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jense26
7/24/2008 8:07 amLast Read: |
Kids are believed to be innocents and would always tell the truth. It's a cliche. Some kids now can wave stories that may destroy adults. Their ability to fabricate lies started with the way parents raise and mold them. I would say that there might be something wrong with the parenting style of these parents that turns these angels into a budding monsters who can manipulate some facts and would made themselves as the helpless victims of the situation. It happened abruptly when a furious parent--a mother, rushed into our lecture area to scandalize my staff. Everydoby was stunned and kids who were present were shocked by the swift turns of the events. The pitiful staff was left unable to say something in order to defend himself from the marathon of accusations that this illiterate and no breeding woman was throwing to him. I went in to settle things and led them to my office. I found out that the son (our worst client)reported that his head was banged to the wall by my staff. A very impossible accusation. I was very mad too but I was just trying to calm down ( I really wanted to pull her hair and give her a very crispy slaps  ). I asked for her son to be brought inside my office and asked him for the reality behind his accusation. He knew that he cant lie to me because I was near him when he was having his session.The act was actually his revenge against the tutor because he was not allowed to play without completing his homework. His silence was a simple admission of his guilt. The mother was left at the height of embarassment and stupidity (which is true). Since it happened, I took the chance to tell her that his son needs further professional assessement and should be placed in a special school for he cant cope with the regular classroom (I was rude, huh!!  ). She was denying it and I did not argue anymore for like her son, it is somehow difficult to deal with "lack of proper mental resources" individual.I ended the conversation. She apologized ( I still wanted to give her one straight punch and a round house) . I accepted but it does mean that things would be left like that.I understood the love of the mother to her son but it does not also mean that most of the time, a mother should only listen to her son. Mothers should go to the greatest extent of knowing and acknowledging her son/daughter frailties. As long as there is denial of the reality nothing good would come out from the kids. Anyway, If mothers care and love their kids, I also care and love my staff...    A formal complain is filed against her so that she will have something to cherish. This is to teach her that learning is not easy. Often, learning is best taken from a hard way.She must learn when to open her mouth, to watch out her words and to know where to place herself all the times. I am now wondering, how much would it cost her for oral defamation and moral damages..
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7/28/2008 4:42 am |
Parents must deal with how and what their kids are. Most of the time, having SPECIAL kids place a lot of burden to parents, and it really takes a lot of courage to accept the fact that it is NOT THE FAULT of others that kids turned that way. It is the inability of those parents to deal with that painful truth of not having normal kids, that they displace their inability to cope onto others, thinking, someone has to be blamed other than them... 
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7/28/2008 4:41 am |
Hooray finally someone stating that not every kid is innocent.  Jen, you should hear the cheek of a few foul mouthed and disrespectful kids around here. The amount of paperwork and U.K. legal policies regarding children seems like that children have more power over the teachers and adults who can't really discipline them. I am also wondering what kind of society we will have when these kids grow up.
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7/28/2008 4:40 am |
Janey is right. Our state rules actually encourage our kids to do things and get away with them. America has its own way of making kids grow like monsters. It allows them to fight back to parents without reprisals. Parents are limited to scolding their children, otherwise even with harsh words, parents can be accused of child abuse. On the other hand, kids sometimes hurt their parents physically , sometimes kill them, and remain juvenile... i am very much amazed to hear the experiences of my former friends who are now teaching in US about how kids can abuse and manipulate teachers.things which are not known here in Phil. world is getting complicated now.
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7/27/2008 5:41 pm |
And there is NO EXCUSE to behave like that...
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7/27/2008 5:39 pm |
I do recommend that parents of SPECIAL CHILDREN be subjected to counselling... which is actually part of IEP planning..only its not functional here in Phil.
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 7/25/2008 5:33 am |
I do recommend that parents of SPECIAL CHILDREN be subjected to counselling...  
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7/25/2008 5:32 am |
And there is NO EXCUSE to behave like that...
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7/25/2008 5:30 am |
Parents must deal with how and what their kids are. Most of the time, having SPECIAL kids place a lot of burden to parents, and it really takes a lot of courage to accept the fact that it is NOT THE FAULT of others that kids turned that way. It is the inability of those parents to deal with that painful truth of not having normal kids, that they displace their inability to cope onto others, thinking, someone has to be blamed other than them...
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7/25/2008 5:26 am |
Janey is right. Our state rules actually encourage our kids to do things and get away with them. America has its own way of making kids grow like monsters. It allows them to fight back to parents without reprisals. Parents are limited to scolding their children, otherwise even with harsh words, parents can be accused of child abuse. On the other hand, kids sometimes hurt their parents physically , sometimes kill them, and remain juvenile...
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7/24/2008 9:17 am |
Hooray finally someone stating that not every kid is innocent. Jen, you should hear the cheek of a few foul mouthed and disrespectful kids around here. The amount of paperwork and U.K. legal policies regarding children seems like that children have more power over the teachers and adults who can't really discipline them. 
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