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LLkey 47F
252 posts
8/19/2006 6:06 pm

Last Read:
10/11/2006 8:24 am

Compatibility

The importance of knowing each other offers many benefits to the person who wants to learn more about compatibility with a specific person. Some of the questions to be answered in this are:

Do the two of you have the same wiring? And are you on the same wavelength? If so, will the chemistry last?

Do you enjoy similar interests, activities, hold the same opinions of others?

Do you have the same level of integrity, compassion for others, and willingness to compromise?

Are your aspirations and goals similar? Will the two of you meld together as a united front, or will you become polarized in time with significantly different outlooks on life?

Will you forge a permanent bond, or will the two of you slowly pull away and eventually become strangers in the same house?

Are you already noticing faults that you are repressing, perhaps even being in denial, for fear that this relationship won't last?

Are you thinking clearly, or is your quest for settling down overriding your common sense?

When encountering difficulties, will the two of you be able to work things out in a calm, rational manner, or will it lead to heated debates and unrelenting arguments?

And, finally, will the two of you grow more in love, or will the opposite occur? In effect, is this a good match?

What can be more important than a marvelous partnership between two loving, giving people? This is what each and every one of us strive for. Therefore, it is imperative that you explore every aspect of this relationship, to learn as much as you can, so that you know what lies ahead in your future.

Only by exploring in depth whether or not this is a workable compatibility, only then can you make an educated, rational, and heartfelt decision.


It's Kelly!


dunlop3764

8/19/2006 9:28 pm

This is true, compatibility is a prime factor in a lasting relationship.

Be swift 2LOVE make haste 2B kind
DUnLop


dunlop3764

8/19/2006 9:30 pm

It is a good point to stress too that the quality of the relationship is important that the length. What good is staying together if you are miserable with each other?

Be swift 2LOVE make haste 2B kind
DUnLop


dunlop3764

8/19/2006 9:32 pm

There should be respect and a real effort to bridge the gap ... don't let it widen or don't bear in silence while seething inside, like a dormant volcano waiting to erupt.

Be swift 2LOVE make haste 2B kind
DUnLop


LLkey 47F
523 posts
8/20/2006 7:33 am

    Quoting dunlop3764:
    This is true, compatibility is a prime factor in a lasting relationship.
Compatibility should also include the couple's willingness to make the relationship last.

It's Kelly!


LLkey 47F
523 posts
8/20/2006 7:34 am

    Quoting dunlop3764:
    It is a good point to stress too that the quality of the relationship is important that the length. What good is staying together if you are miserable with each other?
If the differences are irreconcilable the it is better to part, esp. if there are no kids involved.

It's Kelly!


LLkey 47F
523 posts
8/20/2006 7:36 am

    Quoting dunlop3764:
    There should be respect and a real effort to bridge the gap ... don't let it widen or don't bear in silence while seething inside, like a dormant volcano waiting to erupt.
It is better to talk it out and discuss rather than appear cool and silent. It is not healthy to harbor ill feelings without ventilating it to the partner.

It's Kelly!


polly1 45F
450 posts
8/20/2006 7:56 am

Those are quite a lot of questions. Maybe a lot of things are not compatible between two people but if they are willing to compromise and adjust, there should be a meetin gof the minds.

Heaven's angels brought U to knock upon my door!


polly1 45F
450 posts
8/20/2006 7:58 am

First a meeting of the hearts is more important. Many things are over ruled by the heart. When there's love, the heart conquers the mind.

Heaven's angels brought U to knock upon my door!


polly1 45F
450 posts
8/20/2006 7:59 am

It is for the good of the partner when we point out faults to him. He will listen for sure, esp. if he feels the sincerity in it.

Heaven's angels brought U to knock upon my door!


polly1 45F
450 posts
8/20/2006 8:01 am

Love and concern for our partner makes us want to be a better person for the other, in the way our partner has that kind of feeling too.

Heaven's angels brought U to knock upon my door!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:49 pm

Couple compatibility determines the mental wavelength of each person and the ease with which they can get along while respecting each other's feelings and opinions.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:51 pm

    Quoting dunlop3764:
    This is true, compatibility is a prime factor in a lasting relationship.
Life can be pretty stressful at times and incompatibility need not be another added factor that produces unnecessary stress.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:52 pm

    Quoting dunlop3764:
    It is a good point to stress too that the quality of the relationship is important that the length. What good is staying together if you are miserable with each other?
This will enable you to make informed decisions about your choices and allow you to enjoy your life with your partner in the most fulfilling way.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:53 pm

    Quoting LLkey:
    It is better to talk it out and discuss rather than appear cool and silent. It is not healthy to harbor ill feelings without ventilating it to the partner.
Undoubtedly, this is the most important consideration in any marriage.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:54 pm

    Quoting polly1:
    Love and concern for our partner makes us want to be a better person for the other, in the way our partner has that kind of feeling too.
Marriage is a sacred institution in which two individuals are supposed to spend their life with each other.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:55 pm

    Quoting LLkey:
    Compatibility should also include the couple's willingness to make the relationship last.
Since no two individuals are same, so some problems in the relationship are bound to take place.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:56 pm

    Quoting  :

The problems can arise due to the difference of opinions, ego clashes and a host of other such problems.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 9:59 pm

    Quoting  :

You should be living your life happily with your 'significant other'.
When problems arise, know exactly where is the problem, and remedy and overcome the problem at once.


CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:03 pm

Do the two of you have the same wiring? And are you on the same wavelength? If so, will the chemistry last?

Check this out before you tie the knot!
The beloved in your life is a rigid disciplinarian, fixed in views which are largely out of date. An inner mistrust or reserve will hold back in day-to-day life. He/She believes his/her way is the only way.


CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:05 pm

Do you enjoy similar interests, activities, hold the same opinions of others?
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Mutual understanding may be missing. The boy may be puffed-up with self-importance. He will be boastful, domineering and an incorrigible spendthrift. He may over-eat, thus have health problems, which he cannot understand. He may be constantly borrowing money from friends and will be always in debt. You want more? You tend to avoid responsibilities and project your troubles on others. Life goes on like this.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:07 pm

Do you have the same level of integrity, compassion for others, and willingness to compromise?
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How far you will be successful is doubtful. She may be impatient, and argumentative. You are a serious-type, with good powers of observation. You are burdened with unavoidable responsibilities.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:09 pm

Are your aspirations and goals similar? Will the two of you meld together as a united front, or will you become polarized in time with significantly different outlooks on life?
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There may be misunderstandings in sharing of household responsibilities. The boy will want to remain free. He will be too independent and unconventional

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:19 pm

Will you forge a permanent bond, or will the two of you slowly pull away and eventually become strangers in the same house?
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With some attitude adjustments from both sides, you can run a smooth family life.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:24 pm

Are you already noticing faults that you are repressing, perhaps even being in denial, for fear that this relationship won't last?
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You cannot blame somebody else for your misfortune.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!


Lacetone 40F
1238 posts
8/25/2006 10:28 pm

Are you thinking clearly, or is your quest for settling down overriding your common sense?
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The beloved may be stubborn, unable to see another person’s point of view. With some attitude adjustments, you can lead a smooth life.

CHEERS to the HAPPY VALLEY PEOPLE!