pm |
rolly...thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts.
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6/16/2012 7:30 pm |
smilerz...parang relationship 101 sa studies ah 
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6/5/2012 9:32 pm |
Eh kasi, kapag kumakalam ang tiyan, hindi aandar ang PUSO at PUSON! lolz..   Just call me ELZ 
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6/5/2012 9:30 pm |
ms. eb...why out the door na agad? hindi ba pwedeng angry behind closed doors muna? angry and hungry do make an explosive combo Just call me ELZ
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6/5/2012 7:03 pm |
ms...aloofa thanks for dropping by and sharing your thoughts
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6/5/2012 7:01 pm |
zero...yes, the combination of both is the best of both worlds but what if you're not that lucky? what if you can only choose one? would you listen to your heart and hope the bliss you're in is enough or will you let your mind take over and go with what society deems as an acceptable partner?
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6/5/2012 6:55 pm |
usmc...to clarify: gold diggers are those that enter in a relationship solely for financial reasons and I am not that kind of person  but i will not deny that i would prefer my partner to be gainfully employed because no way am i gonna be the one to support us! There is such a thing as a two income household and with today's economy it seems its a must.
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6/5/2012 6:51 pm |
absolute...but you're a man and the scenario, albeit, a few changes. go vise versa. would you still go for chemistry?
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6/5/2012 6:49 pm |
COMMON SENSE, and NOTHING BUT COMMON SENSE...Because that damn chemistry has all its wrong equations to begin with..It's love is equated with attraction + lust=hunger..and once you are hungry, you get angry and someone is quickly headed outta the door!
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6/5/2012 6:43 pm |
Common sense will tell you that a "connection" with a guy who prefers to be with his friends over you and do not even find ways to be employed is not chemistry, but hormones or infatuation! Or maybe the guy needs more marinating time! The girl has not caught him at the right time My answer is.. a mix of both And yes, it is possible to have a choice that's a mix of both You can meet someone who is like the guy in #2 scenario but shares a connection/chemistry like the #1 scenario with you. And because of this, I dare wait for this kind of scenario I went both routes in the past and learned my lessons, hence my choice
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6/5/2012 6:40 pm |
Would like more common sense over chemistry. Chemistry is temporary. It fizzles out quickly.  but janey, shouldn't we work on the chemistry so that it wouldn't fizzle out?
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6/5/2012 6:38 pm |
ever wonder why Chemistry is being taught in school, together with History? based on your blog, i would choose common sense!...and as i always say: LOVE and RELATIONSHIP are two different things  ...love may be the basic ingredient in having a relationship...but let's be realists, LOVE is not enough, ditto with Chemistry, maybe lots of common sense...but since you gave us no other choices, "i'd rather be loved and needed...i just don't wanna be lonely  ..."
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6/5/2012 3:45 pm |
Oh yeah, that same LOVE led all of us to DIVORCE, ANNULMENT, and SEPARATION...Now, you tell me! Just call me ELZ
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6/5/2012 9:38 am |
COMMON SENSE, and NOTHING BUT COMMON SENSE...Because that damn chemistry has all its wrong equations to begin with..It's love is equated with attraction + lust=hunger..and once you are hungry, you get angry and someone is quickly headed outta the door! Just call me ELZ
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6/5/2012 6:02 am |
Would like more common sense over chemistry. Chemistry is temporary. It fizzles out quickly.    within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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ever wonder why Chemistry is being taught in school, together with History? based on your blog, i would choose common sense!...and as i always say: LOVE and RELATIONSHIP are two different things ...love may be the basic ingredient in having a relationship...but let's be realists, LOVE is not enough, ditto with Chemistry, maybe lots of common sense...but since you gave us no other choices, "i'd rather be loved and needed...i just don't wanna be lonely ..."
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