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Midlife Crisis: ..A topic to ponder... Two quotes perfectly capture this common definition of midlife crisis: "Life's cycle was seen as a set routine of getting married, having , rising through the ranks at work, and moving to the suburbs. The crisis occurred when a man quit his job, let his hair grow long, bought a sports car, and headed toward California, often with a youthful companion." - HARVARD GAZZETTE and "Most younger adults anticipate that between their late thirties and their early fifties a day will come when they suddenly realize that they have squandered their lives and betrayed their dreams. They will collapse into a poorly defined state that used to be called a nervous breakdown. What does a female midlife crisis look like, anyway? A big face-lift, a little red car, an overdose, an affair, an escape to the Galápagos Islands? Or none of the above? Midlife crisis can be like a roller coaster trip through hell whether it is your crisis or the midlife crisis of someone you love.   ELZ  |
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You are in a committed relationship, married or involved on an exclusive basis. You thought everything was glorious. Or, at least as glorious as it gets–all relationships have some rough spots. ELZ
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HIS MIDLIFE CRISIS: It seems that you are always fighting. Or he just doesn't act like himself anymore. He doesn't like his job. He wants to sell the house and get a little place in the mountains or a sailboat and sail to the islands. You're too fat or too thin or too short or too tall. He doesn't like being home. He wants a sportier car. He changes his hair style, starts a diet and joins the local gym. He says his clothes are too old for him. He says you and he have grown apart. He needs time to think about 'things.' He wants space. He wants something but he doesn't know what. He wants a divorce. ELZ
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If he's between the ages of 40 and 60 (give or take a few years), your man is blazing a trail through male midlife – he's having a crisis. We're not talking about the man who has always been a womanizer, a schemer or generally not the nicest person in the world. We are talking about the man who has up to this point assumed responsibility and been the person you could depend upon in time of need. ELZ
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What you must keep in mind is that he really doesn't understand what he's doing, he isn't deliberately hurting you he just knows that something is wrong in his life and he's searching for the answers. ELZ
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What is it? MIDLIFE CRISIS: A controversial condition or syndrome which some doctors and psychologists thinks affects many men in their 30s, 40s and 50s. Some believe it has mainly psychological causes while others argue that it's related to hormonal changes. Other health professionals argue that there's no such condition, however, and that the symptoms often associated with mid-life crisis have other causes. ELZ
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What are the main symptoms? Doctors and psychologists who believe the mid-life crisis is a genuine condition have identified a wide range of symptoms. Frequently reported problems include: *Irritability *Loss of libido (sex drive) *Erectile dysfunction (impotence) *Fatigue *Depression, charactised by low moods and (often apparently unaccountable) feelings of sadness and lethargy. At least one study has suggested that those undergoing mid-life difficulties may be distinguished from other men affected by depression by their sense of urgency. Such men are driven to keep on being active, sometimes even more active than they were before the crisis. ELZ
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Some men may also be affected by: -Stiffness in the muscles and joints -Night sweats -Dry skin -Hair loss -Weight gain -A loss of ability to recover quickly from injuries ELZ
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HER MIDLIFE CRISIS Whereas male midlife crisis is more likely to be driven by work or career issues, women's turmoil is more likely to be driven by introspection. Women are more likely to attribute their midlife crises to some new insight into themselves through religion, therapy or reflection. Women are more likely to cite personal health problems as the cause of their midlife crises. This can include worries about slowing down or about losing one's attractiveness, ELZ
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Middle Aged Women: Driving Around In Miatas With Blonde Young Surfer Dudes?  ...I dunno what to say, but most of my admirers are way younger than I am.. ELZ
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The Arizona Republic says dating much younger partners is no longer the sole province of middle-aged male dentists: 35 percent of women want to date younger men, and 34 percent are. Three percent of women date men 15 or more years younger, 5 percent date men 10 to 14 years younger, and 11 percent date men 5 to 9 years younger. ELZ
