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godiva0824 63F
2894 posts
2/10/2015 5:48 pm
WHEN LOVE GETS IN THE WAY OF FRIENDSHIP

Has there been a time when one can enjoy being in a romantic relationship and still be allowed to mingle with friends? Is it always necessary to be possessive and selfish?..These are just few of the questions I have in mind. My close friends and I have been single (again) for quite a long time, and we have been in constant touch with each other online and in real life, as well as meeting each other (Eye Ball) once or twice a year. I noticed that the one who left and had been "taken", so to speak, sort of disbanded and gave up the friendship in favor of romance. We do understand the "exclusivity", but at the back of my mind, " Does it really have to be that way? " Why can't the other person understand that friendships prior to the romance saved the other from going insane?.. and therefore made it easier to cope...This made me think, what if I were on the same boat? Will I suffer the same dilemma of detaching myself from my close friends? Do I have to lose myself and the people that I care about in favor of love?..I believe that " Love Is Understanding the individuality of the other person, and not a chain to choke or trap the partner to extreme exclusivity." Wherefore being in love with someone is a wonderful feeling, being taken away from friends is selfishness.. I certainly abhor that idea...and therefore, I guess, I'd rather be single for the rest of my life...Enjoy your Heart's Day, anyway!..



ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
2/10/2015 6:47 pm

Elz,

Twice in this life time that happen to me. But, with male friends. Excuse was "tess I'm married now?" Hello we shared a bond of friendship. It's not as if I'm gonna seduce u? Ewweee!!!! Double yucky. Anyways,my female friends not as much. To me friendship is sacred if ur my friend I consider it for life!

Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/10/2015 8:09 pm

    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    Twice in this life time that happen to me. But, with male friends. Excuse was "tess I'm married now?" Hello we shared a bond of friendship. It's not as if I'm gonna seduce u? Ewweee!!!! Double yucky. Anyways,my female friends not as much. To me friendship is sacred if ur my friend I consider it for life!
I can relate with you, Tess..Most of my male friends are like that too, kasi natatakot na pagselosan ako ng mga partners nila.....Baka naman kasi ma-insecure sila..toinkz..

ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/10/2015 8:11 pm

    Quoting  :

You are blessed to have those kind of friends..Not everyone values friendship the way I (We) do...

ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/10/2015 8:14 pm

    Quoting  :

MINDZ, DAHLEN, TUTOTS na TUTOTS ka diyan!...I also experienced the same, (with the same friend), na kapag na-broken hearted na...BALIK FRIENDSHIP ulet, and "May I cry on your shoulder" na naman siya...Anong palagay sa shoulders ko, kutson?...Hmmmpt!

ELZ


elizabethvivian2 49F

2/10/2015 9:35 pm

I guess the opinions of my friends about the men I date really matter to me. Before I get into anything serious, it is important that the person who I'm considering is or can be accepted into my circle of friends. There has been no real drifting apart amongst us for that reason. Arguments, disagreements, and babies maybe, but never about the men in our lives.


oldkanaba 73M
2458 posts
2/10/2015 10:00 pm



First let me thank the Dabarkads Forever for welcoming both Teng and me to the group. I wasn't one of the originals and I don't even remember how I got to attend the EB . All I know is that Godiva0824 invited me and I got to know other members. They welcomed Teng when she came to join me last year.

I am lucky to have a fellow chatter and blogger for a partner in life, so we both want to keep friends in the cyber world. She understands why I want to keep my friends including women and I understand why she wants to keep her friends including men. I think it is the issue of trust that must be in place. We both try to fit in, both group of friends that we have.

I also believe this matter involves maturity. The young ones tend to be more possessive demanding exclusivity. This is understandable because of the volatility of of online relationship. Lucky for our group the partners of the members are more than understanding. And I wish our single members would find the same or even better, find ones who will join the group or are now members of the group.



I'm a senior citizen . Don't expect me to remember anything


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
2/11/2015 3:13 am

    Quoting  :

Tajane,

Agree with u on this. I've dated some first impression of my family don't like him. I still chose the guy. Guess what it wasn't meant to be. Some how our family n friends have this radar that the guy is bad for us???

Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/11/2015 3:35 am

    Quoting elizabethvivian2:
    I guess the opinions of my friends about the men I date really matter to me. Before I get into anything serious, it is important that the person who I'm considering is or can be accepted into my circle of friends. There has been no real drifting apart amongst us for that reason. Arguments, disagreements, and babies maybe, but never about the men in our lives.
Yes, opinion of friends matter. Because if anything, true friends will be there for us, in good times and bad...no matter what happens, they are our second famiy. thanks for the visit

ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/11/2015 3:40 am

    Quoting oldkanaba:


    First let me thank the Dabarkads Forever for welcoming both Teng and me to the group. I wasn't one of the originals and I don't even remember how I got to attend the EB . All I know is that Godiva0824 invited me and I got to know other members. They welcomed Teng when she came to join me last year.

    I am lucky to have a fellow chatter and blogger for a partner in life, so we both want to keep friends in the cyber world. She understands why I want to keep my friends including women and I understand why she wants to keep her friends including men. I think it is the issue of trust that must be in place. We both try to fit in, both group of friends that we have.

    I also believe this matter involves maturity. The young ones tend to be more possessive demanding exclusivity. This is understandable because of the volatility of of online relationship. Lucky for our group the partners of the members are more than understanding. And I wish our single members would find the same or even better, find ones who will join the group or are now members of the group.


Yes, Bert, the members of the DABARKADS FOREVER are the creams of the crop, both emotionally and physically (ehem), maliban na lang doon sa isang umalis...toinkz...nagkaroon ng sariling mundo (although masayang mundo naman). This stage of maturity seldom happens even with middle-aged people...It is actually a commitment to stay with the friendship. After all, it began in a very unique way, the FFF way..THank God for this website...We may not found the love of our lives, but we found true real friends....Thanks for being one of them..

ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/11/2015 3:42 am

    Quoting  :

Jane, our friends are like our true-blooded relatives. If the prospective guy won't get along with them, he won't get along with our relatives, that much I can tell you..So, you are right!

ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/11/2015 3:43 am

    Quoting TessRb:
    Tajane,

    Agree with u on this. I've dated some first impression of my family don't like him. I still chose the guy. Guess what it wasn't meant to be. Some how our family n friends have this radar that the guy is bad for us???
Now, you remember what I told you Tess!

ELZ


TessRb 64F
7258 posts
2/11/2015 1:30 pm

    Quoting godiva0824:
    Now, you remember what I told you Tess!
Elz,

Alam mo naman ako when I fall on my face not listening. Muahs n hugs always

Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
2/11/2015 6:31 pm

    Quoting TessRb:
    Elz,

    Alam mo naman ako when I fall on my face not listening. Muahs n hugs always
Ayz! sana main-love ka ulet sa sarili mo Tes.

ELZ


eb1209

2/15/2015 9:27 am

    Quoting  :

Hi there, Mr. AB! ..Thanks for dropping by and for your 2 cents...

Just call me ELZ


godiva0824 63F
3469 posts
8/2/2015 7:33 pm

    Quoting  :

Hi Enrique! Long time no see!

ELZ