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11/13/2007 4:34 am

The "C " - Factor...Unspoken,... Hardly Written.....

It seems like:

...Everyone is into LOVE,FRIENDSHIP,and SEARCH for all the answers relating to any kind of relationships on this website, where a good percentage of the members, regardless of their civil status, have that C-Factor...the ....

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...they are the products of our lost loves
...the very important reminder that whatever we do and plan at this point in our lives..they are our number one PRIORITY.

...they are NOT luggages/baggages, but sure enough, they will be part of the PACKAGE DEAL when we make that VERY IMPORTANT DECISION to be with that next significant person in our lives.

...they shouldn't hold us from moving on and making the most of what life has to offer.

...the more "doting parents" they have, the better. For this reason, our choices are not only based on our selfish wants/desires.

...The FALLACY that one should sacrifice his/her own happiness for the sake of the is absolutely a good point for a discussion. While it is true that the 's welfare is our topmost priority, our own happiness doesn't have to take a backseat. I am speaking from my own personal experience. My only , now a professional, had always dreamt of a family, a brother, a sister, and a "father figure". For a very long time, I lived in fears of what and what not. During my 's tender years, he asked for a family even if his "Dad" had to be different than his own. I was obsessed with the idea of preparing for his bright future that I totally ignored and deprived both our needs.

Just a couple of days ago, when I had a serious talk with my , he said: "Mom, I know that our relationship was never perfect. You have been a great mother, and now, more than ever, I appreciate all that you've done for me. But the fact still remains that all those years that I was growing and you were still young, having a family would have made a difference in our lives, and not made you less of a person you feared you would. Pretty soon, I'll have a family of my own. It's really about time that you take care of your own needs."

Ahhhh! that reduced me into tears when I entered my room. I cannot take back the hands of time. I sure deprived him and myself that important part of our lives which should take place only on that particular stage. I'm not saying that I am running out of time, but indeed, I allowed myself to be consumed with my fears.

Why am I writing this? BECAUSE:

...there are still good stepmoms and step-dads out there (whether they are single, divorced, widowed,etc.

...while we cannot correct the mistakes we made in the past, we can make a difference in our present and our future.

...Bottomline, the C-FACTOR is never a hindrance to our happiness. Our happiness is a reflection of how we are going to treat them. DON'T FEEL DEPRIVED.

ELZ

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