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The article by Barbara Yost and Susan Felt says that part of the reason may be because now they can: Women are keeping themselves trim and attractive and are staying sexual into old age. They have careers, higher incomes, a wealth of experience and good connections. Well, I probably am into that category (with the exception of the s_x_al part since I am not attached with anyone at this point)  ELZ
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And the author of "The Juicy Tomatoes Guide to Ripe Living After 50" says it's a function of increased opportunity and generational attitudes: "We have choices. And we think we should have as many choices as men," she said. ELZ
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Younger men are attracted to older women's sexual experience and independence. If the relationship is serious, it may still founder on lingering "you can't date someone that age" mores or contrasting views on whether to have children. Haaaayz!..Why do you think I opted to leave my SPECIAL FRIEND?...I can't give him a child anymore and he's better off with someone his age or younger...He is single and has no kids for heaven's sake!  ELZ
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But that's farther down the road for many. As one person told the reporters, "Younger guys are more fun." Well, it is a YES but NO....I'd say: mature thinking MEN, younger or older, are far better partners or lovers... ELZ
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NOW, IT IS YOUR TURN TO POST YOUR OPINION... ELZ
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Exactly what?...  )  ELZ
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Sige Gem, magpost ka nga...What do you think about MEN and Women who are having Midlife crisis?..I'm sure, you have a lot of things to say about this topic... ELZ
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10/31/2007 6:05 pm |
What you must keep in mind is that he really doesn't understand what he's doing, he isn't deliberately hurting you he just knows that something is wrong in his life and he's searching for the answers. as i love you i love life 
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now this is something veritable that am kinda encountering...i don't like to think it is abnormal, but i would like to say it is some pressures that i need to contend with...i can say women it should compare to what women have or that the biological scenarios of old age has so much to do with it, so i will just keep mummed about it...but somehow, i can get to be distracted when this happens...really distracted, but not destructed, of course...how to cope up with it..i guess i have more patience to counteract each flaws... I am glad to know that you have your special someone here in FFF...some people just get lucky...and you know what?..YOU DESERVE IT! ELZ
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Women deal with midlife crisis differently according to some studies done...But in this modern generation, there are so many ways to deal with it and who cares about what needs to be done to cope with it?.Some women go to the gym, some blends with the much younger men and women, and some just stay in fashion (like me! )and just go with the flow...If it's time for me to have "hot flushes"..so be it! ..One thing for sure, I will still choose to enjoy my life the best way I can... ELZ
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Well, the description of midlife crisis per the specialists entails a lot of signs and symptoms...You probably are experiencing the so called mid-adult stage by Freud...You are more now on reflecting about what you really want in life and how are you going to make it happen...We all need that... ELZ
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Quoting Passionate1932 While living the life, everyone comes across crisis at any age level, let alone midlife crisis.Passage of time impacts everyone and one matures to be able to look at life with freshness commensurate with responsibilities and challenges,with changed priorities.These challenges,sometimes called rough spots,covers--physical,emotional,psyhological, economic, social and spiritual areas. ELZ
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Jack, while it is true that during midlife, most people evaluate the quality of life that they have or want to achieve, others also tend to drift away....Some succumb to your so-called rough spots, and the next thing you know, they stopped living... ELZ
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Quoting Passionate1932: Life throws a wrenth and challenges now and then.One tends to respond to these challenges with freshness of approach, setting new values.Building economic strength and good time management, setting apart time for relaxation and refreshing,and ensuring physical fitness with exercise regimen, enhances the quality of life in the midst of inevitable problems and challenges. ELZ
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Jack, that's what about what I am doing right now..I realized that there are some things that I want to achieve that are beyond my control..I know that I am gifted and well-blessed in so many areas, and I choose to focus and be thankful for those blessings. So, I relax, travel, indulge in physical fitness and "forget" about people and things that pull me down...That is my choice.. ELZ
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